Unbelievable! What would you do if...?

[spartanpup]

I just wanted to say the picture of him in the sweater is really cute, his great aunt must be crazy! If it is a longer/overnight type trip, could you bring a playpen or something to keep him safe and away from the non-dog people while he is over?

[Bonitachica1963]

I think the family is being very rude. I would not want to go there. I would stay home with my little furbaby if they dont want to accomodate you in any way. Good luck to you. Ronda, Harley and Sophia

[chloesMama]

Originally Posted by dwood

I agree that it is their house, but they live 2.5 hours away from us. So, if we go it would be for a weekend. Luckly my parents do not live to far from them so I try to leave Leo with them if I have to go over to his house. If I didn't have somewhere close by for Leo to stay then it would be a huge problem.

Since they live that far away and you would be going for a weekend , maybe you can bring an X pen ( large high walls) and alternate...Leo can be playing in the pen while the cat is out ( and you can see if the cat goes after him) and then Leo can be free and the cats put away for a while. That seems like a fair solution to me...If they don't like it then maybe they can make the drive to see you instead ( minus the cat ).

I'm sorry ...it is a hard situation ...but they should know how you feel , but then again since they won't put the cat away for Eric's allergies , I'm not sure they will for Leo.

[Breny]

Oh My gosh, he is like the cutest ever! Look at that face! Love that pic!

Originally Posted by dwood

Thanks everybody. It makes me feel better to know that others would be upset about this also. I would always make an effort to spend time and talk with his mom, but because of the situation I don't go over there much anymore. If it bothers her enough to tell her son she wishes I didn't get Leo, then why couldn't she make an effort and put the cat up for the short time I am there?

It really makes Eric mad because he is allergic to the cat and he gets really sick being in the house. So even if they won't but the cat up for Leo, you would think they would put it up for him, right?

Yorkielove1...here is the picture of Leo in my avatar:
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[QuickSilver]

He is super-adorable, and anyone who says different is crazy!

I like the x-pen idea. I wonder if this is more of a human issue than a cat/dog one... it sounds like maybe your bf's family is trying to stake out their turf. And some people just don't like dogs. My parents are complete cat people. My mom likes Thor, but my Dad hates him. Look at my avatar. How could anyone hate that darling face??

I think for your bf's sake you should try to compromise. You see that the cat hurt your dog, and they probably think the cat was just defending itself. Again, I think an x-pen is a good idea, or maybe alternate visits, or just keep the animals in different rooms. I would try not to get into an argument about what is fair or unfair. Just explain it's expensive and stressful for you to board your baby, and you want to come up with a workable solution for everyone.

[txrosegirl]

the great aunt was way off and what she said was rude - no questions about it ... your baby is a DOLL!

but on the other hand, i think you could just visit and leave your baby at home (to help keep the family peace)...this would probably be easier if your BFs mom did not say she wishes you never got leo (very rude IMO) but if you are going to be a guest in someones house (especially ppl who might be future in laws ) you should respect their wishes that they do not want to put their cat away, after all, it is their house and you are an invited guest

this would also be for leos safety...i know if someone wanted to come to my house with a 120lb dog, i would say no and they should respect my wishes...and i would not feel like i should have be required to put my kids in another room for their safety...i hope this is not hurtful but i am just trying to think of a way to keep the peace in the family

[LilMissy]

Ugly? She must be BLIND!

I wouldn't go there anymore if I were you.

[TOY]

Oh boy, why can I never act on the statement that "silence is golden"?

You did ask...what would you do and I see that many support your thoughts and feelings on the interaction.

I do not.

I would never presume to take my Yorkie or any other pet to another person's house unless it had been discussed and permission had been given. Quite frankly, many people are not pet people or have other tastes in pets than Yorkies or any dog for that matter. Obviously, these people have a pet cat. Unless you asked and were given the go-ahead to bring your Yorkie, it was inappropriate just like it would be inappropriate to take a six-pack into a home where you did not know if the residents were drinkers or had religious or other beliefs against drinking.

Quite frankly, I have friends with pets I don't like. They would never presume to bring their pets to my house unless it were a dire emergency and they needed me to help by watching their animals. Likewise, I would not impose my pet upon them.

You know your Yorkie is adorable. You do not need someone else's approval to believe this.

Little old ladies (great aunts) tend to say whatever comes into their mind much as little children do. Take offense? No, I would have laughed it off and said nothing. She probably doesn't even remember saying it. (I am assuming that the great aunt is aged. My great aunts were ancient...at least in their 90's and I never knew what they might say. It made holidays more interesting though but of course, we gave them our love and tolerance that they had earned and we overlooked their slips. As I said, they rarely remembered what they said.)

When all is said and done about our Yorkies, they are still dogs. We will love and spoil ours but I hope we never forget that she is a pet. Not everyone will love her as we do but she will be given the best we can afford yet she will not usurp the human relationships in our lives.

Perhaps I'm just following a different drumbeat here. Perhaps it's because I am older and had more life experiences...who knows? One thing I do know is that if owning a dog dilutes the values I was brought up to believe, I'd be better off not owning one. I want our Yorkie to broaden our outlook not cause us to have tunnel vision. It is totally unrealistic to think that all our friends will be as thrilled with our puppy as we will be.

We've never had 100% approval from all our friends on anything so to expect that we'd all agree on Yorkies is an exercise in futility...LOL However, when I really want an opinion from them, I know I'll get it if I ask. After all, that's what friends are for... to help you stay grounded when you veer off course.

