Unbelievable! What would you do if...?

[manolos mom]

His Great Aunt needs Lasic...

[Ashley V]

Honestly, I would just leave Leo at home when you visit them. His dad is right that it is his house, so he shouldn't have to put his cat away BUT since his son is allergic to him, I would think that he would put the cat up. My MIL is allergic to cats and we clean really good before she comes over and the cats go upstairs in a bedroom for awhile. It doesn't kill 'em! lol

On the note of what the great aunt said, I wouldn't worry about it too much. YOU love your baby and that is all that matters. He is adorable, but some people just aren't dog people. It was very rude of her to say that outloud though. There are a few dogs (not any on YT of course ) I've seen that aren't very cute to me and I either just don't say anything or I pretend. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and despite what the dog looks like, it still a living being and deserves to be loved.

[Katylou]

How well does the great aunt see? I think he's adorable. I agree with others that I would not take him over there as he may be injured. Besides even animals know when they are not welcome. That being said I wouldn't visit there any more than necessary either. They don't sound very accommodating.

[Gennies]

Originally Posted by Teiya

I have to agree with Karrie. If the relationship between you and your bf is serious and you think there might be a future, just leave Leo at home while you are visiting. While I know you love Leo, it is their house and just like you wouldn't want them bringing their cat with them to visit you, I don't think it's fair to expect them to just accept Leo. In the end, the rivalry you'd spawn isn't worth it. Lep will be fine for a few hours by himself.

We live in a country where a person's house is their kingdom...you have to respect his kingdom. Though we are crazy in love with our pets, not everyone feels the same. All you can do is love your baby enough to put you feelings / needs aside and leave him at home where he feels safe and secure.

As for the aunt....what a horrible old lady. All you can do is be the bigger person and if she says such mean things to you in the future ask her why she feels a need to be so rude towards you and your feelings. Maybe no one has ever told her how rude she is in a way that enlightened her. Good luck. Sorry you and your boyfriend are having to deal with such rude people. But the old saying is true...you can chose your friends, but you can't chose your family.

By the way....I love your photo!!!!

[dwood]

Originally Posted by LDandPasquale

First off, i think the OP'er isnt asking to come over ....the bf's parents are inviting them. I think the OP'er would be just as happy staying at home with her little furbaby. The Bf's parents are WANTING them to come over to visit. Also, THEIR OWN CHILD is allergic to the cat. That being said......seems a bit selfish to me.
I'm a person that believes that what a person does now can effect the outcome of a later event. For instance, what happens if the OP'er and her bf get married and have a little baby? As we all know, some animals do not like babies....and as we can see this cat is a hunter. I would be fearful to bring a baby over there...so what will the inlaw do then? I mean she wont even put the cat in another room for THEIR OWN CHILD who is allergic.

Now as far as my dog being just a "PET". My Pasquale is NOT just a pet. To me he is my child. I do not have children due to reasons i wish not to discuss. However, my entire family and extended family (including my work) knows how much my dog means to me. So if anyone says something bad about him...they are going to get a mouthful back from me...including "little old ladies". Being older does not give anyone the excuse to being rude. Respect is respect and you do not lose that cause of age. Yes you forget things as you get older(usually events and names)...but you do not forget how to be respectful...UNLESS you were never respectful to begin with.

I would say calmly explain to your bf's parents that Leo is part of your life now and its a package deal now. Perhaps you can drop Leo off at your parents for the day and then sleep at your parents house at night. That way you are WITH Leo and your bf doesnt suffer with his allergies. And if you and your bf are serious and plan on getting married in the long run and having kids..i would ask them what their plans are for the cat when you bring your child over.

Hope it works out for you!!

Thanks...as you said his parents are inviting us to come over and of course I asked if it would be ok for me to bring him. Now I don't bring Leo over there unless there is just no other choice.

I have expressed to my bf about if we were to have a baby and the cat scratched its eye what his parents would do. That is just something I am not willing to risk with a baby or Leo.

I appreciate everyone's opinions. Since my bf is allergic to the cat and he is very upset about not being able to have Leo over there, hopefully his parents will understand that if they want us to come visit they need to compromise...if not for Leo at least for their son.

If I could always choose to stay with Leo and not go over there I would.

[lil fu fu girl]

I don't think me or my fur-baby would be going back to visit.
Sorry they hurt your feelings. Sometimes people do not think before the speak, or they are just jealous and mean to be hurtful. Either way, not a great place to visit.

