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|08-24-2010, 06:42 AM||#1|
Donating YT 500 Club Member
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Erie, PA, USA
Blog Entries: 1
Possessive of ME!
I’m here once again looking for advice or guidance - not sure if this is the right section to post, so if there is a better place - please let me know.
Bridget seems to be very possessive of ME, to the point that it is sometimes scary. There is nothing that I can’t do with her or to her - for example – I can take away her bully stick or favorite toy without any more than a little playful growl. However – if my fiancé comes near me (within a few feet), Bridget gets that low gurgling growl and tenses right up. I was lying on the floor playing with her – when he got on the floor to join us and came over near me – she snapped at him. I don’t know that she would have bitten him – but she has snapped at my grandchildren, and jumped on them if they came too close.
It’s the same with her food – if her food is out – she will literally “go after” (has not bitten….yet) the person that is near it whether it is something she wants or not, and by near I mean up to 4 feet away – but not me, I could get down and stick my head in her dish with no response other than maybe a lick!
She has no fear of my fiancé or grandkids – she will sit on their laps, play with them, and loves to let them rub her belly – but she has to initiate it. That is one of the first things she does in the morning – when my fiancé is having coffee she’ll go over to him and lay on her back for him to rub her belly! He can feed her, take her outside for a walk and even play on the floor with her - she has no problem with that – it’s only if I’m involved. If she is playing with him on the floor and I walk into the room - it's all over for them - she is at my side immediately.
If she is sleeping and I get up to go to the kitchen or bathroom - she is up instantly - following me wherever it is I'm off to. I feel so bad that everytime I get up it disturbes her sleep - but she just will not leave my side. Sometimes she'll just follow me out and lay down on the kitchen floor or in her bed that is in the kitchen and fall back asleep until she hears me move. Then she is right at my feet.
I do work during the day and she has an entire bedroom to herself which she goes to eagerly in the morning when it's time for me to leave. When I stop home during the day at different times - she is usually napping or playing.
She IS MY baby - I'm the one who wanted her and I love her to the moon and back - but so does everyone else - they think she's just great until she shows this side and it's getting out of control and it makes others a bit nervous.
Sorry - this has gotten a bit longer than I planned - but I feel so guilty - have I done something to make her feel this way? My fiance feels bad - he wonders what he's done to make her feel that way. She seems happy otherwise - healthy, playful and energetic - a real joy to have around.
Any suggestions as to how to correct this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.
Proud member of the CrAzYcLuB
Donna......owned by Bridget and Greta (and wouldn't have it any other way!)
|08-24-2010, 09:53 AM||#2|
Donating YT 500 Club Member
Join Date: Apr 2009
Blog Entries: 2
hmmmmm, I'm sure you've done nothing wrong so don't blame yourself for her loving you the most . I could have sworn I read somewhere that female Yorkies bond mainly to one person . I don't know, maybe your fiance could try taking care of her with you in the room while you try to ignore her????? I saw it on Animal Planet. The owner was upset but he had to ignore his dogs while his wife took care of them until they got over it. Yeah, right - I know....
I'm hoping God helps me be the person my dogs think I am....
Rebecca , Jonah & Ksena
|08-24-2010, 10:09 AM||#3|
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: San Diego, California
you must have shown more love and compassion as she was growing? my little boy loves me to death. if im around he follows me EVERYWHERE. if others are trying to play with him he ignores them and looks for me in the room lol. but i can see the aggressiveness towards others could be a problem. she just loves you lol
|09-12-2010, 08:03 AM||#4|
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Welwyn Garden City, Hertfordshire
My Female yorkie Lola has started this behavior. She is coming up 4 years old now but has really latched onto my eldest Daughter. The other morning she was happily sleeping on my daughters lap, when her best friend (our male cat) came over to my daughter for a fuss, Lola really went for the cat, chasing him away, she's never been like that with him before. I immediately sent her to her bed for 10 mins to try and cut that behavior out. I hope I did the right thing.
|09-12-2010, 03:38 PM||#5|
Action Jackson ♥
Join Date: Dec 2008
There's nothing wrong with a dog being more closely bonded to one person, but the possessiveness is something that definitely needs to be taken care of asap before it escalates. She is, like you said, possessive of you and thinks she is the boss and needs to take care of you, when it needs to be made clear it's the other way around.
This is something I've never dealt with personally, as Jackson has never growled, bit, lunged, or anything at anybody, even though he is very attached to me. My first suggestion... when this happens, for example when you say your fiance lays on the ground next to you guys and she growls or nips, you immediately get up and walk away. If she is in your lap and growls at someone coming near, she immediately gets put on the floor. Never reward the behavior. Alot of times people don't even realize it but when their dog is in this state of mind, many people pet or rub the dog and say 'it's ok' or 'be nice' etc when in reality... the dog thinks they are doing good since they are getting 'rewarded' in their mind for this behavior. If she wants picked up while doing this behavior, ignore her.
Implement NILIF (Nothing in Life is Free) program. You can google it. Before eating, she must work for it. Make her sit and be in a calm state of mind before eating. Or exercise first, then eat. She does not get a bully stick until YOU tell her, and she also sits before getting this, etc. But that program works for quite a few people. Nothing in Life is Free
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