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02-12-2010, 10:43 AM | #1 |
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| Sleeping with you or without you? Velcro-dogs may not be good candidates for bed sharing. If your dog is clingy and co-dependent, if he suffers from separation anxiety, he should not be in your bed. A dog who suffers great stress when you are away needs to practice feeling secure when not in your direct presence. If he is your ever-present shadow, whining because you are on the other side of a shower door, he needs to learn to be ok with separation. Sleeping plastered against you all night only feeds this co-dependence. Night time is a great time for him to practice feeling secure with you out of reach. I was just searching the web reading different approaches for anixety when I read this. I have to say, finally something that seems to make some sence. There was recently a thread regarding sleeping with your dog, thought this might helpe those who have problems or felt uncertain as to what to do. Bud has anxiety when I leave in the am, I think this is worth a try. Maybe it will help with his insecurity. |
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02-12-2010, 11:12 AM | #2 |
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| Yeah, that makes sense to me. Jackson's kind of a funny dog because he's not really a velcro to me... I can walk all around the house and he will stay in 1 spot (but always have his eye on me, of course). It's like he's totally fine with me going wherever as long as his access to me isn't blocked off. But, if he's behind a gate for example, and I'm on the other side of it and he can see me.... he will whine and bark. He just doesn't like the feeling of NOT being able to get to me, if he decided he wanted to be. Am I making sense? LOL. But he's had no troubles when I've slept away from him for the night... when I leave the house, he's fine. It's just when he can see me/know I'm out there and can't get to me, ha! He also doesn't really cuddle up with me, he prefers to lay at my feet on my bed every night. But anyways, I can totally see how this could help with dogs that suffer from separation anxiety.
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02-12-2010, 01:07 PM | #3 |
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| "If your dog is clingy and co-dependent, if he suffers from separation anxiety, he should not be in your bed. A dog who suffers great stress when you are away needs to practice feeling secure when not in your direct presence. If he is your ever-present shadow, whining because you are on the other side of a shower door, he needs to learn to be ok with separation. Sleeping plastered against you all night only feeds this co-dependence. Night time is a great time for him to practice feeling secure with you out of reach. " Well dogs are pack animals, and night time, in the dark and cold, is when they clump together to sleep close for warmth and safety. I think this is the worst thing to do to a dog. We put them in a human home but they are dogs and when we forget their true nature I think that causes more problems. I think daytime is a more appropriate time to "practice" being ok with separation. Still it is for our convenience because pack animals stick together. Forcing dogs to be apart from us is forcing our human nature on them. It is necessary because we have things we have to do, I just think separating at night makes way less sense.
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02-12-2010, 01:13 PM | #4 | |
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Seriously, I know that your having some problems with Buddy, it probably is worth a try, if this doesn't work, quit your job, and be online all day, like me!
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02-12-2010, 01:18 PM | #5 | |
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LOL Nancy you have the best answers always. | |
02-12-2010, 01:26 PM | #6 | |
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Sometimes Pixie will batt at my legs and whine to tell me to get off the computer!! lol
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02-12-2010, 01:40 PM | #7 | |
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Wow all I can say is wow- I have never heard anyone take this particular stance or reasoning to this extreme. A pack is not defined with the words "bed meant for a human is a must" in it. I think you are taking the definition of pack too far. I have seen dogs sleep anywhere including alone day or night not concerned at all about their pack. Dogs sleep where they are trained/allowed to sleep. To insinuate that people who do not sleep with their dogs are doing the worst thing they could possibly do to them is well--wrong. | |
02-12-2010, 01:45 PM | #8 | |
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Good response, better than I would have worded it. I don't think sleeping in a orthropedic dog bed with a fleece personalized blanket in it ,next to his owner's bed, in a not too warm room, would be devestating to any dog. Just my opinion. | |
02-12-2010, 01:46 PM | #9 |
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| Makes perfect sense. The dogs dont always want to sleep in the bed with us....but do about 70% of the time and some nights they do whine to get up in the bed. |
02-12-2010, 01:51 PM | #10 |
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| Totally took the words out of my mouth! Sometimes I think he's the one wanting a break from me, lol.
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02-12-2010, 01:52 PM | #11 | |
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It just doesn't fit with pack nature to separate a dog at night if the dog seems to be fearful of separating and actually calling it fear or anxiety makes no sense since it is their nature to want to stay close. Some are great on their own too but it is ok and natural and "dog like" in a dog pack way, to want to be close to the pack.
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02-12-2010, 01:52 PM | #12 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | I was taking care of my son's dog, Baxter, who always sleeps in a crate, and usually goes in it willingly. This last time however, he put up a real fuss, so I allowed him to sleep in my bed. Joey, who always sleeps with me, went in Baxter's crate on his own; and slept there. I was so shocked.
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02-12-2010, 01:53 PM | #13 |
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02-12-2010, 01:57 PM | #14 |
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| LOL! I was thinking the same thing. What about MY separation anxiety?! I seriously cannot sleep unless my kids are all snuggled up next to me. |
02-12-2010, 01:58 PM | #15 | |
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This is definitely close enough. In fact, some pack experts say that keeping the dog really close but lower than the pack leader while sleeping really helps in the beginning if the dog is having pack leader confusion. In a dog pack the leader often sleeps slightly higher up than the other dogs.
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