[AF Diva]

Word of advice: Don't mix the allergy and dog issues. They are separate. Your boyfriend can speak up for himself about his allergies. His parents are well aware of it.

The aunt may not have appreciated the dog pic as a gift and was letting you know not to do it again. I mean, why would she want a pic of a dog she doesn't know as a gift? Get her a gift certificate next time.

In the grand scheme of things, is this the hill you want to die on? Speak of it no more, go on your visits, sans pup, and let your boyfriend handle the cat/allergy issue. Stay out of it.

[sarahheartmaddy]

Well I am short tempered, so I would probably not go back. I would make it clear that I was offended and just how inconsiderate they are. But like I said, I have no tolerance for rudeness. Good Luck. And your Leo is adorable.

[shelbypickles]

Originally Posted by AF Diva

Word of advice: Don't mix the allergy and dog issues. They are separate. Your boyfriend can speak up for himself about his allergies. His parents are well aware of it.

The aunt may not have appreciated the dog pic as a gift and was letting you know not to do it again. I mean, why would she want a pic of a dog she doesn't know as a gift? Get her a gift certificate next time.

In the grand scheme of things, is this the hill you want to die on? Speak of it no more, go on your visits, sans pup, and let your boyfriend handle the cat/allergy issue. Stay out of it.

VERY sound advice! Great post, you took the words out of my mouth.

As for the aunt not liking the way Leo looks, it is different strokes for different folks. I love the way my Jack Russell and Mini Wookie look(that is what we call Yorkies) but other people don't care for their looks. Some people prefer the smooshed face of a bulldog, or the slickness of a greyhound or the bulkiness of a pit bull. Don't judge her just because she doesn't squeal at Leo's face.

If these things are bothering you now, then I would seriously consider your options in the future. If you can't compromise with them now, they won't be any more forgiving/easier to deal with when they become in-laws.

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by manolos mom

His Great Aunt needs Lasic...

lol!

[nanahas3]

Originally Posted by TOY

Oh boy, why can I never act on the statement that "silence is golden"?

You did ask...what would you do and I see that many support your thoughts and feelings on the interaction.

I do not.

I would never presume to take my Yorkie or any other pet to another person's house unless it had been discussed and permission had been given. Quite frankly, many people are not pet people or have other tastes in pets than Yorkies or any dog for that matter. Obviously, these people have a pet cat. Unless you asked and were given the go-ahead to bring your Yorkie, it was inappropriate just like it would be inappropriate to take a six-pack into a home where you did not know if the residents were drinkers or had religious or other beliefs against drinking.

Quite frankly, I have friends with pets I don't like. They would never presume to bring their pets to my house unless it were a dire emergency and they needed me to help by watching their animals. Likewise, I would not impose my pet upon them.

You know your Yorkie is adorable. You do not need someone else's approval to believe this.

Little old ladies (great aunts) tend to say whatever comes into their mind much as little children do. Take offense? No, I would have laughed it off and said nothing. She probably doesn't even remember saying it. (I am assuming that the great aunt is aged. My great aunts were ancient...at least in their 90's and I never knew what they might say. It made holidays more interesting though but of course, we gave them our love and tolerance that they had earned and we overlooked their slips. As I said, they rarely remembered what they said.)

When all is said and done about our Yorkies, they are still dogs. We will love and spoil ours but I hope we never forget that she is a pet. Not everyone will love her as we do but she will be given the best we can afford yet she will not usurp the human relationships in our lives.

Perhaps I'm just following a different drumbeat here. Perhaps it's because I am older and had more life experiences...who knows? One thing I do know is that if owning a dog dilutes the values I was brought up to believe, I'd be better off not owning one. I want our Yorkie to broaden our outlook not cause us to have tunnel vision. It is totally unrealistic to think that all our friends will be as thrilled with our puppy as we will be.

We've never had 100% approval from all our friends on anything so to expect that we'd all agree on Yorkies is an exercise in futility...LOL However, when I really want an opinion from them, I know I'll get it if I ask. After all, that's what friends are for... to help you stay grounded when you veer off course.

So sorry your feelings were hurt but I have to agree with this poster. My mother absolutely hates animals in her home and I would never presume to take my pets there. I have a sister I visit alot who live a ways away who has never had inside pets so I asked her permission first, And always use a belly band when we go even though Laddy is housebroken. Maybe it is my age to but I dont like cats in my house and would not appreciate someone bringing one in without asking. BTW I think your baby is adorable.

