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06-10-2007, 11:18 AM | #1 |
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| Well, I think our Yorkie hates me. The fiancee and I got a Yorkie a week or so ago, and it's apparently obvious that the dog only likes Heidi and not me. Now, Heidi spends more time in general with the dog...this is definitely true. I am the one, however, who comes home first and lets him out in the afternoon...and he generally sits on my lap (at least somewhat) when we take drives....so I'm not totally MIA or anything. But I'd say Heidi gets at least twice as much time around the dog than I do. Anyhow...it hasn't always been SO bad...the dog has always favored her...but it hasn't been as bad as lately...here's some examples....I just want to know how right you think I am: - The dog, when we're both around, basically refuses to go near me at all. Even if we put him on me and I start petting it, it just goes to her immediately. - When I go outside with it, it doesn't jump up at me anymore...and it doesn't really follow me when I run anymore. - Lastly, and perhaps most telling, is that if it's around me and I am petting or scratching it, it basically shows no joy...it lays there...ears flat and straight back...and doesn't look happy. Actually, last time, it jumped away from me and tried to hide from me. So I'm guessing it either hates me, or is scared of me...OR perhaps Yorkies only cling to one master?? I'm guessing the stimuli could be that last night I was too rough grabbing him when we were scolding it...it was running away and I nabbed him really fast, and he let out a high-pitched whimper when I did...leading me to believe I was too rough. Heidi does more discipline than I do, because she's around him more, but I think I may be more severe in general. I could be wrong. Anyhow....is this just going to be a permenant problem?? DO you think he sounds scared or just hates me?? If this can't be rectified....well...it's going to suck having one of these dogs. |
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06-10-2007, 11:24 AM | #2 |
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| Both of my dogs have a preference as far as their favorite person. I think thats just yorkies but there are some things you can do to get him to warm up to you. You need to be the one that feeds him everyday. Also you need to be the one to gve him treats. Also take him out for walks and you hold the lead.
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06-10-2007, 11:36 AM | #3 |
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| I agree, maybe if you give him treats and have special time with him, he'll warm up a little more. But I do think it's possible because she is with him more, he'll be more bonded to her. Hope things turn out well.
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06-10-2007, 11:51 AM | #4 |
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| I've always found that male yorkies tend to bond with women much more strongly than with men in general (I know that exceptions exist). He may also be competing with you for her affection. I would speak to an animal behaviorist before it gets any worse.
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06-10-2007, 12:28 PM | #5 |
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| Yorkies do develop very strong bonds. My dogs (two yorkies, one lab) all love everyone in the family....but they all also have their very *favorite* members....and unfortunately, *none* of them love *me* the most! I was teasing my husband about this the other day, saying we needed one more dog so one could be "mine". But he and I both know, it woudn't make a difference...when he's around, he's always going to be more "popular" than I am...because he feeds them! Meaning....little treats all night long. Pinches of hamburger and cheese while dinner is cooking...naughty little nibbles of whatever he's eating.... Not much...yorkies are generally small dogs, and they tend to have sensitive stomachs, so their "treats" should be kept to a minimum. But a little taste of something here and there throughout the evening from YOU, not her, would quickly associate you with Good Things. Other than that, just try doing what the dog likes best! If it's playful, play with it....if it's not (some yorkies aren't!) don't try to press that issue. Some yorkies aren't really lap dogs and don't like to be petted if they DO come and lay in your lap....I have one that's that way, and another who is practically surgically attached to us! Best advice....just love the little dog and accept it no matter what, and don't make an issue out of this. Dogs don't understand such things the same way that humans do, and he'll only pick up on the fact that you seem annoyed with him all the time for some reason....which of course will only intensify his reactions. If this a puppy? How old? They go through different stages of feeling more anxious or insecure, and your girlfriend may just be his "safe" person. On the other hand, Mazie was almost a year old when we got her, and for the LONGEST time she was completely (abnormally!) attached to me: wouldn't take her eyes off me and was anxious if someone else held her....had a fit if I left the room....acted scared of my husband, etc. Well guess what.....a year (and lots of spoiling from him! ) later, and she is HIS GIRL!!!! From the time he walks in the door at night, she never leaves his side...or his lap! Hang in there and just go with the flow....I bet you guys will bond yet!
