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BabyGirl Rosie · 07-31-2011, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by susan lynn

My dogs play fight all the time and it sounds like they are killing each other, but I just pull them apart if they get too aggressive, I would never hit any of my animals. They have bit me before when I tried to break them up from arguing, but I just put them on the floor. It sounds like your mom just over reacted and thought Callie was going to hurt Sammy. She probably feels bad about it now. Just cuddle up with Callie and rest.

Good advice. Mikki and Rosie will play and they are nipping and growling. However, you know the difference when it is a fight. I do not ever hit them. I will say stop it! And separate them.

I think sleeping on it is a good idea. Maybe you could discuss this with mom once the situation has cooled down. Let her know how you feel about it. I understand her protecting Sammy; however, she needs to keep your feelings in mind too. You might suggest in the future to separate the two of them instead of hitting.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.

Teresa Ford · 07-31-2011, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Nancy1999

Try not to see your mom as a villian, I know she loves Callie, she's done many things in the past that have shown you that. It sounds like she was very frustrated. Maybe since it was her mother there she felt like she had to be in control of the situation or she wasn't a good leader. Seriously, it wasn't that long ago when people thought a smack in the mouth was a good way to teach something. So try to forgive your mom, and think of this as a way to solve a problem with her. You can approach her when she's cooled down, and say you really felt bad, and does she think there's another way to handle it next time it happens. Right now you are feeling the worst because your mom let you down, it's almost like she hit you. I think your mom will listen to you if she doesn't feel attacked.

This has amazing insight and wonderful advice. Thank You. Being old school myself I have smacked my childrens bottoms and swatted my dogs with a newspaper. That was forever ago, that is what the 'books' and trainers said to do. Now we know better !

Lil Sis · 08-01-2011, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by BabyGirl Rosie

Good advice. Mikki and Rosie will play and they are nipping and growling. However, you know the difference when it is a fight. I do not ever hit them. I will say stop it! And separate them.

I think sleeping on it is a good idea. Maybe you could discuss this with mom once the situation has cooled down. Let her know how you feel about it. I understand her protecting Sammy; however, she needs to keep your feelings in mind too. You might suggest in the future to separate the two of them instead of hitting.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.

Reading over your post. Sorry you had such a bad day. I really like Nancy's advice.
Then I was reading Rhonda's advice. It made me think, even doggie moms nip or growl to "teach" the puppies. I guess our nipping and growling is our tone of voice and eye contact.

What your mom did was not what we teach now a days as a way to train dogs, but it was not that long past that we thought hitting a dog on his nose was a way to react to an aggressive dog.. not that your baby was aggressive. It is also hard for someone who is not around two or more dogs to know the difference between play and aggression.

It takes a lot to learn not to hit when you were raised when that was a method of discipline.

zcb · 08-01-2011, 02:54 PM

That is so awful. Scooter's previous "owners" hit him. They were terrible people and for a long time even if I raised my hand to fix my hair, he squinted and ducked. Hitting animals is for cowards.

Ahis_Mama · 08-01-2011, 03:03 PM

I'm sorry that Callie got hit. It is never acceptable. I hope you and your mom and come to terms about this and if not, she shouldn't be allowed near Callie. Hope all works out well.

Mom to Hot Rod · 08-01-2011, 06:22 PM

Sorry you had to deal with this. Hopefully your mom will realize that animals do not need to be hit in order to be disciplined. And also that animals sometimes will rough house in their playing. I would be upset as well is someone took it upon themselves to hit one of my dogs, it is just not necessary.

Hope things work out for everyone.

Lovetodream88 · 08-01-2011, 09:14 PM

Right now my mom refuses to apologize so for now shes not allowed around Callie. I know I will never ever trust her alone with Callie again and that makes me sad but thats how it has to be I have to keep Callie safe.

concretegurl · 08-01-2011, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

So I am in shock right now. My parents come over to my grandparents (where I live) every sunday and they bring Sammy with them. Well Callie was trying to get Sammy to play with her and they were getting a little rough making some loud noises and we couldnt tell bad noises or not so my mom split them up put Sammy over with my dad and then turned back to Callie and held her mouth shut for a few seconds and told her no and then told her she was bad, then took her hand off of her mouth yelled at her again and smacked her across the nose and snout. I about lost my mind! I said you do not hit my dog EVER and she said I will too unless you start to discipline her well she got to them quicker then me and was closer to them that is why I didnt do it and had I known she was going to hit my dog I would have. Plus it wasn't just one dogs fault. She wanted to keep arguing with me and never once apologized! My dad picked Callie up and rubbed on her then they left. My mom was saying well she just wouldnt bring Sammy back down here anymore and such well I dont want Callie around her anymore right now at all unless she signs some kinda of contract or something. I told my grandma to please let me know when there where plans for my parents to come over here so me and Callie could go to my boyfriends house until they are not here anymore. I really dont know what to do I dont trust my mom with Callie anymore and I have to take care of the safety of my dog. I'm so angry and upset right now. Callie seems ok she seems more upset that I am upset then anything.

