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04-07-2009, 02:15 PM | #1 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Ireland
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| How to comfort a grieving friend! My friend just lost her yorkie of twelve years a week ago. Sadly, he died peacefully in his sleep of kidney failure. He had a few years of health issues before he died but at the same time he had a good quality of life. He was a wonderfull, obidient and loving creature.My friend rescued him from being brutally abused as a puppy and from the moment she brought him home with her, he was treated incredibly well. They had an incredibly strong mutual bond. But since his passing, my friend is not coping at all. The poor woman is in pieces and I'm very worried about her! She cries all the time and can't function in her daily life. She won't see me or anyone else because she cannot face us. I know that she is grieving and I know that she will never be the same again without him but she is looking to me for answers to make sense of it all, but I am very aware of her fragile state and I know I can't do anything to bring him back or take the pain away. What should I say to ease her pain? Please help |
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04-07-2009, 02:22 PM | #2 |
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| We lost our 13 year old Yorkie last November and it was devastating. I cried a lot. Luckily we still had our 12 yesr old Yorkie for comfort and about a month ago we got an 11 month old Yorkie. It is really painful for a long time but as long as you know that you gave them a good life you will soon remember all the good times. |
04-07-2009, 02:30 PM | #3 |
YT 1000 Club Member | It's so hard to know what to say in these tough situations. You feel so bad for them. I would just let her know how bad you feel for her and there your there anytime she needs to cry or talk or just be with someone. I'm guessing this just happened recently so it's very fresh for her. There are some really nice cards out there for pet loss so maybe you can send her a card. Here's a link with some nice gift ideas to give to someone who just has lost their pet maybe something like that would help her too. Just to know that there's someone out there that doesn't minimize the loss because it's a pet means alot to the one grieving. Pet Loss Bereavement Gifts
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04-07-2009, 02:33 PM | #4 |
Thor's Human Donating Member | There may be nothing you can say to ease her pain right now. Let her know that you are just there to listen. Not to give suggestions, not to dispute her feelings, not to compare difficult times in your own life. You can even say, "I wish I knew how to ease your pain." Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is allow the person to express their feelings of pain and despair. It can be very hard to listen this way. I think we naturally want to assure people that things will be better, or tell them how to think about their loss differently. Try to just open your ears and your heart to her. Also, people often like to hear your own memories of their loved one, so ask her if she would like to you share times you spent with him and how he made you laugh, etc.
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04-07-2009, 02:35 PM | #5 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I feel for her. I just lost my almost 12 year old pom and it is heartbreaking. Having my 3 yorkies to keep me busy helped a lot. It may be too soon but maybe in time she will be able to open her heart to another little rescue that needs her. For now all you can do is check on her and let her know you are there for her.
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04-07-2009, 02:45 PM | #6 |
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04-11-2009, 08:26 AM | #7 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Ireland
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| I just want to express my gratitude to everyone who replied to my message. My poor friend is'ent doing so well but I'm hoping that she will in time be able to recover from the awful heart-break that she is going through. |
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