Jealousy becoming a HUGE problem...

[Sky Fox]

Hey Everyone,

I am having a problem with my girl.

JEALOUSY to the 10th power.

She will NOT tolerate me interacting with my bird whom I love very much. This started out of the blue - from no where recently.

She barks and gets very worked up. Jumping and acting like she has no raising at all! I need to know how to handle this? I have been doing the 'ignore her and she'll stop' thing. Am I on the right track?

She is also demonstrating this recently with people. If my husband and I are loving - she has to be a part of it or all hells going to break loose. Basically - we have ruined her. She is so spoiled.

We loved her too much? Too often? She is never alone. She doesnt even have to walk for herself. It really is pretty insane as I sit here and think about it.

So - this is stage one of showing the signs of being a 'bad girl'. INSISTING EVERYTHING HAVE TO DO WITH HER.

Is this something I created?

Or is this a breed quality?

What can I do to help her in not being so needy with attention. She gets TOO MUCH if anything. Not too little - thus we are here. She isnt a baby so where did this 'new attitude' come from? I would equate her age and actions to that of a teenager... wanting to be loved and held but just doesnt know when or how much.

I havent lost my place as pack leader at least. I can make those ears go back in a SECOND! (her ears go back and she looks all guilty when caught doing something - too cute)

We really dont mind her being so pushy HOWEVER I want her to be a good girl. This is my first doggie ever (not counting rescues) - much less Yorkie so I just want to see if we are on track - meaning they are all a bit spoiled and pushy for attention - regardless of how much they already receive?

[Nancy1999]

How old is she? I think you may be over-thinking this, I do not believe your little girl is jealous of the bird, Joey reacts the same way when he sees birds. I know he's not jealous of them. Yorkies do demand lots of attention, but that's one of the reason's people love them. Do you ever crate her for when you want "alone" time? Maybe you could start doing this. It usually works best if she's tired out from a walk.

[Sky Fox]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

How old is she? I think you may be over-thinking this, I do not believe your little girl is jealous of the bird, Joey reacts the same way when he sees birds. I know he's not jealous of them. Yorkies do demand lots of attention, but that's one of the reason's people love them. Do you ever crate her for when you want "alone" time? Maybe you could start doing this. It usually works best if she's tired out from a walk.

Yes - actually I have started putting her in her crate more often lately because she will NOT LET UP! She seems to have forgotten how to entertain herself. Her bed (crate) is right beside me so she can still see me.

She doesnt seem to mind going in there. She actually seems to like it. So - think I should put her up more often huh? At least an Hr or so a day Im thinking?

When she comes out - she is then very relaxed and cuddly. Not so darned worked up.

Thank you so much!

[SLewis024]

im having very similar problems! i was going to post a new thing about it but you already covered almost everything i needed help with. same situation except london is jealous of everything i touch even my cellphone! and theres a new baby in the house (not mine) and she gets VERY jealous when i pick him up or talk to him. how do i introduce them? i dont imagine london ever hurting the baby but sometimes she plays rough and might get him on accident.

anddd.... she barks at EVERYTHING now. trees, signs, doors, when people walk in, go out, when i leave her in her crate, when i take her out. i thought it might be anxiety so i tried the rescue remedy, so far no luck. any help would be great it seems as though ive tried everything. shes a bit of a brat, haha. but i wouldnt trade her for anything!

[Sky Fox]

Originally Posted by SLewis024

im having very similar problems! i was going to post a new thing about it but you already covered almost everything i needed help with. same situation except london is jealous of everything i touch even my cellphone!

EXACTLY!!! Its like Im in a constant battle with her over whatever I have in my hands. grrr - must admit - starting to ANNOY ME!

[mscat]

Is her in your avater? If so, then it is no wonder that she's spoiled ! Look at that face, she's adorable. I think she just wants to be the center of attention at ALL times. My baby is like this too. Sometimes, she does try to show dominace though, and i have to quickly correct her. She has to learn her place in the pack. I think she is trying to be number one in the family.

[YorkieMother]

What is being seen by getting between you and your hubby is splitting behavior.
She talking dog in the very correct manner and is not aware as yet that your hugging and carrying on is perfectly ok for humans.
Dogs do not play in this manner it sen to be rude and she in her brain is trying to stop what she sees as a start of what a fight in the making.

I stay calm and get her working on something other then split up like sits or down or stay or go settle.
With the bird I think she also reading things in prefect dog language and is not aware she reading things wrong to us. Put her to work.

JL

[Sky Fox]

Originally Posted by YorkieMother

What is being seen by getting between you and your hubby is splitting behavior.
She talking dog in the very correct manner and is not aware as yet that your hugging and carrying on is perfectly ok for humans.
Dogs do not play in this manner it sen to be rude and she in her brain is trying to stop what she sees as a start of what a fight in the making.

I stay calm and get her working on something other then split up like sits or down or stay or go settle.
With the bird I think she also reading things in prefect dog language and is not aware she reading things wrong to us. Put her to work.

JL

Thanks! This makes a lot of sense! I will try this having what you said in mind. Splitting - GREAT term for whats going on!

[YorkieMother]

Originally Posted by Sky Fox

Thanks! This makes a lot of sense! I will try this having what you said in mind. Splitting - GREAT term for whats going on!

You are welcome

You can put the behavior on cue as well. Once on cue unless you ask she should not do it.

I work aggression so having a dog go slipt on cue be a wonderful thing.

Remember it s great thing she got the skills to talk dog she just needs help to modify them.

JL

[yorkieusa]

Kacee never paid a lot of attention to birds until she saw a neighbor's bird dog chasing them and ever since then she chases them out of her yard. Yorkies are very territorial, so I don't think anything of it. I doubt they are going to look at a bird, pet or not, as they do other likely animals around the house like other dogs and cats. I would say this is normal behavior.