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ReconsMomma · 06-20-2005, 04:04 PM

Sorry just need to vent and get some things off my chest and maybe get a few opinions.

Today i went to Walmart and as I am standing there in line at the check out this lady is STARING at me. No idea why. So when I get out to my car I look in the mirror to make sure I dont have anything stuck to my or hanging out my nose or whatever.
I then go to Target and notice a few people staring at me. No idea why but it was really starting to get to me. ( I have issues with people staring at me, Can you tell?? LOL)

After Target i went to the grocery store, same thing. GRRRR

So i go to the gas station for pop and cigarettes and I ask the lady behind the counter if there is anything wierd about me cause of all the people that have stared at me. I know this lady because I go in there all the time. There is a lady behind me that I would say is in her late 50s. She pipes up and tells me that the reason that she was looking at me is because I am a beautiful girl and she doesn't understand why I do what I do with my body. (I got no f-ing clue what she is talking about and I am starting to get annoyed)
So I ask what she is talking about. She tells me that she thinks that I have ruined my beauty by piercing my nose and putting tattoos in certain places. She says that I should have longer hair and try to TONE myself down. I should also wear clothes that cover my body. (I had on a pair of jeans, low rise, nothing revealing my butt crack or anything, and a t-shirt that showed just a little tummy.)

This really bothered me. I dont know why but Im not that unusual looking with my tats and piercings. I mean, right now I have my hair short short so that it spikes up all over. Its a platnum blond color. I have my nose pierced but wear a very small diamond stud in it. I have a tattoo of a fairy very small on the back of my neck, I have a butterfly on the inside of my right wrist, I have the tribal design that means MOTHER on the top of my right foot and a shooting star on my left foot. (I have more tattoos but these are the only ones that this lady would have been able to see). I dress very normal in my opinion. usually in jeans and a tshirt.
I dont really think that I stand out that much but I also dont really want to just blend in with the crowd.

If you were to see me in public would you stare at me? Do you think that I have "ruined" myself by tattooing my body and piercing my nose??

eensor · 06-20-2005, 04:29 PM

I think people who have many tattoos and piercings do it for the attention. I don't mean to hurt your feelings, because I think you are really neat, but you asked our opinions. E.

ReconsMomma · 06-20-2005, 04:35 PM

You dont have to worry about hurting my feelings. I want opinions. I myself do the tats and piercings because it is what I like. Not for the attention but I do agree with you. I think that there are many people that do it for attention.

Kaluiah · 06-20-2005, 04:36 PM

In my opinion I dont think you do it to get attention but I do think it draws attention. I love to see other people with tatoo's. I think it's interesting. I want to get one, but I'm scared to death and I have been putting it off since I was 18.
I get alot of looks too because I have my belly button pierced and I wear alot of belly shirts (not too reveling) but to were you can see my ring.
I wouldn't worrie about a couple of people staring at you.
I mean I have seen completly the opposit get stared at.

candy4me · 06-20-2005, 04:43 PM

Course sometimes people just stare at anyone who is different. I personally think different is fun. You should get a Yorkie tatoo on your chest....THAT would catch eyes!

Ilovebaby · 06-20-2005, 04:46 PM

I think that people are mean and suck. If they don't like you for who you are...then you probally wouldn't like them either. That's my theory. Everyone is so judgemental, I can't stand to be looked at, when I know I am being judged. Don't people realize that we are hard enough on ourselves as people, not to have others doing the same thing? Serisouly, I think be happy with who you are, and the people who count will love and respect you for that.

Fran42478 · 06-20-2005, 04:46 PM

Kelly --

Next time tell them to take a picture...It lasts longer

That is what I tell people when they stare...I too have tattoos and i think when people see them they stare because they are intrigued...I had an argument on the train once with a girl who was with her boyfriend because he was staring at one of my tattoos (a tribal flower on my right wrist) and he turned to her and said, see hun you need one of those they are hot...and the girl looked at me and said ugh all you girls with tattoos...and i said excuse me...It's not my fault your bf is staring, so shut it!!

LOL! I have a short fuse in the morning...

People look...sometimes I do the Miss America wave cause when they stare i feel famous

XoXoXo
Fran

PS - More pics of Preslee please! LOL!!!

