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Deegan's mom · 01-01-2009, 02:18 PM

Hi all - as you may or may not know by now my dh gave the permission to get/adopt Kricket. It took 4 days of pouting, tireless convincing and some tears, but he made me promise a few things.
So today we went and saw him and what a little sweetie he is!! So cute & so much like Deegan! I'm exstatic, but Julien isn't. He keeps bringing up the fact of how much extra work it will be and how he's happy with just one & not showing any enthusiasm at all. Now I feel bad, like I'm forcing it on him. I think that once he gets used to the new routine and stuff it won't be so bad. He's not big on change at all - he kinda acted like this when I first got Deegan too. I'm trying to reassure him that it won't be too much after we get Kricket settled, but he thins otherwise. I hope that it works out - for all of us.
Has anyone elses spouse acted like this when you were about to get a new dog that they didn't really want? What was the outcome?

AND Julien doesn't like the name Kricket - I think he wants to change it. I do to in a way, but it seems so hard since he's been called Kricket for 8 months while in the rescues care. (He was there 8 months because he had liver shunt surgery and they wanted to be sure he was fully recovered before adopting him out.) Has anyone ever change a dogs name? How did that go? Is it too confusing to the dog? So many questions and concerns - I want to do this good deed, but I pray that it goes smoothly.

luvfla · 01-01-2009, 02:32 PM

Sounds like Cricket is a BOY!?! IF so..that is NOT a boys name...let your husband name him. He, for sure, knows a better boy name!
ENJOY!

bildio · 01-01-2009, 02:33 PM

I had a similar situation with my DW. I did the male equivalent of pouting & crying. I went by myself to meet Gus. If I had taken my DW with me, she'd have said "Let's think some more." We'd still be thinking 10 months later.

It took about 6 months for my DW to really warm up to Gus. Now she thinks he's so cute, & affectionate. My wife rarely smiles, & is usually grouchy. However, when Gus greets her she bursts into a large smile, & she become's warm & calm.

I think the name change is doable. I think it's the tone of voice more than the actual name.

Good luck. I think it will work out very well.

Mom of 3 · 01-01-2009, 02:46 PM

I am alone (spouse passed away) so I have not gone through this. But If you let hubby name him/her, that will bring the puppy and him closer. I have 5 dogs total. He will be able to handle two. It will just take time. The fact that he said yes to you, tells you he will be able to handle it. That's men for you. If he was really against it, he would have stuck to his guns and said no dog, no way. I wish you the best of luck, and pray it all works out for you.

Keely_momma · 01-01-2009, 03:42 PM

Name change is deffiantly doable. My uncles English setter went from the name London (First owner) to, Paris (Go figure

-Second owner) ,to morgan (3rd owner), to Nipper (Uncle

) And This was over the course of4 years. She had her first name for 2 whole years and she started responding to her name within 2 weeks.

I think he'll warm up. My mom didnt want another dog either. She was and still is heartbroken oveer the death of our family (More like her) Dog. And she wasnt enthusiastic and prety much jut gave in but didnt really agree. As soon as keely came into our home. Mom loved her and Almost got jelous because i was and still am keelys favorite hoooman.. lol. He'll get over it pnce he relizes the true joy of adopting a dog in need.

Deegan's mom · 01-01-2009, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Mom of 3

I am alone (spouse passed away) so I have not gone through this. But If you let hubby name him/her, that will bring the puppy and him closer. I have 5 dogs total. He will be able to handle two. It will just take time. The fact that he said yes to you, tells you he will be able to handle it. That's men for you. If he was really against it, he would have stuck to his guns and said no dog, no way. I wish you the best of luck, and pray it all works out for you.

I never thought of it that way! I already gave him a couple name suggestions that I like, so maybe if I let him pick he'll come around faster! Thanks - that's a great suggestion!

Patti · 01-01-2009, 03:48 PM

I have always let my husband name all of my dogs as it does make him more involved in the process. My husband gave me the money for my last 2 yorkies but each time I brought them home he seemed a little distant. With Pixie within 24 hours he was calling her Perfect Pixie and loves her to pieces and it took him a little longer to warm to Roxie but I think that was because we had just lost Dixie (Roxie was the breeders replacement for her) and he felt so awful about losing her after only 5 weeks and didn't want to get attached again. I think your husband will see how much fun having 2 is and see how they play so nicely that he will come around.

