What Do I Do? LeiLani Passed Monday, Do I get a 5 Yr old Girl or Baby Boy?

[IluvLucy]

Originally Posted by leipshen

First, let me say that my heart goes out to you. There is just something so special about Yorkies that you do actually fall in love with the very idea of owning one. Once you know that a baby is waiting for you, you fall in love with the puppy before you ever even see it.

I am so sorry for your loss.

As for your the confusion you are experiencing...

i realize that you have found a breeder whom you greatly respect and trust. It is understandable that you want to get your baby from someone with these all important qualities. I would, however, consider the possibility of asking your breeder (friend) if she might be willing to refer you to another breeder that she knows and also trusts. If she is a very reputable breeder chances are that she knows of other equally as trustworthy breeders. I am sure she feels great compassion, as well , great appreciation for your loyal patience. This is simething you might think about.

As for your strong desire for a little girl...I also used to feel exactly like yourself. Throughout my entire life I have always owned female dogs. I simply never even considered owning a male. Well...that was until I owned my first Yorkie!

I came to being "Armani's" mom as a matter of "CIRCUMSTANCES." My daughter had bought this absolutely adorable tiny Yorkie. She had taken a long time finding just the right one. He was extrememy tiny. He was 14 wks when she brought him home. He weighed under a pound. He was cheeky, playful, loving and oh so brave. Still, I thought to myself that I would have gotten a female, ( I could not have given any explicite reason for this). After only one week of being around this delightful little spitit, and being constantly made to laugh and smile at this this "little man's" adorable personality, I must have fallen deeply in love with him. I guess I didn't realize just how very attached I had become (remember he belonged to my daughter), until the second week that he lived with us.

My daughter worked and "Armani" was home with me. I noticed that he seemed listless. He didn'[t want to eat. At the time I knew nothing of Hypoglycemia. After sitting with him for approx 1 hour, I became extremely frightened . I knew in my heart that this puppy was in danger. It was evening so I rushed hin to the emergency vet. My daughter met me there. They took little "Armani" in, not letting us go back with him. The minute he was out of my sight, I completely went to pieces. The vet came out to say he was very sick. His blood sugar had dropped dramatically. I sobbed. I could not picture going home and living another day without that happy faced little soul. They told us we should go home, they would keep us informed. My daughter left. I could not go home. I could not go into the house without him. I stayed for 4 more hours, Each hour the vet would give me a report. By the fourth hour the vet told me that he had come around very well. He was going to be fine.

I cried so hard from happiness and thanked Jesus out loud, over and over. The office girls said" "Wow"!, "You really love that little guy"! I then realized just how much I adored him. Once home he was back to his bouncy, happy, loving self.

Even with the best of care, and my paying attention to every detail I had learned, "Armani" experienced 3 more episodes like the first one. I had learned a great deal and I sat up with him, and attended to him minute by minute. Thank God, he came through each time. After he reached 6 months he never again had an episode of hypoglycemia.

Throughout this six months, I guess my daughter had been observing this great bond which had developed between this precious little boy Yorkie and myself. She came to me one day and told me that she had put a deposit on a little female Pom puppy. When I looked at her with question she said "Mom" , I believe that God decided who was going to be "Armani"s mommy before I even bought him." "I was only meant to be the one to bring him home to you, because we both know that if you had been the one out looking for a puppy...you would have bought the wrong one...A Female"!

I hugged her, then she started telling me about her new baby girl.

Ya know..I couldn't help thinking..."If it were me..I would have gotten a BOY!!

Have great faith that God feels and understands the pain and confusion you are now experiencing. Allow yourself to be comforted with this knowledge.Then believe this truth...We will always hunger for the reasons why...God knows us better than we know ourselves, only He knows Why, however, if you are willing to "LET GO and LET HIM, you will immediately realize that you don't have to make any decision at all right now. Keeping your heart and mind open..to being led by these circumstances..go to see, whenever an opportunity is presented to you...KNOWING that He is leading you right to the special Yorkie that He has intended for you. At the moment this occurs, you will not feel confused or the need to decide...You Will Know!

