Help... Now Oliver bit my boyfriend - YorkieTalk.com Forums

kkephart · 05-07-2011, 08:34 PM

I need help. I was previously having problems with having a new roommate... which has not gotten any better... however now I have met someone special and Oliver is REALLY not happy. I have been working hard with him and today while I was in the shower he went to pee on the floor and the boyfriend went to grab him... didn't go so well... and Oliver turned and bit him Now Oliver only has 2 front teeth so its not like David was hurt... but its still not good. So now the fighting starts with the BF... he said Oliver was "sick and unhappy" .. he said his seperation anxiety made him a miserable dog and that I only catered to it. Am I a horrible Mom??? I love my dog and the BF knows that he comes with the package!!! Help

Happy2RV · 05-07-2011, 09:03 PM

Your a good mommy and like you said. Your BF was told it's the whole pkg. No one will love Oliver as mush as you, he needs you.

misslissa · 05-07-2011, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Happy2RV

Your a good mommy and like you said. Your BF was told it's the whole pkg. No one will love Oliver as mush as you, he needs you.

Taryn0405 · 05-07-2011, 09:40 PM

If my boyfriend or husband for that matter blamed me for a dog being unhappy or miserable, then I would put him out to pasture.

You are a good Mommy, and any person or boyfriend for that matter would understand your little rough spot and would be willing to compromise and make things easier for you. Not try to make things worse by making you feel guilty.

If you ask me this is a boyfriend problem, and not a puppy. Dogs can spot negativity, especially with those who just don't like them. And it seems to me that your boyfriend doesn't like Oliver, and Oliver knows it.

Think you need to sit Mr. Right down and have a chat.

p.s. doesn't get discouraged, like the other posters and I said, you're a good Mommy, and all the hard work with pay off.

Thinking about you, keep us updated!

ILUVSADIE · 05-07-2011, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Taryn0405

If my boyfriend or husband for that matter blamed me for a dog being unhappy or miserable, then I would put him out to pasture.

You are a good Mommy, and any person or boyfriend for that matter would understand your little rough spot and would be willing to compromise and make things easier for you. Not try to make things worse by making you feel guilty.

If you ask me this is a boyfriend problem, and not a puppy. Dogs can spot negativity, especially with those who just don't like them. And it seems to me that your boyfriend doesn't like Oliver, and Oliver knows it.

Think you need to sit Mr. Right down and have a chat.

p.s. doesn't get discouraged, like the other posters and I said, you're a good Mommy, and all the hard work with pay off.

Thinking about you, keep us updated!

I TOTALLY agree!!! I can't imagine a Yorkie biting anyone without a GOOD reason. Maybe you need to kick the boyfriend to the curb. Your baby may be trying to tell you something!!

Saeka · 05-07-2011, 11:07 PM

Eek! Do not worry, you're a good mommy. Keep working with him and see where it goes, and yes like others said, watch how he reacts with your boyfriend. On one hand, your boyfriend may have startled him and Oliver's reaction was to defend himself, but on the other hand your baby may feel something you don't.

gidget529 · 05-07-2011, 11:20 PM

I agree. I don't think it's really an Oliver problem. Oliver probably has feelings about another male around his mommy and needs time to adjust and get to know the newcomer. Oliver was there first. David is the newcomer to the pack.

I had a yorkie, Cricket, when I met my husband. I knew he was the one the way he was so patient with Cricket and how much she ended up liking him. Some of the other guys before him, not so much on the patience or kindness towards her. Husband made effort to get her to like him (always showed up w treats).

I think you need to talk to David and explain you and Oliver are a pack in Oliver's mind, and he needs to be patient and make effort towards Oliver. This is Oliver's home he is coming into. Oliver is just doing what a protective dog does towards someone he loves, he protects and checks them out.

