Am I really ready for a baby again?? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

kat618 · 09-15-2009, 03:11 PM

I do not know why I cant decide/so wishy washy....did anyone else feel like this? Cooper is my little man who is now 2 years old. I had never had such a little dog before, always had labs/german shepards and the smallest is my Bichon (little tiny thing at now 17 lbs...lol)....anyway I wanted a yorkie forever and when I got Cooper I felt INSTANT love and responsibility for him since he was so tiny and seemed so helpless....I walked the floor with him at night in his blanket when his blood sugar dropped a few times giving him nutra cal, ground his food up and put in a dropper when he was sick and would not eat after his first shots......anyway could not love this guy more, he is truly just like another son, and he is ALL boy, total wildman.

BUT I have always wanted a girl to dress up, bows etc and have been thinking about getting a girl for about 6 months but just cant get over the whole baby stuff, training, worrying because they are just a baby. The lady we got Cooper from called me out of the blue and his mommy and daddy are having there last litter (she is being spayed, c-section health issues) and I instantly went to see one of her girls and of course fell head over heels in love with a baby girl.

I have 100 reason why I want her and just have to have her, but then when I am all alone I am stressing out, what if I dont have it in me to start all over again with a baby????? what if it is just to hard and I am only remembering the fun/wonderful stuff now that he is 2?

Did anyone else feel like this with there 2nd one? Am I stressing for nothing?

Rerun201 · 09-15-2009, 03:49 PM

I felt just like you, kept flip flopping back and forth about whether to get another one or not. I was so worried Toby, 2, would feel hurt or replaced, maybe I didn't want to go through all the training issues again, what if they didn't get along. Finally we took the plunge and got Lola. I raised 3 male skin kids and Toby is male, so a girl was the logical choice.

We've had her for almost 3 months and it was a very good decision. Toby warmed up to her within a day or two and they're inseparable now. She has a much different personality than him, she's a spitfire, he's more laid back. Training has been hit and miss, just like it was with Toby, but all I have to do is watch them playing together and I know it was the right decision. I do TRY to put bows in her hair but it's still pretty thin and short, so that will take a little longer. I'd have more yorkies if I could convince DH to go along with it!!

kjc · 09-15-2009, 03:51 PM

How much regret will you be feeling if you don't get her? Training may actually be easier because she may follow your 2 year old. The time spent training is minimal compared to the fun times you get to spend with them throughout their lifetimes. Just some of my thoughts ...

T LYNN · 09-15-2009, 03:53 PM

I am going through this very thing right now. I think I want another one, my little boy is almost 2 but then I think of starting all over and get scared. But I want a little girl and I think that Taz would get along with her. I am looking and figure if I find the right puppy then it was ment to be. I am in no hurry to find her but think that I really want another one.
Theresa

kat618 · 09-15-2009, 04:32 PM

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! you guys make me feel normal. DH is like what is the big deal, we want another one, you get her and that is that....they dont feel the pull or turmoil we as mommy's do. I have to agree with what a couple of you said, it seems like all the stars are in line and it is meant to be because his mommy has only had 1 other litter after him, and this is the last and he is SOOOO perfect I know I would always regret not getting one that is his full sister, knowing this is our last chance, and she only had 2 baby girls.....I would always wonder what this one would be like since she was such a doll baby when I seen her the other day. Thanks for everyone input, makes me feel it is ok to be nervous and scared but in the long run (after the baby part is over) I will be glad I took the plunge.

SnugsColeman · 09-15-2009, 06:33 PM

As long as you show your older baby just as much if not more attention...it will not feel replaced. Just keep showing love! Good luck it will be fine!