You have so much to look forward to!!!!

God Bless

I think your's is the most inspiring story I've ever read. Thank you so much for sharing it.

[crystalsmom]

It's Monday and we haven't heard anything. I have a story and really don't want to go into it until we see what she decided. You were all so helpful and I too feel YT is filled with the kindest people in the world.

[Grayson's mom]

we had discussed a yorkie while on fall vacation, Brad and I decided on a girl dead set that's what we wanted. Well Grayson came over to us and we knew he was coming back with us. He may not have been what we wanted but he was perfect and I don't ever wish he had been a girl. I love him like I've never loved a little animal before, he is his mommys baby that's for sure

Good luck in your decision. I say go meet this fellow and just see if he steals your heart. Grayson stole mine

[mypreciouspups]

Wow that was a story to bring a person to tears..all I want to say is I agree with the others.. I took in my first three as adults and omg.. we loved them so much.. and still miss them.. for some reason they all seemed to appreciate us far more the when we get a puppy and just spoil them.. they respected us and would do far more for us to please us.. not sure why but they did...especially none were trained.. some breeders do not train there dogs..
I have not had a dog or a yorkie.. so we learned and we learned to tain well.. it was different then training babies.... we learn to do it different..
I know this female really needs a home..and I am just sharing our older dogs..keeping time here.
Well we finally had our first puppy and omg...I had my first litter of three.. and lost two to cleft pallet.. so what was left was one boy..I so wanted to keep a girl..but we had this little guy sleeping with us at 4 weeks old.. he would cry so much being left alone at night.. we got him a tiny harness and hook him into it.. and hooked him onto the headboard of our bed.. and other then him making a mess in the bed.. we fell in love.. he was the best dog I had.. he was my baby, my life and when I look back at my disappointment that I had no girl.. it makes me sad.. for I lost him at 5 years old when my vet gave him the wrong shot and killed him..
I am not sure what your thoughts are now or what you have decided on.. but maybe this breeder will give you the 5 year old at a greatly reduced price since she is this age. and much harder to find a home for.. get the boy.. and have two.. you might want to ask her if you can try this out.. but maybe with her and a baby.. things will be ok.. she would train baby to let her be top dog and yet he would fit in.. we all have top dogs.. but that does not mean we cannot have more then one.. I might add I am the top dog.. but they think there is a top dog also..LOL
something else for you to think of.. one is sometimes lonely.. then as the boy is older and the female is not wanting to play you can get your girl then.. to carry on with the baby always used to having a sister or brother at home..

Anyway thanks for sharing your story.. you will know within your own heart.in fact you may end up with breeding having what you want/need from reading this thread and you just might find your baby...good luck.. and please keep us updated on your decision...big hugs to you...anne.

[2Parises]

This post makes me so sad. I am so sorry that the baby girl you've been waiting for didn't come home to you.

I have made a bit of a choice about the yorkies that come into our family that they be the ones who need a second chance. It seems that 5 year old girl needs the stability of a loving caring family...a real second chance at what life is suppose to be as a yorkie.

2 of our girls came to us through unusual circumstances though not through "rescues" and our lives have never been more fulfilled than knowing they will never have to go to "another" forever home.

I am sure you will make the right decision for you. We'll be keeping you in our thoughts.

~Lorene

[chachi]

The first girl pup that I was waiting on died also. My breeder Had another female and we adopted her. I think you should wait for you breeder to have a female pup. I knowhow much I wanted a female and I wouldnt have been satisfied with a male either. I also think it is fun going through the puppy stage and thats why I wouldnt adopt the adult female. Best of luck

[crystalsmom]

I hope you're ok and just busy since you got back. You may have decided to go with neither and I'm sure that would be hard also.

When you have time, let us know. Hugs, Joan

[blueeyes_jd]

Originally Posted by crystalsmom

I hope you're ok and just busy since you got back. You may have decided to go with neither and I'm sure that would be hard also.

When you have time, let us know. Hugs, Joan

ditto!!! hugs!!!

[Kate]

I just found this post, and am wondering what you decided.

All Yorkies are adorable, fiesty, etc.

