I hope the best for you and your marriage..
Have you ever put your pup in bed w/ you and your husband?
My husband was against it too
, since i tend to go to bed first I'd alway have Dudley up there w/ me, usually we we're asleep when he came back.
A few times he'd put Dudley in his crate, then eventually (about 2-3wks) my husband slacked off
Dudley would always be right up against me and didn't get in the way of my hubby at all, so my husband just stated leaving him and that's how it got to be that Dudley is full time bed buddy
Sometimes i wake up in the middle of the night and will put Dudley in his crate b/c he sleeps like a Great Dane
Which I've yet to figure out, how a 5lb Yorkie can sleep like a 100 lb Dane???????????