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06-10-2007, 12:35 PM | #6 |
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| It is so true that Yorkies quickly choose a favorite and it is VERY obvious at first. HOWEVER....he will grow to love you, too. My two have recently decided they like to nap with my husband because he doesn't move as much as me (I get up to put clothes in the dryer, etc...mom stuff). But if they had their "druthers" they would be with me. Give it some time and I promise he will come around. Try not to be jealous...they can pick up on negative energy. Good luck!!
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06-10-2007, 12:40 PM | #7 |
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| Keep working with him... I agree with the earlier post...I think girls bond to the male figure and boys to female figure. It is that way in our home. Good luck.
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06-10-2007, 12:42 PM | #8 | |
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There must be some reason like that; how else could she prefer him to me?! | |
06-10-2007, 12:48 PM | #9 | |
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06-10-2007, 02:22 PM | #10 |
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| LOL all these posts crack me up I've posted before, I didn't really think Sadie had a favorite...it's almost like she prefers the living room to anywhere else, and whoever is in there, gets her. LOL My boyfriend goes to bed later than me (I get up earlier) and she will not settle down with me in bed if he's awake, and vice versa (when I get up, she's up too...although she'll lay on her crocheted afghan my memere made and nap while I'm up)... However, she sleeps in between my legs at night, and whoever posted this before (on another thread) might be on to something; must be because I generally do not move while I sleep (even before I had a yorkie sleeping in between my legs, LOL), whereas Michael, it's like he is doing calisthenics while he sleeps
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06-10-2007, 02:27 PM | #11 |
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| So funny that you posted this...we always had girl dogs in the past and they were definetly my husbands..I believed it was because he was early bird who fed them and took them out...then we got Reece our first male and it was over...Reece was mine all mine...he couldnt and still dosent give an attention to Phil lol...I love it!! Phil still cant understand why Reece loves me more...must be a male thing?? My girls still love Phil the best...but as long as I have my Reecey...life is good.. Dawn |
06-10-2007, 02:29 PM | #12 |
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| My girls have favorites for sure. It took little Piper a year before she actually would go on her own and sit with my husband now they are best buddies
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06-11-2007, 07:06 AM | #13 |
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| Adie has been a Momma's girl from day 1, but a few of you might recall that she got very ill on her second day with us (July 4th) and I was the one nursing her back to health after we got her back from the hospital. Actually I did all of the work. When a puppy doesn't feel well they need a Mamma and it stuck with Adie. When she is hurt or scared she wants me and would probably chew through a wall to get to me if she had to. Dad is just fine when I'm not there but the minute I get home he ceases to exist as far as she is concerned. (Unless he has a bowl of ice cream. LOL) |
06-11-2007, 07:21 AM | #14 |
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| My Alyssa has this thing going with me and my husband. She loves her daddy and is a daddy's girl. She loves to be with him. On the other hand she loves me, too and loves to be with me. In her eyes it is ok for it to be daddy and Alyssa or mommy and Alyssa. The problem comes when it is mommy and daddy together. We can't even sit on the couch without her getting between us. The last morning he kissed me goodbye Alyssa bit him on the cheek after barking non-stop. If her little sister gets closer to me than Alyssa she will jump on her. Alyssa is very possessive. I guess part of that came from being the only furbaby for almost 3 years. |
06-11-2007, 07:29 AM | #15 |
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| Maybe it has something to do with you calling him 'IT' haha Seriously though, sounds like hes fearful of you a bit. You mean business and your fiance means fun and affection. Plus he is a boy and boy dogs generally like girls better!
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