Do you think this is fair?

[Wigfur]

Originally Posted by RebelBelle

Tell him a gift with strings attached isn't really a gift...

Bingo

[chattiesmom]

Work hard and repay in full the amount of $$ that the bf has contributed to the yorkie fund and remove the stipulations or you will have to accept this gift with strings attached. It sounds like he is either joking and has a mean sense of humor or he has a control issue. And neither is a good thing in a long term relationship.

[chattiesmom]

Just out of curiosity, did you "let" the bf get this very expensive sports car or did he just surprise you with his gift to himself. The fact that he sold the car to accomodate a future family is completely beside the point. And the fact that YOUR wants and needs relied upon him selling the car makes it very clear that his wants and needs are more important than yours. Chances are, this will not change after marriage and children come along.

[Ponyup]

Do you live together? I agree with most everyone about his stipulations, but maybe we're over-reacting. See if he actually has names for the dog picked out. My hubby really wanted to name our dog after a super hero. He didn't tell me this until after I suggested Logan; he was totally okay with Logan because it's the human name of wolverine.

Some men get this thing in there head about little dogs. That's you're gonna spend oodles of money buying it more outfits then they have & give it a silly foo-foo name. It sounds like he might be making things worse in his mind then they actually are. Maybe you should talk to him & let him know what names you are thinking of. And my hubby is pretty much against clothes, but he lets me dress my boy as long as they are manly/athletic clothes. Just talk to you boyfriend & hopefully you two can come to a compromise.

[ChicoRico]

I say let him think what he wants about him naming the puppy but AFTER you get him just keep calling the puppy the name that you've chosen. Since you'll be the one taking care of your puppy, the name should stick. I'm sure your boyfriend will fall in love with your little one once you get him. My husband said if I got a little dog that he wouldn't walk him (the only dog my husband said he was walking would be a Bulldog!) After we got our puppy he fell in love with him too and now he argues about who the dog loves more!!!! I dress my dog, put his hair in a top knot, and guess who walks him now!!!! It'll all work out I'm sure. Have fun with your new puppy.

[RachelGenson]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

Do you live together? I agree with most everyone about his stipulations, but maybe we're over-reacting. See if he actually has names for the dog picked out. My hubby really wanted to name our dog after a super hero. He didn't tell me this until after I suggested Logan; he was totally okay with Logan because it's the human name of wolverine.

Some men get this thing in there head about little dogs. That's you're gonna spend oodles of money buying it more outfits then they have & give it a silly foo-foo name. It sounds like he might be making things worse in his mind then they actually are. Maybe you should talk to him & let him know what names you are thinking of. And my hubby is pretty much against clothes, but he lets me dress my boy as long as they are manly/athletic clothes. Just talk to you boyfriend & hopefully you two can come to a compromise.

You know this sounds like the case! I think that he is afraid that I will name the puppy, brownie or cupcake or something. He suggested the name Steel, or Brolick, lol...So I think that he just dosent want it too have a "sissy" name, so he calls it. And as far as the whole dressing up thing goes, he will just have to deal with it. I think when we dig deep into the issue, he thinks that I am going to fall so deeply in love with the puppy and forget about him!! But I tell him that he is my one true love and not too worry. Oh and yes we do live together. And he has already brought up the whole walking the little dog thing, and everytime I have to point out all of the men in our complex who are walking their little s**t-zu's and yorkies that are dressed up

[BamaFan121s]

Originally Posted by nicksgf

Tell him that since your "letting" him go out with you he's not allowed to tell you what to do!

That would pretty much be my advice too...
Sorry, I'm just not one to be "told" what I can do in that manner.

And no, it's not fair. Your dog, should be your call.

