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Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles  Oh, your daughter is beautiful and she looks so happy. I know it is awful to have her go so far away. Last summer my 18 yr old daughter finished her freshman yr off by studying in Australia for 5 weeks - it was so hard, but I knew she was doing something important for herself. I recognize your daughter will be gone longer than that, but trust me you will miss her - but you will also get to a different level of comfort with her in Japan, than you feel now.
I remember when you had to give Mika up when Amber moved before - and I know how hard that was for you -- but you did adjust, and then you thought you didn't have time for another yorkie -- but then you went for it and your got Maya. She turned your world upside down and you adjusted to her new little life.
I know you are a woman with much fortitude and you will adjust again and I believe the 3 of you will flourish together. I think you were MEANT to have these 2 little furbabies - who look fabulous together. But if things had not unfolded this way, you wouldn't be surrounded by 2 yorkies.
You may have to give these girls some new rules & less run of the house until they earn your trust again -- the sofa  - oh, is not acceptable.
I will pray for you during this time of transition. And I will pray for your daughter's safety & adjustment in Japan |
You have the whole story correct.
One thing that is going on here is trying to rebond in my heart with Mika. Having her taken away and having to give her up and thinking I would never get her back again, or even see her much (my daughter worked such hours that trips home to Memphis just weren't happening, not even for Xmas), I just let go of her so I could stop hurting.
The connection between US was broken and I gave that love to Maya.
Mika is different now, the 9 months basically spent alone in my daughter's bedroom as she worked, has changed her into an indendent creature. She doesn't want to be picked up, bolts away from you at times, and only wants affection when SHE wants it. Slowly though I am seeing some signs of the Mika I knew coming back.
I wonder what she must be thinking being back here. I wonder if she remembers the house, the yard, the drainage ditch she got caught in????
Me?????
I wonder if she thinks Amber will walk back through the door and come for her.
For days after Amber went back to Atlanta to prepare for Japan, I had to open the bedroom door and let Mika jump in the bed and be sure she wasn't there, the bathroom too. IT was so sad.
Anyway...I'm just waxing meloncholy today.