Second dog opportunity -- should I do it?

[cheryl19]

I have 3, and everyone that I got I made myself sick before I got them. On the road to see Ivy I had to stop at the gas station because I got myself sick. And maybe you read about my adventure getting Reggie from the shelter, he only had 2 days till he was to be put to sleep. I was at work calling my husband to see if it was ok with him, calling the shelter, and talking with YT members to help keep myself calm. Well everyone worked out fine! They all love each other and they are for the most part on the same schedule. Let us all know how this plays out!!!!!!!!!

[Britster]

Originally Posted by yorkie_mama22

Maybe it's not so much the dog isn't right but maybe this time in your life isn't right for a second dog? I'm not trying to be mean or anything but if I didn't have my own place theres no way in heck I could have two dogs. It sounds like you go to your dads house often and he already has two dogs. that's 4 dogs in the house. Maybe he won't really like having two dogs coming over to his house. I know my mom won't let me bring all 3 of my dogs over. She will babysit my two little ones but no way will she watch my 3rd dog because she already has a big dog.

I think you should just enjoy Jackson and when you have your own place get a second dog. It's so hard being under someone elses roof, I just don't see getting a second dog a good idea. I know it's so tempting being on YT! Everyone is getting a second, third, or 4th dog. I know at times I want to get another yorkie but then I think and say that is just crazy for ME! lol I think some people go overboard. I've been hearing alot lately about "animal hoarding" and I think I have enough pets already. lol

Yeah, I also think the time in my life isn't right. But I also don't feel good about this person and am not going to give her my money. If this dog was from a rescue 501(c)3 organization, I probably would have gotten him.

Technically, yes, I don't have my own place. But that's not what's stopping me. But if you read my previous posts, I basically have my own apartment. It's closed off from the rest of the house and I have my own bedroom, bathroom, and living room with doors to the outside, etc. It's really not that hard living under someone elses roof, especially when they're hardly ever here, lol. It's like having my own place. They don't have any specific rules I have to follow or anything.

My dad would probably not watch 4 dogs without me there (Jackson will get left there if I go on vacation, etc) but like I said, with a new puppy, I would bring to a doggy daycare. Athough, knowing my dad, he would never allow that to happen, he's such a softy! We've had 4 dogs over there at once, my dad is a huge animal lover, so I don't think 4 small dogs would be a big deal to him as long as they're visiting and not staying forever, LOL. He was at the emerg. vet last night at 11 with their dog, Lily, because she had been biting at her stomach for 3 days straight, and sat there for 3hrs in the emerg vet and paid $300 because he felt so bad seeing her suffer, so he's definitely an animal lover. I'm not worried about that.

Two is my personal limit. When we do have 3 dogs at my dads, and if I'm the only one there, it can be a bit more rough. But, feeding three dogs is not a big deal to me, I do it all the time when I'm over there. Walking all 3 is definitely a challenge. I'm not worried about me being able to handle 2 dogs, I think I'm more worried about the lifestyle change, and finding the perfect dog, and not messing up Jackson & I's current bond.

[Sweet Apple]

Hi Brit...sorry you have been struggling so w/this decision...I have found, over the years, to listen to that small still voice within me, and follow what I'm hearing (feeling)...If you have any doubts, whatsoever, then it's not the right thing for you to do...Having said that, I want to tell you that I've added a new member to my family, a yorkie mix, and have just had her "vetted"...Because her history was unknown, I had to have the exam, shots, blood work, spay, dental, yadayadayada...She did have giardia...Botton line is this all cost...drum roll...$507.42...And my vet is not one of the most expensive vets in the area...So $400, if the dog is vetted, is most reasonable...However, I think it's all about the small still voice within you...But when you do get ready to adopt, especially if it's from a rescue, remember all the money they have put in to vetting the pup...All the best w/your decision, Brit...hugs, Maggie

[lil louis]

Originally Posted by Britster

Ya know, I think that may be scaring the most.

This morning, for example, I have nothing to do today until 1pm so I slept in... Jackson slept in with me until 10:20am. I had let him out at midnight last night. It's so nice having a dog that will just sleep in with you 'til whenever, and I started thinking if I had brought a second dog home last night, it definitely would not be like that anymore. When we sleep at my dads house with their dogs, he's ready and up at 7am. I know that's a little different, because those dogs wake up early so he hears them, etc. I'm sure I could condition another dog to sleep when I sleep, etc (Jackson wasn't always like this!) but I don't think I'm ready for that yet.

I guess I have to keep telling myself that maybe this just means there is another dog out there who's even more awesome waiting for me.

I think that you are a very smart girl, and you will make the right decision for you and Jackson. From all your pics and videos, I can clearly see what a great bond you and Jackson have, and I can see why you don't want that to change. After reading your posts, I think that your decision has already been made in your mind, but it is a different decision than your heart. I think that you have to go with your gut instinct, and if it doesn't feel right, I would say to wait until it does. Good luck!