Mom of 3 · 01-01-2009, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Deegan's mom

I never thought of it that way! I already gave him a couple name suggestions that I like, so maybe if I let him pick he'll come around faster! Thanks - that's a great suggestion!

The little 12 year old I adopted named one of the dogs that I got after I got her. He is the one that sleeps with her, and she calls "her" dog. LOL !! He listens to her more than me. This is what will happen to you if hubby names the dog!

MollysMum54 · 01-01-2009, 04:11 PM

a change of name works fine whatever the age of the dog.
my first dog was 10 years old when i adopted her. she'd had a abusive past and i wanted to change her name incase she had been shouted using her old name.
I changed it from Lady to Willow, and she accepted it really quickly.
I changed Mollys name from Bubbles to Molly, and she was fine with it too.
If you think of all the names you call your little one, and how quickly they get to know them all.
I dont very often use Mollys proper name..
its usually Mollzy, munchkin, or scruffball, and she answers to them all...lol

MollysMum54 · 01-01-2009, 04:13 PM

ps...my hubby said definitely no more dogs after we had to have willow put down, but...
he makes just as much fuss of Molly as i do, and he likes to take her everywhere we go if we possibly can!!

Shelby&Seymour · 01-01-2009, 04:15 PM

My hubby wasn't really excited about getting a second yorkie...... but now Seymour is definitely HIS dog. They are always sitting with eachother in the chair and my hubby is always catering to Seymour. ......... and yes, he named him, too (I would have called him Simon).

Maybe you could think of a name that is simular to Cricket....... and that would help the dog get used to it quicker.

phfgkl · 01-01-2009, 04:21 PM

LOL My hubby has learned by now, never to know what to expect out of me. But, the last one I did promise this would be it, as when all 6 of my dogs are gone, it will be about retirement age for us. Told him when we retire, I want to be able to come and go as we please also. I knew hubby didn't really want me to get the last one(number 6), he said with a grin, you're killing me, but, he loves this little girl, infact today, he said where's the baby when she was the only one that wasn't on the couch by me.

abby2473 · 01-01-2009, 04:28 PM

I agree with everyone else that having your husband be a part in re-naming your new baby will bring him that much closer to him. Our first Yorkie, a rescue, was 5yrs old when we brought her home...my husband absolutely refused to call her "Precious", which is the only name she had known. We changed it immediately to "Jessie" and she adapted to it right away. She became his "best bud" in no time flat!

annamalyssa · 01-01-2009, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Deegan's mom

I never thought of it that way! I already gave him a couple name suggestions that I like, so maybe if I let him pick he'll come around faster! Thanks - that's a great suggestion!

This is true, my husband did not want us to get Gucci but we did anyway and I told him when we got home, he could name him..he was just in awe over the idea and fell in love with him. He now calls him pop-ee-cho lol I named him Gucci after that but he still listens to Popecho as well, that is his and daddy's special name.

He'll come around.. they all do .. How can he resist a yorkie?

NewYorkieLover · 01-02-2009, 06:28 AM

I'm so glad you got to go see Kricket and that he is still available!

I agree that DH's feelings will probably change. At least he said you could get him.

Mine did NOT want a dog. It took quite a bit of asking on my part, and he finally agreed, but he agreement was more like, "Get it if you want." He seemed angry and annoyed at first. Any little problem was cause for huffing and puffing and a complaint.

Little by little, though, he has been changing. I could hear him downstairs sometimes, after she learned a new trick, he'd be trying it with her. Once he was playing fetch with her. I said, "You can't tell me she's not cute." His response, "I didn't want a dog." This was repeated over and over, until he finally admitted that she was cute. Not too long ago, he went to take a "catnap" on the couch, and brought her up to lie with him. He's been doing that more often.

He keeps asking me, "What kind of dog is she again?" So I know he's talking about her away from home.

And the biggie - yesterday when he got home from work and I told him she had chewed up the figure from his Polar Express train set (but that I was ordering him a new set of figures), he just said, "Lexi, you've gotta stop chewing things."