Patti · 09-15-2009, 07:30 PM

I find I am always wondering if I am doing the right thing when I think of getting another one and I have always been glad I got one.

jenna22 · 09-15-2009, 07:33 PM

awe, i thought i was the only one that felt this way.Leo is almost 2 and i want a another one.maybe a girl this time.But im so used to just him,not sure how he will be around a new pup.
He is very friendly and thinks everyone is his best friend haha

ritzydaisy · 09-15-2009, 08:24 PM

I think you need that little girl. They will be real brother and sister, too! Things will work out. I can tell by the way you worry, you are a good mommy.

coltsmom · 09-15-2009, 08:27 PM

I got my Maltese, Cody 2 years ago. I too fell instantly in love with the little guy. But he became so attached to me that his separation anxiety got bad. I kicked around the idea of a playmate for him and was really reluctant. But then I got my Yorkie, Colt. And boy am I ever glad I did. I fell in love with him as well. And Cody and Colt are the best of buds in everything they do.
I am so glad I decided to get him.

Good luck in your decision.

chloe n kaylee · 09-15-2009, 11:03 PM

have you considered getting an older yorkie? i got my Maddie when she was 2 yrs old. She came to me potty trained, past the puppy stage, u already know what her personality is like (no surprise behavioral problems), and u know how big she will be for sure. it was great!!! also, we bonded great!!! as if i had her sine she was a puppy! Sometimes breeders have older yorkies they are retiring from breeding. That is where i got my Maddie and if ever get another yorkie, i will always get an adult. Or a rescue yorkie!!

MollysMum54 · 09-16-2009, 12:18 AM

I would look around for an older rescue yorkie. Puppy stage all out of the way, and watching a sad little girl become confident and happy with your love and care is just a wonderful thing.

mjharpst · 09-16-2009, 12:30 AM

I have been the same way when adding my guys. Roxie is our princess and at 2 1/2 we added Ryder and man she did not like it, but now they are inseparable, and one of the best decisions that I have made. Now we have added another boy and I am anxious to see how he is going to do in our pack- so far fitting in and behaving great.

I think it was meant to be! With this being her last litter and you contemplating a girl! Best wishes, keep us updated!

Weneebug · 09-16-2009, 07:17 AM

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Originally Posted by kat618

I do not know why I cant decide/so wishy washy....did anyone else feel like this? Cooper is my little man who is now 2 years old. I had never had such a little dog before, always had labs/german shepards and the smallest is my Bichon (little tiny thing at now 17 lbs...lol)....anyway I wanted a yorkie forever and when I got Cooper I felt INSTANT love and responsibility for him since he was so tiny and seemed so helpless....I walked the floor with him at night in his blanket when his blood sugar dropped a few times giving him nutra cal, ground his food up and put in a dropper when he was sick and would not eat after his first shots......anyway could not love this guy more, he is truly just like another son, and he is ALL boy, total wildman.

BUT I have always wanted a girl to dress up, bows etc and have been thinking about getting a girl for about 6 months but just cant get over the whole baby stuff, training, worrying because they are just a baby. The lady we got Cooper from called me out of the blue and his mommy and daddy are having there last litter (she is being spayed, c-section health issues) and I instantly went to see one of her girls and of course fell head over heels in love with a baby girl.

I have 100 reason why I want her and just have to have her, but then when I am all alone I am stressing out, what if I dont have it in me to start all over again with a baby????? what if it is just to hard and I am only remembering the fun/wonderful stuff now that he is 2?

Did anyone else feel like this with there 2nd one? Am I stressing for nothing?

I am going through the same thing right now. I want a little girl so bad but I start thinking of all of the "hard" times. Harley turns 1 this week and my DH thinks I am crazy for wanting another one. He thinks 1 is plenty. I look at them constantly on the internet in hopes if I find one I can't live without that I will be able to talk him into it.

ARCHIE · 09-16-2009, 07:46 AM

I am so happy to read all your posts because I have been hemming and
hawing over getting Buddy a sister for months! Has to be a girl this time.
However I love boys! Never had a girl and I want to be absolutely sure
she's the right one for us. I could never do puppyhood again in this lifetime.
An older girl will be my choice, around Bud's age, he's 5 1/2, housebroken a must at least pee pad trained.
Don't want any marking in the house by Buddy. I want companionship for
him so one around his age, no jumping up on him to play, would be great.
I look daily. Would also love blk & gold, silky coated just like him around
8lbs because he's larger. Good luck to all of you in finding your nerve
and the perfect baby for you.

