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Yorkiedaze · 03-02-2008, 11:46 AM

It would be best to discuss the problem with the girls mother and let her explain to her children. Whether you have dogs or not, everyone deserves privacy. If your dogs are stressed out by children being there then you definitely need to explain to all concerned that the expectant mom needs peace and quiet or she could lose her babies prematurely.[/QUOTE]

a2luckygirl · 03-02-2008, 12:07 PM

If it did not suit- I would just tell them to go home for now- I am busy- or the dog is sleeping, whatever! Just say it is not a good time now!
Maybe set up a certain time- for them-30 min or so 2-3 times a week- the kids special time-get them a coloring or activity book- and get a page out for them - or an ice creame treat for that time- popcorn- some little something!
good luck!! Family is great- but not ALL the time!!!

gutu28 · 03-02-2008, 12:53 PM

Especially with the large litter you're expecting, I would sit down with the girls and their mother and let them know that when the babies come, they need a quiet and calm environment to thrive. I can't imagine anyone getting upset over not letting them come over for a while due to this reason!

meglaulanmar · 03-02-2008, 01:36 PM

For once Myfairlacy and I agree...lol. If you truly adore them you don't want to cut off contact and just stop answering calls, as some suggested. The potential for disease is huge w/ new babies and should be your concern. If you don't truly adore them... stop answering the phone...lol.

But... do you have a Chuck E Cheese? Go there (I know it is turture to you, but not the dogs...lol).

Or, you could promise a special day after the dogs are older (especially if you don't have anyone to be w/ the mommy or new pups while you go out to another place right now)! Think up something they would both be excited about! Good luck... you can do this w/o hurting the girls!

littlewhip · 03-02-2008, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiedaze

It would be best to discuss the problem with the girls mother and let her explain to her children. Whether you have dogs or not, everyone deserves privacy. If your dogs are stressed out by children being there then you definitely need to explain to all concerned that the expectant mom needs peace and quiet or she could lose her babies prematurely.

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Nicely said

barbiesMoMmY · 03-02-2008, 02:41 PM

i have the same problem! two girls 7 and 5.

we live right next door to my hubbys dad and his girlfriends kids come over and run around screaming and barbie gets really excited. they always want to pick her up and stuff and i try to remember they don't know better but is FRUSTRATING. for a long time i was avoiding them or making excuses until one day they came in when i wasnt home and left little foot prints as proof! i had it at that point i went sraight to their mother and they know now they have to CALL and ask and usually when they call and ask i say no that its too much for barbie. i had them over today and they sat really calmly on the couch with barbie and i was very impressed! so i'd say be straight forward with the mother and i'm sure things will work out!

good luck!

kwaymon · 03-02-2008, 05:55 PM

I have that problem with my neighbor's kids. Fortunately, I don't feel bad about hurting their feelings because they are not family. They live next door and they are my daughter's age so they are over often. Tucker goes in his xpen when they are over. I will let them handle him ocassionally and only when I can strictly supervise. I have laid down the rules that he is never to be picked up. I also have a playroom in my basement and that is the only place they are allowed to play in my house. Because they are downstairs is isn't noisy upstairs. If it were family though, I think it would be harder, especially with an expecting female. I agree with the other posts that you should just tell the truth as nicely as you can. Good luck!

jrincon17 · 03-02-2008, 06:17 PM

thats a tuff one, i used to live across the hall from my cousin. She used to drain me , so full of drama, she took all my energy. I would answer the door when I wanted and knock when i needed to borrow some sugar. haha

03-02-2008, 12:07 PM	#17
a2luckygirl YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: HASTINGS, NE- 4 NOW!!! Posts: 2,208	If it did not suit- I would just tell them to go home for now- I am busy- or the dog is sleeping, whatever! Just say it is not a good time now! Maybe set up a certain time- for them-30 min or so 2-3 times a week- the kids special time-get them a coloring or activity book- and get a page out for them - or an ice creame treat for that time- popcorn- some little something! good luck!! Family is great- but not ALL the time!!! __________________ :I PLAYING....THE BANJO........ AND KISSING MY MOMMY:kiss3 Last edited by a2luckygirl; 03-02-2008 at 12:09 PM. Reason: correction

03-02-2008, 12:53 PM	#18
gutu28 Lovin' the Cali kisses! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Lawrenceville, Georgia Posts: 2,990	Especially with the large litter you're expecting, I would sit down with the girls and their mother and let them know that when the babies come, they need a quiet and calm environment to thrive. I can't imagine anyone getting upset over not letting them come over for a while due to this reason! __________________ Larissa and Cali Let's go Georgia Bulldogs!

03-02-2008, 01:36 PM	#19
meglaulanmar YT Addict Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Alexandria, VA Posts: 403	Wow For once Myfairlacy and I agree...lol. If you truly adore them you don't want to cut off contact and just stop answering calls, as some suggested. The potential for disease is huge w/ new babies and should be your concern. If you don't truly adore them... stop answering the phone...lol. But... do you have a Chuck E Cheese? Go there (I know it is turture to you, but not the dogs...lol). Or, you could promise a special day after the dogs are older (especially if you don't have anyone to be w/ the mommy or new pups while you go out to another place right now)! Think up something they would both be excited about! Good luck... you can do this w/o hurting the girls!

03-02-2008, 02:41 PM	#21
barbiesMoMmY Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Blandon Posts: 133	i have the same problem! two girls 7 and 5. we live right next door to my hubbys dad and his girlfriends kids come over and run around screaming and barbie gets really excited. they always want to pick her up and stuff and i try to remember they don't know better but is FRUSTRATING. for a long time i was avoiding them or making excuses until one day they came in when i wasnt home and left little foot prints as proof! i had it at that point i went sraight to their mother and they know now they have to CALL and ask and usually when they call and ask i say no that its too much for barbie. i had them over today and they sat really calmly on the couch with barbie and i was very impressed! so i'd say be straight forward with the mother and i'm sure things will work out! good luck! __________________ KiRsTeN aNd mY bAbY bArBiE bUtT

03-02-2008, 06:17 PM	#23
jrincon17 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: santa rosa, ca Posts: 648	thats a tuff one, i used to live across the hall from my cousin. She used to drain me , so full of drama, she took all my energy. I would answer the door when I wanted and knock when i needed to borrow some sugar. haha __________________ IF EVERYONE OWNED A YORKIE, THE WORLD WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE Proud Papa of SUKI

03-02-2008, 11:46 AM	#16
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	It would be best to discuss the problem with the girls mother and let her explain to her children. Whether you have dogs or not, everyone deserves privacy. If your dogs are stressed out by children being there then you definitely need to explain to all concerned that the expectant mom needs peace and quiet or she could lose her babies prematurely.[/QUOTE]

03-02-2008, 05:55 PM	#22
kwaymon YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 699	I have that problem with my neighbor's kids. Fortunately, I don't feel bad about hurting their feelings because they are not family. They live next door and they are my daughter's age so they are over often. Tucker goes in his xpen when they are over. I will let them handle him ocassionally and only when I can strictly supervise. I have laid down the rules that he is never to be picked up. I also have a playroom in my basement and that is the only place they are allowed to play in my house. Because they are downstairs is isn't noisy upstairs. If it were family though, I think it would be harder, especially with an expecting female. I agree with the other posts that you should just tell the truth as nicely as you can. Good luck!