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I have a real problem!!! (lots of problems!!!) Sorry so long but I NEED HELP!!! Some of you know that we just got our new furbaby, Lucy, a few days ago. Problem #1: Lucy is 3 pounds and 9 months old and I was told that she was paper trained.....NOT!!!! She potty's where ever she pleases. The breeder told me that she has never been taken outside to potty because of her size. When I realized that she was not paper trained I immediately went out and bought pee pads and I am now working with her to potty on the pads. My DH is the sweetest most understanding man in the world but he HATES the pee pads!!! He thinks they are the grossest things ever. He says, she needs to potty outside. Our other Yorkie, Buddy is trained to go outside....we open the door he runs out, does his business and runs back inside....SOOOO EASY....we are very spoiled with him!! Our Buddy is 16 months old and 10 pounds.!!! Lucy is 3 pounds...there is NOWAY she can ever go out without me taking her on a leash because I would be terrified of something getting her. Today was a beautiful day so I thought it was a good day to try to start taking Lucy out to potty. OMG....when the breeder told me she had never been taken out to potty I had NO IDEA that Lucy had NEVER been outside!!!! I can tell she has NEVER been on grass....she was terrified!!!!! She is 9 months old and NEVER been on grass!!!! So outside pottying is going to be a HUGE challenge!!! Is this doable????.....to train her to potty outside when she is terrified to be outside??? How many of you take your tiny's outside to potty? Problem #2: Our mudroom has always been Buddy's area. His food, his water his toys, his crate, etc.... no gate or door ...this is just his area!!! (but is was gated when he was a baby) Since we got Lucy I have had to make this her area and gate her when I cannot tend to her. (this is the only area in our house to keep her) I have moved Buddy's things to a new area. MY DH thinks this is so mean!!! But I had to move Buddy's things out because this is the ONLY place to put Lucy where she cannot get hurt when I am not around. Now I am really feeling BAD about Buddy not having his room!!! Problem # 3 Lucy WILL NOT eat dry dog food!!!! I am FIRM believer in dry dog food. I took her to the vet yesterday after she had not eaten one bite in over 24 hours. The vet said we have to get some food in her so they gave her canned food heated in the microwave. She loved it!!! So now the only thing I can get her to eat is canned heated dog food. Sooooo I feed Buddy in one place with his dry dog food and Lucy in the gated mudroom with her heated canned food. Once again my DH says I am being so mean to Buddy. (I have to agree) Buddy just begs for her food!!! This is breaking my heart!!! Problem #4 Buddy has lots of toys and since getting Lucy I have bought her lots of toys too. Well, Buddy is sooooo sweet that he is not getting to play with any of his toys because Lucy has taken over!!! Again, DH says this is not right....I have to agree!!! Problem #5 Buddy always sits with me in my recliner....this is his spot!!! Since getting Lucy she WILL NOT sit with anyone but me. So guess who is left out?....my sweet Buddy!!! Buddy just sits and crys in front of my chair!!!:( I beg him to get up here with me...I even pick him up and sit him up here but he jumps down because of Lucy. PLEASE, PLEASE help me!!!! There are so many of you out there that have multiply furbabies and I imagine you did not get them all at once. How do I juggle all this? Buddy is our pride & joy....we worship him!!! But Lucy is just a baby and she needs so much attention right now!!! (For the record my DH really loves Lucy too but he just feels bad for Buddy) I need some help FAST!!!!! I am so depressed right now!!! I love Buddy so much and all this is breaking my heart!!!!! Plus I am so worried about training Lucy to potty outside....is it possible? Again, sorry so long....but I need HELP!!! |
I think it's doable and I think things will get easier and both Buddy and Lucy will adjust, it just might take a little time. Good luck! |
Hey, I will take Lucy! just kidding ...no Im not heehee |
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my answers are in red. i know you just got her and you want to comfort her because everything is new, but you cannot forget about Buddy. he still should be number one and shouldn't feel pushed aside. when you give them treats give buddy one first. when you feed them give buddy his food first. everything should be him first, and if lucy objects you need to correct her. |
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I am so glad to hear that your furbaby is a tiny and goes outside to potty!!! It is going to take some time to get her use to it. I am going to give Buddy his room back!!! I will put Lucy in the laundry room. I am going to make Lucy start to eat her dry food by mixing it in with her canned food. The toy issue will be handled too. It is not that Lucy takes his toys away from him its just if she gets close to him ....Buddy just drops his toy so she can play with it. Like I said, he is just so sweet to her!!! But I will encourage Buddy to hang onto his toys!!! Buddy is going to get equal time sitting with me if not more time than Lucy. I just took Lucy to her crate. Buddy is sitting with me now!!!:D Ohhh...I just love him!!!! I knew before we got Lucy that we should keep Buddy as #1 but once we got Lucy home with us....it has been much hardier than I thought. But I think I know what I need to do now. Again, thank you so much for taking the time to advise me....I feeling so much better. The anxiety has been building and building!!! |
