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01-28-2006, 11:15 AM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC
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| When to Let Go???? Please Help!!!! ANYONE??? Not really a yorkie type situation here but I have yorkies and I love everyone here so I thought I would try for some advice. I have an 18 year old poodle/lhaso apso (sp?) mix female. Her name is Flossie. She was my mothers dog and after my mother passed (when I was young) almost 12 years ago, I brought Flossie home with me. She only weighs around five pounds. Of course her age is getting the best of her. She can't see that great, can't hear and is getting on the senile side. I have made appts. on different occasions to get her put to sleep but I just can't do it. I told the vet. Dr. that I keep praying she will just go to sleep one night and that will be easier. Now, I just don't know that will happen. Since we have recently gotten Jake, our 3 month old Yorkie) she is really starting to go downhill even more. I can't let him near her. He attacks her and she doesn't have a chance. I just don't know how to do this!!! Her quality of life is gone but it is like I want her to stay around as long as possible...I rescued her after I got married. When I left my Dad's house, she couldn't deal with me leaving. She completely lost the hair on her head due to nerves. I gave her a sense of life when I brought her to live with us. I know I need to make a decision but I can't bear with the memories. I feel like I have my Mother's angel here and I don't want to let her go. PLEASE HELP ME HERE!!!! |
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01-28-2006, 11:24 AM | #2 |
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| I am so sorry to hear that you are faced with this heartbreaking decision.Try to think of it as letting her go to be reunited with your Mom and then you will have two angels watching over you. I am not trying to simplify your situation but I have also been faced with this type of dicision and in the end I had to let go because I realized that it was not fair to my dog. I send you my heartfelt wishes that you will do what is right for your sweet dog. Your heart knows what to do..you just have to trust it.
__________________ Rest in peace my sweet angel dog, Lavinia Hyacynth, Vivi. I love you forever. Bear healed my broken heart! |
01-28-2006, 11:30 AM | #3 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC
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| Thanks for quickly responding! I am so in tears right now and looking for advice. It is so hard to say but I think I will honestly be relieved and still very sad at the same time when the time comes. Flossie has no life right now. I keep hanging on to her like my Mom is actually still here somewhat. I just think I am really selfish right now. Jasmine (my 7 year old female yorkie) just loves Flossie and they are two peas in a pod. I know it will have a devastating effect on her as well. Poor Flossie even has the awful smell to her like everything is shutting down or something. : ( : ( |
01-28-2006, 11:37 AM | #4 |
Lily Loves Maximus Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Missouri
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| Oh sweetie, what a painfull decision for you!!!!! I am so sorry that you are in this situtation. Have you talked with your vet to get their opinion? I know they usually say that it is your decision but about her quality of life. I had to make the same decision two weeks ago but it was an urgent decision. I still second guess myself. Eventhough you really know thing will never get better for them, you still unrealistically hope so. At least that is what I did. Hugs to you!!!
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01-28-2006, 11:40 AM | #5 |
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| Letting her go will be the hardest thing for you to do . I know , I have had a 14 years old Yorkie named Zsa Zsa . I was very proud of her but one day , she started to be sick and I wanted her to stay alive and well . I went several times to the vet with her , I was crying every times that I came home . The last time she was hospitalized , the vet called me to see her . I took her in my arms but Zsa Zsa had no reactions . I ask the vet to put her to sleep . Zsa Zsa looked at me and I can swear that in her look , she said thank you to me and she had the most beautiful smile in her face . I never forget the look of happiness she had when she went to Rainbow Bridge . |
01-28-2006, 11:42 AM | #6 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC
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| Thanks a bunch! Flossie has been such a wonderful dog! I know it is time and I keep putting it off. I have never been through such a tough decision in my whole entire life. The vet. wanted to put her on medication a few years ago saying she had little time left. I denied that and said that when it was time, she would go...I would not prolong something that wasn't necessary. Well, she has made it another four years approximately. |
01-28-2006, 11:42 AM | #7 | |
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01-28-2006, 11:43 AM | #8 |
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| Kerrie, My mom died when I was 18 and you would not believe some of the things that I have held onto to keep a part of her alive.Then when my husband died (I was 37) 5 years ago I did the same thing. I have come to realize that they live on in my heart and no matter where I go they will always be with me.This was never so apparent as when we all watched the horror of the hurricanes slamming into the gulf coast. I learned a lot about letting go in the heroic stories of the survivors who lost everything.Your Mom lives on in you and so will your dog. She will give you a sign when to do this...just keep looking for it. Big Hug to you
__________________ Rest in peace my sweet angel dog, Lavinia Hyacynth, Vivi. I love you forever. Bear healed my broken heart! |
01-28-2006, 11:44 AM | #9 |
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| Kerri, I am so sorry to hear about your aging friend. Sounds like Flossie is a grreat one. When I asked that same question to my vet concerning my first yorkie (she had a terminal brain condition) his answer was always -- Laciebug will tell you when it's time. Just listen with your heart and you will know. I am in tears..... for you and for my long ago lost Lacie. Hugs and good luck... |
01-28-2006, 11:44 AM | #10 |
Princess Poop A Lot Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Colorado
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| Kerri, I am so sorry for you because I know it is breaking your heart. Because of rescue I have had to help many little Yorkies cross over to the Rainbow bridge and each time I cried even though I knew it was the kindest thing I could do for them. It helps me to know the poem of the Rainbow Bridge because I can see them on the other side being puppies again and running and playing. My vet first gives them a shot to relax them and then gave them the other shot and they gently go to sleep. Maybe you could find a vet that would come to your home to do this as some will. At least you would all be with her at the end. Regarding Jasmine. I just read an article from Tufts Vet School about dogs (animals) do have an understanding about death and it would be very helpful for Jasmine to be able to smell her after she is gone. It appears from the article that animals that are very close together do better with this process and they do not grieve as much as when the other dog disappears. I will be thinking of you.
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01-28-2006, 11:46 AM | #11 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC
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| A BIG THANKS TO EVERYONE HERE!!! I have cried but that is what I need to do. Flossie is laying at my feet right now. Sometimes I feel as if she is begging! I just love her so much!!! |
01-28-2006, 11:47 AM | #12 |
YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: central Illinois
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| I am sso sorry The best thing would be to let her go. I also had to put poddle to sleep that my mother had given to me before she died. It was my last connectiion with my mother. But I know it was the best for Chanel to be out of having sizuers and pain. We will keep you in our prayers. Taffy, Baby & Star |
01-28-2006, 11:48 AM | #13 |
Lily Loves Maximus Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Missouri
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| Bless your heart! I feel so bad for you. Wish I could give you a hug.
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01-28-2006, 11:55 AM | #14 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC
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| Here is a pic of Flossie. She looks a little on the rough side. She is not capable of being groomed. Her nerves can't handle it. I just thought you all might like to see a pic. |
01-28-2006, 11:59 AM | #15 |
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| She is lovely . Thank you for sharing the picture . |
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