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4seasons · 05-13-2008, 05:00 AM

HELP!!!! My new mother, Lily, just had two puppies Mother's Day evening. She is driving me crazy!. If I leave her penned up with her babies she cries that she wants out with everyone else. If I let her out, she runs around like a chicken with its head cut off. Its like nothing makes her happy. She's good with the pups but always seems so anxious. I hold, talk and pet her but she still cries.

Last night, I didn't think I'd ever get to go to sleep. My 11 year old son slept on the floor next to her just so he could get some sleep.

She will only eat if I hand feed her, she won't go outside to potty, and I haven't found any accidents in the house. (My husband did tell me that he let her out when he got home from work and she ran out a little ways on the deck, went to the bathroom, then ran right back in.)

Can someone please give me some advice that I could try? I hate to see her this way.

amanda350 · 05-13-2008, 05:05 AM

Oh hunny, I sure wish I could help you!! Hopefully it will just take her some time to adjust but I know that there are some great experienced breeders on here that will help you!! Good luck and hang in there...

Potter · 05-13-2008, 11:16 AM

I know nothing about breeding but hopefully someone here will be able to help you.

lilstar63100 · 05-13-2008, 02:30 PM

pebbles was this way at first. she didnt want to be in the pin... but at the same time.. she didnt want to leave her pups. she would run out of the pen... go lay down somewhere then 2 seconds later pop back up... run back over to the pups. if i locked her in she would just sit there and wine. she didnt go to the bathroom the first day after having her pups... and would only eat chicken that i hand fed her. :-/ about a week she sompletely changed and seems much mre comfortable and confident.

Woogie Man · 05-13-2008, 04:03 PM

If she is too antsy being in the pen, just leave it open and allow her to come and go. Those newborns aren't going anywhere at this time so you don't have to worry about that. Sounds like she's just a little nervous about everything. She should settle down soon.

linda44 · 05-13-2008, 04:11 PM

My Kalani was like that too, I slept in her room 3 nights, it was enough to let her settle in. They look to you for protection, love and support. Shes afraid and nervous. She just needs your reassurance, she was the baby, and now she has babies, big change.

4seasons · 05-14-2008, 05:05 AM

Thanks for the advise. I thought that last night she was a little better until 3:30 this morning when she started barking. I got up and thought maybe she needed to go outside. That wasn't the case. I held her and talked to her then put her back with the pups. I just started to fall back to sleep when she started again. I ended up sleeping on the couch with letting her have the run of the house. She still ran back and forth a million times. Needless to say, I am totally exhausted this morning. Its going to be a long day.

myjordash · 05-14-2008, 05:09 AM

We went thru that too. Just stay with her, and pet her and talk to her, and try to get her to stay with the pups. The more she nurses and stays with them, the more she will relax and want to be with them.

katelin · 05-15-2008, 03:51 PM

I had a mother who never slept with her puppies. Not once. She was my dog, and they were just not that important. I kept the box (with heating pad) beside the bed, and when they cried, she would get up, look over the edge of the bed at them and wait to see if it was really necessary for her to go to them. Then she'd jump down, feed them, and come right back to me. She raised 4 puppies this way for 8 weeks. Finally they were weaned and she didn't give them any attention. Now, she was the EXTREME for sure.

Usually I sleep on the couch next to the play pen (where the mom and puppies are) for about a week. During that time I check on them, talk to her, hand feed her, let her in and out of the box. Generally do everything I can to make sure everyone is okay, and then finally they are okay and I can get some sleep. You wouldn't be the first sleep-deprived mom on here.

Good luck.

luckylady · 05-15-2008, 04:14 PM

Hello 4seasons...and welcome to Yorkie Talk!

Congratulations on your little litter! I hope the new mama is settling in with her new role as "mama" a bit better by now. It sounds to me like she is maybe a bit nervous and/or maybe not quite sure where she should or wants to be; with you or the pups. She'll get better soon, I'm sure. I remember when my female had pups last fall, she seems quite nervous for a little while.

Susan123 · 05-15-2008, 05:14 PM

I've heard that extra calcium can settle them down. Might be worth a shot

cesar49 · 05-16-2008, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by 4seasons

HELP!!!! My new mother, Lily, just had two puppies Mother's Day evening. She is driving me crazy!. If I leave her penned up with her babies she cries that she wants out with everyone else. If I let her out, she runs around like a chicken with its head cut off. Its like nothing makes her happy. She's good with the pups but always seems so anxious. I hold, talk and pet her but she still cries.

Last night, I didn't think I'd ever get to go to sleep. My 11 year old son slept on the floor next to her just so he could get some sleep.

She will only eat if I hand feed her, she won't go outside to potty, and I haven't found any accidents in the house. (My husband did tell me that he let her out when he got home from work and she ran out a little ways on the deck, went to the bathroom, then ran right back in.)

Can someone please give me some advice that I could try? I hate to see her this way.

i have a superyard gate thing.. it helps a lot..make a gate enclosure around her crate.. keeps other dogs out and she has room to roam

katelin · 05-16-2008, 06:12 AM

How is mom doing today?

4seasons · 05-16-2008, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by katelin

How is mom doing today?

She still runs around from room to room, but I don't think she's as anxious as she was earlier this week. I hope the nights get better. My son slept on the floor by her again two nights ago, then she woke me up this morning at 5:00 a.m. with excessive barking. I let her outside where, I have to admit, it was the first time she ran off the deck right away to go to the bathroom.

We might not be over the hump but at least I feel like we're close to the top.

katelin · 05-16-2008, 10:05 AM

Hang in there, I'm sure she will settle down in a week or so.