[salazark]

I had all the same feelings you are having before we got Beemer. I work with Sadie a lot and she's my little girl and my sidekick. I was really worried about the bond we have changing. It may not be the right time for you to get another, but I'll bet that whenever you are ready you are still going to have those same feelings. It really is hard dealing with how to split your love. Even after we got Beemer I felt guilty if I paid him too much attention - kind of like I was telling Sadie she wasn't my first true love anymore. Then I would remember how I was when we got Sadie and all the attention she got and I'd feel like I wasn't being fair to Beemer. Honestly, it took time to work through all of that but now I couldn't imagine not having both of them. I never thought I could love another dog as much as I love Sadie but it happened. When the time is right those worries will be outweighed by the need for another furbut and you'll work it all out. Good luck!

[Britster]

Originally Posted by Sweet Apple

Hi Brit...sorry you have been struggling so w/this decision...I have found, over the years, to listen to that small still voice within me, and follow what I'm hearing (feeling)...If you have any doubts, whatsoever, then it's not the right thing for you to do...Having said that, I want to tell you that I've added a new member to my family, a yorkie mix, and have just had her "vetted"...Because her history was unknown, I had to have the exam, shots, blood work, spay, dental, yadayadayada...She did have giardia...Botton line is this all cost...drum roll...$507.42...And my vet is not one of the most expensive vets in the area...So $400, if the dog is vetted, is most reasonable...However, I think it's all about the small still voice within you...But when you do get ready to adopt, especially if it's from a rescue, remember all the money they have put in to vetting the pup...All the best w/your decision, Brit...hugs, Maggie

Thanks Maggie! And I'm so glad to hear you helped another Yorkie mix in need. How awesome!

If the $400 was going to a rescue, I would feel so great about it, because I know the money is going to help other dogs in need. Whereas this $400 probably would have gone to this woman's children's cheerleading stuff, or a new haircut, or something.

I think I've decided I'm just going to wait until the time is right AND either go with a respectable breeder where I know my money is going into great quality dogs, or a rescue where I know my money is going to help many other dogs in need.

[Britster]

Originally Posted by salazark

I had all the same feelings you are having before we got Beemer. I work with Sadie a lot and she's my little girl and my sidekick. I was really worried about the bond we have changing. It may not be the right time for you to get another, but I'll bet that whenever you are ready you are still going to have those same feelings. It really is hard dealing with how to split your love. Even after we got Beemer I felt guilty if I paid him too much attention - kind of like I was telling Sadie she wasn't my first true love anymore. Then I would remember how I was when we got Sadie and all the attention she got and I'd feel like I wasn't being fair to Beemer. Honestly, it took time to work through all of that but now I couldn't imagine not having both of them. I never thought I could love another dog as much as I love Sadie but it happened. When the time is right those worries will be outweighed by the need for another furbut and you'll work it all out. Good luck!

Thanks so much for the great advice!

[Zeus08]

Wow after reading all this I certainly understand why you have doubts. I think this woman is shady. $400 aside if she really cared about Marco the price would not be an issue. Sounds like she is a broker. Listen to your heart and enjoy your sweet love Jackson. Best wishes with whatever you decide.

[yorkie_mama22]

Originally Posted by Zeus08

Wow after reading all this I certainly understand why you have doubts. I think this woman is shady. $400 aside if she really cared about Marco the price would not be an issue. Sounds like she is a broker. Listen to your heart and enjoy your sweet love Jackson. Best wishes with whatever you decide.

A broker? Wow that is a big accusation to make!


I understand that this lady may not seem that "great" but who is to say it's WRONG to ask 400$.


AND Britt. What IF she did use that money towards her children? She spent money on the dog which would be taking away from her children so who cares how she spent her money? I don't know I feel it a little offensive to accuse her of being a bad person because she is asking a rehoming fee of 400$.

Honestly how many times do we read about breeders or other people not wanting to lower their asking fee and so many people say " if you can't afford the initial cost you can't afford to care for the dog ".

I just think it's wrong for people who are complaining about the cost. It really isn't that much and like you said, she was giving you his stuff an crate. That stuff is not free! When things didn't work out with my yorkie-poo and I rehomed her for 500$ and the lady wanted me to go lower, I said no. I paid 450$ for her, plus all her stuff and vet check up. She wasn't even spayed yet and she was 10 months old when I rehomed her. That lady bought her from me and had an appt to have her spayed so that probably cost her another 250$ around here. I spent that money on bills and groceries. That doesn't make me a bad person? I just feel if you didn't like the rehoming fee why bother the woman? I know you seem like a great owner and a wonderful girl but really to judge someone on how much they are asking for their dog and how they will spend it is really not your business.

I don't see anything wrong with asking to lower an asking price but you said she already went down on the asking price. Alot of people find it annoying. I know I did when I was rehoming my dog and one of the first things they ask is if you can take less.

[143julz]

Originally Posted by yorkie_mama22

A broker? Wow that is a big accusation to make!


I understand that this lady may not seem that "great" but who is to say it's WRONG to ask 400$.


