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Tae1107 · 07-31-2008, 10:31 AM

My EX-boyfriend also bought (my oldest) Yorkie as a B-day present and I contrubuted $200 towards him...and I ended up naming him Tae ...

My Boyfriend' name was Shawn Te' (pronunced tay) so I named Tae (pronunced tay) after him...and all his friends would tease him about it...and I loved it! He did not really want me to name Tae that but he lived with it...

of course now when people ask me how I got his name....well.... luckily I registered him as caffe latte' and said tae was for short :-)

I would try and come to an agreement on a name....but of course with your influence

Lou · 07-31-2008, 10:45 AM

The first time he sees your fur baby in clothes his heart will melt and that will be it. As far as getting to name the little thing.....tell him he can name the half he paid for. You can figure out which end of the dog is the half I'm talking about. LOL

Patti · 07-31-2008, 02:42 PM

I have always let my husband pick out the names. I figure he will be more accepting and it always works. We do throw out names and he ends of picking the names. He named Zorro, Gracie, Maya, Dixie and Roxie. He paid for Pixie and Roxie. Pixie was 13 months when we got her and already named so we didn't change it. Then when we got Dixie (RIP) he wanted to have a Pixie and Dixie after the cartoons, then when Dixie passed on after such a short time and the breeder gave us another puppy he named her Roxie. So i really don't think it's that big of a deal. As long as I was able to get my babies I really didn't care about names. And he didn't pick bad names either. So as long as you are getting you baby I would let him name it and I gurantee he will love the little guy.

4doggiemama · 07-31-2008, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by KimberlySRN

I had the same situation with a previous boyfriends...and well he isn't around anymore. I am a very strong person and for a person to tell me I can't...well it doesn't work well with me. I am a person that believes in treating others as you would like to be treated, and I would never TELL someone what they can do. Relationships are give and take, but both should be deciding this not one. If he is serious about not letting you, this situation may be the least of your problems. But again only you know him and maybe like said before you just need to have a heart to heart

My boyfriend now is a sweet heart. We have been dating for two years in december and I can seriously say I have never gotten along with someone better. We never fight...we discuss things and figure out what is best for US. Hmmm... only time will tell.

Some very wise, non-confrontational answers. Others besides this one.

Joanne

Lexie Blue · 07-31-2008, 03:02 PM

I had a lot of laughs reading this thread. Really, the name is not going to matter because you'll have so many nicknames. And go ahead and LET-- LOL -- him name your baby because you'll be getting another because he's taken over and you can name that one. It's all about compromise. ENJOY YOUR FURBABY!

nicksgf · 08-01-2008, 04:59 AM

Why does one of you or the other have to choose the name?
My bf and I picked out Scooter's name together. We made a list of a bunch of names that we both liked, then put them in order from favourite - least favourite. Well it turned out Scooter was at the top of both our lists!
You guys should be able to find a name you both like. You should try to choose it together so that neither of you are upset with the result!

Mom to Hot Rod · 08-01-2008, 05:25 AM

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Originally Posted by 4doggiemama

My dh NEVER tells me what to do. We discuss things. Things like that only get worse if you tie the knot. My dd has learned the hard way and has finally started connecting with young men who respect her wishes and decisions. Good luck in the future, my dear. Joanne

Sounds as though you bf has some kinds of control issues. things in a relationship should be a give and take, and not one party should give or take more over the other. I also agree that a present with strings is not a present. If this is your birthday present, then it is yours...no strings, if's and's or but's about it. As far as naming, like someone also said, list out the names that both of you come up with and pick one that you both agree on. My hubby seems to come up with most of the names for our babies and things. Hot Rod, our boat and businesses.

No one person should dictate to another.

Mom to Hot Rod · 08-01-2008, 05:28 AM

Oh, and by the way....

Erinmay · 08-01-2008, 05:56 AM

Ha! Once you bf sees the little one he'll fall in love - you CANNOT look at the little teddy-bear face of a yorkie puppy and not melt

My husband said no to clothes too - like he has any say in the matter! She's my girl 100% - I feed her, clean up after her, bathe her, take her to doggie-day care, and foot the bill for all vet visits.

maxmom · 08-01-2008, 05:58 AM

Oh men, men...men....I don't want to say they are all the same, but almost.....just let your BF, pay for the dog, choose the name, you are going to call him however you like anyways , and as far as the dressing him up.., winter is coming, your baby NEEDS to be warm,(you are such a good mom, you can't just let your baby freeze to death, can't you? LOL) by the time winter is over, your BF won't even remember what your baby looked like without clothes.
He will be happy because he got to name the dog, you'll be happy because you got your present,you got to call your baby what you want, got to dressed him up,and most of all, because you made your BF happy thinking you do what he wants

YorkieRose · 08-01-2008, 06:07 AM

This is not a gift...you are paying half..what kind if gift is that??? You can't naem it or dress it,...so it is his gift!!
Save and buy your own dog...and get a new BF to boot!LOL LOL

maxmom · 08-01-2008, 06:17 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

This is not a gift...you are paying half..what kind if gift is that??? You can't naem it or dress it,...so it is his gift!!
Save and buy your own dog...and get a new BF to boot!LOL LOL

Yeap, that is another option LOL

Yorkieforme · 08-01-2008, 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by ash0248

I would let him pay for his part however he would have no say in how I cared for him. Make sure when you register him you put the baby in your name ONLY and then you can put the name you want on the papers. Men sometimes, they think they have to control everything.

I agree!!

Also with your name on the registration papers -

that makes YOU the owner and that way if the relationship ends and there ends up being a "custody" issue - you have documents stating that you are the owner - happends all the time!

