just a little frustrated...venting session

[lizzieg]

IDK if I am looking for a solution, if there is one, or if I just have to vent. I was married on the 28th, and we separated 4 days later. We are trying to work on things, and I moved back to my house in the mountains. The only thing that held me back from sleeping with Khloe was my husband. He loves her and is really good with her, but doesn't agree with dogs in the bed. So of course I let her sleep with me when I moved. I am spending the weekend with him, sick with a sinus infection, stressed out, and Khloe is still wanting to sleep with me. ): We crated her last night, and she calmed down after a minute or so, but I don't see the issue with her cuddling with us. She is fully housebroken now and is as clean as we are.

Thanks for allowing me to vent. We go to marriage counseling tomorrow morning; hopefully we can work our issues out. Every marriage has issues. I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend.

[BamaFan121s]

First off, let me just say that I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time. I hope all works out for the best for you.

Fortunately, my husband doesn't raise objection to 2 of ours sleeping on the bed. I know that if he had his way, they would all sleep on the floor, so I am thankful that he lets me have my way with them in this instance. I love them sleeping up next to me, but I can understand that dogs sleeping in/on the bed is just not everyone's cup of tea. I don't think it's an unreasonable request on his part.

[143julz]

I hope the best for you and your marriage..

Have you ever put your pup in bed w/ you and your husband?
My husband was against it too, since i tend to go to bed first I'd alway have Dudley up there w/ me, usually we we're asleep when he came back.
A few times he'd put Dudley in his crate, then eventually (about 2-3wks) my husband slacked off Dudley would always be right up against me and didn't get in the way of my hubby at all, so my husband just stated leaving him and that's how it got to be that Dudley is full time bed buddy

Sometimes i wake up in the middle of the night and will put Dudley in his crate b/c he sleeps like a Great Dane Which I've yet to figure out, how a 5lb Yorkie can sleep like a 100 lb Dane???????????

[cthalhofer]

lol if hes like my hubby let him go to bed first and then in the morning maybe he will realize it wasnt so bad also reasher him that during times of intamacy the dog just learns to stay out of the way (i mean off the bed)

Hope all works out for you two and dont forget a marriage is like a roller coaster ride when its good its amazing and when its not it can be pretty scarry for you both. So hold on if you love him work at making it work

[lizzieg]

We have taken naps during the day with her. I don't see the difference in that and her sleeping with us at night. It's great when she sleeps with me; she will lay there until I get up. If she is in her crate, she's up at 5:15 AM whining for me to go get her. I'm probably just sick and grouchy, and I know I must give and take to make things work. Khloe just found the bathroom tissue that I have been blowing my nose with, and now it's in little pieces all over the living room, so I must go clean. I hope you all look over me; I'm a grouch-o with sleep deprivation and when I'm under the weather.

[lizzieg]

Originally Posted by cthalhofer

lol if hes like my hubby let him go to bed first and then in the morning maybe he will realize it wasnt so bad also reasher him that during times of intamacy the dog just learns to stay out of the way (i mean off the bed)

Hope all works out for you two and dont forget a marriage is like a roller coaster ride when its good its amazing and when its not it can be pretty scarry for you both. So hold on if you love him work at making it work

lol. You're so funny! I'm not too keen of being intimate in the same room as an animal; something about them and their piercing eyes ruin the mood. Thank you for the words of encouragement. There is more good times than bad with us, so it's definitely a relationship worth saving. I hope you have a fabulous weekend. (:

[Beamers Mom]

Originally Posted by lizzieg

lol. You're so funny! I'm not too keen of being intimate in the same room as an animal; something about them and their piercing eyes ruin the mood. Thank you for the words of encouragement. There is more good times than bad with us, so it's definitely a relationship worth saving. I hope you have a fabulous weekend. (:

Happy to hear the relationship is worth saving. Marriage is a lot of give and take (Bruce gives, I take - just kidding). In 40 years we have had a few bad times, but the good times always outweigh the bad.

Just remember the reason you married him in the first place

[ally173]

how about putting a bed for her in your room; at least she's in the room if not on the bed.

[cally930]

I love my dogs and would love having them sleep with me. My husband, on the other hand, would never agree to that. So I compromised, this time. Marriage - just like everything else is a compromise. I give in to this and he gives in to that. I truly believe that each and every one of us has the ability to make ourselves happy. It should not be reliant on the other person to make us happy - it should be up to us. Envision you will be happy with your husband - and you will be. Obviously if he is abusive - then forget everything I said.

I truly wish you happiness and that you find what you are looking for.

[Roxiesmama]

My DBF is absolutely against the dog being in our bed, so I don't even mention it or suggest it anymore. To me it's just not worth arguing over. We snuggle on the couch with Roxie and that's where it stays.

I wish you the best of luck with everything!

[deonk1]

Hey, I just wanted to wish you the best in working with your marriage. I'm in the middle of some couples issues too, so I feel for you... We don't let Harley sleep with us, mainly because he's an energizer bunny, and secondly the bf is not a sound or still sleeper. So the combination isn't safe for Harley, that and he's not potty trained. I think the suggestions everyone else made are good ideas. Good luck. We're all here for you.

[lizzieg]

Thank you all for the support and advice! I'm thinking I need to buy her an oversized pillow; she isn't taking to the bed that I bought her, but she loves pillows. I'm going to the walk-in clinic today to see about my cold/sinus infection/allergies. Lately, I've been tending to Khloe a lot better than myself, and a month cold has finally caught up with me. I guess she'll have to do without new accessories for a few weeks... Well, off to counseling and to the doctor. I appreciate everyone's input; you guys are awesome. Have a wonderful weekend! ~Liz

[lizzieg]

Originally Posted by deonk1

Hey, I just wanted to wish you the best in working with your marriage. I'm in the middle of some couples issues too, so I feel for you... We don't let Harley sleep with us, mainly because he's an energizer bunny, and secondly the bf is not a sound or still sleeper. So the combination isn't safe for Harley, that and he's not potty trained. I think the suggestions everyone else made are good ideas. Good luck. We're all here for you.

Thank you so much! I hope everything goes well for you as well. Even though I feel alone, I know that no relationship is perfect. Have a great weekend!

[Yorkiekids]

I'm going to pray for your situation, and hope you get a good counselor.

[lizzieg]

Originally Posted by Yorkiekids

I'm going to pray for your situation, and hope you get a good counselor.

Thank you. Your prayers are appreciated. We went to our first session this morning, and I am thankful that he is going into it with all fairness and an open mind. We've decided to cut our 50-60 hour work weeks down to 40 so we can be less tired and stressed for awhile. I'll enjoy the time with the kids after they get home from school as well. (: