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[Misti1]

Originally Posted by Lolasmom1211

I don't know how old your babies are, but I can tell you my story for what it's worth! I got my first little female in March because I had empty nest syndrome with all of my kids being grown and gone....In July, I listened to everyone tell me how much happier she would be with a playmate so I brought home a little male August 1. My sweet little girl's personality changed drastically. She no longer played with her toys, she seemed unhappy, and I was overwhelmed with all of the extra work. She didn't really seem to want him around and tried to totally ignore him. I cried the first 3 or 4 days thinking it was the biggest mistake I had ever made....my husband was not much help because he thought it was a bad idea from the start, so I thought I was going to have to "rehome" this precious little boy. I felt so overwhelmed and like such a failure because I kept reading about all of these people that had 2,3 and 4 Yorkies and how great it was to have more! Well, on about the 5th day I was really becoming attached to this little guy and I noticed that Lola, my little girl, was starting to "look" his way. Later that day, they were asleep together in one of their beds and from that day on they have been inseparable. That is not to say that they don't like to spend time alone with us, but I can't imagine one now without the other. I never worry when I have to leave and run errands or go out, because they do have each other. They still get in their little tiffs now and then, and I will put one or the other in my lap to separate them when they play too rough, but all in all, it really was the best thing I ever did. I do think the first couple of weeks was rough...it's twice as much work, and forget about those naps you got to take when you had just one! But, it really does get easier and they eventually do get on the same schedule....and you do get those naps back! If you can just stick these first couple of weeks out, it will be alot easier and it's worth it. Good luck~!

Thank you...
They have started sleeping on the same bed, and right now they are on the couch downstairs together. They play well, and that part seems to be going great. Today has been a good day so far too.

I think it is going to be ok.

[Misti1]

Originally Posted by Juliealfies mum

Hang in there it does get better. They are adorable and you have a beautiful daughter.

Thank you so much

[IluvLucy]

Your daughter is beautiful and the pups are SO cute! I feel for you, having such a big adjustment.

My neighbor's daughter left for Japan this past Wednesday. She's joining her husband there (Air Force). My neighbor is now adjusting to the HERD of cats she left with her.

Lucy and Reb are freaking out because the cats have discovered my yard and the babies can see them out the window. They're in a frenzy right now because one of them is out there staring at them!

[Misti1]

Originally Posted by IluvLucy

Your daughter is beautiful and the pups are SO cute! I feel for you, having such a big adjustment.

My neighbor's daughter left for Japan this past Wednesday. She's joining her husband there (Air Force). My neighbor is now adjusting to the HERD of cats she left with her.

Lucy and Reb are freaking out because the cats have discovered my yard and the babies can see them out the window. They're in a frenzy right now because one of them is out there staring at them!

Is the world running over there? LOL

Your poor babies interlopers!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks

[Princes mom]

You have a beautiful family!!!! Things will get better with time. My son (only child) will be going to China in May, after his graduation from college!!!! (I'll pm you then for support).
Take care!!

[yorkiesmiles]

Oh, your daughter is beautiful and she looks so happy. I know it is awful to have her go so far away. Last summer my 18 yr old daughter finished her freshman yr off by studying in Australia for 5 weeks - it was so hard, but I knew she was doing something important for herself. I recognize your daughter will be gone longer than that, but trust me you will miss her - but you will also get to a different level of comfort with her in Japan, than you feel now.

I remember when you had to give Mika up when Amber moved before - and I know how hard that was for you -- but you did adjust, and then you thought you didn't have time for another yorkie -- but then you went for it and your got Maya. She turned your world upside down and you adjusted to her new little life.

I know you are a woman with much fortitude and you will adjust again and I believe the 3 of you will flourish together. I think you were MEANT to have these 2 little furbabies - who look fabulous together. But if things had not unfolded this way, you wouldn't be surrounded by 2 yorkies.

You may have to give these girls some new rules & less run of the house until they earn your trust again -- the sofa - oh, is not acceptable.

I will pray for you during this time of transition. And I will pray for your daughter's safety & adjustment in Japan

[Misti1]

Originally Posted by Princes mom

You have a beautiful family!!!! Things will get better with time. My son (only child) will be going to China in May, after his graduation from college!!!! (I'll pm you then for support).
Take care!!

What is it with these children....don't they know they are supposed to live in the basement forever????

PM me child If I'm any good by then I'll help.

[Misti1]

Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles

Oh, your daughter is beautiful and she looks so happy. I know it is awful to have her go so far away. Last summer my 18 yr old daughter finished her freshman yr off by studying in Australia for 5 weeks - it was so hard, but I knew she was doing something important for herself. I recognize your daughter will be gone longer than that, but trust me you will miss her - but you will also get to a different level of comfort with her in Japan, than you feel now.

I remember when you had to give Mika up when Amber moved before - and I know how hard that was for you -- but you did adjust, and then you thought you didn't have time for another yorkie -- but then you went for it and your got Maya. She turned your world upside down and you adjusted to her new little life.

I know you are a woman with much fortitude and you will adjust again and I believe the 3 of you will flourish together. I think you were MEANT to have these 2 little furbabies - who look fabulous together. But if things had not unfolded this way, you wouldn't be surrounded by 2 yorkies.

You may have to give these girls some new rules & less run of the house until they earn your trust again -- the sofa - oh, is not acceptable.

