My mom and I aren't on the same page...

[violet voon]

I'm sorry to hear this, Mushu definitely forgot about the "pee" after an hour, it's pointless to hit him or push his head near the pee and tell him he made a mistake, I would make mum understand this, and plead her not to do anything if it happens, and let me handle it..
I seriously hope nothing worse will happen to him, yorkie is so small...should be treated gently. In fact, every dogs should be treated gently

[SpicyyLovee]

Originally Posted by johnnyt112

I am so sorry that your mom is doing that to MuShu. This type of treatment may have adverse effects on the puppy. Her is a link to Purina's website for puppies.

New Puppy Care: Taking Care of Your Puppy | Purina.com

Here is info from Purina.

What are some key tips for housebreaking a puppy?

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What are some key tips for housebreaking a puppy?


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The secret to housebreaking a puppy is to catch him in the act of doing things right and then praise him extravagantly. Pups generally want to please.
To start, take your pup out often - first thing in the morning, after he eats a meal, after a play session, and every couple hours otherwise. Soon a routine will emerge. Be patient. Young pups don’t have the muscle control to hold things in, so it’s up to you to figure out the timing.
To keep stress levels low, contain the pup in an easy cleanup zone until he begins to get the idea. Don’t reprimand him unless you catch him in the act of doing something wrong, and even then, make it nothing more than a firm "no.” In six to eight weeks, your pup will learn what you want, and be happy to oblige.
– Dr. Larry McDaniel, DVM for the “Purina® Animal Instincts” Podcast Series


Please try to get your mom to understand that she is using the old way of house breaking. Showing the puppy love and understanding will go a long way in helping the puppy mature and is the best way to teach the puppy.

Thank you for the websites. I will try to get her to look at them.

[SpicyyLovee]

Originally Posted by violet voon

I'm sorry to hear this, Mushu definitely forgot about the "pee" after an hour, it's pointless to hit him or push his head near the pee and tell him he made a mistake, I would make mum understand this, and plead her not to do anything if it happens, and let me handle it..
I seriously hope nothing worse will happen to him, yorkie is so small...should be treated gently. In fact, every dogs should be treated gently

I fear that he will grow up to be scared of everything, because he afraid he is doing something wrong.

Even 5 minutes after the accident is too late!!! ARGG!

[violet voon]

Originally Posted by SpicyyLovee

I take him out 10-15 minutes after he eats, right after play time, right when he wakes up. And every hour or so if none of those happen. I make sure he won't pee on the floor.

Honestly I think that potty training will go slower with this kind of approach...because when he pees in the correct spot, he looks at me with those scared eyes, wondering if he did the right thing.

Praise him and give him treats! Let him know it's the correct spot to pee pee

[SpicyyLovee]

Originally Posted by violet voon

Praise him and give him treats! Let him know it's the correct spot to pee pee

I always do

He goes crazy after those treats ha ha!

[roxies_mom]

This makes me so sad to read this. Yorkies have such delicate spirits (and bones) and when the trust is broken it is so hard to get it back. You've already gotten great advice that I would give so I won't repeat. I just wish you so much luck in dealing with this difficult situation.

[violet voon]

I just browsed your photo album, you two look so happy together.. I hope your mum will understand this, and so you don't have to rehome him

[SpicyyLovee]

Originally Posted by roxies_mom

This makes me so sad to read this. Yorkies have such delicate spirits (and bones) and when the trust is broken it is so hard to get it back. You've already gotten great advice that I would give so I won't repeat. I just wish you so much luck in dealing with this difficult situation.

Thank you. I'll need all the luck I can get!

[SpicyyLovee]

Originally Posted by violet voon

I just browsed your photo album, you two look so happy together.. I hope your mum will understand this, and so you don't have to rehome him

I'm going to pray that he will stay in our home

[misslissa]

okay sweetie this is what my mom did to train her pug and it worked almost all the time now the poor thing only pees on the floor when she thinks she is standing on he pad

take him out like you have been doing every hour after food and such with no exceptions if you are not home lock him in is crate or x-pen don't leave him with your mom then when you get home get a six foot nylon leach and keep it on his harness so he cant get away from you when you see him start to squat say no and put him on the pad then praise him make sure you are sitting inside the six feet at all times
this should help him realize he cant pee on the floor and where he needs to pee so you can relax and then when your mom is not home let him off the lead and see how he dose

[SpicyyLovee]

Originally Posted by misslissa

okay sweetie this is what my mom did to train her pug and it worked almost all the time now the poor thing only pees on the floor when she thinks she is standing on he pad

take him out like you have been doing every hour after food and such with no exceptions if you are not home lock him in is crate or x-pen don't leave him with your mom then when you get home get a six foot nylon leach and keep it on his harness so he cant get away from you when you see him start to squat say no and put him on the pad then praise him make sure you are sitting inside the six feet at all times
this should help him realize he cant pee on the floor and where he needs to pee so you can relax and then when your mom is not home let him off the lead and see how he dose

Hmm I never thought about the leash inside the house..I may try that.