You said it yourself already...

concretegurl · 08-01-2011, 10:33 PM

About previous training...excuses excuses...it used to be said to 'pop a dog on the nose' 'never look a dog in the eye' 'rub their nose in it...' old teaching are sometimes wrong the above should obviously be seen as such.

We relearn, sorry your mom hasn't (no offense to her but she needs to so send her here please) but again if she refuses to relearn or learn properly then she cannot be allowed around your dog: aggression breeds aggression, she's lucky if next time she doesn't get nipped at or growled at in the least.

I have a SUPER hard time expressing to my mom her tone is too aggressive with my dogs and they don't listen to her as they are scared of her tone...if she hit my dog though,

McheleM · 08-01-2011, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by concretegurl

About previous training...excuses excuses...it used to be said to 'pop a dog on the nose' 'never look a dog in the eye' 'rub their nose in it...' old teaching are sometimes wrong the above should obviously be seen as such.

We relearn, sorry your mom hasn't (no offense to her but she needs to so send her here please) but again if she refuses to relearn or learn properly then she cannot be allowed around your dog: aggression breeds aggression, she's lucky if next time she doesn't get nipped at or growled at in the least.

I have a SUPER hard time expressing to my mom her tone is too aggressive with my dogs and they don't listen to her as they are scared of her tone...if she hit my dog though,

Don't hit my kids and dont hit my dogs!! Those are Offenses that are unforgiveable.

nychelse · 08-02-2011, 04:45 AM

I am so sorry that happened to callie!

TWUladybug · 08-02-2011, 02:27 PM

Since most of the family have small dogs that go everywhere with their owners, our family knows that if they bring their furbabies they are guests, and mine live with me in my home. If they do not want my boys to interact with their furbabies then they are responsible for it at my house or they can leave them at home. My house. My rules.

Therefore, my mother-in-law keeps her chi in her lap and does not let her down.

08-01-2011, 02:54 PM	#19
zcb YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Tampa Posts: 509	That is so awful. Scooter's previous "owners" hit him. They were terrible people and for a long time even if I raised my hand to fix my hair, he squinted and ducked. Hitting animals is for cowards. __________________ “My little dogs ... heartbeats at my feet.” ― Edith Wharton -

08-01-2011, 03:03 PM	#20
Ahis_Mama Living In Paradise! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Ewa Beach on the island of Oahu Posts: 3,588	I'm sorry that Callie got hit. It is never acceptable. I hope you and your mom and come to terms about this and if not, she shouldn't be allowed near Callie. Hope all works out well. __________________ Aloha & Have a wonderful day! Roni~ Ahi Shibi Roxie Heart Alize & Prada

08-01-2011, 06:22 PM	#21
Mom to Hot Rod Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MD Posts: 10,908	Sorry you had to deal with this. Hopefully your mom will realize that animals do not need to be hit in order to be disciplined. And also that animals sometimes will rough house in their playing. I would be upset as well is someone took it upon themselves to hit one of my dogs, it is just not necessary. Hope things work out for everyone. __________________ www.kissecollar.com Soft Cone Collars for Post-surgery and much more! 10% (non-food) - Discount code YT10

08-01-2011, 09:14 PM	#22
Lovetodream88 Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md Posts: 23,249	Right now my mom refuses to apologize so for now shes not allowed around Callie. I know I will never ever trust her alone with Callie again and that makes me sad but thats how it has to be I have to keep Callie safe. __________________ Taylor My babies Joey, Penny ,Ollie & Dixie Callie Mae, you will forever be in my heart!

08-01-2011, 10:33 PM	#24
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	About previous training...excuses excuses...it used to be said to 'pop a dog on the nose' 'never look a dog in the eye' 'rub their nose in it...' old teaching are sometimes wrong the above should obviously be seen as such. We relearn, sorry your mom hasn't (no offense to her but she needs to so send her here please) but again if she refuses to relearn or learn properly then she cannot be allowed around your dog: aggression breeds aggression, she's lucky if next time she doesn't get nipped at or growled at in the least. I have a SUPER hard time expressing to my mom her tone is too aggressive with my dogs and they don't listen to her as they are scared of her tone...if she hit my dog though, __________________ Shan & 8 kids now!

08-02-2011, 04:45 AM	#26
nychelse YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Manhattan, NY Posts: 250	I am so sorry that happened to callie!

08-02-2011, 02:27 PM	#27
TWUladybug Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 65	Since most of the family have small dogs that go everywhere with their owners, our family knows that if they bring their furbabies they are guests, and mine live with me in my home. If they do not want my boys to interact with their furbabies then they are responsible for it at my house or they can leave them at home. My house. My rules. Therefore, my mother-in-law keeps her chi in her lap and does not let her down.