Anyone else have any issue w/family...

[good_gurl63901]

Originally Posted by HallTx1203

lol...This subject is soooo dear to my heart....I have Barney.....He is amazing in my eyes....Hubby sees him as a "dog".... Barney is my baby....He kept me from losing it literally when my daughter and grandbaby moved out....Talk about empty nest syndrome.....Barney has clothes he wears.....Special collars w/ little charms on them...Bows for all the outfits....They are boyish outfits and bows.....He has a stroller for long trips and for uses like the vets ofc or flea markets.....

Barney has never been on our bed,,,Hubby wont allow it.....He can get on the guest bedroom bed and he can get on the living room furniture but not hubby's chair....And he can go in the office but is not allowed around his desk or on his chair....I finally gave up on him- hubby is the way he is.....He will buy Barney's food for him(quality)...He will pay for Barney's vet visits and meds(heartworm)...He lets Barney out in the afternoons to potty....He just does not care for Barney...He does this for me....So I am accepting that this will probably never change.

BTW Hubby thinks I am on Yt too much also....But he has been really relaxed about this recently

sounds a lot like my hubby! BUT I pay for everything to do with my dogs! I am a on the go mom (i am not the stay at home type lol), but I do sell Arbonne, I am a photographer, and I sell stuff on eBay to make money for my habits.. dogs, shopping, and lunch out with the girls lol! DH does let the dogs out and he plays with them, i think he secretely loves them too, but he wont admit it... hehe I told him i wanted to get a lil girl, and he was like why?? I said cause I want one! lol

[good_gurl63901]

i want to say again THANK YOU for the support!!!

[harley1]

Originally Posted by good_gurl63901

My DH gives me all kinds of heck about me and my dogs... he was asking me what I do on yorkietalk all the time, I told him that i have learned a lot from everyone on here and he told me I baby the dogs too much anyway... I told him he never wanted to get on here then, because i am MILD compared to some others on here.... he asked me what others did that i didn't i told him that there are some that have strollers for their pups (he told me he would commit me), that there are some that do homecooking (he told me i am too lazy for that), i told him that i was wanting to make them some home made treats, he told me that if i made them treats before i made him homemade bread that he would throw it in the trash (he has been wanting me to make him bread for a month now lol) I don't know why i thought he might understand... I am 29 and I had a full abdominal hysterectomy in June, and I went through a bit of depression.. anyway... I dont know why i figured he would understand... i volunteer at the local pound and his family thinks i am nuts... they are like umm don't ppl get PAID to do that??!! anyway sorry for the long post i just really needed to vent

You go girl....i too have become addicted to this site in a very short time,probably spoil my baby way too much and spend far more then i really need too but the way i see it....i am not doing anyone any harm and after all i could be spending all my money on booze or cigarettes or at the casino every night!!!!

[sheilas-cottage]

Originally Posted by emilyann

Your DH seems a little harsh . I feel sorry for you having to put up with that.

He sounds like a bully to me. If your dog give you pleasure and love so be it. You sound as if you need as much as you can get from your babies. Rock on.

[cpuff35]

Hopefully he'll give in a little at a time. Initially my husband did not want a dog, but after years of convincing he finally gave in. Now he totally adores her. Everyday when he comes home he plays fetch with her. The only thing he won't do is to take her out for walks (he doesn't want to be seen by neighbors walking a small dog).

[wildcard]

I divorced a man that did not understand my attachment to the dogs and the love of showing and training them. No, we did not divorce because of the dogs, rather over other issues, but I am getting re-married in a few weeks to a man that was one of my students when he brought his dog through the obedience class I teach once a week. He had (still has) a cattle dog and started showing her in agility and then started going with me to the breed and obedience shows and now his cattle dog also has an obedience title, he has now finished more papillon breed champions than me LOL, and he is "specialing" a papillon for a dear friend. Life is much more satisfying with a partner that loves the dogs like I do.

But do not give up on your husband, he may very well come around. Some things really *are* more important than dogs. Has he ever wanted a pet of his own? Maybe if he had his own dog or other pet he would understand the bond better.

[good_gurl63901]

Originally Posted by wildcard

I divorced a man that did not understand my attachment to the dogs and the love of showing and training them. No, we did not divorce because of the dogs, rather over other issues, but I am getting re-married in a few weeks to a man that was one of my students when he brought his dog through the obedience class I teach once a week. He had (still has) a cattle dog and started showing her in agility and then started going with me to the breed and obedience shows and now his cattle dog also has an obedience title, he has now finished more papillon breed champions than me LOL, and he is "specialing" a papillon for a dear friend. Life is much more satisfying with a partner that loves the dogs like I do.

