Everyone: can we TURN UP the COMPASSION here?

[Sugar's Mom]

great thread!!!!!!!!! Now if we could only do something about those pesky pm's that float around behind the scenes that invariably make it back to the one that is being talked about!!!!!!!!! What a wonderful world it would be!!!!!!!! Sometimes what people post in puiblic and what they say in pm's are so very different. Compassion needs to be in both places. I rarely post anymore but I do read all the threads and see what people are talking about.

[luckylady]

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

I don’t know the right way to say this, so I’ll just say it plainly…

I'm hoping everyone on this board can stop and consider whether it is possible for them to be more compassionate to their fellow members.

You don’t have to love everyone. You don’t have to like everyone. You don’t have to like anyone, for that matter. But we do ask that you be respectful…that you try to be compassionate.

None of us have walked in anyone else’s shoes but our own, as far as I know. So until one of us has that capability, let’s not pretend we are overly fit to judge.

Words hurt people. Insinuations can hurt just as much as words. Before you post something…think of how you would feel if it was posted to YOU.

We don’t have to gush over each other (although it is welcome ), we don’t have to be fakey-nicey. You don’t have to be a Pollyanna. But please, do remember that every action, kind or otherwise, has consequences – in some way or another.

Thanks for reading this and for making YT such a wonderful place!

Thank you for starting this thread. From some of the things I have read recently, your timing is perfect. It needed to be said now, just as I am sure it will need to be reminded of again from time to time.
For the most part I do not post in the "heated" threads but if and when I do, I try very hard to word my responses in a compassionate manner. One would be surprised at how much time I spend wording & re-wording my post BEFORE I actually post it.
Here are a couple of definitions of compassion that I found & liked.......
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Compassion is the keen awareness of the interdependence of all things. --Thomas Merton

Compassion is the ultimate and most meaningful embodiment of emotional maturity. It is through compassion that a person achieves the highest peak and deepest reach in his or her search for self-fulfillment. --Arthur Jersild

[manolos mom]

Originally Posted by CJxDanielle

Agreed, its the "veterans" here that (I believe) are stirring up trouble and making the newbies wish they never joined. Kind of sad you have to give someone whom you may never meet a hard time over the computer screen.

Half the time they would never say the things they do IRL.

Wow, I am really sorry you feel that way. Ann, I promise to try hard.

[Anaic]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

It’s helpful to have these reminders every now and then so as we can do our own “self check” as to how our own attitudes, decisions, reactions, behaviors, and choices may be affecting others. It encourages and challenges those who are willing to look at themselves with critical objectivity and have the willingness to change, to make better choices concerning our own behaviors...... Sadly, it seems that no longer is respect presumed, but rather granted. We should always show respect and consideration to our fellow human being, unless shown otherwise……..

Unfortunately,there’s going to be those few who will read these reminders and think it has nothing to do with them. They are lacking in their ability to have feelings and compassion for others. Not just on this forum but in all areas of their life. When you have to be right or in control or look superior or generally just “better than” there is no room for compassion. The feelings for others becomes secondary. There is no desire for self-examination, change, or growth.We don’t have the power to make people be other than who they are....

Some seem to believe every *feeling* needs to be expressed, as if it’s some irresistible force. Not every objectionable moment needs commentary or needs to be confronted.. Every opinion, reaction, perception, and preference is not important, necessary, or kind to reveal....... You will never get your point across by being crass, so choose your words wisely. A soft answer is better than a sarcastic one. If you say it offensively, it will be received defensively. You are never persuasive when you’re abrasive…..

I hope things improve around here......

[PANAMA69]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

It’s helpful to have these reminders every now and then so as we can do our own “self check” as to how our own attitudes, decisions, reactions, behaviors, and choices may be affecting others. It encourages and challenges those who are willing to look at themselves with critical objectivity and have the willingness to change, to make better choices concerning our own behaviors...... Sadly, it seems that no longer is respect presumed, but rather granted. We should always show respect and consideration to our fellow human being, unless shown otherwise……..

Unfortunately,there’s going to be those few who will read these reminders and think it has nothing to do with them. They are lacking in their ability to have feelings and compassion for others. Not just on this forum but in all areas of their life. When you have to be right or in control or look superior or generally just “better than” there is no room for compassion. The feelings for others becomes secondary. There is no desire for self-examination, change, or growth.We don’t have the power to make people be other than who they are....

Some seem to believe every *feeling* needs to be expressed, as if it’s some irresistible force. Not every objectionable moment needs commentary or needs to be confronted.. Every opinion, reaction, perception, and preference is not important, necessary, or kind to reveal....... You will never get your point across by being crass, so choose your words wisely. A soft answer is better than a sarcastic one. If you say it offensively, it will be received defensively. You are never persuasive when you’re abrasive…..

