delimma - kids and teacups..?

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Originally Posted by Miababy1

FIDebra: The child I am talking about is not my biological son. He is not my husbands biological son, but he is our son because we raise him as ours. He is the biological child of my husbands ex wife and the half brother to my husbands other children and now my daughters stepbrother. Yes, I am left out of the picture a lot because of my husband or maybe his ex's wishes?? I really don't know, but that doesn't mean I don't still try to parent when I can. I DO love them all. No offense but I didn't even bother reading the whole thing, along with some of the other's going on about how this is "my biological" son that I haven't bonded with. It really seems like my original post was taken completely out of context the more people were replying. Almost as if, they weren't even reading the original but only the false assumptions of what others were posting.

Sorry I guessed wrong -- I just said what it seemed like to me. I don't know how anyone got that this was your step-son. Maybe there is another thread somewhere? Or maybe I missed a post. Because in this thread, I only saw him referred to as "the kid" and once I saw you write that he was not your husband's biological son, I had to think it must be yours. You have to admit, it would be more usual for one of you to be the parent. I have not quite heard of this sort of situation before. Regardless of whose he is, if he is coming for regular visitation in your home and it seems like you would want to bond with him.

I still think you should wait for a yorkie -- especially one as small as you picked out. I had to wait many years before I got the pups that I really wanted. The kids came first and I felt they were more suited to mid-sized dogs they could rough and tumble with. Glad you have a golden for them and a cat for you -- maybe that could be enough for a while until your home life is settled down a bit. There is nothing judgmental about that. Kids can be very active and who would want to thwart that? Not me! Some are more mild mannered and can handle sitting quietly for extended time. Mine were not like that even though they minded extremely well. They were just very active boys. I worried a tiny-boned puppy could get hurt trying to play with them.

I know you got a lot more here than what you bargained for. But on an open forum, that happens. We are not automatons who only spew out what you want. Opinions are going to come out especially when some feel a child and/or a pup might not be in the best of environment. I think you could take what applies and leave the rest. But try to keep an open mind about what might apply. There has to be some ways to better the situation for both the child and the pup. However difficult this young boy might seem, he is still a child and needs love, acceptance and real commitment and his needs should always come before the pets. Hope it all works out!