Shanatink · 06-20-2005, 04:51 PM

I wouldnt stare in a bad way. I might look at your tatoos just to check them out and see what they are of. Maybe thats what people were doing. Just looking to see what the images were. Maybe they were admiring thier beauty or yours

ReconsMomma · 06-20-2005, 04:55 PM

I am not really bothered by the fact that people stare. Its more what the lady said about ruining my beauty. I relize that things were different when she was my age but come on, its 2005. People are different now adays. I dont really care what people think of me. I am me, take it or leave it.

Fran, funny you should mention the girl on the train, I amost punched a girl one day cause her boyfriend had asked me where I got most of my tats done so I was diggin out a business card for him, and she came up and gave me attitude because she thought that I was giving him my ##. LOL then she got a big tude with me.

brosie1823 · 06-20-2005, 04:58 PM

Chin up! I get a lot of looks too. I have my eyebrow and tongue pierced, and I have a tattoo on my back. I did it because I personally like the way that it looks, and actually hate the attention that it draws. The weird thing it that I don't look like the kind of person that would have those things. It really irritates me when people stare and make comments, so I just ignore it or get in their face and make it very clear what I think about them. Just ignore it...you are beautiful because of what you do to your body, not in spite of it

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rnnw62 · 06-20-2005, 05:24 PM

It's my opinion that people just shouldn't be so superficial period!
I am almost 43 and I have no problem with tattoo's or piercings.
Who you are on the inside means much more than anything related
to appearances. As long as you are happy with who you are then
that's all that really matters. Poo on the lady in the store hers is
just one opinion in a million!

fasteddie · 06-20-2005, 06:05 PM

Don't let other people getcha down! If you value their opinion, then listen to them, but if it's just some random person, does it matter what they think? If not, then don't mind their opinions or their comments, especially rude ones.

You know you are a good person, and beauty is just personal opinion anyways. Tattoos and piercings are not a big deal around Seattle, and people are pretty accepting of it, maybe if you live in a smaller area, not as many people have 'em and you may stand out? Just a theory...

ssguzzy828 · 06-20-2005, 07:21 PM

reconsmom you remind me of cousin. She has all sorts of tattoos 2 on her neck 2 on her leg 1 on her upper back and i forget where else. Everytime we go out and someone gives her the stare she asks "see something you like" but my favorite one was when she asked "omg do I have a buger hanging" Lmao

I love tattoos and if i was not soooooo afraid of needles I would get 1 or 2 and im 36. So the next time you get the stare just look right at them and ask about the buger lol.

iheartyorkies · 06-20-2005, 07:45 PM

I have to admit, I used to be put off by piercings and tatoos but that was a long time age. These days so many people have them, even in my own family. The absolute best thing you can do is show everyone the real person you are so that they can see past their own prejudices. When someone stares, just look at them and smile. Then they are responsible for how they react, either in an ugly way or in a friendly way. Don't get defensive and don't let it get ya down.

PIXIE · 06-20-2005, 09:29 PM

I'm from San Francisco,California and I would stare at you only to check out your tats which I have a couple myself but I would never straight out look at people strange no matter how they look because it's just plain RUDE! maybe I would be more used to it because I grew up seeing different looking styles like yours all the time but since I've moved to the subberbs it's totally different out here!! There way or thinking is more close minded! I say your being yourself and your happy so you go girl!

