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ilovelouie · 02-03-2006, 02:12 PM

Want to hear from you Mona. Please let us know how you are doing. We care about you.

barbg402 · 02-03-2006, 02:43 PM

Mona, I just read your post. You are so brave to take these steps to protect your daughter and fur-baby. Let time be your healer!
You will find someone wonderful to share your life with and it will be someone who shares your passion for your daughter and fur-kid.
Never, never have second doubts when a dog cowards or dislikes a person. There defiantly is a reason for it no matter how server or slight the reason may be. The dog has a built in radar system that tells him or her when they are in danger or with people who may hurt them.
Good luck honey, know that we are all here for you.

LaviniaHyacynth · 02-03-2006, 04:53 PM

Mona, I have been following this thread and you should really be commended for taking this step. Everyday you read in the paper about a woman that stayed in a bad ar suspected bad situation only to suffer terrible abuse herself or witness abuse of her children. It took guts to do what you did and I hope that your sweet furbaby can now relax and feel safe. My prayers and wishes that your heart will mend and you will find that Sweet man that you so deserve

jenstals · 02-03-2006, 07:36 PM

Mona,

WHat you did was very brave and I am sure very difficult!! Please let us know that you are doing ok! We are all worried about you!

Jen

Wrenee4 · 02-03-2006, 08:48 PM

I think the bloodshot eyes is very odd. What did the vet say about this? Ours have never had this happen to them? I would be very worried about it.

As with your little girl...has she been fearful of other men? I had a schnauzer that just passed away last year (13yrs) that was scared to death of men. I think perhaps she was abused at the breeders before we got her by a man - but of course I'm not sure. It took her about two months to get used to my husband when she first met him. Every time he would move she would bark like mad! After two months she decided he was her best friend and almost forgot about me! LOL So it really depends - I knew Jessie had issues with men before hand so it really didnt suprise me with her actions. Perhaps if you find out he isnt doing anything to your baby training could help. Just thought I would chime in my 2 cents worth

Kate · 02-03-2006, 10:52 PM

I am just now reading this thread for the first time.

I think the fact that you even reached out like you did, and question everyone, tells the story. You had a gut reaction, and you followed your heart.

I applaud you for what you did. It is not easy. I know you are feeling down, but it could have been worse. You lost your boyfriend, but you still have your precious Yorkie.

One last thought - does he have a house key?

Take care.

Kate

mylittletigger · 02-04-2006, 06:50 AM

Girl, you did the right thing. I know it hurts really badly, but just think you've got two things sitting by you that will always be there for you regardless of what you do or who you are. some men just aren't that forgiving.

Believe me, some men are that nice. It's just really hard to find them. I've met one, thought I had met two(but then he decided moving away from me was best). Girl, don't give up. You did the right thing, and you'll find the one for you before you know it. You know what they say when you're not looking that's when you'll find him.

whispersmom2 · 02-05-2006, 09:29 PM

I just finished reading this thread. I am no animal whisperer, but I do have some insights along those lines---------sometimes. Anyhow, your baby was severely injured-her psyche if not physically. I am thinking she was yelled at very loudly whilst being shaken-shaken baby syndrome causes some of the symptoms you describle..red eyes, petechia (tiny red pinpoint rash-like lesions) and of course that terrified response. Also, I am thinking some solution from a spray bottle-cleaning solutions or similar, were used.
I have been a victim of abuse and have counselled abused kids and adults and this is one example of abuse. IMO Why am I telling you all this? AND, REMEMBER I DO NOT KNOW YOU OR YOUR BF OR DOG, animal abuse very quickly progresses into spouse/children abuse. I am so sorry to hear about your baby but you might have just been saved from more than you can know.
Swoop that youngun up and give her hugs and smoochies til the hurt is better-for both of you.
If I have offended you or any poster on this forum, I would like to apologize, but in all honesty, I don't think I can. This is serious business and hopefully the cycle is broken..Bless you.
PM me if you would like or tell me to butt out, but there are a lot of us out there who want to protect others from this treatment..

Julz · 02-07-2006, 04:25 PM

I just read every post. Your first post made me think "shaken baby syndrome". However, if it was clear the next day, it sounds like high blood pressure due to extreme stress. I am sure you are relieved that your baby is safe. I am also sure that a part of you is hurting from losing your BF. Time will heal and time will tell you what you need to hear. If your Yorkie is cowering against walls and scared to death only when he is around, then there really isn't much of an option there. You can't get rid of her and see if it works out with him. Please update on her behaviour and let us know if she gets the bloodshot eyes again. How long were you with him?