But do not give up on your husband, he may very well come around. Some things really *are* more important than dogs. Has he ever wanted a pet of his own? Maybe if he had his own dog or other pet he would understand the bond better.

lol i am not going to divorce him, I just don't know how to get him to understand that my pups are my babies now... Since I can't have anymore and my youngest starts pre K tom they help fill the loneliness...

I want to get him his own animal, but he is not interested... we were going to get a yorkie/poo before I got my yorkie... he liked the idea cause we were going to call him "Porkie" haha I really don't want to get him a pet w/o him agreeing to it... KWIM??

[nvnvgirl]

Originally Posted by good_gurl63901

he thinks its weird that i call them my furbabies too lmao

Wow, I thought my dh was tough! He HATED my parrots (it was mutual), barely tolerated my cats; but once we got Max (our first Yorkie), he was totally IN LOVE! He's not home except on the weekends most of the time, and when he's here, he wants Max with him constantly. He makes sure he's covered up on the bed so the fan won't blow on him, if he takes a nap in the afternoons, he takes Max with him. It's pretty cute (most of the time....he can also go a little overboard sometimes, like when the sprinklers have just gone off and the dogs need to go potty....he'll say "they're going to get all wet"....I'm like, "they don't care if their feet get wet, they have to GO", LOL. I can't imagine anyone not falling in love with these little cutie pie love bugs!

My dh isn't CRAZY about me dressing them, but he actually thinks their clothes are cute. And we hardly go out to dinner anywhere anymore unless we can take the dogs with us, which is why we frequent a lot of places with outdoor seating.

Guess I have to give my dh a LITTLE credit when it's due

Hope your hubby will lighten up a little about your babies.

[pookiebear]

What is up with all these men? How can you not consider a Yorkie, your child? I guess I'm fortunate, well, I know I am. My angel husband loves anything I love. He thinks all their clothes are adorable, doesn't mind the pony tails, and takes them out and playes with them for me. I'm sorry for you guys that don't have cooperative hubbies. Maybe they'll come around soon!

[yorkiegirl2]

Give him time.
Maybe after awhile he'll come around.
Mine was kinda like that when I got my first one 10 years ago.
He didn't want an inside dog ..Period.
He tried to ignore her for about 3 days.
The pup refuse to leave him alone, she played with his feet,
bark at him and would just sit and stare at him.
He couldn't stand it and reached down to pet her...That was all it took.
This girl became his side kick and she just loves him to death.

NOW.. we have several.
He lays in the floor ...they climb all over him, he play peak a boo with them.
If he naps on the couch, there is always 3 or 4 that is napping with him.
His favorite part of the day is when we sit outside and plays with them.

He thinks they are cute when dressed up.
He sits and brushes them.
He takes them for car rides and doesn't mind showing them off.

When I breed a litter, he falls in love with the puppies and hates to let any of them go.
And if he don't like you, you won't get one of the pups either..

We refer to each other as mom and dad.
And they know who we are talking about.
If I say go see daddy.. they take off looking for him.
or he'll say go see mom and they will come looking for me...

It's so nice to be married to a he-man with such a big loving heart..

[isaruss52]

My babies sleep with my husband!!! They used to sleep with me (I can't sleep on the waterbed anymore). When he gets ready for bed, he'll say come on guys it's time for bed and they run right in front of him to get their spots. I guess I am going to have to get one of my new babies sleeping with me. I'm sorry your husband feels this way, mine thankfully is wonderful with them & loves them.

[wookie]

Your DH does sound irritating to me and I do hope he comes around. It might take awhile. How long has he been this way?

As for my story, my hubby had never had a dog, his family had never had a dog and also views it as the dog is "owned" by the people. Then one day we went jogging and we came to this dog park and saw a little cute yorkie jumping up and down a bench kissing its mommy. I told my hubby I want one of those! He totally said NO!

Like I'm going to listen to him.

Then I went on a crusade looking for a yorkie, I found my Wookie. Went to the breeder without DH, then came home and told him I'm getting Wookie. No matter how much he kicked and screamed I didn't care, I was in love. So he relentlessly went with me to pick Wookie up. In the car ride home, I was already training Wookie, "I'm Mommy and that's Daddy" hubby heard me say that and said "no, I'm not daddy, I don't want to be attached". Well I said that's too bad. I told him that this dog is going to be part of our life, he will live with us, sleep with us, we will feed him, clean him, shelter him, and he will be part of our family (we have no kids), he will be like a kid to us. He didn't say anything else during the car ride home. That was in 2005.

Now, he can't sleep without Wookie between us. He's constantly looking for Wookie when he goes to bed. Wookie showed him loyalty, compassion, understanding, and love. While he was going to school and would come home late, Wookie would stay out in the living room to wait for him no matter what. When he's in the computer doing some programming, Wookie would wait for him and just stay with him all night if he had too. DH saw this and I made him understand. I made his whole family understand. We can't leave the dogs in the house, if we are going to his parents house, we bring all of them with us. His parents saw how much I love my dogs, the way I talk with them and take care of them. Now everyone has turned a 360 when it came to dogs. Now when we go to his parents house, his parents are always looking for our dogs. His parents even gave them money last Christmas, each one had a "Christmas envelope in their tree with each of their names on it".

