Reall sad =/

[My lil friend]

At this point she does definately report him to the uppers. She also needs to seek help placing herself and the puppy somewhere else or the husband needs to live somewhere else.
If my daughter or even a friend called and told me they were in this situation. I would be making phone calls to get them home! I would be asking everyone I knew to make a donation of flite miles or $$. She needs to get away from him and never look back. Any man that would harm a tiny baby dod is a coward and I would not want to be on patrol with him.

[Kimchi and Kitt]

Originally Posted by My lil friend

At this point she does definately report him to the uppers. She also needs to seek help placing herself and the puppy somewhere else or the husband needs to live somewhere else.
If my daughter or even a friend called and told me they were in this situation. I would be making phone calls to get them home! I would be asking everyone I knew to make a donation of flite miles or $$. She needs to get away from him and never look back. Any man that would harm a tiny baby dod is a coward and I would not want to be on patrol with him.

I agree. I keep urging her to report her husband, there is not much anyone else can do to report him since she is the only witness to this behavior =/

Her father paid for her to come home once, and she ended up backing out (when things got bad before) and she owes him a lot of money, I think this time her sister is trying to help her come home, but she has to wait two months for the pup. I think she needs to stay somewhere else and get in contact with his chain of command until that happens.

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by Kimchi and Kitt

I honestly dont think she did. They have been married for a year and these last 4 months are the first of their marriage they have spent together. he was away for several months in basic, then AIT and then moved to Korea, where later she was able to join him. From what I have heard he has changed, and that is what scares her the most. This is the first 4 months they have ever even lived together, so its a new situation for her.

But again, I really hope her husband gets the help, and I hope the puppy and her are removed from this situation. =(

I hope she and the puppy will be safe from that monster. I'm sorry she has found herself in that situation so far away from home. That is really sad.

[DvlshAngel985]

This is so sad! I hope he gets help, and your friend finds a safe place to stay. Can she stay with you temporarily?

[Lovetodream88]

That is terrible what he did to that puppy I'm sorry but if she knew that he was mean to the puppy before why in the heck would she leave the poor thing with him when he was mad? It only takes time for someone who hurts animals to hurt people. Maybe sense her life could be in danger now she will take it seriously.

[Kimchi and Kitt]

Good news!!

Today I urged my husband to talk to the chain of command and tell them whats going on, and he did. After that they started an investigation and had her husband on lockdown. she didnt know this. Then I urged her to talk to the chain of command, after hours of me pressuring her, and telling her things would work out she finally did.

her husband is on 24/7 watch. he can not be alone for any time at all. He has to take mandatory therapy for anger, abuse and alcohol. he is not allowed back into their home and is not allowed to leave a barrack room, except to work. He cannot contact her in any way, FB, text or call and that is a zero tolerance policy. He cannot return to their home at all except for 30 mins while she is gone to collect his belongings. after that he cant EVER go back not even after she leaves Korea. They are paying her way back home, and trying to figure out what will happen with the dog. Their number one priority right now is her safety.

Im so glad she took this step for her and her pup. I think she was scared that the army wouldn't do anything or that her husband would cut her off financially and she would be stuck but I told her they wouldnt let that happen, and that the army is on her side. im so glad she got to see how many people are taking this seriously.

Thank you all for your concern.

[Deuce]

I understand his wife needing to get out of the situation before it escalated to him harming her or killing the dog. However, his life is officially ruined, he will now be paying at lrast half his paycheck to her for the rest of his career because unfortunately the military cares more about dependents then the members themselves. I get that she needed out of the situation but you meddled and his career and possibly life is over. The dog should have been removed and wife should've left but there were ways she could have done so without destroying his career. There are family advocacy groups on every base. Guess what his unit thinks now, that he is a wife bearer. Another shinig example of a military spouse f-ING the member.

Originally Posted by Kimchi and Kitt

Good news!!

Today I urged my husband to talk to the chain of command and tell them whats going on, and he did. After that they started an investigation and had her husband on lockdown. she didnt know this. Then I urged her to talk to the chain of command, after hours of me pressuring her, and telling her things would work out she finally did.

her husband is on 24/7 watch. he can not be alone for any time at all. He has to take mandatory therapy for anger, abuse and alcohol. he is not allowed back into their home and is not allowed to leave a barrack room, except to work. He cannot contact her in any way, FB, text or call and that is a zero tolerance policy. He cannot return to their home at all except for 30 mins while she is gone to collect his belongings. after that he cant EVER go back not even after she leaves Korea. They are paying her way back home, and trying to figure out what will happen with the dog. Their number one priority right now is her safety.

Im so glad she took this step for her and her pup. I think she was scared that the army wouldn't do anything or that her husband would cut her off financially and she would be stuck but I told her they wouldnt let that happen, and that the army is on her side. im so glad she got to see how many people are taking this seriously.

