It is with a heavy heart..............

[luckylady]

Some of you may remember my thread a while back http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/tra...ll-sudden.html . For all the people we talked to, the re-training we attempted, and the trainer we had come to our house, nothing still would change Lexie's feelings towards Halle. We resorted to the life of living separately behind baby gates, giving equal time to each of them to spend with the family, and still doing whatever we could think of to try and help them to get along. After a few months of living this way, we saw no change in how Lexie felt. Given the opportunity, Lexie still would go after Halle with barely a moment's notice. And living separate lives for those months also showed us that it was not the best way for any of them, or us to live. None of the fur kids were happy when it was their turn behind the gate & away from the rest of the family, and always in the back of my mind was the nagging fear that someone, sometime would inadvertantly let one or the other slip through the gate & Halle would have to endure yet another attack.

A few weeks ago, we decided it would be best to find Lexie a home where she would not have to fight for her place in the pack. I had hoped to find a family member or a close friend that could give her the love she deserves; unfortunately we were unable to find someone close to us. So, we did what we thought was the next best thing and put her in the hands of a yorkie rescue group we knew of, with the assurance that they would find her a new loving home.

She left us last Sunday, and words cannot describe how awful I feel. The few days before she left I would break into tears each time she looked at me with her beautiful brown eyes or when I held her close. I thought (or tried to convince myself), that after all we had been through in the last few months, that the relief of having life get back to normal in our house would mask the saddness of Lexie not being here once she was gone. I was so very wrong! I can't even count the number of times I've cried for her; and still do. I almost think I would have handled it better if she had gone to rainbow bridge. With her still being alive & well, I feel like I have in some way failed her. Yet, knowing Lexie like I do and seeing how she was acting lately here, I am fairly certain that she will be happier and calmer in a home with fewer fur siblings or at least maybe the only female.

Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would lose one of my babies before it was "their time". It was harder to let her go than I ever imagined. I love her still and I she'll always have a special place in my heart. If you could please, keep Lexie in your thoughts and say a little prayer that she adjusts well to her new surroundings and finds a new forever home very soon. I miss her so much and just need to know that she is happy.

[Julie1760]

I know how much it hurts. Just remember you did what you had to do to have peace in your home. You'll know she'll get the loving home she deserves. Try not to beat yourself up....you did what you had to do. You would never forgive yourself if she wound up killing Halle.

Hugs,

[Ladymom]

I know it's painful, but you did the right thing. Two dogs don't always get along no matter how much you hope they will.

[MeganS]

I know it's hard.

You did the right thing. It will take time for you to heal. But eventually you'll feel OK about it. You did the right thing for all of your babies.

Big hugs to you.

[Judy in Waco]

What a difficult decision you had to make. I'm so sorry. Sometimes the best choices aren't the easy ones.

[mkawczak]

Remember all the good times. Sometimes it's quality not quantity. Time will help ease the pain. I admire you for putting your feelings aside, and thinking of the dogs quality of life as well. Hang tough,and keep smiling.

[freshie]

I am sorry you are going through this but it sounds like you did everything in your power to make the situation work. I know how you feel I had to do that with a jack russel mutt we rescued. He was very vicious towards me that hand that fed him and it escalated to the point where we had to send him back to the rescue. I felt awful and felt like I failed him. It's been almost 3 years and it does get easier. You sounds like such a loving and caring mom to your babies don't beat yourself up. Reading this post brought me back to when I had to go through it and it brought tears to my eyes.

[maggiesmom_2007]

Originally Posted by luckylady

Some of you may remember my thread a while back http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/tra...ll-sudden.html . For all the people we talked to, the re-training we attempted, and the trainer we had come to our house, nothing still would change Lexie's feelings towards Halle. We resorted to the life of living separately behind baby gates, giving equal time to each of them to spend with the family, and still doing whatever we could think of to try and help them to get along. After a few months of living this way, we saw no change in how Lexie felt. Given the opportunity, Lexie still would go after Halle with barely a moment's notice. And living separate lives for those months also showed us that it was not the best way for any of them, or us to live. None of the fur kids were happy when it was their turn behind the gate & away from the rest of the family, and always in the back of my mind was the nagging fear that someone, sometime would inadvertantly let one or the other slip through the gate & Halle would have to endure yet another attack.