Wookie changed our lives for the better, we get along better, DH even pointed out the other day that our dogs are teaching us to be better parents. When we argue, all our dogs looks so sad and always wants to hug us, perhaps to stop. They teach us to be better people so I do hope your DH can understand this too.

[wookie]

Originally Posted by isaruss52

My babies sleep with my husband!!! They used to sleep with me (I can't sleep on the waterbed anymore). When he gets ready for bed, he'll say come on guys it's time for bed and they run right in front of him to get their spots. I guess I am going to have to get one of my new babies sleeping with me. I'm sorry your husband feels this way, mine thankfully is wonderful with them & loves them.

I totally understand your situation. My DH took Wookie and Naboo (our second) so when Naboo got preggie I was able to keep Squeekie and Squeekie is all mines!!!

[good_gurl63901]

Originally Posted by yorkiegirl2

Give him time.
Maybe after awhile he'll come around.
Mine was kinda like that when I got my first one 10 years ago.
He didn't want an inside dog ..Period.
He tried to ignore her for about 3 days.
The pup refuse to leave him alone, she played with his feet,
bark at him and would just sit and stare at him.
He couldn't stand it and reached down to pet her...That was all it took.
This girl became his side kick and she just loves him to death.

NOW.. we have several.
He lays in the floor ...they climb all over him, he play peak a boo with them.
If he naps on the couch, there is always 3 or 4 that is napping with him.
His favorite part of the day is when we sit outside and plays with them.

He thinks they are cute when dressed up.
He sits and brushes them.
He takes them for car rides and doesn't mind showing them off.

When I breed a litter, he falls in love with the puppies and hates to let any of them go.
And if he don't like you, you won't get one of the pups either..

We refer to each other as mom and dad.
And they know who we are talking about.
If I say go see daddy.. they take off looking for him.
or he'll say go see mom and they will come looking for me...

It's so nice to be married to a he-man with such a big loving heart..

hmm you live here near me.. you should let your DH hang out w/my dh lol maybe golf?? lol teach him how to let his soft side show lol... I want to get a girl (remember me on your next litter lol) and i plan on dressing her up and babying her lol he will just roll his eyes lol... I do want to make sure that everyone knows he is NOT mean to my dogs or he would be out on his hiney!!

[good_gurl63901]

Originally Posted by wookie

Your DH does sound irritating to me and I do hope he comes around. It might take awhile. How long has he been this way?

As for my story, my hubby had never had a dog, his family had never had a dog and also views it as the dog is "owned" by the people. Then one day we went jogging and we came to this dog park and saw a little cute yorkie jumping up and down a bench kissing its mommy. I told my hubby I want one of those! He totally said NO!

Like I'm going to listen to him.

Then I went on a crusade looking for a yorkie, I found my Wookie. Went to the breeder without DH, then came home and told him I'm getting Wookie. No matter how much he kicked and screamed I didn't care, I was in love. So he relentlessly went with me to pick Wookie up. In the car ride home, I was already training Wookie, "I'm Mommy and that's Daddy" hubby heard me say that and said "no, I'm not daddy, I don't want to be attached". Well I said that's too bad. I told him that this dog is going to be part of our life, he will live with us, sleep with us, we will feed him, clean him, shelter him, and he will be part of our family (we have no kids), he will be like a kid to us. He didn't say anything else during the car ride home. That was in 2005.

Now, he can't sleep without Wookie between us. He's constantly looking for Wookie when he goes to bed. Wookie showed him loyalty, compassion, understanding, and love. While he was going to school and would come home late, Wookie would stay out in the living room to wait for him no matter what. When he's in the computer doing some programming, Wookie would wait for him and just stay with him all night if he had too. DH saw this and I made him understand. I made his whole family understand. We can't leave the dogs in the house, if we are going to his parents house, we bring all of them with us. His parents saw how much I love my dogs, the way I talk with them and take care of them. Now everyone has turned a 360 when it came to dogs. Now when we go to his parents house, his parents are always looking for our dogs. His parents even gave them money last Christmas, each one had a "Christmas envelope in their tree with each of their names on it".

Wookie changed our lives for the better, we get along better, DH even pointed out the other day that our dogs are teaching us to be better parents. When we argue, all our dogs looks so sad and always wants to hug us, perhaps to stop. They teach us to be better people so I do hope your DH can understand this too.

thats how my family is!! I want to take my babies to family outtings and such he thinks i am NUTS!! maye he will come around... he is a good man, and he plays with them... wrestling and such... but he doesn't LOVE them like I do...