Sometimes it's to notice that he is peeing, because he is already so close to the floor that when he squats it's not noticeable..

Thank you for the advice!!

[Twinkie2Cute]

I am so sorry to hear what you're going through. I know you have to be very upset and I wish I were there to help.

When I was younger, my parents made the same mistakes when raising our dogs. They thought it was normal to hit the dog, yell at the dog and put them in time out. They would also rub the dogs nose in the mess and throw them outside. Once I became a dog owner, I knew what they did was very wrong. I was educated enough to know, their actions did not work and it was abuse. I only hope that your mother would come to understand that praise instead of abuse, will help your little one, not hurt. If your mother is a computer person, have her look at all of the advice people are giving you or pull up some of the sites on how to potty train your dog. If she is not into computers, go to the library and get a book on puppies. Have the book out in the open and maybe she will read it. If she doesn't, ask her to sit down with you and read it together.

I know you are 15, but make sure the puppy is priority. It is a lot of responsibility to raise a puppy, but I know you can do it. Make sure you clap your hands and show excitement when your puppy does the right thing by going on the potty pad or outside. Praise gets you very far with these little ones. They love to see you excited and happy. That is their main goal in life.

I wish you much luck and I hope your mother joins in on the fun!

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by Twinkie2Cute

I am so sorry to hear what you're going through. I know you have to be very upset and I wish I were there to help.

When I was younger, my parents made the same mistakes when raising our dogs. They thought it was normal to hit the dog, yell at the dog and put them in time out. They would also rub the dogs nose in the mess and throw them outside. Once I became a dog owner, I knew what they did was very wrong. I was educated enough to know, their actions did not work and it was abuse. I only hope that your mother would come to understand that praise instead of abuse, will help your little one, not hurt. If your mother is a computer person, have her look at all of the advice people are giving you or pull up some of the sites on how to potty train your dog. If she is not into computers, go to the library and get a book on puppies. Have the book out in the open and maybe she will read it. If she doesn't, ask her to sit down with you and read it together.

I know you are 15, but make sure the puppy is priority. It is a lot of responsibility to raise a puppy, but I know you can do it. Make sure you clap your hands and show excitement when your puppy does the right thing by going on the potty pad or outside. Praise gets you very far with these little ones. They love to see you excited and happy. That is their main goal in life.

I wish you much luck and I hope your mother joins in on the fun!

I was raised with cats and just can't imagine my mom ever doing this to any living being -or me witnessing it - but I know back in the day it was susposed to be the way to train -

I'm so glad we've become more humane when it comes to this particular way of handling dogs.....we still have a long way to go because I'm sure this is way more common than we'd like to think

[RemydeHaviland]

So very sorry to hear you are dealing with this. You are 100% correct that her behavior is unacceptable.

On a positive note, you are very mature for your age and reaching out here was a terrific idea

I second the suggestion of having your mom take a look at the websites referenced. If she won't perhaps print the content, staple it together and give it to her to read. This will be an attempt to change her behavior through education... which may or may not work

You could, calmly, and not in an argumentative way, try to ask her why she believes this type of "training" is acceptable. It may give you some perspective on her thought process - not to validate it - but to give you ideas on how to possibly re-orient her thinking

Finally, I would suggest emphasizing that since it is your pup that you want to be the sole person responsible for his training and care. And that she should not be involved. I also agree with the prior poster who said that when you are not home to have him crated, perhaps in your room so he is safe.

[Twinkie2Cute]

Originally Posted by red98vett

I was raised with cats and just can't imagine my mom ever doing this to any living being -or me witnessing it - but I know back in the day it was susposed to be the way to train -

I'm so glad we've become more humane when it comes to this particular way of handling dogs.....we still have a long way to go because I'm sure this is way more common than we'd like to think

I agree it is more common than we'd like to believe. It really makes me sick to my stomach. The sad thing is being so young, it is difficult to change your parents behavior. It went from generation, to generation, however, I am happy to say I broke the cycle. I have taught my boys how to raise a happy/healthy, dog/cat.

I am sad to say, my brother does not feel the same way I do. He proceeded to train his dogs the same way my parents did and guess what happened? He has a full grown dog that is afraid of men, very nervous and out of control.

Animals have no voice in the way they are treated, so I try to be the voice of any animal that's in need.