P.S. I have her name already picked out just need the nerve to make
it happen.

09-15-2009, 03:11 PM	#1
kat618 YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Missouri Posts: 250	Am I really ready for a baby again?? I do not know why I cant decide/so wishy washy....did anyone else feel like this? Cooper is my little man who is now 2 years old. I had never had such a little dog before, always had labs/german shepards and the smallest is my Bichon (little tiny thing at now 17 lbs...lol)....anyway I wanted a yorkie forever and when I got Cooper I felt INSTANT love and responsibility for him since he was so tiny and seemed so helpless....I walked the floor with him at night in his blanket when his blood sugar dropped a few times giving him nutra cal, ground his food up and put in a dropper when he was sick and would not eat after his first shots......anyway could not love this guy more, he is truly just like another son, and he is ALL boy, total wildman. BUT I have always wanted a girl to dress up, bows etc and have been thinking about getting a girl for about 6 months but just cant get over the whole baby stuff, training, worrying because they are just a baby. The lady we got Cooper from called me out of the blue and his mommy and daddy are having there last litter (she is being spayed, c-section health issues) and I instantly went to see one of her girls and of course fell head over heels in love with a baby girl. I have 100 reason why I want her and just have to have her, but then when I am all alone I am stressing out, what if I dont have it in me to start all over again with a baby????? what if it is just to hard and I am only remembering the fun/wonderful stuff now that he is 2? Did anyone else feel like this with there 2nd one? Am I stressing for nothing? __________________ Mini Cooper & Chloe's mommy

09-15-2009, 03:49 PM	#2
Rerun201 ♥Owned by Toby & Lola♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 524	I felt just like you, kept flip flopping back and forth about whether to get another one or not. I was so worried Toby, 2, would feel hurt or replaced, maybe I didn't want to go through all the training issues again, what if they didn't get along. Finally we took the plunge and got Lola. I raised 3 male skin kids and Toby is male, so a girl was the logical choice. We've had her for almost 3 months and it was a very good decision. Toby warmed up to her within a day or two and they're inseparable now. She has a much different personality than him, she's a spitfire, he's more laid back. Training has been hit and miss, just like it was with Toby, but all I have to do is watch them playing together and I know it was the right decision. I do TRY to put bows in her hair but it's still pretty thin and short, so that will take a little longer. I'd have more yorkies if I could convince DH to go along with it!! __________________ Becky, Toby and Lola

09-15-2009, 03:51 PM	#3
kjc I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland Posts: 18,866	How much regret will you be feeling if you don't get her? Training may actually be easier because she may follow your 2 year old. The time spent training is minimal compared to the fun times you get to spend with them throughout their lifetimes. Just some of my thoughts ... __________________ Kat Chloe Lizzy PeekABooTinkerbell SapphireInfinity

09-15-2009, 04:32 PM	#5
kat618 YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Missouri Posts: 250	Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! you guys make me feel normal. DH is like what is the big deal, we want another one, you get her and that is that....they dont feel the pull or turmoil we as mommy's do. I have to agree with what a couple of you said, it seems like all the stars are in line and it is meant to be because his mommy has only had 1 other litter after him, and this is the last and he is SOOOO perfect I know I would always regret not getting one that is his full sister, knowing this is our last chance, and she only had 2 baby girls.....I would always wonder what this one would be like since she was such a doll baby when I seen her the other day. Thanks for everyone input, makes me feel it is ok to be nervous and scared but in the long run (after the baby part is over) I will be glad I took the plunge. __________________ Mini Cooper & Chloe's mommy

