Missing Jake! Did I Make the Wrong Decision? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Kerri · 10-07-2006, 02:15 PM

Ok, so I am sure I am going to get bashed on this thread but I need to give it a shot.
Many of you may not remember me because it has been such a while since I was here. So, my son got a Yorkie from Santa last year in 2005. His name was Jake. I also had a 7 year old female. Anyway, Jake was the most lovable dog in the entire world. The problem was that we practically live on a farm. Jake seemed to like to devour the chickens on a daily basis. I would turn both dogs out in the morning and Jasmine (my 7 yr. old female) was the only one that would return back to the door. Jake would hide and stay out all day only for us to come home and find mutilated chickens. Prior to this, Jake was also agressive with my 5 year old son.
So, my sister found a wonderful home for Jake this past week. I let Jake go spur of the moment and feel so heartbroken. I know he is better off where he is getting the best attention in the whole world but I never imagined missing him so much.
Jake is at home with a lady in remission from breast cancer. He is an only pet and is getting the best loving and attention any animal can imagine.
My other drawback from Jake was that I work 40 hrs. a week and go to school at night two nights a week. This was not expected when Jake was purchased.
As I said, many of you are going to bash me and I expect that. But, I miss him so much and have actually asked for a change of heart from the lady that got him. She have fell in love with him and has welcomed him into her home. She says I can't have him back.
I have Jasmine but something is still missing and that is my spunky "Jake".
I had an 18 year old dog to pass away last year and it seems almost as hard as letting Jake go.
I know he is happy but I would love to have him back. Maybe I'm selfish!
Again, please don't bash me too much! I'm just looking for sentiments here. I think I did what was right for Jake.

Willow · 10-07-2006, 02:23 PM

I do not understand why you asked for him back if you think you did what was right for him? I am sorry for the loss of your other dog. I understand the feeling of missing a pet, and if he was in a bad situation where he wasn't being cared for, I would support the decision to try to get him back. Aggressive towards your child is a red flag to me. Also, he was killing your chickens? It doesn't sound like it was a good mix there. Is your yard fenced in? Did you try taking him out on a harness and leash?

It sounds like he has found a loving home with someone who will give him the time and attention he deserves. I know you must miss him dearly, it is amazing how fast they work their way into our hearts.

Did you meet with the lady before your let her take him?

buddybramble · 10-07-2006, 02:28 PM

You HAVE done what was best for Jake. You are obviously going to miss him and maybe even feel a bit guilty about him having to go but personally i think you did the best thing for him, what if something happened to him while he was out all day on a farm?? worse still what if he really went for your little boy?? He's in a happy home getting one to one attention please don't take that away from him or the lady who's life he has brightened up. In time the hurt you feel will lessen and you can feel proud about what you HAD to do for everyone involved x

LuvtheCooper · 10-07-2006, 02:30 PM

I'm not going to bash you at all!! You were a good yorkie mom for letting him go to a place that was better for him. It must be hard and I know you are second guessing yourself and that makes it all that much harder!! But really, with all that you mentioned..the agression with your little boy, the chicken problem and also your lack of time...he IS better off and that is what you have to think of first, as hard as that is. Does he live to far away now that maybe you could have visiting privileges? Again, not bashing, but really it isn't fair to ask her to give him back either. You sound like a caring person and if you weren't you wouldn't miss him so much, but in this instance it sounds like you made the right decision for him and your family! Sending you a big hug...I hope you make it through this rough time and don't beat yourself up too much and you should let yourself miss him and even grieve for him, how could you not...you loved him and you put him first

katia'smommy · 10-07-2006, 02:31 PM

I think you made the right decision. Give it a few days. You will be okay. Just focus your energy on your schoolwork =)

Kerri · 10-07-2006, 02:33 PM

Tears are really streaming now...
Yes, I met the lady. There were no doubts in my mind. After he was gone was when it really hit me...like 1 minute after the fact. I have heard that once a dog has the taste of blood, he will keep going after it. Jake loved to terroize our chickens. I gave him so many chances. I even tried a leash for him but he almost tried to break his neck getting off of it.
He was such a good dog.
Am I wanting him back for the wrong reasons???
I have heard from his new owner many times and he has just overtaken her home...She loves him!!! Which I still do.
I never imagined it would be this hard!