Rhonda, I just want to say I feel bad for all of you. Hang in there, its got to get easier! :thumbup: I only have one and have the yearning for a 2nd, but your troubles right now are what have me worried. (We are so blessed with Moose ~ I am afraid of another:eek: ) I will watch this closely to see what everyone suggest. :ghug: |
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Rhonda, Wow! With your attitude you will accomplish everything you set out to change.:thumbup: Isn't YT wonderful! Where else could you go and get such common-sense advice?:yorkietal |
:yay_jump: :yay_jump: :yay_jump: Today is a new day!!!! Our day has already started better!!!! I went to bed last night thinking about all the advise that I got on here and I PRAYED so hard for help with all the problems I am having with Miss Lucy. Well, this morning I got up and decided to start immediately trying to fix all of them. First thing I did was take BOTH Lucy and Buddy outside to potty.....GUESS WHAT????? She pooped and pee'd immediately OUTSIDE!!!! (I forgot to tell you guys last night that another problem I had was that she had not pooped since we got her....soooo I was very happy to see poop especially outside) I really praised them both and gave treats to both...I slipped Buddy a couple of extra's!!! Shhhhh!!! Next I fed Buddy his breakfast before I fed Lucy. Then I made Miss Lucy's breakfast ....I did not heat it and i mixed her dry food in with it. Everybody seems very happy!!! Mommy feels so much better!!! I know I still have lots of work ahead of me but at least I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. THANK YOU GUYS FOR SOME GREAT ADVISE!!!! :big_hug: :big_hug: My husband and I feel so much this morning!!! |
Glad to hear she went outside. When I got Pixie last year she was 13 months old and had never been outside, in a car twice and not potty trained. At first it was impossible to get her pad trained, she would go some times onthe pads and sometimes whereever she felt like. Then one day she followed my Pom outside, who is trained to go outside only and from that day on has gone outside. Now with 5 month old Roxie I am having the same problem, she uses the pads randomly no matter how I watch her, so I have started to place her outside, but no luck so far. As far as feeding i would mix kibble withe the wet. When I brought Pixie home, Cali's nose was out of joint for awhile but she got over it. Now when I brought Roxie home, for 2 weeks, Pixie just layed around and she was so playful with Cali and Dixie (RIP). Just 3 days ago she morphed back to herself and has been playing with the puppy a lot. So it just takes some longer to accept than others. |
Glad to hear you're already making progress!!!! I got Angel in January, during a really cold spell. She was pee-pad trained already and I felt she was too little to be outside freezing to potty. Hubby also hated the pee-pads, but now we use the washable ones and BOTH girls have used the pee pads all winter exclusively - hubby adjusted quite well!! If Buddy is no longer confined to the mudroom, I don't think it is a problem to gate it off for Lucy. When Angel came,k the downstairs bathroom was where she was when we went out and at night and it became Angel's domain as Sissy then had free reign of the house and slept with us. When my girls go outside to potty in warm months, I have an x-pen set up. It was the only way I could get Angel to actually potty while outside rather than running around like a wild thang!! I'm always out there with them, but it also makes me feel a little more secure that they are contained. When we use this, they are only there for pottying purposes. Sounds like you're on the right track with mixing kibble with Lucy's canned till she is all kibble. If you're using puppy food for her, even if Buddy wants it, it would be too many calories for him - so don't feel bad about that one!!! For the recliner, I would continue bringing Buddy up with you and Lucy. If he chooses not to stay, he is excluding himself. Spending some time on the floor with both of them is a good idea also. |
I am so glad you were able to get help. I have only 1 and can imagine he would be the same way as your Buddy! Good Luck!!! It will be all worth it in the end!!! Sounds like you are a loving caring mommie and they are very lucky to have you!!:animal36 |
great to see some things are working out. Lucy will learn through watching what buddy does and what buddy gets. its easier to have an older dog and bring in a puppy because the older dogs help treat the younger ones. can't wait to read about more improvements! good luck and have fun with your two babies. |
just seeing this but you have got some excellent advise all ready, just hang in there it does take time. I would have suggested the same as everyone else has. Try the washable pads they are the best and they can't chew them up. She will watch Buddy and learn alot, and going outside with him will help. Hang in there, your doing a fantasic job:) |
****update**** Just thought I would give you guys an update on the problems I am having. Problem #1...Lucy has completely adjusted to pottying outside. You guys were right...once I started taking her outside it was not big deal. Problem #2....the mudroom is still Lucy's area because that is where I have to keep her when I am not around. Things are not working out so well with Lucy and Buddy(my other spoiled Yorkie). Lucy loves Buddy but Buddy is not liking his new sister at all. Buddy is so sad all the time!! His personalty has completed changed!!! He will not come out from behind the sofa when she is in the room!!! We have tried everything!!! We are giving Buddy so much attention but is not working!! Problem #3...Lucy's eating has improved so much. I have her on 1/2 kibble and 1/2 dry. She seems to be fine with this....she is just not a big eater and mostly Mom had to adjust to this. (I have