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11-07-2007, 12:12 PM | #31 |
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| I wish I could help you but I keep my MIL over 200 miles away. To be exact she would need to get on a plane to visit us and she's terrified of them. So I haven't seen her for almost a year now. But I wish you the best with yours. Just tell her nicely that you aren't pleased with the things she does to or says about your baby.
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11-07-2007, 12:15 PM | #32 | |
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11-07-2007, 12:16 PM | #33 |
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| I forgot to add that if we are together and a stranger says how cute she is my MIL will happly say she is dressed up all the time and smile like she loves it. I dont get her at all. She likes it when she gets attention from it.
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11-07-2007, 12:52 PM | #34 |
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| I think your husband should stand up for you (don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that he hasn't or doesn't). You're his wife and she's his mother and I think he should say something to her in a nice but forceful way. Mother's will always forgive their children but may have a harder time with the "In-Law" and she may take it better coming from him. That's how my husband and I deal with "family" issues. If it's my side I handle it, if it's his side, he handles it. Thank God we don't really have any issues on either side. I remember when we were first married and I was pregnant with our youngest (I have 2 older boys from my first marriage). Before our son was born he told his mom that he expects her to always treat our 2 older boys the same as our youngest and never show favoritism or she won't see any of them because as far as he's concerned they're just as much his children as the new baby. We've never had a problem (we had reason to think that this could be a problem). Good luck to you
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11-07-2007, 01:43 PM | #35 |
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| OH No....I am so sorry to hear this.....I would try to talk to her on an adult level and tell her how it makes you feel. I am blessed my MIL LOVES my babies about as much as I do....she calls them her grand-doggies and even has their pictures in her home and wallet. Ha, ha....she is now sounding as NUTS as I am. She even comes and gets them for days with grandma....ah, ha...Oh the silliness, I know. any way...I am so sorry to hear she hurts your feelings like that. Hang in there - ony you know the love between you and your babies.
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11-07-2007, 01:50 PM | #36 |
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| Well I know I wouldn't tell her off because I'm not like.....as much as I would like to be able to do that at times. I like the idea that someone gave about the silly grandma one. I think if she took the clothes off and the hair down I would immediately put the hair back up and the clothes back on and say something jokingly about having to get her all fixed up again. I hate to start arguements too. Good luck |
11-07-2007, 02:46 PM | #37 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Vancouver
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| I'm sorry to hear that you've had to listen to these absurd comments from your MIL! If I were you, I would just respond to her with an "OK" everytime she commented. Some people are just set in their ways and opinions and will refuse to listen to another person's perspective..so perhaps you can just tune her out from now on!
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11-07-2007, 03:15 PM | #38 |
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| The easiest solution is just don't go to her house anymore. She shouldn't tell you, if she comes to your house, what you can and can not do, so just don't go there anymore |
11-07-2007, 03:20 PM | #39 |
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| I feel your pain--my previous MIL was a nightmare. This one, is thankfully----- 3100 miles away in the UK. I heart the Atlantic Ocean. |
11-07-2007, 03:24 PM | #40 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Hemphill, Texas
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| She comes here I do not go to her house very often. She will come in sit down and go after her right away. (Oh Muffy you poor dog come seem me. Ill help you out of those stupied clothes. Lets get that junk out of your hair. Angel you shouldnt do this to this poor dog. Dont you have better things to do with your time, Do you need me to find you a job to do so you will leave the poor dog alone. ) These are all things she will say.
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11-07-2007, 04:07 PM | #41 |
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| Well, then sorry, if she's coming to YOUR house, then its time you told her!! Hopefully it doesn't cause major problems, but, just tell her look, this is my house, my dog, if I want to put clothes on her I will, if you don't like it, then I'm sorry but dont' come back...as long as your hubby doesn't get ticked, but I would worn him first..he should be the one to say something, but, if he doesn't, then oh well, it's your house too! |
11-07-2007, 04:20 PM | #42 |
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| this sounds terrible, but Hope would BITE my MIL if she tried to touch her.. LOL I HAVE put my MIL in her place, in my house. She always has comments on how many dogs I have, I have had to tell her that this is MY house and if she doesnt like them, she could leave... she never said anything again.... P.S. she doesnt come over much anymore... hehe good luck to you with yours... d
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11-07-2007, 05:19 PM | #43 |
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| LOL my in-laws just moved back to IL from SC. We hardly ever saw them when they were here(I love my m-i-l to death), but neither of them are dog people(my mom always said if you don't like dogs there's something wrong with you), I know my hubby said his mom asked him the other day if we have to move, how are we going to move with 6 dogs? I told hubby(one of them will stay as it's my sons dog), well, there is only 5 and we would move the same way as someone that has NO dogs...she has made comments to me about my dogs, but, they're my kids now..and I told her I would rather raise dogs then have to raise kids all over again... |
11-07-2007, 07:23 PM | #44 | |
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11-07-2007, 07:43 PM | #45 |
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| Don't let her walk in. Lock the door! Lol seriosly I would hide under the bed with my dogs. I would tell quietly but sternly that I am not a child, I paid for my dog and love the dog and will do as I please thank you very much. Then I would smile and offer her tea or whatever to signal no hard feelings and end of subject. If you offend her, so be it, she doesn't mind offending you.
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