Willow · 10-07-2006, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Kerri

Tears are really streaming now...
Yes, I met the lady. There were no doubts in my mind. After he was gone was when it really hit me...like 1 minute after the fact. I have heard that once a dog has the taste of blood, he will keep going after it. Jake loved to terroize our chickens. I gave him so many chances. I even tried a leash for him but he almost tried to break his neck getting off of it.
He was such a good dog.
Am I wanting him back for the wrong reasons???
I have heard from his new owner many times and he has just overtaken her home...She loves him!!! Which I still do.
I never imagined it would be this hard!

Maybe ask the lady if you can visit him? Would that help? or do you think visiting him would make it harder for you? If she agrees, schedule days to go over and have coffee or something. Surely she won't object to that?

Kerri · 10-07-2006, 02:43 PM

I would love to visit Jake (the owner would love that) but I am kind of afraid. I think it is too soon. All Yorkie owners and pet owners as well can imagine what it is like to love your dogs. Deep down I know what I did was best for Jake but he grabbed my heart from day one. I finally figured out that our environment wasn't the best place for him. I really blame myself for bringing him here and then letting him go. If I could change it, I sure would!!!

red98vett · 10-07-2006, 02:44 PM

oh wow - I think you probably did the right thing for him too....and he sounds like he's living like a king....

I would accept your own decision and maybe, like someone said - see if you can visit him.... but I would tell the lady that has him she doesn't need to worry about you taking him back cause she probably is now....that's alot of stress for someone with cancer.

I bet he's very happy and sometimes we just have to move forward - you made a choice and it seems everyone loses if you try to get him back...but I'm sorry you're having such a hard time,

JeanieK · 10-07-2006, 03:09 PM

I can imagine how much you are missing him. But it sounds like you made the right decision for both your family and for Jake. And Made that poor woman very happy. You may have even given her somthing to live for.

Sometimes when people or pets enter our lives for a short period of time and then leave again, they were never really ours to keep. We were just place holders until their real purpose came along.

I think Jake was waiting for his real mom to be ready for him, and you were just taking care of him for her.

When the time and circumstances are right, another one will come along.

Kerri · 10-07-2006, 03:16 PM

Thanks for all the posts...
Jake was such a live wire for us. He woke us up every morning with all happiness. That is part of why I miss him so much. I guess I was chosen to take care of him for a while until it was time to pass him over. It is still so heart breaking to me. I miss him SO much! Maybe I am selfish for wanting him back but he became a huge part of my life in such a short time.
I know he is being well taken care of and that is the important part. I would give anything if I could have been the one to give him eternal happiness! That is where I feel like I let him down!

peanut · 10-07-2006, 03:40 PM

I understand where your coming from...I had a golden that I raised from a baby but I just felt like I wasn't giving him all he needed so found him a great home with children..I must of drove them poor people crazy calling every other day to make sure he was okay...Give it some time it does ease and just keep telling yourself you did the best for Jake....I couldn't go see Hunter it would break my heart but maybe your stronger than me...

Kerri · 10-07-2006, 03:49 PM

I just can's figure out...Why am I crying so hard? Did I really do the right thing? This is really tearing at my heart. Right now, I would do anything to get him back. But, deep down I know he is in a better place...somewhere where he can be free and be happy. I am still crying almost a week later. I wish I could find peace....somewhere..

peanut · 10-07-2006, 03:55 PM

you will it takes time I did the same thing for about 2 weeks, its having him not there and being so quite with out him is doing it...I had to just let go after 2 weeks no calling or anything...I know I made the best choice for him and it sounds like you did the same for Jake.....He is in a better place....not that you didn't love him but he is getting all the attention and love...so don't feel guilty, it hurts but you did make the right choice....

daisy mae06 · 10-07-2006, 04:01 PM

Haveing a dog that like to et at your chickens is not a good thing.I have a friend that has a small farm and they got a rat terr. this year. Last week she tore a wing off one of her chickens

Well she has always said that if the Animals don't get along she would have to get rid of the one causing the problems.

This lil Dog also Gets at the cats( But I think they really like to Play with her).

They also will stalk and Pounce on Her it's kinda cute to watch.