As far as names, I think letting DH name the dog is a great idea. I call Lexi so many things, that I don't think Kricket would have a hard time at all. In fact, you could still call him Kricket at times, as one of his many names. My son thinks it's funny to call Lexi "Gertrude". "Come here, Gertrude!" Because it is so much the tone of voice, that she will come to him - if she feels like it!

Good luck, and keep us posted!

01-01-2009, 02:18 PM	#1
Deegan's mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Windsor, ON Posts: 1,271	Adopting Kricket Hi all - as you may or may not know by now my dh gave the permission to get/adopt Kricket. It took 4 days of pouting, tireless convincing and some tears, but he made me promise a few things. So today we went and saw him and what a little sweetie he is!! So cute & so much like Deegan! I'm exstatic, but Julien isn't. He keeps bringing up the fact of how much extra work it will be and how he's happy with just one & not showing any enthusiasm at all. Now I feel bad, like I'm forcing it on him. I think that once he gets used to the new routine and stuff it won't be so bad. He's not big on change at all - he kinda acted like this when I first got Deegan too. I'm trying to reassure him that it won't be too much after we get Kricket settled, but he thins otherwise. I hope that it works out - for all of us. Has anyone elses spouse acted like this when you were about to get a new dog that they didn't really want? What was the outcome? AND Julien doesn't like the name Kricket - I think he wants to change it. I do to in a way, but it seems so hard since he's been called Kricket for 8 months while in the rescues care. (He was there 8 months because he had liver shunt surgery and they wanted to be sure he was fully recovered before adopting him out.) Has anyone ever change a dogs name? How did that go? Is it too confusing to the dog? So many questions and concerns - I want to do this good deed, but I pray that it goes smoothly. __________________ Jayde, Deegan & Trooper ~Be the change you wish to see in the world - Adopt a rescue pet~

01-01-2009, 02:33 PM	#3
bildio Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Havre de Grace, MD Posts: 1,536	I had a similar situation with my DW. I did the male equivalent of pouting & crying. I went by myself to meet Gus. If I had taken my DW with me, she'd have said "Let's think some more." We'd still be thinking 10 months later. It took about 6 months for my DW to really warm up to Gus. Now she thinks he's so cute, & affectionate. My wife rarely smiles, & is usually grouchy. However, when Gus greets her she bursts into a large smile, & she become's warm & calm. I think the name change is doable. I think it's the tone of voice more than the actual name. Good luck. I think it will work out very well. __________________ *Niko (3 yrs) Gus (5 yrs)* *Squirt (17 yrs - RIP)* Last edited by bildio; 01-01-2009 at 02:36 PM. Reason: correct typo

01-01-2009, 03:42 PM	#5
Keely_momma No Longer a Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Newfoundland Canada Posts: 392	Name change is deffiantly doable. My uncles English setter went from the name London (First owner) to, Paris (Go figure -Second owner) ,to morgan (3rd owner), to Nipper (Uncle) And This was over the course of4 years. She had her first name for 2 whole years and she started responding to her name within 2 weeks. I think he'll warm up. My mom didnt want another dog either. She was and still is heartbroken oveer the death of our family (More like her) Dog. And she wasnt enthusiastic and prety much jut gave in but didnt really agree. As soon as keely came into our home. Mom loved her and Almost got jelous because i was and still am keelys favorite hoooman.. lol. He'll get over it pnce he relizes the true joy of adopting a dog in need.

01-01-2009, 03:48 PM	#7
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	I have always let my husband name all of my dogs as it does make him more involved in the process. My husband gave me the money for my last 2 yorkies but each time I brought them home he seemed a little distant. With Pixie within 24 hours he was calling her Perfect Pixie and loves her to pieces and it took him a little longer to warm to Roxie but I think that was because we had just lost Dixie (Roxie was the breeders replacement for her) and he felt so awful about losing her after only 5 weeks and didn't want to get attached again. I think your husband will see how much fun having 2 is and see how they play so nicely that he will come around. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

01-01-2009, 04:15 PM	#11
Shelby&Seymour "& Seeger, too" Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Central Kentucky Posts: 5,169	My hubby wasn't really excited about getting a second yorkie...... but now Seymour is definitely HIS dog. They are always sitting with eachother in the chair and my hubby is always catering to Seymour. ......... and yes, he named him, too (I would have called him Simon). Maybe you could think of a name that is simular to Cricket....... and that would help the dog get used to it quicker. __________________ Happy Fall Y'all! 🎃

01-01-2009, 02:32 PM	#2
luvfla YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Satellite Beach, FL Posts: 3,691	Sounds like Cricket is a BOY!?! IF so..that is NOT a boys name...let your husband name him. He, for sure, knows a better boy name! ENJOY!