Be smart - protect yourself and sweetie.....the words "let you" should never come out of a guys mouth! PERIOD!

gypsyqueen · 08-01-2008, 07:21 AM

sing it sista a gift is just that a gift it should have no strings dont let him start that cr%$ you will end up with a monster

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

This is not a gift...you are paying half..what kind if gift is that??? You can't naem it or dress it,...so it is his gift!!
Save and buy your own dog...and get a new BF to boot!LOL LOL

VickiG · 08-01-2008, 07:57 AM

Peanut was my birthday gift to myself for my 40th birthday. I wanted to make sure I got what I wanted. My husband didn't know anything about him until a week before his arrival. I always surprise him with a new pet, but I happen to catch him in a really good mood and told him about Peanut. We just surprised him a couple of weeks ago with a new kitten so we are at our limit now with 2 dogs, 2 cats and 2 birds. I did promise no more animals the ark is full. Good luck with you new baby.

07-31-2008, 10:31 AM	#31
Tae1107 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MA Posts: 1,252	My EX-boyfriend also bought (my oldest) Yorkie as a B-day present and I contrubuted $200 towards him...and I ended up naming him Tae ... My Boyfriend' name was Shawn Te' (pronunced tay) so I named Tae (pronunced tay) after him...and all his friends would tease him about it...and I loved it! He did not really want me to name Tae that but he lived with it... of course now when people ask me how I got his name....well.... luckily I registered him as caffe latte' and said tae was for short :-) I would try and come to an agreement on a name....but of course with your influence __________________ Kerrianne

07-31-2008, 10:45 AM	#32
Lou Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: A little town south of Chicago Posts: 4,525	The first time he sees your fur baby in clothes his heart will melt and that will be it. As far as getting to name the little thing.....tell him he can name the half he paid for. You can figure out which end of the dog is the half I'm talking about. LOL __________________ http://www.its-a-yorkie-thing.com Gracie Skeeter Adie Tyler

07-31-2008, 02:42 PM	#33
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	I have always let my husband pick out the names. I figure he will be more accepting and it always works. We do throw out names and he ends of picking the names. He named Zorro, Gracie, Maya, Dixie and Roxie. He paid for Pixie and Roxie. Pixie was 13 months when we got her and already named so we didn't change it. Then when we got Dixie (RIP) he wanted to have a Pixie and Dixie after the cartoons, then when Dixie passed on after such a short time and the breeder gave us another puppy he named her Roxie. So i really don't think it's that big of a deal. As long as I was able to get my babies I really didn't care about names. And he didn't pick bad names either. So as long as you are getting you baby I would let him name it and I gurantee he will love the little guy. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

07-31-2008, 03:02 PM	#35
Lexie Blue MY 3...COMPLETE ME! Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: California Posts: 587	I had a lot of laughs reading this thread. Really, the name is not going to matter because you'll have so many nicknames. And go ahead and LET-- LOL -- him name your baby because you'll be getting another because he's taken over and you can name that one. It's all about compromise. ENJOY YOUR FURBABY! __________________ SYLVIA'sLEXIE BLUE MOLLY JOGLORY "B"

08-01-2008, 04:59 AM	#36
nicksgf Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Posts: 158	Why does one of you or the other have to choose the name? My bf and I picked out Scooter's name together. We made a list of a bunch of names that we both liked, then put them in order from favourite - least favourite. Well it turned out Scooter was at the top of both our lists! You guys should be able to find a name you both like. You should try to choose it together so that neither of you are upset with the result! __________________ Sarah and Scooter

08-01-2008, 05:28 AM	#38
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08-01-2008, 05:56 AM	#39
Erinmay Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Franklin, MA Posts: 85	Ha! Once you bf sees the little one he'll fall in love - you CANNOT look at the little teddy-bear face of a yorkie puppy and not melt My husband said no to clothes too - like he has any say in the matter! She's my girl 100% - I feed her, clean up after her, bathe her, take her to doggie-day care, and foot the bill for all vet visits. __________________ Erinmay - proud mom to Maggie Mae

08-01-2008, 05:58 AM	#40
maxmom Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: South Florida Posts: 2,307 Blog Entries: 1	Oh men, men...men....I don't want to say they are all the same, but almost.....just let your BF, pay for the dog, choose the name, you are going to call him however you like anyways , and as far as the dressing him up.., winter is coming, your baby NEEDS to be warm,(you are such a good mom, you can't just let your baby freeze to death, can't you? LOL) by the time winter is over, your BF won't even remember what your baby looked like without clothes. He will be happy because he got to name the dog, you'll be happy because you got your present,you got to call your baby what you want, got to dressed him up,and most of all, because you made your BF happy thinking you do what he wants __________________ maxmom My belongs to Max and Sophie Mei Last edited by maxmom; 08-01-2008 at 06:00 AM.

08-01-2008, 06:07 AM	#41
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	problem This is not a gift...you are paying half..what kind if gift is that??? You can't naem it or dress it,...so it is his gift!! Save and buy your own dog...and get a new BF to boot!LOL LOL

08-01-2008, 07:57 AM	#45
VickiG YT Addict Join Date: May 2006 Location: Sewell, NJ Posts: 373	Peanut was my birthday gift to myself for my 40th birthday. I wanted to make sure I got what I wanted. My husband didn't know anything about him until a week before his arrival. I always surprise him with a new pet, but I happen to catch him in a really good mood and told him about Peanut. We just surprised him a couple of weeks ago with a new kitten so we are at our limit now with 2 dogs, 2 cats and 2 birds. I did promise no more animals the ark is full. Good luck with you new baby.