Being told I didnt do enough???

[majesticyorkies]

That are right don't listen to your cousin, I have been breeding for 12 yrs now and in the last year I lost my very first puppy and a Mom all together 5 puppies one Mom And no one can or better say to me I didn't do enough, I have been told I have been luck up to now. My vet sure told my husband off he was complaining about me breeding and my vet lookedat him and said Breeding is one of the hardest jobs you could ever do. How true that is, But I love it so much!

[Marlee]

Thank you all for your kind remarks. I am so angry with her, and in all honesty I wish I had never even talked to her. She still is texting me these rude remarks. I know I did everything I could.. I know I did, and I am saddened by his passing. I am just glad people here understand the lengths we go to for these dogs. The time and the love, it is not just for kicks and giggles, it is becasue I love them so.

[SANDYSAND]

I am so sorry, Just ignore your cousin. She was very rude to tell you something so cold.

[janelles]

I'm so sorry for the loss of Tiny Tim. You did everything you could, and sometimes these things are just out of our hands.
The remarks made to you were pretty darned insensitive. You know you did what was right, and that's all that counts.
Take care
Janice

[grandmatoall]

Originally Posted by janelles

I'm so sorry for the loss of Tiny Tim. You did everything you could, and sometimes these things are just out of our hands.
The remarks made to you were pretty darned insensitive. You know you did what was right, and that's all that counts.
Take care
Janice

I am not a breeder, but I am a very nice person. Your cousin is an Idiot! You can't pick your relatives.. but you can pick your friends. It is easy to see that you have a lot of friends here. And from everything I have read.. you are a wonderful, caring person and you did everything you could to save Tiny Tim. May this little bundle of love rest in peace.

Tell your cousin of this site and let her read what people think of her thoughtless, insensitive, vendictive, horrible comments. What a hateful person she is. Don't waste your time worrying about what she thinks. She is not worth it.

[abbey lee]

All I can say is ignore him. It is so easy to make statements like that when you have NO IDEA what you are talking about. I'm sure if he had known better, he wouldn't have said it. Sorry for your hurt feeling but that is just one response...you have a lot more people saying that you DID do all you could.

[cesar49]

so sorry for tiny tims passing.. you are grieving him and it is terrible that you have those negative comments to deal with.. you lost one, but you saved 5 puppies..if you hadnt taken your mom to the vet, then you might have lost more. so be thankful and turn a deaf ear.. some people are just RUDE
Avoid this cousin

[littlelady]

Originally Posted by Marlee

Thank you all for your kind remarks. I am so angry with her, and in all honesty I wish I had never even talked to her. She still is texting me these rude remarks. I know I did everything I could.. I know I did, and I am saddened by his passing. I am just glad people here understand the lengths we go to for these dogs. The time and the love, it is not just for kicks and giggles, it is becasue I love them so.

I have a sister that no matter how you explain things to her she totally takes it out of perspective and sometimes it is very hard to continue a conversation with her because of this. It's like the light stays on but no one is home. Some people ask questions in away that are offensive and put us on defense right away. Either these people just don't get what we are trying to tell them or they think their opinion is the only one that matters.
I have family members that if anyone else informs (describes) what I was just talking about then they are okay with what the new person had to say. But they were ready to argue my point till I could scream. I have 2 nieces that I adore but they keep drama going for years when it should have been put to rest.
Like someone said you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends.
God's Blessings to you for your kindness and strength.

[pinkpixiepuff]

You done everything you could! Don't worry what other naive people think.

Maybe you should ring her every 20 minutes to see if she likes being awake all the time. Make her realise what work you put in just staying awake nevermind tubefeeding and all the rest!!!

You did a great job. I don't know if I could cope so well with a preemie.

Lots of hugs your way

[MindieRose]

No vets office (around here anyways!) would sit with a pup 24 hours a day and provide the care you did. Even at the large animal hospital that I worked at, someone is there until 8 or 8:30 pm at the latest, and never has any person stayed the night there to care for a newborn pup. Your cousin has no idea.

[mardel]

He would never been better cared for in the vet than by you.Forget what she said.She has no idea what she's talking about.Sometimes it is just not met to be,We all have tried to safe a baby by all means but just couldn't.The last time this happened to me my baby was already 4 weeks.

[Marlee]

I really do appriecate everyones kind words. I am still in shock the way she is being, but then again it is not like they have not been negative before. Apparently the consensus with her, and a few others in my family that if I had left him in the vet he would have been put on IV fluids and a incubator, and all would have been well.

I know from past experiance that is not the case. I had a pup get sick with pneumonia the last time around, I took care of him for weeks, and yes he made it, but I was up round the clock. They think being that I saved him I should have been able to this time. It is always the blame game with much of my family and I am tired of it.

I do know I did everything I could, I loved that little guys and fought for him until he had nothing left. I cried as my husband buried him in our back yard. To say I did not do enough is ridiculous. I know I did, and she wont take that from me.

Thanks so much for the encouragement, if nothing else I know you all here know that we fight for these guys, and the harsh reality that there is no magic cure, so live, some do not. It is hard, and sad at times, but look at these little furballs. The ones nipping at your toes, most of us have them becasue someone before us loved them to, and to say anything diffrent is wrong.

I told her to leave me alone and then she started a personal attack, don't I wish now I had never given her a puppy. LOL lesson learned.

Thanks all, I do really appriecate your words of kindness.

[Yorkieforme]

Don't let them get to you. You know in your heart that you did your best...that is all anyone...including GOD could ask for!
Bless you.

[tiggerr36792]

You did your best and you know that. IMO thats all that matters is what you know and feel in your heart. Don't take what they say personally because try as we may to please everyone in the end all we can do is please ourselves and do our best. You did a wonderful job giving that little one the best fighting chance. I am so very sorry it ended the way it did, but you did a great job trying to save him.

[GPONTLITZ]

Sorry for your loss, sounds like you did everything right to me.. that cousin I'd put her emails under spam or block.. who needs FAMILY like that..