06-20-2005, 04:04 PM	#1
ReconsMomma BANNED! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Janesville WI Posts: 2,483	Why is it????? Sorry just need to vent and get some things off my chest and maybe get a few opinions. Today i went to Walmart and as I am standing there in line at the check out this lady is STARING at me. No idea why. So when I get out to my car I look in the mirror to make sure I dont have anything stuck to my or hanging out my nose or whatever. I then go to Target and notice a few people staring at me. No idea why but it was really starting to get to me. ( I have issues with people staring at me, Can you tell?? LOL) After Target i went to the grocery store, same thing. GRRRR So i go to the gas station for pop and cigarettes and I ask the lady behind the counter if there is anything wierd about me cause of all the people that have stared at me. I know this lady because I go in there all the time. There is a lady behind me that I would say is in her late 50s. She pipes up and tells me that the reason that she was looking at me is because I am a beautiful girl and she doesn't understand why I do what I do with my body. (I got no f-ing clue what she is talking about and I am starting to get annoyed) So I ask what she is talking about. She tells me that she thinks that I have ruined my beauty by piercing my nose and putting tattoos in certain places. She says that I should have longer hair and try to TONE myself down. I should also wear clothes that cover my body. (I had on a pair of jeans, low rise, nothing revealing my butt crack or anything, and a t-shirt that showed just a little tummy.) This really bothered me. I dont know why but Im not that unusual looking with my tats and piercings. I mean, right now I have my hair short short so that it spikes up all over. Its a platnum blond color. I have my nose pierced but wear a very small diamond stud in it. I have a tattoo of a fairy very small on the back of my neck, I have a butterfly on the inside of my right wrist, I have the tribal design that means MOTHER on the top of my right foot and a shooting star on my left foot. (I have more tattoos but these are the only ones that this lady would have been able to see). I dress very normal in my opinion. usually in jeans and a tshirt. I dont really think that I stand out that much but I also dont really want to just blend in with the crowd. If you were to see me in public would you stare at me? Do you think that I have "ruined" myself by tattooing my body and piercing my nose??

06-20-2005, 04:29 PM	#2
eensor YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Effingham, Illinois Posts: 2,535	I think people who have many tattoos and piercings do it for the attention. I don't mean to hurt your feelings, because I think you are really neat, but you asked our opinions. E. __________________ I'd rather be in Mexico!

06-20-2005, 04:46 PM	#6
Ilovebaby I love my Monster! Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Elkhart, IN Posts: 1,137	I think that people are mean and suck. If they don't like you for who you are...then you probally wouldn't like them either. That's my theory. Everyone is so judgemental, I can't stand to be looked at, when I know I am being judged. Don't people realize that we are hard enough on ourselves as people, not to have others doing the same thing? Serisouly, I think be happy with who you are, and the people who count will love and respect you for that. __________________ Mindy & Baby Baby's Dogster Page ****** Baby pics and Videos & More Baby pics

06-20-2005, 04:46 PM	#7
Fran42478 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Staten Island, NY Posts: 1,731	Kelly -- Next time tell them to take a picture...It lasts longer That is what I tell people when they stare...I too have tattoos and i think when people see them they stare because they are intrigued...I had an argument on the train once with a girl who was with her boyfriend because he was staring at one of my tattoos (a tribal flower on my right wrist) and he turned to her and said, see hun you need one of those they are hot...and the girl looked at me and said ugh all you girls with tattoos...and i said excuse me...It's not my fault your bf is staring, so shut it!! LOL! I have a short fuse in the morning... People look...sometimes I do the Miss America wave cause when they stare i feel famous XoXoXo Fran PS - More pics of Preslee please! LOL!!! __________________ Fran, Sophia Rose and Jake We Miss You Always Sammi 11/29/03 - 8/20/06

06-20-2005, 04:51 PM	#8
Shanatink Mommy to 3 Princesses Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: DFW Texas Posts: 11,030	I wouldnt stare in a bad way. I might look at your tatoos just to check them out and see what they are of. Maybe thats what people were doing. Just looking to see what the images were. Maybe they were admiring thier beauty or yours __________________ Custom Dog Clothing Boutique www.TinkerbellsCloset.com

06-20-2005, 04:35 PM	#3
ReconsMomma BANNED! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Janesville WI Posts: 2,483	You dont have to worry about hurting my feelings. I want opinions. I myself do the tats and piercings because it is what I like. Not for the attention but I do agree with you. I think that there are many people that do it for attention.

06-20-2005, 04:36 PM	#4
Kaluiah Ramsey little Devil in disguise Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here Posts: 985	In my opinion I dont think you do it to get attention but I do think it draws attention. I love to see other people with tatoo's. I think it's interesting. I want to get one, but I'm scared to death and I have been putting it off since I was 18. I get alot of looks too because I have my belly button pierced and I wear alot of belly shirts (not too reveling) but to were you can see my ring. I wouldn't worrie about a couple of people staring at you. I mean I have seen completly the opposit get stared at.