LuvMyYorkies · 02-08-2006, 12:12 PM

If I were you, I would find a new b/f. Dogs are very sensitive to human behavior, and Kissie probably knows this guy is a CAD. Yorkies are very loving little furbabies, and if she is terrified in his presence, I would be very worried. Anyone who is abusive to these little furbabies will probably be abusive to you sooner or later.

jenstals · 02-08-2006, 12:47 PM

Mona,

Let us know you are ok!

Jen

ilovelouie · 02-12-2006, 03:09 PM

Waiting to hear from you mona. Hope all is well!

twilson28 · 04-16-2010, 05:07 AM

Dump the boyfriend! Dogs are more loyal, loving and compassionate that most boyfriends anyway!

Anyone who can abuse, yell at or even motion to injure an animal is not someone you should waste your time with. It is scientifically been linked that people who abuse or dislike or mistreat animals as children (for no apparent or clear reason) are more likely to grow up to be serial killers.

There is something SO unnatural about not liking dogs and mis-treating them. Not to mention - yelling at your dog for an cute little excited pee is just horrible. You little one was just so excited to meet him - and as all us Yorkie owners know - they often have these excited pees - my little Sparky does and I love him all the more for it! It just shows how excited he is to see his Momma when I come home from work.

Ditch the boyfriend or give the dog to someone who would not subject the little angel to being around such a mean man (and I don't mean drop it off at a shelter - so thhe home work and find the little angel a happy, healthy home for her to live in). I don't even know how someone could yell at a Yorkie - with their little angel baby faces...all they want to do is kiss and love...

No Yorkie should be subjected to live in a household where someone is there that terrifies them so much they hide and stick to walls when they are around....

twilson28 · 04-16-2010, 05:17 AM

Hey Mona,

Just saw that you did take care of this and get rid of the boyfriend. You will find one - they are just few and far between! My husband treats out two little guys (a yorkie & lhasapoo) as our children. He refers to them as his sons, and we both absolutely adore them. I would personally, never want to be with someone who didn't feel that way about dogs. I am a huge animal lover and it is foreign and unnatural to me for someone to not like animals.

It may be wrong - but I instantly do not like a person if they don't like animals. It's bothersome and very disturbing to me.....unnatural and beyond my comprehension, since they are the most loving, honest, caring and truthful beings around. If only people could be like animals - we'd be living in a MUCH better world....

Keep your chin up and just be patient - the right guy will come along one of these days. (FYI - doggy parks, doggy owner clubs, doggy training are all GREAT places to meet men that will treat you and your angel with nothing but love and respect!

Best of luck to you!
Tania, Sean, Chewy & Sparky

red98vett · 04-16-2010, 05:21 AM

I kind of understand people who don't like animals - I have a good friend who stays clear of pets due to a loss of his baby son (
he cant get attached anymore and pets are part of that due to the fact that he knows he'd lose one and go thru another loss)

but - anyone who mistreats them is in a whole different class. If one questions it - then go with your gut - chances are it IS happening and that's so sad for all involved

I'm glad for you that you found a solution - and hope things are better for you and your yorkie. Pet abuse is just a sign of more to come - and animals are defensless`as it is. What a sad thing to go thru but you put your dog before the man - not everyone does this so good for you !

02-03-2006, 02:12 PM	#61
ilovelouie YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: mass Posts: 1,762	Want to hear from you Mona. Please let us know how you are doing. We care about you. __________________ Our Photo Album is HERE http://www.dogster.com/?185528 http://www.dogster.com/?246319

02-03-2006, 02:43 PM	#62
barbg402 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: sumrall, MS Posts: 344	Mona, I just read your post. You are so brave to take these steps to protect your daughter and fur-baby. Let time be your healer! You will find someone wonderful to share your life with and it will be someone who shares your passion for your daughter and fur-kid. Never, never have second doubts when a dog cowards or dislikes a person. There defiantly is a reason for it no matter how server or slight the reason may be. The dog has a built in radar system that tells him or her when they are in danger or with people who may hurt them. Good luck honey, know that we are all here for you. __________________ Barb, Tori, Cassie, Lexi , Hoypka, Jazz, Ms Bardo, Sasha, Candy, " Too Cute", Rowdy-Boy, Machoman Tiger, Nugget, & in memory of Juice The Stud Muffin

02-03-2006, 04:53 PM	#63
LaviniaHyacynth Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: montclair,nj Posts: 925	Mona, I have been following this thread and you should really be commended for taking this step. Everyday you read in the paper about a woman that stayed in a bad ar suspected bad situation only to suffer terrible abuse herself or witness abuse of her children. It took guts to do what you did and I hope that your sweet furbaby can now relax and feel safe. My prayers and wishes that your heart will mend and you will find that Sweet man that you so deserve __________________ Rest in peace my sweet angel dog, Lavinia Hyacynth, Vivi. I love you forever. Bear healed my broken heart!