Oh, and I think the only time Oliver may be "miserable" is when he is w inconsiderate David! I think is is perfectly happy w mommy!!

horsnaround · 05-08-2011, 05:11 AM

I am on oliver side your a good mommy He probably scared little oliver to death when he grabbed him and his only defensive is his two teeth. This is someone new in olivers life and he is not comfortable with him yet.

Britster · 05-08-2011, 06:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Taryn0405

If my boyfriend or husband for that matter blamed me for a dog being unhappy or miserable, then I would put him out to pasture.

You are a good Mommy, and any person or boyfriend for that matter would understand your little rough spot and would be willing to compromise and make things easier for you. Not try to make things worse by making you feel guilty.

If you ask me this is a boyfriend problem, and not a puppy. Dogs can spot negativity, especially with those who just don't like them. And it seems to me that your boyfriend doesn't like Oliver, and Oliver knows it.

Think you need to sit Mr. Right down and have a chat.

p.s. doesn't get discouraged, like the other posters and I said, you're a good Mommy, and all the hard work with pay off.

Thinking about you, keep us updated!

Totally this!

ArmaniMan · 05-08-2011, 06:03 AM

Armani would not be pleased if someone new came into the house and he had to share my attention- heck, he doesn't like when friends and family come over and he has to share me. It is so important, to make them feel like they are still special- this means he needs to be included in things you do, like all of you going for a walk together, or the three of you having a picnic at the park. Also the BF needs to learn how to handle a yorkie- likely he was mad he was peeing on the floor and handled him too roughly which scared Oliver and caused him to bite out of fear. Everyone who walks into my house is taught exactly how to treat my babies and if they can't obey, they are not welcome back.

yorkieusa · 05-08-2011, 06:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Taryn0405

If my boyfriend or husband for that matter blamed me for a dog being unhappy or miserable, then I would put him out to pasture.

You are a good Mommy, and any person or boyfriend for that matter would understand your little rough spot and would be willing to compromise and make things easier for you. Not try to make things worse by making you feel guilty.

If you ask me this is a boyfriend problem, and not a puppy. Dogs can spot negativity, especially with those who just don't like them. And it seems to me that your boyfriend doesn't like Oliver, and Oliver knows it.

Think you need to sit Mr. Right down and have a chat.

p.s. doesn't get discouraged, like the other posters and I said, you're a good Mommy, and all the hard work with pay off.

Thinking about you, keep us updated!

I agree. I'd be saying good bye, so long, have a nice day so fast his head would swim! Yorkies have a special sense about people and everyone should pay attention.

mackenzie2270 · 05-08-2011, 06:18 AM

I agree. Dogs are very good judges of character. If your BF can't except the whole package then I would kick him to the curb. There is something not quite right and Oliver knows it. It is not Olivers fault he scared him when he tried to grab him. Yorkies are very protective of their mommy's. You are a very good mommy. I have two little girls and they let me know if something is not quite right with people. So I trust their jugement. Have a Happy Mother's Day.

Hugs,
Linda, Sassy and Patti

My lil friend · 05-08-2011, 06:59 AM

The only ones that know exactly what happened are Oliver and David. There is NO way that I would make a grab for a small dog that I had not had a relationship with for very long. Dude got what he asked for and in Olivers eyes he was being attacked.
If your young man is having a hard time respecting the fact that you have a special relationship with your puppy then you both have some thinking to do. David needs to change his attitude or move on. If Oliver is young then things could be miserable all the way around for atleast 10yrs or longer.
Dogs are a very good judge of character. Oliver may not be acting out of jealousy,but protection for his mommy if he doesnt seem to be warming up to David.
I dont know how long ya'll have been together but NOONE has a right to blame you for a bite if they were the ones being agressive. Look a little further down the road of time, what kind of father would this man make? If he will blame you for what he deems to be faults in your dog then he will do the same over children and children are around for ALOT longer.

kkephart · 05-08-2011, 07:03 AM

Thank you so much for all of your support. I've been thinking about it and I want to do what is best for Oliver. He has had a tough little life in puppy mills... so he obviously is going to have trust issues. Unless the BF is willing to work with Oliver and I on this then he will have to go. Plus.. I know Oliver was scared... he grabbed him from behind... plus this was the first time the BF was staying in OUR home. Plus the words he was using were uncaring and insensitive to say the least... not a good sign.