As info., my first and only Yorkie, so far, (they are addictive) was two years old when I purchased her. The breeder retired her after having two litters, because she just about died with the second litter. Only two puppies survived the second litter.

My intention was to purchase a puppy, but when the breeder emailed me and said she had an adult for purchase, I saw her pic and thought she was beautiful.

I decided to go and see her, and instantly fell in love with this little bundle which weighs 5.5 lbs., and she is going to be six years young in July.

My Mom said to run to Walmart the night before and get a crate, leish, collar, etc., (as info., please don't use collars - use harnesses), just in case I decided to take her. Mom knew once I saw her it would all be history.

These darlings are so affectionate and you will be hooked instantly.

Who knows, once you see the five-year old Yorkie, maybe you both will have found what you wanted.

I did miss her growing up years, but I did not miss the potty training, ruined carpets, chewing episodes, etc.

Good luck in your search, and do keep up posted.

I am very sorry for your loss.

[Sukoshis Gma]

Here is a new thread by Diana Sophia this morning.......


http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/my-...e-ms-lola.html

[Diana Sophia]

~ just in case I repeat myself in this Thread or left anything out... this is the 3rd time I've type this message tonight and every time I send it, my Modem crashes!!! Uhhgga!

First of all, I'm very sorry... I really thought that I updated this Thread... but after reading all of your wonderful unread replies. I noticed I didn't send all my wonderful YT friends an update. I'm so very sorry!

It has been a very crazy week together! She has only been with us for 9 days and just wait until you hear what she has been through so far! I feel so bad for her.

We went to our Breeders on Sunday, May 25 and the minute we saw Lola we fell in love with her. Then we looked at the cute little 7 week old baby-boys that came from LeiLani's litter and I felt nothing! I felt bad that the only feeling I had was sad ones. I had no feelings for them. I was very surprised... because they were so very cute with their puppy breath and every thing. All I want to do, was get back and see Lola... who was in another room. We visited for 3-4 hours before we got the kennel and gifts we purchased for her, from the car.

She is a 4 year 10 month old female who is a retired show dog. And now she is going to be my new baby. I love her so much already!

We made the long drive back home and stopped at The Petco Store to get a larger harness for her. The only one we had was for a small puppy. She got all kinds new presents and fun stuff while we were there.
Once we got home we introduced her to our other kids. She was so patient with them. She had lived with cats so she didn't care about them at all. It was such a relief. No cat fights.
I brushed her out and got her into her PJ's and then went to brush her teeth. That is when I found out why she wasn't eating very much lately. Her very last mauler was so loose it was hanging from her gums. It was Sunday night and tomorrow was Monday but it was the a three day weekend so the Vets Office was closed. I called first thing Tuesday and spoke with my Vet. She said we should schedule her for her Dental Surgery and Spay at the same time. This was fine for me... because I didn't want to put her under Anesthesia twice. Well, Wednesday's Surgery Schedule was full so we had to go in on Thursday. We went in first thing for an exam and then I had to leave her there. We had only had her for 4 days. I really wanted to wait until she was more comfortable with us but I didn't have a choice. She had to be able to eat.
My Breeder said Lola had only been back home with them for the past 2 weeks and she was not eating well either, ever since she was back. This was why.... her poor mouth was hurting her. I almost didn't see the broken tooth myself... it was in the very... very... back top.

I called the Vet as soon as her Surgery was over and they found 4 teeth that needed to come out. I was so sad!!! She must have been in so much pain!

The Vet said I would be able to pick her up a 4pm and when we got home I just crawled into bed with her while she slept. She was so sad and she was so very drowsy but she also was in so much pain. They gave us pain medications to take home. I think the dose was way to high for her. I started lowering it as I watched her response and we finally came to a happy medium. No pain, and my little girl was not to high!