[AbbysMom08]

How rude was she?
He is a real cutie.
I agree, I don't expect everyone to like my dog and I don't think every dog is cute but I wouldn't think of telling someone their dog is ugly.
In the end, it's how you feel and think that counts!!

[yorkiemomto4]

Awwww hes soooo cute!!! Somebody needs glasses haha
I have had a few people tell me that my yorkies are ugly. I just look at them and say...no their not and they say yes they are and then i say....well, they are prettier than you! and then we both laugh about it LOL nobody gets offended. My sister told me one time that my yorkies were sooo ugly...and then she said they were so ugly they were cute LOL...then she said if she didnt have a doberman, she would want one LOL. We just laugh about it. Some people say it in a good way.

[peanut]

I would run like crazy and find another boyfriend, from past experience if they are rude now, look what you have to look forward to in the future

[yorkiepuppie]

Leo is really really cute!

they are really rude, i would be really really unhappy if that happened to me. i wouldn't go to their house anymore either.

[shannonroselive]

Originally Posted by TOY

Oh boy, why can I never act on the statement that "silence is golden"?

You did ask...what would you do and I see that many support your thoughts and feelings on the interaction.

I do not.

I would never presume to take my Yorkie or any other pet to another person's house unless it had been discussed and permission had been given. Quite frankly, many people are not pet people or have other tastes in pets than Yorkies or any dog for that matter. Obviously, these people have a pet cat. Unless you asked and were given the go-ahead to bring your Yorkie, it was inappropriate just like it would be inappropriate to take a six-pack into a home where you did not know if the residents were drinkers or had religious or other beliefs against drinking.

Quite frankly, I have friends with pets I don't like. They would never presume to bring their pets to my house unless it were a dire emergency and they needed me to help by watching their animals. Likewise, I would not impose my pet upon them.

You know your Yorkie is adorable. You do not need someone else's approval to believe this.

Little old ladies (great aunts) tend to say whatever comes into their mind much as little children do. Take offense? No, I would have laughed it off and said nothing. She probably doesn't even remember saying it. (I am assuming that the great aunt is aged. My great aunts were ancient...at least in their 90's and I never knew what they might say. It made holidays more interesting though but of course, we gave them our love and tolerance that they had earned and we overlooked their slips. As I said, they rarely remembered what they said.)

When all is said and done about our Yorkies, they are still dogs. We will love and spoil ours but I hope we never forget that she is a pet. Not everyone will love her as we do but she will be given the best we can afford yet she will not usurp the human relationships in our lives.

Perhaps I'm just following a different drumbeat here. Perhaps it's because I am older and had more life experiences...who knows? One thing I do know is that if owning a dog dilutes the values I was brought up to believe, I'd be better off not owning one. I want our Yorkie to broaden our outlook not cause us to have tunnel vision. It is totally unrealistic to think that all our friends will be as thrilled with our puppy as we will be.

We've never had 100% approval from all our friends on anything so to expect that we'd all agree on Yorkies is an exercise in futility...LOL However, when I really want an opinion from them, I know I'll get it if I ask. After all, that's what friends are for... to help you stay grounded when you veer off course.

I have to agree with this post. How do you go to someone's home and tell THEM to put their pet up for YOU? I'd never bring my puppy to their house in the first place, much less watch them tear her down and bring her back again. Your boyfriend should have known better than to let this get started from the first time. He should have said, "no way darlin, the dog stays home! You don't know my family, he's better off at home!"

[kelly jo]

Been there Done that ! After you get upset, then get over it. The old lady is just an old lady, the parents are just parents. It's ok to leave him home for a little bit to put on a happy face and make peace. Then go home to your beautiful LEO ! Tell him how stupid they are he will make you feel better ! He is just too cute!!!!! All his kisses will make you feel better. And, when they ask where the dog is YOU get to tell them your being an over protective mother and keeping him out of harms way. YOU get the last word......pretty good idea !!!!!!!!!!!

[LDandPasquale]

First off, i think the OP'er isnt asking to come over ....the bf's parents are inviting them. I think the OP'er would be just as happy staying at home with her little furbaby. The Bf's parents are WANTING them to come over to visit. Also, THEIR OWN CHILD is allergic to the cat. That being said......seems a bit selfish to me.
I'm a person that believes that what a person does now can effect the outcome of a later event. For instance, what happens if the OP'er and her bf get married and have a little baby? As we all know, some animals do not like babies....and as we can see this cat is a hunter. I would be fearful to bring a baby over there...so what will the inlaw do then? I mean she wont even put the cat in another room for THEIR OWN CHILD who is allergic.

Now as far as my dog being just a "PET". My Pasquale is NOT just a pet. To me he is my child. I do not have children due to reasons i wish not to discuss. However, my entire family and extended family (including my work) knows how much my dog means to me. So if anyone says something bad about him...they are going to get a mouthful back from me...including "little old ladies". Being older does not give anyone the excuse to being rude. Respect is respect and you do not lose that cause of age. Yes you forget things as you get older(usually events and names)...but you do not forget how to be respectful...UNLESS you were never respectful to begin with.

I would say calmly explain to your bf's parents that Leo is part of your life now and its a package deal now. Perhaps you can drop Leo off at your parents for the day and then sleep at your parents house at night. That way you are WITH Leo and your bf doesnt suffer with his allergies. And if you and your bf are serious and plan on getting married in the long run and having kids..i would ask them what their plans are for the cat when you bring your child over.

Hope it works out for you!!