My Dog isnt Cuddly

[Winston'sMom]

I thought when I got a Yorkie he would be super cuddly and always want to be in my lap. Afterall, that's what my stepsisters 2 yorkies and my brother's yorkies do--they constantly stay by their owner wanting attention.

Winston does not. In the morning he wants love for about 15 minutes then he is totally aloof the rest of the day. He doesnt even come when I call and sometimes when I throw his ball, he just turns the other way. If I want him to come to me, he just sits there and stares. I just want some little yorkie LUVIN!!!!!! He gets plenty of time to chase animals outside and gets tons of exercise and attention, all I want is his affection in return.

Do you think this is because he is still young (6 mos). Or do you think he will continue his aloof behavior FOREVER....*sighs*

Do any of you have an aloof yorkie who could take you or leave you? I feel ashamed to admit it, but sometimes I feel rejected.

[simonandhallie]

Simon is very much like that as well! He is 2 now and the older he gets the more cuddly he is becoming. At 6 months though, he had too much exploring to do to settle down! He still has lots of energy but he will come to me when he wants love and at night time in bed he is super snuggly. Winston is just busy being a puppy and learning new things, he will cuddle and be snuggly soon!

[shelbysmom]

Oh, I am sorry...whattabummer.

When we first got Shelby she didn't hold still long enough to cuddle but I took advantage of every opportunity when I knew she was tired. I also found favorite chewies and I held her in my lap with them and let her chew away. It helped. Now she is busy, busy, busy...but when she is tired she is ready to sit in a lap and crash.

still haven't figured out how to get her to hold still so I can groom her well. oh well.
good luck

[Winston'sMom]

Whew! Okay good. I do think age plays a part in cuddliness. My beagle is getting more cuddly now that she is a year. I hope Winnie does too. It just makes me sad. Even in bed, he would rather go far away from me to sleep. Im so pathetic, it sounds as if I am talking about my husband...HAH

[chachi]

They all have their own personalities. Chachi doesnt cuddle at all. MY younger yorkie Jewels does cuddle though but usually it is when she wats to.

[chipperdancing]

I think they go through stages. But, one thing you said ... "He doesn't come when I call him ..." ~ I really think it could be a matter of life or death, that's how important it is to teach him two things. To Come and to Stay. And both are really easy to train. Just get him a little (cat?) halter and longggg (15'-20') thin clothesline rope. Always say his name, "Winston, come!", repeatedly until he does. Then just put him down and say, "Winston, stay!" and walk away ... repeatedly until he does. Only takes a few times over a few days.
Once he knows these two commands ... he won't jump out of a car unexpectedly and possibly be run over, he won't (well ... he might) take off down the road, he'll come back!

[Marie]

I guess is the age. Gucci wasnt too cuddly, now she is 1 and she a bit more cuddly but when she wants to be. When she is into playing, I don't bother tying to cuddle with her. When she want to sleep she always looks for me. So dont despair he still can change and become cuddly.

[RowdysMom]

I would have to say that Rowdy (8 months old tomorrow!) is not too cuddly either. When I come home he is so glad to see me and he lets me pick him up and love on him and he gives me sooo many kisses - but then he's off playing and doing things and although he likes me to pick him up, he doesn't necessarily want to cuddle. He will let me pick him up and give him a hug and a kiss and he will usually give me a kiss back, but if I try to do it one more time, he starts pushing to get down. He only sits in my lap when he is tired or chewing on a toy or something and then he is usually up and down several times (unless he's tired). Anyway I would say that he is becoming more cuddly as he gets older but he is definitely not a cuddly guy right now. He is extremely sweet and good natured though, so I think as he matures, he will be more likely to want to cuddle.

[Winston'sMom]

He always comes if I squat down or make an urgent sounding voice with a treat. But what I meant about not coming is when Im sitting on the couch and say 'winnie'--he knows the difference in urgency and when Im just wanting his attention.

Ive been to puppy school and we do know come and stay, but thank you for the advice Chipper.

[YorkieShadow]

Minnie my little girl would stay on my lap 24/7 if I would let her. Mickey only wants to be cuddle when he wants to be and never stays on my lap. he comes gives me kisses and is off again.

[yorkieusa]

Yorkies are pretty independent most of the time. They are terriers and are lively and would usually rather look out a window or play outside unless they are asleep in your lap.

[kindness_001]

Missy would lewt u hold her and pet her all the time. she takes her foot and shoves your hand if your not petting her. BoBo loves to be held but would rather go byby. We tought him to come no matter where we are by calling him and giving him a treat always wehen he does whats told. Harley runs all day and goes to bed when i go. then he will kiss and kiss and go nite nite.

[cajungal]

Sometimes my yorkie Lacey would get like that. Sometimes she would be all cuddly wanting to be in your lap at all times. Then, sometimes she would hide behind the couch and not want to be bothered. But, usually that was only when she was not feeling well. When we had company over, she had to be in my mom's lap. If she even tried to put her down, she would be scratching at her leg and barking until she picked her up. Just like a baby. She got really clingy the last few months before she died. She wanted to be held constantly. She knew the end was near and did not want to be alone.

[hugs]

Just a thought, but maybe if you acted more aloof Winston would actually start to want more loves. I know it workes that way for humans sometimes. We all have had friends at one point in our life who acted very needy and the one thing we wanted to do was have some space from that person no matter how nice or caring that person may be. But if the person starts acting like they have a life--then you actually miss feeling wanted and needed. I think dogs can be the same way. I'm in no way implying that you are "needy" but maybe Winston feels like he needs some space (even if you let him play on his own now) and the more you try to coddle him(beg to hold him or ask for attention), the more he'll probably want to avoid it. I could be totally wrong, but maybe you should just try to be busy and do something where you're preoccupied, like cleaning or reading or something like that where all your attention is on something you're holding. He just might get a bit jealous and want to be the "thing" held. Again, it's just a thought, but it might work.

[Shanatink]

CHloe wasnt very cuddly for the first 6 months at least. She is about 10 months and just now getting cuddly. SHe still doesnt give me too many kisses. SHe is easily distracted. I think they are just still in that hyper distracted puppy phase. My chi is almost 2 and all she does is cuddle now.