been used to Buddy who eats a lot) Problem #4....The toy situation has not improved at all. Lucy does not take any toys away from Buddy ....it is just that Buddy drops any toy if she walks by or he will not touch any toy if she is around!!! We have tried and tried to inner act with them but Buddy is completely withdrawn when Lucy is around and he is getting worse!!! Just breaks my heart...I want Buddy to love Lucy as much as we do!!! Problem #5....the sitting with Mommy situation has gotten worse too. If Lucy is in my lap....Buddy will go hide!!!!:( :( So Mommy is dividing time with Buddy and Lucy. This is the only way I know to do it. I have tried and tried to play with them together, tried holding them together (Buddy will have NO part of that), tried giving them treats together (I do this all day long),....you name it ....I have tried it (I even took them both to a trainer this afternoon to see if he could get Buddy to play with her. The only way Buddy would play was if I took Lucy out of the room). Buddy is just so sad & depressed when she is around!!! Please understand that Buddy is not mean to her but he just seems extremely depressed & sad since we got Lucy and is getting worse everyday. What am I going to do? All this is causing my DH and I to fight and we NEVER fight!!! I guess I should not say we are fighting ...it is just that we are both stressed out over the situation. I am the one that is home all day and I think my DH is expecting to see some improvement each day when he gets home but Buddy is getting worse & worse with each day. Has any of this ever happened to anyone else? I am at a loss!!!! |
i'm sorry some things are getting worse. :( it seems like your doing everything right. I guess it just takes time. Buddy should eventually adjust to her. He may not love her but he should at least tolerate her to the point where he can go back to his normal ways. Keep at it. things will change for the better soon. i know its stressful and upsetting. |
How about walking them together? I found it helped my two get along a little better. I hope it will help. |
In time they will get along better. My Pom was a cranky (still is) only dog for 8 years when we brought Cali home and she ingnored her but they coexisted.When we brought Pixie home a year later she loved Maya and just insisted on laying almost on top of her all the time and now Maya loves her and is protective of her. But it takes time. |
I think as your new little one gets older, things will continually improve. My daughter's little guy stayed with me half the time and I got so attached, and him to me. My daughter was even jealous of the attachment to me because he followed me everywhere, wanted to sleep with me, etc. We eventually called it "going to Gran ma ma's house". Well soon, I missed him soooooo much when he left, I got my own little girl. At first, he did the same thing. You could tell with his personality, but as she grew, things improved. They are now so close. They love one another! At first, though the little one was the aggressive one. She dominated the toys! She outgrew it as we showed them both love and discipline, just like "real kids". We also confined them together in the kitchen at times. They had their own time to get acquainted. Maybe that will help them to adjust. I wish you all the best. You are a Great Mommy!! :heart to enuf LUV for 2 |
My two seniors barely tolerate my two boys. Just a few minutes ago I had to get after Rosie for all the cranky barking she was doing at Snowboy. There's not much love lost between her and my two boys. We've had Chipper for over a yr. now and not much has changed since the day I walked in the door with him. One reason I rescued Snowboy was so that Chipper would have someone to play with and leave the girls alone. It has worked out quite well.:thumbup: The girls get to snooze in the corner of the couch while the boys tussle on the floor. Once in awhile they bring it up on the couch---then the deal is on.:eek: |
awwwww :( i was so hopeful after seeing the first update that things were better but it looks like sweet buddy is still sad and not adjusting as well as you would like him to :( i really think it WILL get better with time and it has been less than 2 weeks, right? i am sure buddy is just not used to sharing you and your hubby and it will take some time for him to realize that you still love him just as much... in the meantime, perhaps you could give him the mudroom back so he still has "his space" ... as little as that may seem, it is something familiar to him and something that has not changed with the arrival of miss lucy? if you give him his space back, he might realize sooner that he is still your spoiled little boy who is loved very very much :) good luck and i am going to keep checking this thread for updates! |
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Thank you for your sweet comments!!!! As for the mud room...having giving that area has really worked out very well for Buddy. I know that I originally called the mudroom "Buddy's room" but he rarely was in there but to eat or get a toy. Now I have all his toys in the family room which he seems to love. I also moved his food and water to the kitchen which he seems to approve of this as well!!! Having Lucy in the mudroom has actually turned out to be a blessing for Buddy. When Lucy is in the mudroom he gets some piece and quite and he gets all my attention. When Lucy is out of the mud room she trying to love and play with Buddy....and we all know how me feels about that!!!! Buddy and Lucy are both so loving and sweet but just not to each other!! Well, Lucy tries to love on him but he hates it!!! All this just completely breaks my DH and I's heart!!! But we will keep trying!!!! |
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