OOOHHH NOOOO!!!! What do I do now?!?!

[misslissa]

i don't know about the hip problem but i just had surgery so i can tell you its difficult to have a dog while recovering your self and expensive i had to hire a dog walker and a pet sitter for the week i was in the hospital i still have to have a dog walker come twice a day because i can not walk my own 6 pound dog think about that when you make your decision

[Fantastic49]

Originally Posted by yorkieusa

Rehome. A lady had two. Keeping one.

thanks for providing that info. she purchased the dog from a breeder, in my opinion, probably a BYB.

Originally Posted by Cha Cha

I am sorry you got this news on your baby. My 7mo old was recently diagnosed with the same hip condition. Had I known she had this prior to getting her, I think my decision would have been different. I do feel guilty for feeling this way, but I had just spent the last 10 years caring for another dog with a chronic hip condition (but different issue altogether), so my emotions are at play here knowing what may be in store for the future. My vet did say we would play the wait and see game and that surgery may or may not be needed. Of course, now that I have her, I cannot imagine not having her and I will do what ever it takes to make her happy and comfortable. You will make the decision that is right for you, and you have gotten a lot of good advice here to consider.

wow, i'm sorry to hear about your puppy ... esp. right on the heels of your last baby.

Originally Posted by VickyG

You really have to appreciate someone being honest with you and offering a refund of your plane ticket, with some of the stories here lately thats quite refreshing. With that said, if it were me and I had the money that may be required later, I would still take the furbaby. *Maybe* she will get along well enough to not need surgery....there are no guarantees even with a dog that doesn't have any known problems.

i am appreciative of the offer, i just wish this weren't even an issue i know there are no guarantees, and since i am trying to rescue a pet instead of purchase one, i have to consider that any rescue i get could also have health issues that have to be handled ... i know i could have the issue even with a baby i purchased at a high price!!

i am grateful to all of you for your opinions ... she doesn't need the surgery right now and maybe she never will ... but she probably will ...

i hadn't even considered the additional expense of me having my surgery and having to pay for her care....

grrrrrrr, this is soooo difficult!!! i haven't even met her and i have already cried over this!! i want to do the right thing for both me and the furbaby!! please keep us in your thoughts and prayers....

[DvlshAngel985]

I'm so sorry this baby is sick. I know how you were so looking forward to getting her. Heck, I was looking forward to it, and we haven't met before.

I think if I was in your shoes, I would research vets in my area, and seek out specialist. Ask questions to those that know and if the lady that has the puppy would cooperate and send you her files so you can make a real educated decision. You and only you know how much your heart and your wallet can take. Good luck!

[maryeverett1]

Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985

I'm so sorry this baby is sick. I know how you were so looking forward to getting her. Heck, I was looking forward to it, and we haven't met before.

I think if I was in your shoes, I would research vets in my area, and seek out specialist. Ask questions to those that know and if the lady that has the puppy would cooperate and send you her files so you can make a real educated decision. You and only you know how much your heart and your wallet can take. Good luck!

I think the above advice is so great! It allows you to really search out your options and find everything out first and then make that decision! It also buys you some time to search your heart. I was thinking that if it were me and I could afford it I would do it. Whatever your decision, you have to make the decision that is best for you and we can all tell you what we would or wouldn't do if the situation were ours but none of us is you! So take the time you need to really figure things out and you will know in your gut what is best to do. Just to use a personal example...we were given the opportunity to adopt a baby boy from samoa that was in town and living with his uncle. Our hearts wanted so badly to have a baby that before that moment we couldn't have on our own. But my gut was telling me no and I didn't have any good reason why my gut was saying no but when you know you know. We ended up finding some details out down the road that confirmed that our final decision was right but a lot tears were cried in the process. All I can say is that your gut might be telling you yes even when all the evidence says that you shouldn't take her. Or the opposite. Go with your gut because I think it never steers us wrong if that makes any sense at all. I am praying that as you make this difficult decision that the answers will become clear and you will have peace with your decision. Please let me know if there is anything I can do even if its just providing a listening ear from someone impartial so you can dialogue all options and feelings! Would be glad to PM my phone number. Here with you in spirit!

[Baby Blessing]

Originally Posted by Fantastic49

I've been posting about how I'm supposed to pick up my girl in the beginning of May. Yesterday, her owner took her to the vet for her health certificate and he said that she has hip luxation. He said it isn't giving her any pain right now, but that she will require surgery to her hip sockets. He went on to say that as she ages she will experience severe arthritis as a result.


Her owner was honest by telling me this and she revealed that her breeder had not been completely honest with her when she purchased her … she was also kind enough to offer to refund the cost of my plane ticket if I decided not to take her….

I know that yorkies can be prone to some health problems, especially the smaller ones … I just don’t know what to do with this information!!! I'm so disappointed, but I had already started to think of her as my furbaby!!! Also, I have a health issue myself that may require surgery, so I feel terrible with the idea of rejecting a furbaby because of a health issue … oh, I'm so confused!!!