Taryn0405 · 05-08-2011, 07:07 AM

Yeah, it may have been just sheer ignorance on his part for not knowing to grab the dog from behind. But I agree with you. The poor little guy just got things going good with his Momma and this this strange man comes in (who doesn't like him) and is threatening to take his Momma away? Unless your new guy is willing to work with you, then I would kick him to the curb!

Also, don't get discouraged, there any many many many good puppy loving men out there that will work just as hard as you with Oliver!

Good luck! Saying prayers!!
Kisses to Oliver!

05-07-2011, 08:34 PM	#1
kkephart Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Murrells Inlet, SC Posts: 188	Help... Now Oliver bit my boyfriend I need help. I was previously having problems with having a new roommate... which has not gotten any better... however now I have met someone special and Oliver is REALLY not happy. I have been working hard with him and today while I was in the shower he went to pee on the floor and the boyfriend went to grab him... didn't go so well... and Oliver turned and bit him Now Oliver only has 2 front teeth so its not like David was hurt... but its still not good. So now the fighting starts with the BF... he said Oliver was "sick and unhappy" .. he said his seperation anxiety made him a miserable dog and that I only catered to it. Am I a horrible Mom??? I love my dog and the BF knows that he comes with the package!!! Help __________________ Karla & Oliver RIP & Henry

05-07-2011, 09:40 PM	#4
Taryn0405 Owned by a Gremlin Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: The Mitten State! Posts: 3,706	If my boyfriend or husband for that matter blamed me for a dog being unhappy or miserable, then I would put him out to pasture. You are a good Mommy, and any person or boyfriend for that matter would understand your little rough spot and would be willing to compromise and make things easier for you. Not try to make things worse by making you feel guilty. If you ask me this is a boyfriend problem, and not a puppy. Dogs can spot negativity, especially with those who just don't like them. And it seems to me that your boyfriend doesn't like Oliver, and Oliver knows it. Think you need to sit Mr. Right down and have a chat. p.s. doesn't get discouraged, like the other posters and I said, you're a good Mommy, and all the hard work with pay off. Thinking about you, keep us updated! __________________ Taryn Momma to Gizmo AKA Monkeyman My husband, daughter, son, and dog make me who I am "My goal in life is to be as good of a person my dog already thinks I am."

05-07-2011, 11:07 PM	#6
Saeka Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 187	Eek! Do not worry, you're a good mommy. Keep working with him and see where it goes, and yes like others said, watch how he reacts with your boyfriend. On one hand, your boyfriend may have startled him and Oliver's reaction was to defend himself, but on the other hand your baby may feel something you don't. __________________ ...And everywhere that Sarah went her little dog was sure to go. .::Proud Mommy of Rhia::.

05-08-2011, 05:11 AM	#8
horsnaround ♥Trained by my pups♥ Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: with my yorkies Posts: 11,722 Blog Entries: 1	I am on oliver side your a good mommy He probably scared little oliver to death when he grabbed him and his only defensive is his two teeth. This is someone new in olivers life and he is not comfortable with him yet. __________________ loving life with my furry friends

05-08-2011, 06:03 AM	#10
ArmaniMan I ♥ Armani & Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 3,895	Armani would not be pleased if someone new came into the house and he had to share my attention- heck, he doesn't like when friends and family come over and he has to share me. It is so important, to make them feel like they are still special- this means he needs to be included in things you do, like all of you going for a walk together, or the three of you having a picnic at the park. Also the BF needs to learn how to handle a yorkie- likely he was mad he was peeing on the floor and handled him too roughly which scared Oliver and caused him to bite out of fear. Everyone who walks into my house is taught exactly how to treat my babies and if they can't obey, they are not welcome back. __________________ Armani & Chloe

05-07-2011, 09:03 PM	#2
Happy2RV Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Sacramento, California Posts: 78	Your a good mommy and like you said. Your BF was told it's the whole pkg. No one will love Oliver as mush as you, he needs you.

