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04-10-2006, 03:49 AM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: tennessee
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| how much is to much punishment? my son is 10 years old and got in trouble in school for calling a little boy gay last month. the priniple put him facing the wall for lunch and breakfast. i never said nothing because i felt he needed punished. this morning while taking him to school he told me he was still sitting at the wall and all the kids was making fun of him. i flew mad and went into the school in nearly tears and jumped all over the principle. this name calling was over a month ago and still being punished do you all think this punishment is to much or do you think he should still be punished? all kids call others names. thats the way kids are. |
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04-10-2006, 03:58 AM | #2 |
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| Most schools will have a set punishment for things. And they should have them written down in something like "behaviour managment policies". I would ask to see their "rules" and make sure they are following them with your son. I doubt that any punishment spans over a month!
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04-10-2006, 04:04 AM | #3 |
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| did the principal set any sort of time limit on the punishment? did he show any sort of remorse? did the principal say why he was still on punishment? was this "last month" as in a week ago? or "last month" as in a month ago? i don't have any kids of my own, but when i was kid, my parents never set a time limit on punishment. i just got punishment until i expressed remorse and expressed that i understood what i did wrong and how i should react differently next time. all kids may call other names, but personally i don't think it's acceptable excuse it as "that's the way kids are". if you haven't had a discussion with your son about it, maybe it's time to talk to him about why it's not right to call others names. as a kid who grew up being made fun of and called many nasty names due to my ethnicity, immigrant status, accent, naivety, what i wore, what i ate for lunch, how i looked, etc etc, i can tell you that it's very hurtful, and it stays with a person much longer than childhood. |
04-10-2006, 04:05 AM | #4 |
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| this school has a paddle policy and i refuse to sign it because i feel no one has a right to hit someone elses child. i think it's just wrong. i signed the paddle policy before with my other son because they gave me hard hard time about it. the principle paddled him so hard he bruised him and there was nothing i could do. so i will never allow that again |
04-10-2006, 04:09 AM | #5 |
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| when this happened, yes i did talk with my son and he told me and the little boy he was sorry. i still felt he needed punished because name calling does hurt, not physically but it hurts. |
04-10-2006, 04:16 AM | #6 |
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| Oh My Gosh! I thought paddle poilcies were from years ago! We arn't even allowed to hit our own kids here, never mind allowing someone else do it for us. That is so...weird...I am in shock. Well, I guess you learn new things every day! However, regardless of what punichment is being given (we obviously have different punichments) you should discuss it with your principal - being puniched for something that happened a month ago it harsh.
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04-10-2006, 04:21 AM | #7 |
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| yes i was raised in michigan and your not allowed to spank your children their either and when i moved here, it totally shocked me to to see a paddle policy. never knew that existed anymore. yes i made a appointment for a meeting. |
04-10-2006, 04:43 AM | #8 |
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| I think the punishment should have ended by now. My school has a paddle policy too but I didn't sign one and they still paddle my kids. The other day one of my sons brought home a graded paper that needed my signautre and I had questions about it so I didn't give it back to my son and told him I would bring it to school. He got paddled because he didn't bring it back even though he told his teacher I was bringing it back. It made me mad. I am fed up with the schools around here and am about ready to home school my kids. |
04-10-2006, 04:45 AM | #9 | |
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This type of punishment is not execptable!!!!! As for your other son and the name calling this is too much too! Yes be repimanded on the day but not to be carried on any longer! You have every right to be bloody cross i am bloody cross just reading your posts
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04-10-2006, 05:42 AM | #13 |
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| By allowing your son to continue to be at the wall for a comment said a month ago (for which he has apologized to the other boy), in my opinion, the school has promoted nothing other than an opportunity for the "table to be turned" - now YOUR son is the one being taunted, teased, laughed at, and made fun of. I do not blame you one bit for being so livid over this!! Any school should have punishment to "fit the crime". Why is it your son has to face the wall every day now for a month but yet in most schools, when a child gets in a fight, he/she is suspended anywhere from 2-5 days and then it's over? In my opinion, your son should have had his punishment for one day and then be done with it. Heck, my youngest (he's 13) had to serve an hour's detention after school for talking back to one of his teachers - after he served that hour, his punishment was over. Talking back to a teacher is more severe than two kids calling each other names. Get a copy of the school district's policy on punishment and what is allowed by the school board. Did the principal set the punishment at his own will or was it designated as a fair punishment by the school board? Until you get a copy of that policy in your hands, you won't know the answer to that. But one thing is for sure, your son has more than served his time for the crime!!! Please keep us posted! |
04-10-2006, 06:12 AM | #14 |
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| okay, so i may not be popular for saying this, and i'm just biased from my personal experience, but i think sometimes schools/parents do not reprimand kids enough for doing bad things. and sometimes the focus is too much on the punishment and not enough emphasis on why the behavior is bad and should not be repeated. in elementary school i had the same set of kids tease and torment me, and the school's policy of benching for a day does absolutely no good at all. i remember wishing they'd be benched longer or gotten detention longer just so they can at least leave me alone for the duration of their punishment. in this case, whatever the reasoning is for your son's punishment being extended for a month, i don't think it's acceptable for the school to tolerate other kids teasing him while he's being punished. it seems to me the school should deal with those children in the same manner your son was dealt with. |
04-10-2006, 06:26 AM | #15 |
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| I think that you are right in being mad. I don't think that your son should be punished for over a month. That fact that kids are making fun of your son and nothing has happened to them is not fair. I would ask the prinicpal why that is acceptable. I think your son apoligizing and maybe a week, at most, of sitting at the wall at lunch would have been appropriate. As for the paddeling. I can't believe that this still happens in schools. I would not want ANYONE touching my child.
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