01-01-2009, 02:46 PM	#4
Mom of 3 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 2,181	I am alone (spouse passed away) so I have not gone through this. But If you let hubby name him/her, that will bring the puppy and him closer. I have 5 dogs total. He will be able to handle two. It will just take time. The fact that he said yes to you, tells you he will be able to handle it. That's men for you. If he was really against it, he would have stuck to his guns and said no dog, no way. I wish you the best of luck, and pray it all works out for you.

01-01-2009, 04:11 PM	#9
MollysMum54 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: England,UK Posts: 1,176	a change of name works fine whatever the age of the dog. my first dog was 10 years old when i adopted her. she'd had a abusive past and i wanted to change her name incase she had been shouted using her old name. I changed it from Lady to Willow, and she accepted it really quickly. I changed Mollys name from Bubbles to Molly, and she was fine with it too. If you think of all the names you call your little one, and how quickly they get to know them all. I dont very often use Mollys proper name.. its usually Mollzy, munchkin, or scruffball, and she answers to them all...lol

01-01-2009, 04:13 PM	#10
MollysMum54 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: England,UK Posts: 1,176	ps...my hubby said definitely no more dogs after we had to have willow put down, but... he makes just as much fuss of Molly as i do, and he likes to take her everywhere we go if we possibly can!!

01-01-2009, 04:21 PM	#12
phfgkl BANNED! Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,376	LOL My hubby has learned by now, never to know what to expect out of me. But, the last one I did promise this would be it, as when all 6 of my dogs are gone, it will be about retirement age for us. Told him when we retire, I want to be able to come and go as we please also. I knew hubby didn't really want me to get the last one(number 6), he said with a grin, you're killing me, but, he loves this little girl, infact today, he said where's the baby when she was the only one that wasn't on the couch by me.

01-01-2009, 04:28 PM	#13
abby2473 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Cape Cod, MA Posts: 1,643	I agree with everyone else that having your husband be a part in re-naming your new baby will bring him that much closer to him. Our first Yorkie, a rescue, was 5yrs old when we brought her home...my husband absolutely refused to call her "Precious", which is the only name she had known. We changed it immediately to "Jessie" and she adapted to it right away. She became his "best bud" in no time flat! __________________ Linda, Willow & Jake's Mom: Jake Rory

01-02-2009, 06:28 AM	#15
NewYorkieLover Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 418	I'm so glad you got to go see Kricket and that he is still available! I agree that DH's feelings will probably change. At least he said you could get him. Mine did NOT want a dog. It took quite a bit of asking on my part, and he finally agreed, but he agreement was more like, "Get it if you want." He seemed angry and annoyed at first. Any little problem was cause for huffing and puffing and a complaint. Little by little, though, he has been changing. I could hear him downstairs sometimes, after she learned a new trick, he'd be trying it with her. Once he was playing fetch with her. I said, "You can't tell me she's not cute." His response, "I didn't want a dog." This was repeated over and over, until he finally admitted that she was cute. Not too long ago, he went to take a "catnap" on the couch, and brought her up to lie with him. He's been doing that more often. He keeps asking me, "What kind of dog is she again?" So I know he's talking about her away from home. And the biggie - yesterday when he got home from work and I told him she had chewed up the figure from his Polar Express train set (but that I was ordering him a new set of figures), he just said, "Lexi, you've gotta stop chewing things." As far as names, I think letting DH name the dog is a great idea. I call Lexi so many things, that I don't think Kricket would have a hard time at all. In fact, you could still call him Kricket at times, as one of his many names. My son thinks it's funny to call Lexi "Gertrude". "Come here, Gertrude!" Because it is so much the tone of voice, that she will come to him - if she feels like it! Good luck, and keep us posted!