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03-19-2008, 09:05 AM | #1 |
YT Addict | My Anxieties. Are they normal or am I crazy? Sorry this is going to be a bit long I didn't realize how much I had to say. Okay so in a few weeks Hubby and I are going to FL for vacation. His parents have invited us to vacation with them in Coco Beach at their time share. We will be away for two weeks and during those two weeks my Grand Parents (who are totaly in love with out little LullaBelle) are going to be taking care of her for us. Situation solved right? WRONG! We had the same arangment with my in laws for vacation and my grand parents with LullaBelle but this time instead of the usual mommy separation anxiety from my little fur baby I am in a dead panic! It all started with my dreams. I have these dreams (this part is always the same) that we drop Bella and all her info, food, clothes, papers, pads, toys you name it every thing she will need and want while we are gone, off with her Great woof grand parents; and when we get to having fun on our vacation something bad always happens. Its always the same situation but different bad things happen. I get THE CALL! In one dream she got hit by a car and dies, in another dream it was she got sick and had to get put to sleep, in another dream she gets attacked by another dog and ends up getting hurt or put down. Every time I wake up in a dead panic. I have to hold Bella and make sure that she is okay after every dream just to calm my self down. Bella usually sleeps right through my holding her b/c she could sleep through a train wreck. So at least she doesn't feel my stress about it! Hubby thought I was just over reacting at first but I can't help my dreams. I get so emotional when I even think about what my life would be like with out her. I know she can't live forever and neither can I. I am not that nieve I understand death and loss but I don't have any children and she is as close as I am gonna get for a while. I am still young and so is hubby. I just love her to peaces! I feel like my heart brakes during every dream and when I wake up I have to put it back together. After the first few dreams I started to realize that I am emotionally exausted for a few hours after these dreams. I didn't have this problem last year. I had the usually anxiety about being away from her for so long, but she was so happy to see us when we got back and we know that she had so much fun with my grandparents. (who spoil her rotten!) I guess I am just confused as to why if i didn't have these anxieties last time why I am having them this time? Is this normal? Has this ever happened to others? I feel like my dreams are so real and the emotional pain is real too until I wake up and my heart is pounding and I can feel her and she is okay. I don't know and I am not sure if I expect anybody else to know but I guess I just need to get it out of me. Thanks for listening and if anybody has had these types of dreams or anxieties I would appreciate some input or advice. Last edited by LullaBelle; 03-19-2008 at 09:07 AM. |
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03-19-2008, 09:22 AM | #2 |
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| I don't think you are Overreacting .... I think she will be fine. Just shows how much you love the little Darling ...... Can't you take her with you ???
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03-19-2008, 09:45 AM | #3 |
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| I have had the same thing so I guess if your crazy so am I I would try to have positive thoughts about it all and think of it as kind of a little vacation for LullaBelle, going to spend 2 weeks getting spoiled rotten with her grandparents!! |
03-19-2008, 09:59 AM | #4 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | Oh you poor thing, I think it's harder for you this year because you have grown even more attached to her. Personally, I can't stand the thought of leaving Joey for 2 weeks. We had to refuse a similar offer because we didn't feel comfortable taking Joey, and leaving him behind was out of the question for me. For you, it's different, you have someone you know and trust who loves LullaBelle so there is probably more reason to accept the offer. Many people believe dreams are premonitions and so that would add to your anxiety. Rarely does this happen though, and dreams are for relieving you anxiety; unfortunately this isn't working for you. Is there something about leaving her with your grandparents that unsettles you?
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03-19-2008, 10:19 AM | #5 |
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| You are just a normal over-protective yorkie mummy! I too have these anxiety attacks over Pixie..so much so that i won't leave her with anyone! I have had all sorts of dreams where something bad happens to Pixie and i'm sure most yorkie mummys will say they have to!
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03-19-2008, 10:24 AM | #6 |
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| Is there any way that you could take her with you??
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03-19-2008, 10:33 AM | #7 |
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| I had 2 dreams about one of my boys! In one dream a woman tried to boil him and when she took him out of the pot he was still alive and he looked at me with such sadness, his eyes clearly said "mommy why dont you love me anymore??" I kept screaming and holding him and trying to ease the burning! It was HORRIBLE and left me emotionally distressed for DAYS! I had another dream about him too, I dont remember it, but it was again him getting hurt by my hand or indirectly by my hand. I dont know why I dream these things but they are distressing to say the least! Knowing your babies safety and well-being is lying in someone else's hands can definately cause anxiety and fear. I think its normal. You cant stop the dreams. And you know your baby will be safe with her grandparents! have fun on your trip!
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03-19-2008, 11:01 AM | #8 |
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| I can only imagine the terror you feel. Has something happened since the last time you left him to make you think your grandparents aren't quite up to the responsibility anymore? It probably is just your nerves; but nerves can drive you crazy. I have never left sawyer except for one time. it was for overnight, and I had my daughter and her husband and two kids come here and stay with him. I felt much better with him in his own home. I bought th ekids pizza, rented their favorite movies, and then watched them both and treated my daughter and her husband to a nice dinner on their own. I was only an hour and a half away; but my nerves were as tight as a wire all evening. These little guys depend on us so completely, and give us such love, no wonder we get paranoid. I am sure everything will just go great, so stop beating yourself up for being a great Mom
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03-19-2008, 11:50 AM | #9 |
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| I don't think you are over-reacting, you just love your furbaby so much that you worry that something might happen. I am the same way, I turned down and all expenses paid trip to my niece's home in North Carolina (and I mean a plane ticket and everything) but I turned her down because of my yorkies. They said bring them with you but they have 3 dogs and Rickles is terrified of other dogs and so that is completely out of the question. |
03-19-2008, 02:56 PM | #10 |
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| Sounds like you have been on YT quite a bit. Is it possible you could just take her with you? If you really do feel that afraid then have you considered just kenneling her at a Vets. that has inside cages? Maybe that would be the best choice? I hope you are able to go have a great time without the worry. |
03-20-2008, 12:20 PM | #11 |
YT Addict | You guys are so great! Okay so to answer a few questions... I don't think I have any anxieties about my Grandparents b/c they are like the best ppl in the world to me I truley idolize them. So thats not it. I don't really believe in premonitions but I always go with my first instinct. My gut isn't telling me anything negative it's just my dreams. I have been on YT since a few mos before we got LullaBelle and she will be turning 2 next month. The condo that we are staying at with my in laws (BTW my MIL has a Yorkie too his name is Webster! Cute little devil ) Doesn't allow pets since its a time share. Other wise we would both bring our babies! Last Year we brought pics and put them on the fridge in the condo and we were calling our baby sitters at least once a day! My FIL and hubby thought we were nuts! So I talked about it with hubby again and he still thinks I am over reacting but thats normal for him to say that since he doesn't have the same daily anxietis that I have. EXAMPLE: I only have a part time job wich pays decent and suits me just fine. I go in to work in the PM and get home around 5 but I still have anxieties about leaving her home alone for extened periods of time b/c I am afraid some creep will brake in to our home and steel her! Ever day before I go to work I kneal down with Bella and we say a prayer for her safty while I am at work! I know if hubby knew that he would just roll his eyes but I do the same thing and have those same anxietites when hubby is out of town for training and stuff. So I just deal with it the only way I know how and just suck it up. This is still different b/c its not a major thought when I am awake but only when i am sleeping and when I wake up horrified. Thanks so much you all rock! |
03-20-2008, 12:24 PM | #12 | |
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That sounds just horrific! I hope you don't have that dream any more. And I can totaly relate to that type of anxiety! | |
03-20-2008, 12:27 PM | #13 | |
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I didn't have that dream last night but I don't want to count all my chickens before they hatch so I will keep my fingers crossed that I don't have them anymore and maybe they were just bad dreams! At least I hope so! | |
03-20-2008, 12:39 PM | #14 | |
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If i didn't have my grandparent to baby sit her I would get one of my girlfriends to watch her. Just thinking about haveing Bella put in a crate in a vets office which is so sterile and not hommy just breaks my heart! No offence to vets who are great when you need them and a last resort. I guess I am just an over emotional hormonal woman! What else is new! But thank you so so so so so much for your the idea. On another note I just want to say that you all have been so great. I can't tell you all how relieved I feel knowing that its not just me!' Much love to you all! xoxoxo Bridget and LullaBelle too(woof woof) | |
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