05-13-2008, 05:00 AM	#1
4seasons Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Nebraska Posts: 43	Need Help! New Mommy is too Anxious!!! HELP!!!! My new mother, Lily, just had two puppies Mother's Day evening. She is driving me crazy!. If I leave her penned up with her babies she cries that she wants out with everyone else. If I let her out, she runs around like a chicken with its head cut off. Its like nothing makes her happy. She's good with the pups but always seems so anxious. I hold, talk and pet her but she still cries. Last night, I didn't think I'd ever get to go to sleep. My 11 year old son slept on the floor next to her just so he could get some sleep. She will only eat if I hand feed her, she won't go outside to potty, and I haven't found any accidents in the house. (My husband did tell me that he let her out when he got home from work and she ran out a little ways on the deck, went to the bathroom, then ran right back in.) Can someone please give me some advice that I could try? I hate to see her this way. __________________ Mom of Matt, Kyle, Devin & Jared Tucker, Lily, Hunterand too many

05-13-2008, 05:05 AM	#2
amanda350 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Tennessee Posts: 552	Oh hunny, I sure wish I could help you!! Hopefully it will just take her some time to adjust but I know that there are some great experienced breeders on here that will help you!! Good luck and hang in there... __________________ Amanda, Kallie , Stewie ,Bentley , Addie Marco and Polo www.lovemyyorkies.com

05-13-2008, 11:16 AM	#3
Potter YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 1,724	I know nothing about breeding but hopefully someone here will be able to help you. __________________ http://www.dogster.com/pet_page.php?j=t&i=410379 "No matter how little money and how few possesions you own, having a dog makes you rich."

05-13-2008, 02:30 PM	#4
lilstar63100 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: California Posts: 749	pebbles was this way at first. she didnt want to be in the pin... but at the same time.. she didnt want to leave her pups. she would run out of the pen... go lay down somewhere then 2 seconds later pop back up... run back over to the pups. if i locked her in she would just sit there and wine. she didnt go to the bathroom the first day after having her pups... and would only eat chicken that i hand fed her. :-/ about a week she sompletely changed and seems much mre comfortable and confident. __________________ Every 3 minutes... another women is diagnosed with breast cancer President of the lazy club

05-14-2008, 05:05 AM	#7
4seasons Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Nebraska Posts: 43	Thanks for the advise. I thought that last night she was a little better until 3:30 this morning when she started barking. I got up and thought maybe she needed to go outside. That wasn't the case. I held her and talked to her then put her back with the pups. I just started to fall back to sleep when she started again. I ended up sleeping on the couch with letting her have the run of the house. She still ran back and forth a million times. Needless to say, I am totally exhausted this morning. Its going to be a long day. __________________ Mom of Matt, Kyle, Devin & Jared Tucker, Lily, Hunterand too many

05-13-2008, 04:03 PM	#5
Woogie Man YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Mississippi Posts: 432	If she is too antsy being in the pen, just leave it open and allow her to come and go. Those newborns aren't going anywhere at this time so you don't have to worry about that. Sounds like she's just a little nervous about everything. She should settle down soon.

05-13-2008, 04:11 PM	#6
linda44 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: napa Posts: 1,314	My Kalani was like that too, I slept in her room 3 nights, it was enough to let her settle in. They look to you for protection, love and support. Shes afraid and nervous. She just needs your reassurance, she was the baby, and now she has babies, big change.

05-14-2008, 05:09 AM	#8
myjordash YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: West Palm Beach, Florida Posts: 254	We went thru that too. Just stay with her, and pet her and talk to her, and try to get her to stay with the pups. The more she nurses and stays with them, the more she will relax and want to be with them.

05-15-2008, 03:51 PM	#9
katelin YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: California Posts: 1,280	I had a mother who never slept with her puppies. Not once. She was my dog, and they were just not that important. I kept the box (with heating pad) beside the bed, and when they cried, she would get up, look over the edge of the bed at them and wait to see if it was really necessary for her to go to them. Then she'd jump down, feed them, and come right back to me. She raised 4 puppies this way for 8 weeks. Finally they were weaned and she didn't give them any attention. Now, she was the EXTREME for sure. Usually I sleep on the couch next to the play pen (where the mom and puppies are) for about a week. During that time I check on them, talk to her, hand feed her, let her in and out of the box. Generally do everything I can to make sure everyone is okay, and then finally they are okay and I can get some sleep. You wouldn't be the first sleep-deprived mom on here. Good luck. __________________ KATELIN COCO RUBY BIZZY BEEJERSEY BOY

05-15-2008, 04:14 PM	#10
luckylady Living My Dream X 4! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Nebraska Posts: 2,363	Hello 4seasons...and welcome to Yorkie Talk! Congratulations on your little litter! I hope the new mama is settling in with her new role as "mama" a bit better by now. It sounds to me like she is maybe a bit nervous and/or maybe not quite sure where she should or wants to be; with you or the pups. She'll get better soon, I'm sure. I remember when my female had pups last fall, she seems quite nervous for a little while. __________________ Rose,Lucky, Lexie, Toby, & Halle CrAzY ClUb MeMbEr-LGC Members Positive Post Pledgee

05-15-2008, 05:14 PM	#11
Susan123 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 1,340	I've heard that extra calcium can settle them down. Might be worth a shot

05-16-2008, 06:12 AM	#13
katelin YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: California Posts: 1,280	How is mom doing today? __________________ KATELIN COCO RUBY BIZZY BEEJERSEY BOY

05-16-2008, 10:05 AM	#15
katelin YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: California Posts: 1,280	Hang in there, I'm sure she will settle down in a week or so. __________________ KATELIN COCO RUBY BIZZY BEEJERSEY BOY