Thank you all for your concern.

[mky]

Originally Posted by Deuce

Another shinig example of a military spouse f-ING the member.

He F'ed himself.

[TxVicki]

Originally Posted by Deuce

I understand his wife needing to get out of the situation before it escalated to him harming her or killing the dog. However, his life is officially ruined, he will now be paying at lrast half his paycheck to her for the rest of his career because unfortunately the military cares more about dependents then the members themselves. I get that she needed out of the situation but you meddled and his career and possibly life is over. The dog should have been removed and wife should've left but there were ways she could have done so without destroying his career. There are family advocacy groups on every base. Guess what his unit thinks now, that he is a wife bearer. Another shinig example of a military spouse f-ING the member.

Myself having been a Military Wife for 22 years and having volunteered with Family Advocacy, I can say I most certianly support what she did. So it was he who &*&* himself.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by Deuce

I understand his wife needing to get out of the situation before it escalated to him harming her or killing the dog. However, his life is officially ruined, he will now be paying at lrast half his paycheck to her for the rest of his career because unfortunately the military cares more about dependents then the members themselves. I get that she needed out of the situation but you meddled and his career and possibly life is over. The dog should have been removed and wife should've left but there were ways she could have done so without destroying his career. There are family advocacy groups on every base. Guess what his unit thinks now, that he is a wife bearer. Another shinig example of a military spouse f-ING the member.

Really? He screwed himself over and I think it is great that the military is helping her.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by Deuce

I understand his wife needing to get out of the situation before it escalated to him harming her or killing the dog. However, his life is officially ruined, he will now be paying at lrast half his paycheck to her for the rest of his career because unfortunately the military cares more about dependents then the members themselves. I get that she needed out of the situation but you meddled and his career and possibly life is over. The dog should have been removed and wife should've left but there were ways she could have done so without destroying his career. There are family advocacy groups on every base. Guess what his unit thinks now, that he is a wife bearer. Another shinig example of a military spouse f-ING the member.

A military career is more important than the safety of a human being?

[My lil friend]

This young man made poor choises and yes will have to answer for them. That is not paying a price that is justice. You do NOT abuse anyone,tiny dog,child,wife or another member of the Army. If he had injured an officer he would be behind bars or receive the same punishment. This is SO not her fault and the armed services does not care more for the dependents. They feel a responsibility to the dependents because they are making a sacrifice by folllowing their loved one all over the planet or even making the ultimate sacrifice and being a widow/er or learning to live without a parent.
This young lady should not have to go hungry,do without her dog,or be stranded in a country overseas because the man that stood at an alter and gave his word to love,honor and cherish her failed miserably. You do not abuse someone physically or mentally,by harming something or someone important to them and call it love or cherishing that person. He has shown a great lack of honor and integrity by being cruel and being a coward by harming something weaker than he.
Hopefully he will see there error of his ways and will be able to rebuild his personal and military life. Hopefully she will be able to rebuild her life and be able to trust others and not spend the rest of her life hurt and afraid that the next young man will do the same.

[KendraE]

Wow!!! What a horrific series of events!! I salute the military for taking this situation under control...how can it possibly be said that the wife screwed up the husbands life and career!!! How?? Im speechless!! That jerk screwed himself! If he could be that violent towards tiny pup that weighs only a pound with no remorse, do you not think its possible in the future, he could turn to bigger victims, like his wife????

I am so very happy she is getting the help she needs, not only for the pup, but for herself. And to those who thinks this man is a poor victim...WAKE UP!!!!

[My lil friend]

To the OP: You did not "meddle" you stepped up for someone that was to afraid to do it for themselves. The advocasy groups would of done the same.
If his unit thinks less of him it will be because they already knew what type of person he is and just had it proved to them.
You did what was right and so did your husband.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by KendraE

Wow!!! What a horrific series of events!! I salute the military for taking this situation under control...how can it possibly be said that the wife screwed up the husbands life and career!!! How?? Im speechless!! That jerk screwed himself! If he could be that violent towards tiny pup that weighs only a pound with no remorse, do you not think its possible in the future, he could turn to bigger victims, like his wife????

I am so very happy she is getting the help she needs, not only for the pup, but for herself. And to those who thinks this man is a poor victim...WAKE UP!!!!

I agree with both of you. I will admit I don't know the ins and outs of military life. However, I do know one thing. No person is superior to another. This person, the husband, broke the little dog's leg simply because he could. In a moment of anger, he took it out on something that couldn't fight back. Eventually, the Pom will be gone. It will either be rehomed or it will have passed away. There is no doubt in my mind the wife would have then become his punching bag if she had not spoken up. Enough of these cases have been recorded to know this episode of domestic violence would have escalated. The wife is one of the lucky ones. She's going to get out of the situation. I don't see how his employment choice makes him the victim.