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10-06-2008, 06:18 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: cincinnati
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| Do you feel guilty when you spend too much time away from your dogs? I know there are people on here who dont even believe you should leave your dog alone to go to work. To each their own, but I definitely am not one of those people. I support my family so have no choice but to work full time. That said, other than when Im away at work, I feel guilty for leaving my dogs at any other time for more than a couple of hours. I can see how it really could impact your life though and Im not sure its a good thing, or even normal. Truth be told, I dont have that active a social life to worry about, but I would like to do a few more things and dont because of the dogs. As long as their basic needs are met, does it really hurt them to spend time alone once in awhile. They are dogs after all and I think we tend to give them human qualities (at least I know I do sometimes) when they dont exist. Maybe Yorkietalk is a bad place to ask this question as I know people on here tend to be pretty crazy about their dogs, but seriously, does anyone else have this problem? My husband thinks Im nuts about these dogs. |
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10-06-2008, 06:26 PM | #2 |
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| I am SO with you.. I rarely go anywhere besides work or the grocery store and if I go to the store, I gotta bring treats or prizes.. lol.. we never go on family trips either, we go inn shifts.. lol.. my family ALL thinks I am crazy about my dogs but o well, my dogs dont give me a hard time like they do
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10-06-2008, 06:30 PM | #3 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Alabama
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| My hubby thinks that I spoil my dogs to much too. But I own a dog grooming salon, so they (at least captain jack usually roscoe(english springer spaniel) too) go to work with me. And most of the places that I have to go to for my business are pretty much pet friendly so he goes on errands with me. My husband always teases me and says that I love the dogs more than him because when I have to go to the grocery store I love on my babies for 10 minutes before I leave and all he gets is a quick peck on the cheek on my way out the door. But I am used to having them with me all the time. It probably isn't good for them to be with me all the time, I don't want them to be so dependant on me that they have anxiety when I am not around. I guess there MUST be a happy medium....I just don't know what it is
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10-06-2008, 06:38 PM | #4 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Middletown, ct. USA
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| it is a pleasure to read your post as someone I can identify with. I love all you yorkie talkers, but as a mom of 3, teacher, coach, etc I do think that some of us yorkie talkers are over the top. Well, since we are all at school during the day, I got a doggie playdate for Cocoa so I could try a yoga class! I definitely want to stay active physically and socially and mostly feel guilty if I leave her alone on a worknight. I coach basketball so I think she will have to be our team's new mascot. Soccer season hasbeen great since it's always outside ! |
10-06-2008, 06:48 PM | #5 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member | Hi I felt that way when he was younger. but I have to work a full time job as well. But that doesn't mean I don't spoil my baby. They need some time on their own as well. They need to be a little independent. I also have a cat and they keep each other company. Maybe if your baby had a friend you wouldn't feel so bad..and I take my baby on every trip I go on. Everynow and then I take him to the kennel. He really loves it there. He comes home and can't even talk.. He just quacks like a duck..hehe. Good luch |
10-06-2008, 07:06 PM | #6 |
No Longer a Member | I dont work so I am with my dogs alot, LOL I do leave them to go to horse shows on Saturdays though. They have each other so they don't seem to mind it. But when I come home, it's like I been gone for days, lots of kisses and everyone has to be in my lap. I havn't taken a vacation in years. Most I have been away from them is overnight and my mom babysits. I just don't trust anyone to watch them for a long period of time. I know , I'm terrible, I just love them so much. |
10-06-2008, 07:33 PM | #7 |
No Longer a Member | I was having this discussion with my mother the other day. She said I shouldn't feel guilty to leave my baby Chloe but I do. I don't work any longer due to a car accident so I am home almost 24/7. I put Chloe into a create when I leave and boy, that really makes me feel guilty. She is really wild and I know I can't leave her out to roam for her safety and our house. |
10-06-2008, 07:55 PM | #8 |
bam and pebbles mommy Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Florida
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| I am home most of the time. i get really guilty if i hang out with friends and i am gone till like 12am or so... I feel like.. "i must get back home to my dogs.." i feel really badly when Im out and think of them. I know they go crazy even when I leave the room so I am thinking they are just whining for me the whole time.... |
10-06-2008, 08:47 PM | #9 |
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| I would say you are not alone! I leave Bobby to go to work 4 days a week, 1 day I get to work from home. I feel guilty leaving him on those days as well as any other time. I definiatly have changed this past year because of him. If we go to a get together where I can't bring him, we always come home early. (we used to be all night partyers!) And we don't go away on weekends anymore unless he can go with us. It has actually brought my hubby and I alot closer because we spend so much time at home. I do look forward to getting a friend for him, so that I won't feel so guilty leaving him. And I am really going to try and find him a place to stay in December so that my hubby and I can go on a cruise to celebrate our anniversary. |
10-06-2008, 10:05 PM | #10 |
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10-07-2008, 02:23 AM | #11 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Havre de Grace, MD
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| Ditto here - terribly. I always tell him that I'm sorry, but I have to go to work, and I'll be back. |
10-07-2008, 02:41 AM | #12 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Land O' Lakes, FL
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| I'm a lot luckier than most: There are a total of five dogs in my household, three of which hang out together, so no one is ever alone. My husband is "retired" due to disability, so he's always here unless he has a doctor's appointment. Additionally, my daughter and family moved back in . So the dogs are seldom alone. *I*, on the other hand, suffer from separation anxiety |
10-07-2008, 02:49 AM | #13 |
Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md
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| The problem of wether its normal or not u cant make sure they understand you will be coming back and I do believe that sometimes if not all the time they have no idea if you will come back. There are some dogs that make themselves sick when they are left alone because of fear that they were left. I live with my grand parents who neither work now because they are retired and due to my anxiety I do not curently have a job so Callie has never been left a lone and even if I'm the only one who leaves she will sleep the hole time, not eat, not drink, not play and stuff and I feel bad about that so I do limit somewhat what I do so I dont have to leave her but with my anxiety thats not hard. I think these dogs do have human qualitys sometimes tho they are so smart and can understand some things that can shock you. No offense and maybe I'm crazy but my dog seems smarter then some people I have meet. I think when you have two or more dogs its not as bad as when you have one and leave them alone because then they have some kind of companion and arnt completly alone. One of the reasons I dont leave Callie alone is because I absolutly hate being completely alone and I wouldnt want to be left alone.
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10-07-2008, 05:48 AM | #14 |
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| Absolutely! I usually try to run errands when hubby is home but that doesn't happen all the time so I find that when I am out and about, I rush home to be with them.
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10-07-2008, 05:58 AM | #15 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I use to but with 4 of them they have companionship and I don't worry as much, Also, I am now retired so I am home a lot or if I am gone my husband is home. When I worked and had only one dog ata time they all did fine. I find they sleep most of the day anyway and really were happy when you came home.
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