09-15-2009, 06:33 PM	#6
SnugsColeman Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: TN, USA Posts: 141 Blog Entries: 2	It will be ok As long as you show your older baby just as much if not more attention...it will not feel replaced. Just keep showing love! Good luck it will be fine! __________________ Small Fur Babies

09-15-2009, 03:53 PM	#4
T LYNN Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Rhome, TX Posts: 72	I am going through this very thing right now. I think I want another one, my little boy is almost 2 but then I think of starting all over and get scared. But I want a little girl and I think that Taz would get along with her. I am looking and figure if I find the right puppy then it was ment to be. I am in no hurry to find her but think that I really want another one. Theresa

09-15-2009, 07:30 PM	#7
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	I find I am always wondering if I am doing the right thing when I think of getting another one and I have always been glad I got one. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

09-15-2009, 07:33 PM	#8
jenna22 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: washington,dc Posts: 129	awe, i thought i was the only one that felt this way.Leo is almost 2 and i want a another one.maybe a girl this time.But im so used to just him,not sure how he will be around a new pup. He is very friendly and thinks everyone is his best friend haha

09-15-2009, 08:24 PM	#9
ritzydaisy Crazy Miss Daisy Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Eastern Washington Posts: 1,904	I think you need that little girl. They will be real brother and sister, too! Things will work out. I can tell by the way you worry, you are a good mommy. __________________ Yorkie Talkin' with Paula & Daisy!

09-15-2009, 08:27 PM	#10
coltsmom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: St. Louis, MO, USA Posts: 76 Blog Entries: 1	I got my Maltese, Cody 2 years ago. I too fell instantly in love with the little guy. But he became so attached to me that his separation anxiety got bad. I kicked around the idea of a playmate for him and was really reluctant. But then I got my Yorkie, Colt. And boy am I ever glad I did. I fell in love with him as well. And Cody and Colt are the best of buds in everything they do. I am so glad I decided to get him. Good luck in your decision.

09-15-2009, 11:03 PM	#11
chloe n kaylee No Longer a Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Long Beach, CA / Los Angeles, CA Posts: 282	have you considered getting an older yorkie? i got my Maddie when she was 2 yrs old. She came to me potty trained, past the puppy stage, u already know what her personality is like (no surprise behavioral problems), and u know how big she will be for sure. it was great!!! also, we bonded great!!! as if i had her sine she was a puppy! Sometimes breeders have older yorkies they are retiring from breeding. That is where i got my Maddie and if ever get another yorkie, i will always get an adult. Or a rescue yorkie!!

09-16-2009, 12:18 AM	#12
MollysMum54 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: England,UK Posts: 1,176	I would look around for an older rescue yorkie. Puppy stage all out of the way, and watching a sad little girl become confident and happy with your love and care is just a wonderful thing.

09-16-2009, 12:30 AM	#13
mjharpst YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,061	I have been the same way when adding my guys. Roxie is our princess and at 2 1/2 we added Ryder and man she did not like it, but now they are inseparable, and one of the best decisions that I have made. Now we have added another boy and I am anxious to see how he is going to do in our pack- so far fitting in and behaving great. I think it was meant to be! With this being her last litter and you contemplating a girl! Best wishes, keep us updated! __________________ Meagan Ryder, Roxie, & Prince

09-16-2009, 07:46 AM	#15
ARCHIE No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK Posts: 16,218	I am so happy to read all your posts because I have been hemming and hawing over getting Buddy a sister for months! Has to be a girl this time. However I love boys! Never had a girl and I want to be absolutely sure she's the right one for us. I could never do puppyhood again in this lifetime. An older girl will be my choice, around Bud's age, he's 5 1/2, housebroken a must at least pee pad trained. Don't want any marking in the house by Buddy. I want companionship for him so one around his age, no jumping up on him to play, would be great. I look daily. Would also love blk & gold, silky coated just like him around 8lbs because he's larger. Good luck to all of you in finding your nerve and the perfect baby for you. P.S. I have her name already picked out just need the nerve to make it happen.