I hope things improve around here......

[lillymae]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

it’s helpful to have these reminders every now and then so as we can do our own “self check” as to how our own attitudes, decisions, reactions, behaviors, and choices may be affecting others. It encourages and challenges those who are willing to look at themselves with critical objectivity and have the willingness to change, to make better choices concerning our own behaviors...... Sadly, it seems that no longer is respect presumed, but rather granted. We should always show respect and consideration to our fellow human being, unless shown otherwise……..

Unfortunately,there’s going to be those few who will read these reminders and think it has nothing to do with them. They are lacking in their ability to have feelings and compassion for others. Not just on this forum but in all areas of their life. When you have to be right or in control or look superior or generally just “better than” there is no room for compassion. The feelings for others becomes secondary. There is no desire for self-examination, change, or growth.we don’t have the power to make people be other than who they are....

Some seem to believe every *feeling* needs to be expressed, as if it’s some irresistible force. Not every objectionable moment needs commentary or needs to be confronted.. Every opinion, reaction, perception, and preference is not important, necessary, or kind to reveal....... You will never get your point across by being crass, so choose your words wisely. A soft answer is better than a sarcastic one. If you say it offensively, it will be received defensively. You are never persuasive when you’re abrasive…..

I hope things improve around here......

a-m-e-n !

[luvfla]

I try to not let my fingers type something that I wouldn't say if the person was standing in front of me.
I've been going through a very rough time for the last year & it has made me SO sensitive to other people and what they may be going through.....

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by luvfla

I try to not let my fingers type something that I wouldn't say if the person was standing in front of me.
I've been going through a very rough time for the last year & it has made me SO sensitive to other people and what they may be going through.....

I hear you on that !

[ladyjane]

There are things being said and done on YT lately that have nothing to do with the tone of the posts. Everyone says things in a different manner and there is no tone in the written word. It is just like the little game we all played in school when we were young...one person whispers to someone and it travels around until it gets to the end and the last message is nothing like the first! Things get misinterpreted....and just like in real life someone might hear something totally different, on the computer people think that someone has a tone that may not even be anywhere near what the writer meant. Sadly, there are some downright nasty things being said lately on YT that many people don't even know about. Thankfully, those comments usually disappear quickly.

As for subject matter, I will never say anything online to a person that I would not say to them in real life. Anyone who knows me, knows this is a fact.

I don't see the tone of things as being a problem as much as the intent to malign people. The behind the scenes getting together for the sole purpose of trying to get rid of a YTer .. or to try to take over YT is, in my opinion, out of line.

I saw some recent happenings here that just fried my brain. I don't know where people find the time to do the dirt digging they do...or the people who get banned and keep coming here to let everyone have it. I have had emails sent to me from various sources where people are actually working behind the scenes to "take YT down". Boggles my mind. Surely there are more productive things to do.

[CJxDanielle]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

I don't know where people find the time to do the dirt digging they do...

[Dzbabykel]

I just want to say that I'm a newbie and have been on for a few weeks now and that I think you all are SO welcoming and absolutely wonderful (which is why I'm so addicted to this site everyday) and in reading through this thread its really nice to see how much you all care Just wanted to send some reassuring thoughts your way to know how much you all are appreciated!!!

[Cha Cha]

Good mornin y'all! Today is a new day, and I think a big 'ol cyper group hug is just what we all need!

[CJxDanielle]

Originally Posted by Cha Cha

Good mornin y'all! Today is a new day, and I think a big 'ol cyper group hug is just what we all need!

[dwerten]

Make it a better day

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[WV~Yorkies]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

There are things being said and done on YT lately that have nothing to do with the tone of the posts. Everyone says things in a different manner and there is no tone in the written word. It is just like the little game we all played in school when we were young...one person whispers to someone and it travels around until it gets to the end and the last message is nothing like the first! Things get misinterpreted....and just like in real life someone might hear something totally different, on the computer people think that someone has a tone that may not even be anywhere near what the writer meant. Sadly, there are some downright nasty things being said lately on YT that many people don't even know about. Thankfully, those comments usually disappear quickly.

As for subject matter, I will never say anything online to a person that I would not say to them in real life. Anyone who knows me, knows this is a fact.

I don't see the tone of things as being a problem as much as the intent to malign people. The behind the scenes getting together for the sole purpose of trying to get rid of a YTer .. or to try to take over YT is, in my opinion, out of line.

I saw some recent happenings here that just fried my brain. I don't know where people find the time to do the dirt digging they do...or the people who get banned and keep coming here to let everyone have it. I have had emails sent to me from various sources where people are actually working behind the scenes to "take YT down". Boggles my mind. Surely there are more productive things to do.