I don’t want to just think with my heart here, I want to use my head, but I'm having some trouble flipping that brain switch right now … PLEASE HELP!!!

Any opinions would be appreciated….

I just sent you a pm. Have you made a decision yet on what you are going to do?
Sorry to hear you are having to maybe undergo surgery yourself. Praying it all works out with your health situation and you won't have to.

Hugs, Patti and Jack and girls.

[ArmaniMan]

Just seeing this... I know how much you were looking forward to bringing your new baby girl home... no one can really tell you what to do, you just need to follow your heart AND your head which is always the hardest part. Good Luck with whatever decision you make.

[Rhetts_mama]

Originally Posted by Fantastic49

I've been posting about how I'm supposed to pick up my girl in the beginning of May. Yesterday, her owner took her to the vet for her health certificate and he said that she has hip luxation. He said it isn't giving her any pain right now, but that she will require surgery to her hip sockets. He went on to say that as she ages she will experience severe arthritis as a result.


Her owner was honest by telling me this and she revealed that her breeder had not been completely honest with her when she purchased her … she was also kind enough to offer to refund the cost of my plane ticket if I decided not to take her….

I know that yorkies can be prone to some health problems, especially the smaller ones … I just don’t know what to do with this information!!! I'm so disappointed, but I had already started to think of her as my furbaby!!! Also, I have a health issue myself that may require surgery, so I feel terrible with the idea of rejecting a furbaby because of a health issue … oh, I'm so confused!!!

I don’t want to just think with my heart here, I want to use my head, but I'm having some trouble flipping that brain switch right now … PLEASE HELP!!!

Any opinions would be appreciated….

What would you have done if you had found this AFTER you had her home? None of us have any guarantees of having a perfectly healthy dog when we bring them home, but I don't think many of us would give them up because of it.

Of course, only you know your financial situation and whether or not you can take this on. No one is going to blame you if you can't. And there are more than a few yorkies out there that need to be rescued.

It's a hard decision. I hope you can find your answer.

[Jellybears]

I was just thinking of 2 things regarding your situation.....What will happen to her if you don't take her?....I wonder if there may be a veterinarian college near enough to you that would take on the surgery she needs at a reduced rate? I am so sorry you have to make this decision - I really don't know what I would do in your place.....

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by Jellybears

I was just thinking of 2 things regarding your situation.....What will happen to her if you don't take her?....I wonder if there may be a veterinarian college near enough to you that would take on the surgery she needs at a reduced rate? I am so sorry you have to make this decision - I really don't know what I would do in your place.....

Nope, no vet colleges in SoCal. At least not any I've ever heard of. Good thinking though.

[Fantastic49]

Originally Posted by ArmaniMan

Just seeing this... I know how much you were looking forward to bringing your new baby girl home... no one can really tell you what to do, you just need to follow your heart AND your head which is always the hardest part. Good Luck with whatever decision you make.

i was sooooo looking forward to it could you tell by the million posts i did??

Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama

What would you have done if you had found this AFTER you had her home? None of us have any guarantees of having a perfectly healthy dog when we bring them home, but I don't think many of us would give them up because of it.

Of course, only you know your financial situation and whether or not you can take this on. No one is going to blame you if you can't. And there are more than a few yorkies out there that need to be rescued.

It's a hard decision. I hope you can find your answer.

if i had already brought her home, there's no doubt about what i would've done ... that's the easy answer situation, here's the hard one

Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985

Nope, no vet colleges in SoCal. At least not any I've ever heard of. Good thinking though.

that is good thinking, i got my hopes up for a moment i was looking so forward to a play date soon!! i feel like you are all in this with me, i truly appreciate everyone's support....

Originally Posted by maryeverett1

I think the above advice is so great! It allows you to really search out your options and find everything out first and then make that decision! It also buys you some time to search your heart. I was thinking that if it were me and I could afford it I would do it. Whatever your decision, you have to make the decision that is best for you and we can all tell you what we would or wouldn't do if the situation were ours but none of us is you! So take the time you need to really figure things out and you will know in your gut what is best to do. Just to use a personal example...we were given the opportunity to adopt a baby boy from samoa that was in town and living with his uncle. Our hearts wanted so badly to have a baby that before that moment we couldn't have on our own. But my gut was telling me no and I didn't have any good reason why my gut was saying no but when you know you know. We ended up finding some details out down the road that confirmed that our final decision was right but a lot tears were cried in the process. All I can say is that your gut might be telling you yes even when all the evidence says that you shouldn't take her. Or the opposite. Go with your gut because I think it never steers us wrong if that makes any sense at all. I am praying that as you make this difficult decision that the answers will become clear and you will have peace with your decision. Please let me know if there is anything I can do even if its just providing a listening ear from someone impartial so you can dialogue all options and feelings! Would be glad to PM my phone number. Here with you in spirit!

thanks, you are absolutely right ... i need to pray/meditate on it and figure out what to do ... i still have some time to decide ... i may also ask to speak to her vet and see if he has some additional perspective....

