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05-09-2011, 06:24 AM | #1 |
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| Disappointing Mothers Day Dont know why, maybe I just dont know how to Love. I thought I gave them everything they ever needed and put my every need last because I brought these 2 ladies into this world and knew this was my job and first priority. Not even a Mothers day card and found out they spent the day with their father who was never around growing up. Dont know why I am bringing this up but I guess I am just feeling sad. It was hard being a single parent but they always had my love, food, shelter, clothes. Made sure they grew up with a religious background. Dont know what I have done but maybe I just suck at being a mother. |
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05-09-2011, 06:31 AM | #2 |
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05-09-2011, 06:31 AM | #3 |
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| That is very sad.
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05-09-2011, 06:38 AM | #4 |
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| When there is a real problem they always come running back to YOU because they know they will get the unconditional love that you always give to them......and that is what really matters. Nonetheless, it does hurt.
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05-09-2011, 06:48 AM | #5 |
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| I'm so sorry you had a very sad mother's day. I don't know what it is about divorce situations that always seems to bring out hurtful behavior. You had the strength to raise them yourself. That takes a very strong, unselfish person. My mother went through a horrible marriage, divorce, and then was remarried in under a year to a man who was not to welcoming to me (and still is not after knowing me for decades now). They had a child right away, and when she comes home from another state for a holiday, I am not invited because she wants "alone time" w the parents. I wish my mother would have had the strength to stand on her own like you did. I am so sorry your daughters do not seem to recognize the strength and courage it took to take that route. Hopefully, someone will come across their path and tell them how hard and unselfish the path you chose really was. |
05-09-2011, 06:52 AM | #6 |
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| I am so sorry that yesterday was not as it should be. You are correct, you put your everything into them,trained them,cared for them. It is unfortunate when we as mothers put ourselves out there all of the time and our children forget what we gave up for them. I think that each young adult goes through a very thoughtless and selfish stage,I have 6 and have seen it in most of my children as they have grown. But at some point they seem to turn around and remember that "I" am the one that raised them and spent so much of my time with them. I am not a single parent,but it was agreed that the schooling (homeschool),and disicipling was my job. In my contacts with you I have found you to be a very kind and caring person. Your children will remember this at some point. I will be thinking of you today and praying that you will find some joy in the day. Big Texas HUG to you! |
05-09-2011, 07:07 AM | #7 |
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| I just wanted to say I'm sorry your day didn't turn out. I'm a single mother as well, and I tend to wonder how I may be perceived in the future. We can only do the best we can. Providing the necessities, love & safety is what we are ultimately called upon to do but many do that and so much more. As you've already seen in the few minutes since your post people that know you here know you're a great, loving woman. I hope this next day is better than your last. Christina & Princess
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05-09-2011, 07:11 AM | #8 |
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| Even though I have never met you, I trust the lady I live with, and she said that you are the best. So, you can take that to the bank. We all have problems with kids. We have one that only seems to treat us with respect when she needs something. Otherwise, she tends to forget who we are. There are some in each family. You did all you could for them. They will recognize the error of their ways and the hurt they caused you yesterday. You can always to apply to adopt me. I know Marge would have my bag packed and have me booked on a flight to TX. We could Hog Hunt during the day, and go after Varmints at night! You have a good day. Remember, you have a younger daughter and husband that love you, as well as many other people here, and in Illinois. The Brothers think you are #1~ |
05-09-2011, 07:18 AM | #9 |
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| I'm sorry. Do your kids live nearby or far away? I'm a single Mother too and pretty much sacrificed my entire life so my son can have a good one. Yet, I know it's not easy for him either. I hope he realizes I've done my best as I know you did. I believe they will come around. My Mother and I never got along real well until I had my son - that brought us so much closer together ~ so there is hope. I hope your girls wake up and realize all that you did for them.
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05-09-2011, 07:27 AM | #10 |
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| Im sorry you had a bad mothers day. My Husband and I decided we are separating for awhile so I had a bad one too. I know children can be very unappreciative acting sometimes when they dont really mean it. How is your relationship with them at other times?
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05-09-2011, 07:40 AM | #11 | |
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05-09-2011, 07:48 AM | #12 |
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| So sorry to hear you had a bad day Lissette. I think your daughters are just going through a selfish stage in their life. They'll come around and will probably be apologizing to you soon.
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05-09-2011, 08:01 AM | #13 | |
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05-09-2011, 08:17 AM | #14 |
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| I'm so sorry you had such a disappointing Mother's Day and I can certainly understand your sadness over it. To find out they spent the day with their father is just a double whammy. Hugs to you, and also to Chachi. My dear Mom always used to say, "Better days are coming." I hope that is true for both of you!
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05-09-2011, 08:20 AM | #15 |
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| I am so sorry to hear that your children were thoughtless on Mother's Day. I have a really strong mother who was there for my brothers and me. My younger brother just does not get how much my mother sacrificed in her life to make sure we had a good start. My parents remained married but had many issues. My mother was the one who held the family together and looked out for us. My dad was always too busy and was absent a lot or just not involved with us. This made his love seem more desirable because he was unavailable. My mothers love was unconditional and therefore taken for granted. Perhaps that is what is happening with your daughters. They are trying to fill the void left by him because of the divorce. They take your love for granted because they know you will always be there for them. They are chasing their dad trying to win his affection and validate themselves. Many kids feel they are some what responsible for their parents breaking up and strive to win the love of the one who shows it the least. It is really sad because your ex knew the day was to honor mothers and he knew that in spending time with his daughters he was taking their attention from you on your day. He is manipulating them through their need to be loved by their Dad which sets up the way they see themselves in relationships with the men they become involved with. I am sorry that your ex made the day about himself and that your daughters do not realize yet how much you have given them so lovingly. It can take years for people to realize how much a parent sacrifices of their own life to give their children a good foundation. Happy Mother's Day to you. You have been a good mother. Sometimes children are too self absorbed, or have not lived enough to understand how difficult being a parent is.
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