[bellableu]

Originally Posted by dwood

Thanks everybody. It makes me feel better to know that others would be upset about this also. I would always make an effort to spend time and talk with his mom, but because of the situation I don't go over there much anymore. If it bothers her enough to tell her son she wishes I didn't get Leo, then why couldn't she make an effort and put the cat up for the short time I am there?

It really makes Eric mad because he is allergic to the cat and he gets really sick being in the house. So even if they won't but the cat up for Leo, you would think they would put it up for him, right?

Yorkielove1...here is the picture of Leo in my avatar:
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Dwood - is the avatar a picture of Leo as a baby? I notice the pic you gave to the relative at xmas was a silver/tan. I'm asking because my little girl is 14 weeks and is black and tan but has gray roots on her head. I'm wondering if that means she'll grow up to be a silver/tan...

Thanks!
BellaBleu's Mom

[dwood]

Originally Posted by bellableu

Dwood - is the avatar a picture of Leo as a baby? I notice the pic you gave to the relative at xmas was a silver/tan. I'm asking because my little girl is 14 weeks and is black and tan but has gray roots on her head. I'm wondering if that means she'll grow up to be a silver/tan...

Thanks!
BellaBleu's Mom

Yes, my avatar is Leo as a puppy. In the Christmas picture he looks a little lighter than he actually is, I guess because of the flash. He is a year and 2 months now and around his nose and eyes is starting to get a darker tan color.

[lovespandp]

Originally Posted by dwood

I live my boyfriend (Eric) and he loves Leo as much as I do. His family on the other hand, doesn't feel the same way...

The first time I brought Leo to their house he was 3 or 4 months old...and their cat scratched his eye. This whole episode cost me atleast $300. My parents have cats also but they are friendly and are really more scared or uninterested in Leo. This cat will scale the walls hunting for Leo.

Needless to say I don't take Leo over there very often because they refuse to put the cat up. Even if we are eating dinner I have had to eat with Leo on my lap because the cat will try to come after him.

Eric's dad said that it is his house, why should he have to put the cat up. This is true which is why I just try to avoid going over there because it is stressful for me and Leo. His mom doesn't like this because now I don't come over there like I used to.

So, she told Eric that she wished I had never gotten Leo. When he told me this it really upset me. I mean how could anyone not love Leo?

As if that wasn't enough...at Christmas I gave his grandma a picture of Leo and she thought it was really cute and passed it around. Eric's great aunt was looking at it and to my face said ... "he is an ugly little thing isn't he". WHAT the heck?! Here is the picture:
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This really bothers both of us, because Leo is my baby ... what would you do?

ok um sooo not ugy!! She is jealous!! I personally want to kiss his little head!! Your bf's aunt KNOWS he isnt ugly...anyone that says leo is ugly is just trying to get you upset...thats what I think. Unless she is just a really un happy person who doesnt like animals! I would talk to your bf and tell him how you feel about this. Maybe he can talk to his mom and see whats really going on..I dont think you going over to his house and them putting the cat away for a little bit is a BIG DEAL. My mom has 2 cats ( they are as mean as your bf's parents cat.-bella the cat got peanuts eye too!! under the door!!) But I tell my mom to gate up the cats and she is fine with it, because she knows peanut is MY BABY, and her grandog! I would just talk to your bf and tell him how you feel about everything, if he loves leo as much as you do and he loves you, he will try to work it out

[annamalyssa]

First off Leo is just adorable!! I was offended myself when I read the great aunt said he was ugly!!! WHAT IN THE WORLD?? lady you are blind!!!

As far as what I would do, I just wouldn't go over there anymore.. I love Gucci and either people accept him or we don't go over and Hubby feels the same way about it. I know if my baby wasn't welcome we wouldn't go NEITHER OF US because he loves Gucci too, just as much as myself. He and I as well as our children (Gucci included!!!) are 1 UNIT TAKE US OR LEAVE US .. PERIOD! We make every effort to accept EVERYONE if they do not do the same for us then that's just too bad for them.. as they will be missing out on all that we and our SON (mr Gucci) have to offer.

I know many say to just suck it up... but personally, I WOULDN'T .. Gucci is the ONLY SON I WILL EVER HAVE and I expect people to accept both of us all of us or NONE OF US.


Adrianna