AND Britt. What IF she did use that money towards her children? She spent money on the dog which would be taking away from her children so who cares how she spent her money? I don't know I feel it a little offensive to accuse her of being a bad person because she is asking a rehoming fee of 400$.

Honestly how many times do we read about breeders or other people not wanting to lower their asking fee and so many people say " if you can't afford the initial cost you can't afford to care for the dog ".

I just think it's wrong for people who are complaining about the cost. It really isn't that much and like you said, she was giving you his stuff an crate. That stuff is not free! When things didn't work out with my yorkie-poo and I rehomed her for 500$ and the lady wanted me to go lower, I said no. I paid 450$ for her, plus all her stuff and vet check up. She wasn't even spayed yet and she was 10 months old when I rehomed her. That lady bought her from me and had an appt to have her spayed so that probably cost her another 250$ around here. I spent that money on bills and groceries. That doesn't make me a bad person? I just feel if you didn't like the rehoming fee why bother the woman? I know you seem like a great owner and a wonderful girl but really to judge someone on how much they are asking for their dog and how they will spend it is really not your business.

I don't see anything wrong with asking to lower an asking price but you said she already went down on the asking price. Alot of people find it annoying. I know I did when I was rehoming my dog and one of the first things they ask is if you can take less.

Agree 10000%

[katienme2002]

I honestly have no good advice to offer..lol..But I say go with your heart on this. I paid $400 for Roxie, she came from a BYB (Had no clue at the time) but they at least did have her fixed after they found out she couldnt carry her babies to term. Anyways long story short, she is a great dog, who thank goodness was already housetrained, spayed, etc. I dont regret it one second....

[Zeus08]

Didn't meant to make waves. Only wanted to wish Britster the best. Apologies.

[yorkie_mama22]

Originally Posted by Zeus08

Didn't meant to make waves. Only wanted to wish Britster the best. Apologies.

I understand and I hope I didn't seem too mean. I just don't see anything wrong with the rehoming fee that's all. I know it's nicer to have it go to a rescue but thats why you look at a rescue instead of a "rehome".

[Britster]

Wow, didn't want this to turn into an argument. There is really no need. Just wanted support on deciding if a second dog was right for me.

Initially, I found nothing wrong with the fee. But after sitting and looking into hindsight. I still don't find anything wrong with a $400 IF he was coming from a better place.

First- I drove into a shady neighborhood. She brings the dog outside on the leash. I asked to go in her home and she wouldn't allow me. I asked to go into her backyard and she wouldn't allow me. She claimed there was construction both inside her house and in the backyard, and that mean dogs were on the opposite side of the fence. Her uncle was the breeder, and her cousins have a lot of Marco's siblings. She was willing to just hand off her to dog to me right then and there without knowing ANYTHING about me.... you can't say that's right or normal. She also slipped at one point, when I asked if Marco had ever been in any fights and she said "Oh, no, he's great with my other dog." So she has another dog apparently?

I'm NOT saying it's "wrong" to ask for $500. I'm not accusing her of being a bad person simply because she's asking a large rehoming fee. I'm not even saying she's a bad person. I don't know where you're getting that. I don't feel comfortable with the way things were, as much as I loved the dog, and didn't like how she was willing to just give him to me right then and there and accept her check, not knowing where the hell he was going. I could have been lying about everything I said about Jackson and my life for all she knows.

[AllDogBoots]

Originally Posted by Britster

Wow, didn't want this to turn into an argument. There is really no need. Just wanted support on deciding if a second dog was right for me.

Initially, I found nothing wrong with the fee. But after sitting and looking into hindsight. I still don't find anything wrong with a $400 IF he was coming from a better place.

First- I drove into a shady neighborhood. She brings the dog outside on the leash. I asked to go in her home and she wouldn't allow me. I asked to go into her backyard and she wouldn't allow me. She claimed there was construction both inside her house and in the backyard, and that mean dogs were on the opposite side of the fence. Her uncle was the breeder, and her cousins have a lot of Marco's siblings. She was willing to just hand off her to dog to me right then and there without knowing ANYTHING about me.... you can't say that's right or normal. She also slipped at one point, when I asked if Marco had ever been in any fights and she said "Oh, no, he's great with my other dog." So she has another dog apparently?

I'm NOT saying it's "wrong" to ask for $500. I'm not accusing her of being a bad person simply because she's asking a large rehoming fee. I'm not even saying she's a bad person. I don't know where you're getting that. I don't feel comfortable with the way things were, as much as I loved the dog, and didn't like how she was willing to just give him to me right then and there and accept her check, not knowing where the hell he was going. I could have been lying about everything I said about Jackson and my life for all she knows.

Sometimes YT is a tough crowd. Your decision seems simple to me Brit. Any signs of discomfort or if anything just doesn't "feel" right, then it's done.

If you were able to go in her backyard and in her house and she asked questions about you and Jackson it would have been a different story. Although he could have been the perfect sibling, there will be so many more opportunities where everything lines up just perfectly.