[megansmomma]

Are you paying for this puppy? Do you have any idea what the plan by this woman is if you do not take the puppy?


I really like the idea to speak to this woman's vet for more information. My other suggestion would be to search YT for others that have had similar surgeries for their pups to get a handle on what it will take financially and medically to treat. If you decide not to take her you might suggest a rescue in SoCal that would be able to help her if the owner would be willing to surrender her. There is a huge over population of Yorkies in the SoCal area and not enough foster homes available. I would hate to see her fall through the crack in a shelter. There are several members on YT that are involved with YTNR that would be able to guide you in the proper directions if a rescue was needed.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by megansmomma

Are you paying for this puppy? Do you have any idea what the plan by this woman is if you do not take the puppy?


I really like the idea to speak to this woman's vet for more information. My other suggestion would be to search YT for others that have had similar surgeries for their pups to get a handle on what it will take financially and medically to treat. If you decide not to take her you might suggest a rescue in SoCal that would be able to help her if the owner would be willing to surrender her. There is a huge over population of Yorkies in the SoCal area and not enough foster homes available. I would hate to see her fall through the crack in a shelter. There are several members on YT that are involved with YTNR that would be able to guide you in the proper directions if a rescue was needed.

Good thinking, but this puppy isn't in SoCal yet. It's my understanding this little girl would be coming from out of state.

OP: We will have our play date. God has a plan and you'll have a precious baby. Don't stress over it. I know easier said than done.
Now that I think about it, Kaji came to me while I was recovering from surgery. I was mobile again and I know there was no way I could have cared for him as well as I did if I was still lying around trying not to move an inch. (long story, but I decided to go easy on the pain pills. I was being "Macho". ) Either way, your perfect furbaby will be worth all the waiting. I can at least guarantee you that much.

[Fantastic49]

Originally Posted by misslissa

i don't know about the hip problem but i just had surgery so i can tell you its difficult to have a dog while recovering your self and expensive i had to hire a dog walker and a pet sitter for the week i was in the hospital i still have to have a dog walker come twice a day because i can not walk my own 6 pound dog think about that when you make your decision

thanks for your thoughts. i hope you are feeling better since your surgery....

Originally Posted by megansmomma

Are you paying for this puppy? Do you have any idea what the plan by this woman is if you do not take the puppy?


I really like the idea to speak to this woman's vet for more information. My other suggestion would be to search YT for others that have had similar surgeries for their pups to get a handle on what it will take financially and medically to treat. If you decide not to take her you might suggest a rescue in SoCal that would be able to help her if the owner would be willing to surrender her. There is a huge over population of Yorkies in the SoCal area and not enough foster homes available. I would hate to see her fall through the crack in a shelter. There are several members on YT that are involved with YTNR that would be able to guide you in the proper directions if a rescue was needed.

no, i wasn't paying for her, she is a rehome. i haven't yet asked her, but i don't think she'll give her away if i don't take her ... i do plan to find out though.... good idea about the research, i checked and most of the info i found was on LP....

she's actually not in california, she's in maryland. that's why she offered to reimburse me for the plane ticket i purchased.

[Fantastic49]

Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985

Good thinking, but this puppy isn't in SoCal yet. It's my understanding this little girl would be coming from out of state.

OP: We will have our play date. God has a plan and you'll have a precious baby. Don't stress over it. I know easier said than done.
Now that I think about it, Kaji came to me while I was recovering from surgery. I was mobile again and I know there was no way I could have cared for him as well as I did if I was still lying around trying not to move an inch. (long story, but I decided to go easy on the pain pills. I was being "Macho". ) Either way, your perfect furbaby will be worth all the waiting. I can at least guarantee you that much.

so true but i am going to focus on the positive here ... everything happens for a reason and many times we don't know what the reasons are, but i am grateful that my steps will be ordered.... whenever it is, i will look forward to our play date

thanks for the support, i REALLY appreciate all of your kindness, YT'ers are AWESOME!!!

[LuvMyPuppE]

i also find it refreshing that the lady was honest with you and offered to reimburse the plane ticket. she could very well have kept the info to herself, so that says a lot about where HER heart is.

also, you really never do know what may happen (health issues) with ANY puppy you get. you could pass up this puppy and end up getting another one that has issues just as bad if not worse - depending on how honest the breeder or foster parent is.

this is a decision only you can make, unfortunately, and i don't envy you. i know that i couldn't personally afford to look at a 2,000 dollar vet bill right now, but that's a risk we all take when having a pet (much like a child). the pup i DO have already could very well be diagnosed with an illness (or whatever) that would be very expensive to correct. then again, she may live to be 20 and never have a problem.

what does YOUR GUT tell you?

go with it.