I Think you did the right thing. Maybe You and this Lady can become good friends and take the dogs for walks and such. Hey you never know you could Gain a new best friend outa the deal and still get to play with Jake.

10-07-2006, 02:15 PM	#1
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	Missing Jake! Did I Make the Wrong Decision? Ok, so I am sure I am going to get bashed on this thread but I need to give it a shot. Many of you may not remember me because it has been such a while since I was here. So, my son got a Yorkie from Santa last year in 2005. His name was Jake. I also had a 7 year old female. Anyway, Jake was the most lovable dog in the entire world. The problem was that we practically live on a farm. Jake seemed to like to devour the chickens on a daily basis. I would turn both dogs out in the morning and Jasmine (my 7 yr. old female) was the only one that would return back to the door. Jake would hide and stay out all day only for us to come home and find mutilated chickens. Prior to this, Jake was also agressive with my 5 year old son. So, my sister found a wonderful home for Jake this past week. I let Jake go spur of the moment and feel so heartbroken. I know he is better off where he is getting the best attention in the whole world but I never imagined missing him so much. Jake is at home with a lady in remission from breast cancer. He is an only pet and is getting the best loving and attention any animal can imagine. My other drawback from Jake was that I work 40 hrs. a week and go to school at night two nights a week. This was not expected when Jake was purchased. As I said, many of you are going to bash me and I expect that. But, I miss him so much and have actually asked for a change of heart from the lady that got him. She have fell in love with him and has welcomed him into her home. She says I can't have him back. I have Jasmine but something is still missing and that is my spunky "Jake". I had an 18 year old dog to pass away last year and it seems almost as hard as letting Jake go. I know he is happy but I would love to have him back. Maybe I'm selfish! Again, please don't bash me too much! I'm just looking for sentiments here. I think I did what was right for Jake.

10-07-2006, 02:23 PM	#2
Willow Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,890	I do not understand why you asked for him back if you think you did what was right for him? I am sorry for the loss of your other dog. I understand the feeling of missing a pet, and if he was in a bad situation where he wasn't being cared for, I would support the decision to try to get him back. Aggressive towards your child is a red flag to me. Also, he was killing your chickens? It doesn't sound like it was a good mix there. Is your yard fenced in? Did you try taking him out on a harness and leash? It sounds like he has found a loving home with someone who will give him the time and attention he deserves. I know you must miss him dearly, it is amazing how fast they work their way into our hearts. Did you meet with the lady before your let her take him? __________________ Alycia Autumn Gizmo Maddie

10-07-2006, 02:28 PM	#3
buddybramble Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Essex, England Posts: 156	You HAVE done what was best for Jake. You are obviously going to miss him and maybe even feel a bit guilty about him having to go but personally i think you did the best thing for him, what if something happened to him while he was out all day on a farm?? worse still what if he really went for your little boy?? He's in a happy home getting one to one attention please don't take that away from him or the lady who's life he has brightened up. In time the hurt you feel will lessen and you can feel proud about what you HAD to do for everyone involved x __________________ Lyn & Buddy

10-07-2006, 02:30 PM	#4
LuvtheCooper & LuvtheCarley too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Wa State/Texas Posts: 1,625	I'm not going to bash you at all!! You were a good yorkie mom for letting him go to a place that was better for him. It must be hard and I know you are second guessing yourself and that makes it all that much harder!! But really, with all that you mentioned..the agression with your little boy, the chicken problem and also your lack of time...he IS better off and that is what you have to think of first, as hard as that is. Does he live to far away now that maybe you could have visiting privileges? Again, not bashing, but really it isn't fair to ask her to give him back either. You sound like a caring person and if you weren't you wouldn't miss him so much, but in this instance it sounds like you made the right decision for him and your family! Sending you a big hug...I hope you make it through this rough time and don't beat yourself up too much and you should let yourself miss him and even grieve for him, how could you not...you loved him and you put him first __________________ Delaina Cooper & Carley

10-07-2006, 02:44 PM	#9
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	oh wow - I think you probably did the right thing for him too....and he sounds like he's living like a king.... I would accept your own decision and maybe, like someone said - see if you can visit him.... but I would tell the lady that has him she doesn't need to worry about you taking him back cause she probably is now....that's alot of stress for someone with cancer. I bet he's very happy and sometimes we just have to move forward - you made a choice and it seems everyone loses if you try to get him back...but I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

