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There may be nothing you can say to ease her pain right now. Let her know that you are just there to listen. Not to give suggestions, not to dispute her feelings, not to compare difficult times in your own life. You can even say, "I wish I knew how to ease your pain." Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is allow the person to express their feelings of pain and despair. It can be very hard to listen this way. I think we naturally want to assure people that things will be better, or tell them how to think about their loss differently. Try to just open your ears and your heart to her.

Also, people often like to hear your own memories of their loved one, so ask her if she would like to you share times you spent with him and how he made you laugh, etc.