06-20-2005, 04:43 PM	#5
candy4me Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: around Seattle, Washington Posts: 121	Course sometimes people just stare at anyone who is different. I personally think different is fun. You should get a Yorkie tatoo on your chest....THAT would catch eyes!

06-20-2005, 04:55 PM	#9
ReconsMomma BANNED! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Janesville WI Posts: 2,483	I am not really bothered by the fact that people stare. Its more what the lady said about ruining my beauty. I relize that things were different when she was my age but come on, its 2005. People are different now adays. I dont really care what people think of me. I am me, take it or leave it. Fran, funny you should mention the girl on the train, I amost punched a girl one day cause her boyfriend had asked me where I got most of my tats done so I was diggin out a business card for him, and she came up and gave me attitude because she thought that I was giving him my ##. LOL then she got a big tude with me.

06-20-2005, 04:58 PM	#10
brosie1823 Linus - Master & Commander Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Norman, OK Posts: 917	Chin up! I get a lot of looks too. I have my eyebrow and tongue pierced, and I have a tattoo on my back. I did it because I personally like the way that it looks, and actually hate the attention that it draws. The weird thing it that I don't look like the kind of person that would have those things. It really irritates me when people stare and make comments, so I just ignore it or get in their face and make it very clear what I think about them. Just ignore it...you are beautiful because of what you do to your body, not in spite of it . __________________ Linus on Dogsterhttp://www.dogster.com/?150058 Lucy on Dogster http://www.dogster.com/?150061 Check out our bows! www.littledogbows.com

06-20-2005, 05:24 PM	#11
rnnw62 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Gilbert, Arizona Posts: 1,610	It's my opinion that people just shouldn't be so superficial period! I am almost 43 and I have no problem with tattoo's or piercings. Who you are on the inside means much more than anything related to appearances. As long as you are happy with who you are then that's all that really matters. Poo on the lady in the store hers is just one opinion in a million! __________________ Shelly, Teddy, Toby,Hanne & Indigo

06-20-2005, 06:05 PM	#12
fasteddie *YT 6000 Club Member* Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 6,238	Don't let other people getcha down! If you value their opinion, then listen to them, but if it's just some random person, does it matter what they think? If not, then don't mind their opinions or their comments, especially rude ones. You know you are a good person, and beauty is just personal opinion anyways. Tattoos and piercings are not a big deal around Seattle, and people are pretty accepting of it, maybe if you live in a smaller area, not as many people have 'em and you may stand out? Just a theory... __________________ YODA & WINKY R ::: RIP Winky ::: RIP Yoda!

06-20-2005, 07:21 PM	#13
ssguzzy828 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: south suburbs of illinois Posts: 734	reconsmom you remind me of cousin. She has all sorts of tattoos 2 on her neck 2 on her leg 1 on her upper back and i forget where else. Everytime we go out and someone gives her the stare she asks "see something you like" but my favorite one was when she asked "omg do I have a buger hanging" Lmao I love tattoos and if i was not soooooo afraid of needles I would get 1 or 2 and im 36. So the next time you get the stare just look right at them and ask about the buger lol.

06-20-2005, 07:45 PM	#14
iheartyorkies Boppin' Bo! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,719	I have to admit, I used to be put off by piercings and tatoos but that was a long time age. These days so many people have them, even in my own family. The absolute best thing you can do is show everyone the real person you are so that they can see past their own prejudices. When someone stares, just look at them and smile. Then they are responsible for how they react, either in an ugly way or in a friendly way. Don't get defensive and don't let it get ya down. __________________ ~~~ i yorkies ~~~ Cynthia Turbo and Suri!

06-20-2005, 09:29 PM	#15
PIXIE Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: CALIFORNIA Posts: 93	I'm from San Francisco,California and I would stare at you only to check out your tats which I have a couple myself but I would never straight out look at people strange no matter how they look because it's just plain RUDE! maybe I would be more used to it because I grew up seeing different looking styles like yours all the time but since I've moved to the subberbs it's totally different out here!! There way or thinking is more close minded! I say your being yourself and your happy so you go girl! __________________ *CHICO & BELLA*