05-07-2011, 11:20 PM	#7
gidget529 Gidget & Sidney's Mom Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: PA Posts: 3,462	I agree. I don't think it's really an Oliver problem. Oliver probably has feelings about another male around his mommy and needs time to adjust and get to know the newcomer. Oliver was there first. David is the newcomer to the pack. I had a yorkie, Cricket, when I met my husband. I knew he was the one the way he was so patient with Cricket and how much she ended up liking him. Some of the other guys before him, not so much on the patience or kindness towards her. Husband made effort to get her to like him (always showed up w treats). I think you need to talk to David and explain you and Oliver are a pack in Oliver's mind, and he needs to be patient and make effort towards Oliver. This is Oliver's home he is coming into. Oliver is just doing what a protective dog does towards someone he loves, he protects and checks them out. Oh, and I think the only time Oliver may be "miserable" is when he is w inconsiderate David! I think is is perfectly happy w mommy!!

05-08-2011, 06:18 AM	#12
mackenzie2270 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Chloride, Arizona, Mohave Posts: 71	I agree. Dogs are very good judges of character. If your BF can't except the whole package then I would kick him to the curb. There is something not quite right and Oliver knows it. It is not Olivers fault he scared him when he tried to grab him. Yorkies are very protective of their mommy's. You are a very good mommy. I have two little girls and they let me know if something is not quite right with people. So I trust their jugement. Have a Happy Mother's Day. Hugs, Linda, Sassy and Patti

05-08-2011, 06:59 AM	#13
My lil friend Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: FtWorth,TX,USA Posts: 3,269	The only ones that know exactly what happened are Oliver and David. There is NO way that I would make a grab for a small dog that I had not had a relationship with for very long. Dude got what he asked for and in Olivers eyes he was being attacked. If your young man is having a hard time respecting the fact that you have a special relationship with your puppy then you both have some thinking to do. David needs to change his attitude or move on. If Oliver is young then things could be miserable all the way around for atleast 10yrs or longer. Dogs are a very good judge of character. Oliver may not be acting out of jealousy,but protection for his mommy if he doesnt seem to be warming up to David. I dont know how long ya'll have been together but NOONE has a right to blame you for a bite if they were the ones being agressive. Look a little further down the road of time, what kind of father would this man make? If he will blame you for what he deems to be faults in your dog then he will do the same over children and children are around for ALOT longer.

05-08-2011, 07:03 AM	#14
kkephart Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Murrells Inlet, SC Posts: 188	Thank you so much for all of your support. I've been thinking about it and I want to do what is best for Oliver. He has had a tough little life in puppy mills... so he obviously is going to have trust issues. Unless the BF is willing to work with Oliver and I on this then he will have to go. Plus.. I know Oliver was scared... he grabbed him from behind... plus this was the first time the BF was staying in OUR home. Plus the words he was using were uncaring and insensitive to say the least... not a good sign. __________________ Karla & Oliver RIP & Henry

05-08-2011, 07:07 AM	#15
Taryn0405 Owned by a Gremlin Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: The Mitten State! Posts: 3,706	Yeah, it may have been just sheer ignorance on his part for not knowing to grab the dog from behind. But I agree with you. The poor little guy just got things going good with his Momma and this this strange man comes in (who doesn't like him) and is threatening to take his Momma away? Unless your new guy is willing to work with you, then I would kick him to the curb! Also, don't get discouraged, there any many many many good puppy loving men out there that will work just as hard as you with Oliver! Good luck! Saying prayers!! Kisses to Oliver! __________________ Taryn Momma to Gizmo AKA Monkeyman My husband, daughter, son, and dog make me who I am "My goal in life is to be as good of a person my dog already thinks I am."