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by RachelGenson

You know this sounds like the case! I think that he is afraid that I will name the puppy, brownie or cupcake or something. He suggested the name Steel, or Brolick, lol...So I think that he just dosent want it too have a "sissy" name, so he calls it. And as far as the whole dressing up thing goes, he will just have to deal with it. I think when we dig deep into the issue, he thinks that I am going to fall so deeply in love with the puppy and forget about him!! But I tell him that he is my one true love and not too worry. Oh and yes we do live together. And he has already brought up the whole walking the little dog thing, and everytime I have to point out all of the men in our complex who are walking their little s**t-zu's and yorkies that are dressed up

I will admit this. My husband walks the dog most of the time, but refuses to hold the leash when I have a shirt on him. I think that's a little funny. And ask anyone here, your boyfriend may fall so in love with the puppy that he forgets about you. Their personalities are so amazing. They truely are big dogs in little bodies. Your BF will be so excited when your puppy learns & loves to play catch, fetch, & frisbee; that you may here him brag about your awesome dog to all his manly buddies.

[yorkieisme]

Originally Posted by RachelGenson

You know this sounds like the case! I think that he is afraid that I will name the puppy, brownie or cupcake or something. He suggested the name Steel, or Brolick, lol...So I think that he just dosent want it too have a "sissy" name, so he calls it. And as far as the whole dressing up thing goes, he will just have to deal with it. I think when we dig deep into the issue, he thinks that I am going to fall so deeply in love with the puppy and forget about him!! But I tell him that he is my one true love and not too worry. Oh and yes we do live together. And he has already brought up the whole walking the little dog thing, and everytime I have to point out all of the men in our complex who are walking their little s**t-zu's and yorkies that are dressed up

Well can you wonder what he will feel like once the "human kids" come along. I have to say my kids are my life and I could and would forget about my husband at times for my human kids, they depend on me or us to provide for them. They didn't ask to be born and raised by us so I kind of see it as the same way with a puppy. Good Luck and there is a lady on here that sales wonderful boy clothes I can't wait to buy a few for my baby, if I ever find one

[gypsyqueen]

Hell No my gift my dog my name my way tell bf is this my birthday gift or what a gift does not come with strings.....

Originally Posted by RachelGenson

So, I am getting my very first yorkie baby next week, the puppy will actually be my birthday present which is on Wednesday the 6th and that is the day I am getting him. Well the deal was that my boyfriend paid half of the puppy and I paid the other half, which is making it my birthday present from him. BUT he said that since he is "letting" me get the dog that he gets to name him and I cant dress him up in any clothes whatsoever!!! That really isnt a problem, but I am the one that is going to be taking care of him, so I think that I should be able to do what I choose....Do you think this is fair. I mean it is MY birthday present......

[chachi]

If hes controlling when it comes to money now it will be much worse if you get married. I would work to pay for the dog yourself then you can do as you please

[J_is_my_initial]

With the name thing I think it is that he is worried he will be saying something like "here cupcake" or "here princess". When we recently got our chi, I bought her with my own savings (hubby and I each have our own for extras) for Jim's bday. The deal was we could get another puppy when he got another motorcycle. He did so we did. He said he was naming her. He had wanted a boy to be named Thunder but fell in love with the girl. I said he could pick any name as long as it would not embarrass me at the vet's. He is the one who picked Cocoa Puff and calls her Puff. The big softie!

[HanksMom]

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Originally Posted by RebelBelle

Tell him a gift with strings attached isn't really a gift...

I totally agree!

[KimberlySRN]

I had the same situation with a previous boyfriends...and well he isn't around anymore. I am a very strong person and for a person to tell me I can't...well it doesn't work well with me. I am a person that believes in treating others as you would like to be treated, and I would never TELL someone what they can do. Relationships are give and take, but both should be deciding this not one. If he is serious about not letting you, this situation may be the least of your problems. But again only you know him and maybe like said before you just need to have a heart to heart

My boyfriend now is a sweet heart. We have been dating for two years in december and I can seriously say I have never gotten along with someone better. We never fight...we discuss things and figure out what is best for US. Hmmm... only time will tell.

[Jody Renfroe]

Just a word about "letting" you dress your new baby. My hubby thought I was insane when I started buying clothes for Scooter! Well, wouldn't you know it! Now, when we go out, I catch him looking through the "masculine" doggy clothes and buying them for him!! lol tears