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09-03-2009, 03:44 PM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Colorado Springs, CO USA
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| Yorkie Grieving for Mommy who passed My partner and I got our two yorkies, Tank and Dakota, as puppies. They're littermates and were about 15 weeks when we brought them home. Tank has always been bonded with me and Dakota with my partner. My partner passed last week and Dakota is SUCH a sad little boy. Tank is a bit depressed, too, but nothing like Kota. We have moved to a different house in the meantime, as well. I expect it to take some time for poor little Kota to start healing but has anyone had an experience like this that they would like to share with me? We're all giving him all the extra love and attention that we can. Is there anything else we can do to help him through this? I suspect that they're both picking up on my emotions too. Thank you so much for any information and advice.
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09-03-2009, 03:50 PM | #2 |
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| First let me say, I am so very sorry for the loss of your partner. I don't have any advice about a situation like that, but I'm sure someone else will. Welcome to you and your babies.
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09-03-2009, 04:04 PM | #3 |
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| This is still very difficult to talk about for me but all of our dogs grieved when my husband passed last September. They were subdued and moped around with little energy. But they seemed to need a lot more attention, very needy and clingy for a few weeks. If I left the house they became particularly upset. I think they were afraid of losing another loved one themself. One of mine actually howled in the foyer a couple of times, something he never had done before or since. I know he was wanting my DH to return. The first few days they continued to look for him all around the house. It was heartbreaking. I am sure my own grief transferred to them but they miss him too. He was even more of an animal lover than myself. Every dog I brought home wound up bonding to him the most. My female Yorkie, Sadie, passed after delivering a litter March 09. She was the one that took my DH's passing the hardest. She actually crawled up on the bed with him during his last hours. My son said that Sadie must have had to go so that Dad could have one of the dogs with him too. I cried like a baby when he said that. I am sure your Dakota and Tank are missing her very much. They love us just as we love them. They will not grieve as long as you, but it may take a few months before they are fully back to normal -- and it may be a new normal, as nothing is ever quite the same after losing someone we love. I am sorry for your loss. I will pray for your strength and comforting as you strive to get through this time. I just wrote this on another thread earlier, (so many losses.....) but it really helps to remind myself that we will be together again, for eternity. Without that promise, I am not sure what I would do.
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09-03-2009, 04:09 PM | #4 | |
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09-03-2009, 05:00 PM | #7 | |
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09-03-2009, 05:03 PM | #8 |
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| Oh my god Im sorry for both of your losses.. I'm in tears here... I have never experienced this yet and now Im afraid of how my furbaby will be after ...... I wish both of u the best and your furbabies as well..
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09-03-2009, 05:18 PM | #9 |
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| I am so sorry for your loss. I am sorry that I don't have any advice for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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09-03-2009, 05:24 PM | #10 |
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| I know words can't heal your pain, but time will...And I am so sorry for your loss...Just allow yourself to go through the grieving process w/your babies...You came to a wonderful place for support, and we'll all be here when the sun shines a little brighter in your world....Blessings.... |
09-03-2009, 05:35 PM | #11 |
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| I am SO sorry for your loss. How nice to have your dogs to comfort you in this difficult time. Were your dogs able to be around your partner before she passed? I have read that if they are there when someone passes- it makes the transition easier for them. If this wasn't possible, maybe you can leave some of your partner's clothes around so they can get the scent they are familliar with. I'm sure they are also trying to adjust to their new house. Try and keep their routine as familiar as possible and hopefully they will transition smoothly. Welcome to YT_ sorry you had to find us for such a sad reason. |
09-03-2009, 06:00 PM | #12 |
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| I am so very sorry for both of your losses. I wish the best for the both of you. Hugs to you.
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09-03-2009, 06:13 PM | #13 |
My little Shadow Donating YT Member | I am so sorry to hear of both of yr losses. It is wonderful of you to share personal & emotional stories with others in their time of need! This is such a true testiment of what a special Blessing these little furbabies are to our families. They have so much Love to give!
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09-03-2009, 08:05 PM | #14 |
Thor's Human Donating Member | I was an a support group for widows quite some time ago, but I still remember one story a woman told about her late husband. She was archiving their videos, and started watching one that her husband was in. She said both her cats came racing into the room, meowing like mad when they heard his voice. It was a long time back, but it still touches me, especially since we tend to think that cats don't bond with their owners..
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09-03-2009, 08:17 PM | #15 |
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| I just wanted to say how truely sorry I am for both your losses. |
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