A few weeks ago, we decided it would be best to find Lexie a home where she would not have to fight for her place in the pack. I had hoped to find a family member or a close friend that could give her the love she deserves; unfortunately we were unable to find someone close to us. So, we did what we thought was the next best thing and put her in the hands of a yorkie rescue group we knew of, with the assurance that they would find her a new loving home.

She left us last Sunday, and words cannot describe how awful I feel. The few days before she left I would break into tears each time she looked at me with her beautiful brown eyes or when I held her close. I thought (or tried to convince myself), that after all we had been through in the last few months, that the relief of having life get back to normal in our house would mask the saddness of Lexie not being here once she was gone. I was so very wrong! I can't even count the number of times I've cried for her; and still do. I almost think I would have handled it better if she had gone to rainbow bridge. With her still being alive & well, I feel like I have in some way failed her. Yet, knowing Lexie like I do and seeing how she was acting lately here, I am fairly certain that she will be happier and calmer in a home with fewer fur siblings or at least maybe the only female.

Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would lose one of my babies before it was "their time". It was harder to let her go than I ever imagined. I love her still and I she'll always have a special place in my heart. If you could please, keep Lexie in your thoughts and say a little prayer that she adjusts well to her new surroundings and finds a new forever home very soon. I miss her so much and just need to know that she is happy.

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I know exactly what you are going through. With only a few differences this was the same situation I was going through. The differences being it was a fixed male (the son) and an intact female(the mother) I was able to find her a home. She went to her new home today. Hugs

[jackson25]

I am so sorry you had to make such a hard choice. Time will help heal your heart, keep her close in thoughts and we all will pray for her.


Jackson Gracie Tucker Rosey Abigayle

[Sugar's Mom]

Rose, I am so sorry it came to this. I thought I was ready to place Frankie and kandy recently but just couldn't do it. i know I have to tho eventually.

[LilMissy]

It sounds to me like you made a very unselfish decision. You knew what was best for everyone, and you did it. Hats off to you. You did the right thing.

Sending Prayers and Positive Thoughts that Lexie finds her forever home soon.

[jmdt]

Bless you for your strength in making this heartbreaking decision. You did the right thing for you and for your babies. So that they could live a happy peaceful life. It's hard, but you know in your heart you did the right thing for that baby. Sending prayers for you and your little babies.
COCO PEBBLES TRIXIE

[luckylady]

Originally Posted by maggiesmom_2007

I know exactly what you are going through. With only a few differences this was the same situation I was going through. The differences being it was a fixed male (the son) and an intact female(the mother) I was able to find her a home. She went to her new home today. Hugs

I read the thread you posted about your situation and I have read about other YT members dealing with similar issues also. I just never thought or even knew about it happening, until it happened to me. Like I said, it is as hard or harder as if she would have gone to rainbow bridge.

Originally Posted by freshie

I am sorry you are going through this but it sounds like you did everything in your power to make the situation work. I know how you feel I had to do that with a jack russel mutt we rescued. He was very vicious towards me that hand that fed him and it escalated to the point where we had to send him back to the rescue. I felt awful and felt like I failed him. It's been almost 3 years and it does get easier. You sounds like such a loving and caring mom to your babies don't beat yourself up. Reading this post brought me back to when I had to go through it and it brought tears to my eyes.

We really did try everything we could think of to make it work. I am sorry to hear about you having to return the jack russel you rescued. I pray that Lexie's new family will be able to love her and keep her for the rest of her days.

Thank you all for your words of encouragment. It helps alot having all of you here to talk to, knowing that you understand the depth of my sorrow. This is VERY tough for me to accept, but I know that slowly, it will get better.

[PennysMum]

I've gone through this too, only in my instance it was a cat that simply could not get along with other animals no matter how much we tried. We attempted to keep her in a separate area, herbal remedies and pheromone sprays, and even prescription anti-anxiety drugs and anti-depressants, but the poor thing was just too miserable and aggressive no matter what we attempted, and eventually I made the very hard decision to re-home her. It was really hard, especially since I'd done so much rescue and rehab work myself and it made me feel as if I was failing her somehow since I couldn't "fix" her. It's heartbreaking to let them go, but ultimately living life locked away from the rest of the family isn't a proper life for an animal, and sometimes the kindest thing that we can do for our animals is something that hurts us the most.

[scrapindee]

What a difficult decision to make, but we know you tried everything to make it work.