Being told I didnt do enough???
 

Ok, so as many of you know we lost Tiny Tim. I feel as though I did every thing possible to keep him alive, in fact the Vet told me that he didnt even believe he would make it through the night. I tube fed, gave vitamin supplments, kept fluids and sugars going to him. Gave steroid shots, did the liver remedy, suctioned him after every feeding , kept him warm and basically feel I did everything I could have to save him. Yet now my cousin whom I gave a dog to last time has the balls to say if I had let the vets keep him or place him in a incubator he would have done better. I am so mad, have you ever had someone tell you you didnt do enough? And how do you respond? The vet said I did way more than they would have I am so mad, esp after my heart broke after trying to keep him alive, I litereally was up the last 3 days with about 20 minutes of sleep, how do I make these idiots happy?

Sorry just wondering if any other breeder has had this said to them???

So Sorry
 

this person has no idea what they are talking about, They never should have said that to you I have been there too many times it is hard to get the tinnies premmies to live. I know how you feel, Is this person a breeder? If so they should know better! If not they should keep thier mouth shut! If you bless them out I don't blame you I would too! I am so sorry how dare them!

Well that was very wrong of them to tell you that...it sounds like you did an excellent job of trying to keep the baby alive. They just don't understand and never will until they have to sit up all night and day CONSTANTLY trying to keep a very tiny baby alive. I would just not every bother with them!

I am glad you tried so hard to keep the baby alive..it proves you are a good person with a big heart!!!:)

I have never had to do anything like what you have gone through in the last three days and I have to say you went above and beyond to try and help this little guy pull through. I think I would have to tell him to kiss off and mind his own dang buniness...... I think you ROCK your a wonderful gma to your little furbabies!!!! Keep you head up and know that we are all thinking of you and your family during this trying time. :good job::hug::love-hug3

I appreicate the response. I was wondering if I was off my rocker, or I had the right to be upset.

I dont think anyone person can understand unless they have tried with a tiny... It was heartbreaking.

She is not a breeder, just a cousin whom I gave a puppy a year ago, you would think she would have been more kind...:( Anyways, if she says anything else, I might just bless her and her stinkin additude. :rolleyes:

I would ignore your cousin. She obviously doesnt have any experience behind what she is saying. I am sorry you lost your tiny pup

Your cousin is quite RUDE to say the least and not very sympathetic to YOUR feelings!
I would tell this cousing to MYOB!!

You did the best you could... don't even consider that you didn't.

I have never had anyone tell me that I could have done more.. it is usually the opposite.. I have lost "tinies" and have blamed myself...you know... the old "why can't I save them?" feeling....

My husband has to convince me each time that there was nothing more I could have done... the vet is always surprised they even hold on as long as they do.

You are surrounded here at YT with many who have gone thru what you went thru with Tiny Tim.... we feel your pain... and WE KNOW you did your best.. Tiny Tim was lucky to have you!!

People will say things. We cannot please everyone. I have had to learn this, but I have spent all my life ttying to learn this lesson. Your best thing is just to ignore her.
I do understand!! I lost my little baby girl - Roxie. She was born via c-section on the 12th of this month and I tried for 5 days trying to keep her a live - doing exactly the same things as you did. I ended up loosing her too. Yes, you do hear of some of these babies surviving, but they are not the norm. The hardest part was going through all that - no sleep, loss of energy, not being able to do anything except work on our little angle. You should have seen my house! But I did not care - if I could get this pup through - was all I could think of. It just was not meant to be and she was needed more in heaven - just like your little one. So many little ones we loose them during birth - we were the lucky ones to get to know their little personalities before they had to go.
So I do understand and am here for you. The best thing you can do - is know the truth yourself and go on. Just ignore what she says because she was not there with you helping you. She doesn't understand or have a clue how hard it is or was.
All my best to you.
T.

People think that there is a magical incubator that cures anything at the vet. Heck, we could make one ourseves if it was an oxygen problem. Truth is, the vet would've done the very same thing that you did. They're clueless.

Oh my, you worked so hard to save the little one. Ignore those who don't really understand all that is involved.

oh im so sorry you lost tiny tim....hugs to you! i have lost a little one before and it really takes a toll on you....ignore what your stupid cousin said she has no idea!

Marlee, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know you did everything humanly possible to help Tiny Tim and you had your YT family praying for him as well. I agree with the others, ignore the thoughtless cruel remarks from your cousin.

Sending hugs :ghug:

Guess your cousin forgot you raised the dog she has. You did the best then and you did the best now. You know in your heart that you did everything you could. I hate to hear the news and would hate to loose one but that is a part of breeding we all take the risk. And hope for the best. Even your vet wouldn't have done all you did. You were great and it just didn't happen. Your cousin wouldn't be happy no matter what.