So finally her pain started to go away as the days went by and the follow Monday came around (4 days after surgery). I had to get the little lazy butt out of bed that day! It was almost 12:30 in the afternoon!! That's when I noticed that her Onesie was not snapped in the middle of her legs. Not to mention there was "9 babies" in the bed that were not there when we went to sleep the night before. So as I removed her Onesie and started to clean and look at her wound... I noticed she had been up all night licking it to death. She was dripping in spit! She had licked off almost all of the glue that was holding her wound closed.
I called the Vets Office and they could see us immediately. When I brought her in the exam room I asked Lola, "Can mommy see the babies belly" when I was showing the Doctor the missing glue, I noticed a bump that I didn't see earlier that morning. It was like a small size marble bump right next to her wound. "Is that a Hernia!" I yelled out to the Doctor. "Yes I think it is!" Let me see. She pushed on it and waited and then said let me take her in the back for a minute. "Oh No! What does this mean? Does she need more surgery?" Well let me take her into the back and glue her tummy back together and see if the bump goes away while she is here. She brought her back and looked her over. Then she took her temp and asked Lola "Can I see the babies belly" Lola flips over as fast as she could to show off her belly... and there it was again. The bump came right back! "OH, NO!"

So this is why the little $hit slept in so late Monday afternoon. She was up playing all night! She was suppose to be resting and taking it easy.
My Doctor looked at her schedule and put her down for tomorrow morning (Wednesday or should I say today). Insomnia Sucks! but I'm glad I have a little snuggle bug sleeping on my lap to keep me company.

So if every one is keeping tract that's one Spay Surgery, a Dental Surgery with 4 teeth removed and one Hernia Surgery all in the first 9 days of being home with us in a new city, new home and living with new siblings. I'm so sad for her! I wish I could take her pain away. I wanted her homecoming to be joyful for her not full of pain! She has been such a little trouper, she is still showing us so much love. My husband told me over dinner tonight he woke-up with her cleaning his eyes, nose, forehead and ears. That's funny she woke me up the same way! What a little lick-a-lot! Just full of love.

I purchased a baby-gate for the bedroom door today. So there will be no more going back and forth at night to collect babies from the living-room. I thought she was in bed sleeping all night... not running back and forth... from the living-room... to the bedroom with lots of babies... that she stole from our kitties toy box. Up and down, Up and down the (bed)stairs and back into the living-room to get another toy. I sure hope she was using her stairs on the way down from the bed. I'm sure she wasn't.
What a little thief she is! She has stolen 9 babies... one for each day she has been with us.
So all of the babies have been put up very high. I did let her have two of them for her to cuddle with tonight... but they are very small.

So tomorrow we will get up early and go thew it all over again. So I will not be on-line for a couple of days. I just want to give her my full attention when she is not feeling well.

I will chat with all of you when she is feeling better. Again, I'm very sorry I didn't keep you all up to date on what was going on. I really thought I updated this Thread. I guess I had a lot on my mind this past week.

Good luck to my Little Lola Bean! and we will talk with you all very soon.
Diana & Lola

[crystalsmom]

Diana your update is so thoughtful. I am going to post the link to your other thread so you can keep it all together. I see you had to type your last post three times and I thought it would be easier for you to update one. Hugs and Kisses you your darling little Lola Bean and do keep us up on her progress but you take the time you need to be with her. Joan
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/my-...e-ms-lola.html

[scoobiedooiscoo]

follow your heart you will know when its the right puppy for you, just keep looking and meeting dogs

[crystalsmom]

Originally Posted by crystalsmom

Diana your update is so thoughtful. I am going to post the link to your other thread so you can keep it all together. I see you had to type your last post three times and I thought it would be easier for you to update one. Hugs and Kisses you your darling little Lola Bean and do keep us up on her progress but you take the time you need to be with her. Joan
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/my-...e-ms-lola.html

Scoobiedoiscoo, she has her baby, I just posted the link and you might want to read her last post above yours. It's confusing and that is why I posted the link. Hugs, Joan

[mkawczak]

You want what you want. Grieve for your loss. Take the time you need. The summer unforunatly goes by very fast. Get another girl,not a replacedment,but a new addition to your loving family. I love my boy. I have all males,cats and dogs. I think when my oldest boy (now 14) Daschund leaves us, I'll consider a girl. Sending you hugs and kisses from my crew and myself. This is a difficult time right now, you don't need to make this decision right now.