I will pray for you during this time of transition. And I will pray for your daughter's safety & adjustment in Japan

You have the whole story correct.

One thing that is going on here is trying to rebond in my heart with Mika. Having her taken away and having to give her up and thinking I would never get her back again, or even see her much (my daughter worked such hours that trips home to Memphis just weren't happening, not even for Xmas), I just let go of her so I could stop hurting.

The connection between US was broken and I gave that love to Maya.

Mika is different now, the 9 months basically spent alone in my daughter's bedroom as she worked, has changed her into an indendent creature. She doesn't want to be picked up, bolts away from you at times, and only wants affection when SHE wants it. Slowly though I am seeing some signs of the Mika I knew coming back.

I wonder what she must be thinking being back here. I wonder if she remembers the house, the yard, the drainage ditch she got caught in????

Me?????

I wonder if she thinks Amber will walk back through the door and come for her.

For days after Amber went back to Atlanta to prepare for Japan, I had to open the bedroom door and let Mika jump in the bed and be sure she wasn't there, the bathroom too. IT was so sad.

Anyway...I'm just waxing meloncholy today.

[rontiss1]

Hang in there, things will soon get better!

[Princes mom]

Originally Posted by Misti1

What is it with these children....don't they know they are supposed to live in the basement forever????

PM me child If I'm any good by then I'll help.

You'll be fine. Your response was really funny...about the basement. I remember a song a few years ago about wanting to keep the child protected and close to home forever. I think the name was "If I could." I downloaded that song for my son before he left for college. (He's out-of-state, but only a 6 hour drive).
Staying busy with Misti and Maya will help you a lot. Maybe go to a park for a little while with them today...try to get out of the house. (You can copy-paste my words for me, when my son goes abroad )! I know it's hard...believe me, I know.
Take care friend.

[Misti1]

Originally Posted by rontiss1

Hang in there, things will soon get better!

awwwwwwwwwww how cute is your baby!!!!!!!!!
Thank you

[Misti1]

Originally Posted by Princes mom

You'll be fine. Your response was really funny...about the basement. I remember a song a few years ago about wanting to keep the child protected and close to home forever. I think the name was "If I could." I downloaded that song for my son before he left for college. (He's out-of-state, but only a 6 hour drive).
Staying busy with Misti and Maya will help you a lot. Maybe go to a park for a little while with them today...try to get out of the house. (You can copy-paste my words for me, when my son goes abroad )! I know it's hard...believe me, I know.
Take care friend.

LOL

Take these two hoodlums to the park...they don't know the meaning of come here, and it's no fun on the leash....we need training.

[yorkiesmiles]

Originally Posted by Misti1

You have the whole story correct.

One thing that is going on here is trying to rebond in my heart with Mika. Having her taken away and having to give her up and thinking I would never get her back again, or even see her much (my daughter worked such hours that trips home to Memphis just weren't happening, not even for Xmas), I just let go of her so I could stop hurting.

The connection between US was broken and I gave that love to Maya.

Mika is different now, the 9 months basically spent alone in my daughter's bedroom as she worked, has changed her into an indendent creature. She doesn't want to be picked up, bolts away from you at times, and only wants affection when SHE wants it. Slowly though I am seeing some signs of the Mika I knew coming back.

I wonder what she must be thinking being back here. I wonder if she remembers the house, the yard, the drainage ditch she got caught in????

Me?????

I wonder if she thinks Amber will walk back through the door and come for her.

For days after Amber went back to Atlanta to prepare for Japan, I had to open the bedroom door and let Mika jump in the bed and be sure she wasn't there, the bathroom too. IT was so sad.

Anyway...I'm just waxing meloncholy today.

It's ok to be melancholy and to even wish things were different.

Yes, Mika remembers it all. And in time she will adjust to everything again. But the other thing to remember is - she was so little when she was there before and she has grown up - they change a bit over time too.

Maybe she will be interested in the webcam - and will like seeing Amber. Some animals are really intune with computer screen or tv

[Lee B]

Originally Posted by Misti1

Ok
First Mika is back on track and doing well. Maya might do like one thing wrong a day.

As for me I have been crying for a week, I have evidently set off some really serious health issues and I have to go to the Dr. the day after Maya is spayed (more stress).

Amber set up the Skpe and webcammy thing before she left, but I have to learn how to use it.

PLEASE take care of yourself: I learned a long time ago that if Mommy's sick - *every*one's miserable, and nothing gets done. It just makes for more work when you're better, so .... just don't get sick in the *first* place !

I know a lot of folks with loved ones in the military, or whose family is out of the U.S. who use Skype. I don't think the program is that complicated. And, depending on which webcam program is being used, THOSE usually aren't too complicated, either. So, what I'm trying to say is, if you can post here, you should be able to handle the others . Just don't get frustrated ...

Obviously, you and your daughter are close. This is one of those "speed bumps in the road of Life". This will pass, and you'll be stronger for the experience.

Please take care of yourself: stress can do some pretty awful things to you, body AND soul.

[Misti1]

Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles

It's ok to be melancholy and to even wish things were different.

Yes, Mika remembers it all. And in time she will adjust to everything again. But the other thing to remember is - she was so little when she was there before and she has grown up - they change a bit over time too.

Maybe she will be interested in the webcam - and will like seeing Amber. Some animals are really intune with computer screen or tv

You're right I thought about that she left here a 1 year old and came back almost 2