10-07-2006, 02:31 PM	#5
katia'smommy Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Irving, TX Posts: 42	I think you made the right decision. Give it a few days. You will be okay. Just focus your energy on your schoolwork =)

10-07-2006, 02:33 PM	#6
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	Tears are really streaming now... Yes, I met the lady. There were no doubts in my mind. After he was gone was when it really hit me...like 1 minute after the fact. I have heard that once a dog has the taste of blood, he will keep going after it. Jake loved to terroize our chickens. I gave him so many chances. I even tried a leash for him but he almost tried to break his neck getting off of it. He was such a good dog. Am I wanting him back for the wrong reasons??? I have heard from his new owner many times and he has just overtaken her home...She loves him!!! Which I still do. I never imagined it would be this hard!

10-07-2006, 02:43 PM	#8
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	I would love to visit Jake (the owner would love that) but I am kind of afraid. I think it is too soon. All Yorkie owners and pet owners as well can imagine what it is like to love your dogs. Deep down I know what I did was best for Jake but he grabbed my heart from day one. I finally figured out that our environment wasn't the best place for him. I really blame myself for bringing him here and then letting him go. If I could change it, I sure would!!!

10-07-2006, 03:09 PM	#10
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	I can imagine how much you are missing him. But it sounds like you made the right decision for both your family and for Jake. And Made that poor woman very happy. You may have even given her somthing to live for. Sometimes when people or pets enter our lives for a short period of time and then leave again, they were never really ours to keep. We were just place holders until their real purpose came along. I think Jake was waiting for his real mom to be ready for him, and you were just taking care of him for her. When the time and circumstances are right, another one will come along.

10-07-2006, 03:16 PM	#11
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	Thanks for all the posts... Jake was such a live wire for us. He woke us up every morning with all happiness. That is part of why I miss him so much. I guess I was chosen to take care of him for a while until it was time to pass him over. It is still so heart breaking to me. I miss him SO much! Maybe I am selfish for wanting him back but he became a huge part of my life in such a short time. I know he is being well taken care of and that is the important part. I would give anything if I could have been the one to give him eternal happiness! That is where I feel like I let him down!

10-07-2006, 03:40 PM	#12
peanut Dogs Rule Cats Drool! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Tennessee Posts: 7,895	I understand where your coming from...I had a golden that I raised from a baby but I just felt like I wasn't giving him all he needed so found him a great home with children..I must of drove them poor people crazy calling every other day to make sure he was okay...Give it some time it does ease and just keep telling yourself you did the best for Jake....I couldn't go see Hunter it would break my heart but maybe your stronger than me... __________________ KIM

10-07-2006, 03:49 PM	#13
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	I just can's figure out...Why am I crying so hard? Did I really do the right thing? This is really tearing at my heart. Right now, I would do anything to get him back. But, deep down I know he is in a better place...somewhere where he can be free and be happy. I am still crying almost a week later. I wish I could find peace....somewhere..

10-07-2006, 03:55 PM	#14
peanut Dogs Rule Cats Drool! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Tennessee Posts: 7,895	you will it takes time I did the same thing for about 2 weeks, its having him not there and being so quite with out him is doing it...I had to just let go after 2 weeks no calling or anything...I know I made the best choice for him and it sounds like you did the same for Jake.....He is in a better place....not that you didn't love him but he is getting all the attention and love...so don't feel guilty, it hurts but you did make the right choice.... __________________ KIM

10-07-2006, 04:01 PM	#15
daisy mae06 Kodi & Pixie 2 Donating Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: NEBRASKA Posts: 14,766	Haveing a dog that like to et at your chickens is not a good thing.I have a friend that has a small farm and they got a rat terr. this year. Last week she tore a wing off one of her chickens Well she has always said that if the Animals don't get along she would have to get rid of the one causing the problems. This lil Dog also Gets at the cats( But I think they really like to Play with her). They also will stalk and Pounce on Her it's kinda cute to watch. I Think you did the right thing. Maybe You and this Lady can become good friends and take the dogs for walks and such. Hey you never know you could Gain a new best friend outa the deal and still get to play with Jake. __________________ OK Yorkie Rescue - http://okyorkierescue.org LorisCritterSitter.com