02-03-2006, 07:36 PM	#64
jenstals YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Connecticut Posts: 397	Mona, WHat you did was very brave and I am sure very difficult!! Please let us know that you are doing ok! We are all worried about you! Jen __________________ Jen Deb and Maya

02-03-2006, 08:48 PM	#65
Wrenee4 YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 2,048	I think the bloodshot eyes is very odd. What did the vet say about this? Ours have never had this happen to them? I would be very worried about it. As with your little girl...has she been fearful of other men? I had a schnauzer that just passed away last year (13yrs) that was scared to death of men. I think perhaps she was abused at the breeders before we got her by a man - but of course I'm not sure. It took her about two months to get used to my husband when she first met him. Every time he would move she would bark like mad! After two months she decided he was her best friend and almost forgot about me! LOL So it really depends - I knew Jessie had issues with men before hand so it really didnt suprise me with her actions. Perhaps if you find out he isnt doing anything to your baby training could help. Just thought I would chime in my 2 cents worth __________________ ~Wendy~

02-03-2006, 10:52 PM	#66
Kate YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Washington State Posts: 853	I am just now reading this thread for the first time. I think the fact that you even reached out like you did, and question everyone, tells the story. You had a gut reaction, and you followed your heart. I applaud you for what you did. It is not easy. I know you are feeling down, but it could have been worse. You lost your boyfriend, but you still have your precious Yorkie. One last thought - does he have a house key? Take care. Kate __________________ 7/14/02- 1/16/15 RIP Sadie

02-04-2006, 06:50 AM	#67
mylittletigger YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Dallas, TX Posts: 1,216	Girl, you did the right thing. I know it hurts really badly, but just think you've got two things sitting by you that will always be there for you regardless of what you do or who you are. some men just aren't that forgiving. Believe me, some men are that nice. It's just really hard to find them. I've met one, thought I had met two(but then he decided moving away from me was best). Girl, don't give up. You did the right thing, and you'll find the one for you before you know it. You know what they say when you're not looking that's when you'll find him. __________________ Tigger's dogster http://www.dogster.com/?257308 Bear's dogster: www.dogster.com/?368626. Krystal, John, Tigger and Baby Bear.

02-05-2006, 09:29 PM	#68
whispersmom2 Inactive Account Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: MD Posts: 2,985	I just finished reading this thread. I am no animal whisperer, but I do have some insights along those lines---------sometimes. Anyhow, your baby was severely injured-her psyche if not physically. I am thinking she was yelled at very loudly whilst being shaken-shaken baby syndrome causes some of the symptoms you describle..red eyes, petechia (tiny red pinpoint rash-like lesions) and of course that terrified response. Also, I am thinking some solution from a spray bottle-cleaning solutions or similar, were used. I have been a victim of abuse and have counselled abused kids and adults and this is one example of abuse. IMO Why am I telling you all this? AND, REMEMBER I DO NOT KNOW YOU OR YOUR BF OR DOG, animal abuse very quickly progresses into spouse/children abuse. I am so sorry to hear about your baby but you might have just been saved from more than you can know. Swoop that youngun up and give her hugs and smoochies til the hurt is better-for both of you. If I have offended you or any poster on this forum, I would like to apologize, but in all honesty, I don't think I can. This is serious business and hopefully the cycle is broken..Bless you. PM me if you would like or tell me to butt out, but there are a lot of us out there who want to protect others from this treatment..

02-07-2006, 04:25 PM	#69
Julz Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 4,347	I just read every post. Your first post made me think "shaken baby syndrome". However, if it was clear the next day, it sounds like high blood pressure due to extreme stress. I am sure you are relieved that your baby is safe. I am also sure that a part of you is hurting from losing your BF. Time will heal and time will tell you what you need to hear. If your Yorkie is cowering against walls and scared to death only when he is around, then there really isn't much of an option there. You can't get rid of her and see if it works out with him. Please update on her behaviour and let us know if she gets the bloodshot eyes again. How long were you with him?

02-08-2006, 12:12 PM	#70
LuvMyYorkies Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Maryland Posts: 83	If I were you, I would find a new b/f. Dogs are very sensitive to human behavior, and Kissie probably knows this guy is a CAD. Yorkies are very loving little furbabies, and if she is terrified in his presence, I would be very worried. Anyone who is abusive to these little furbabies will probably be abusive to you sooner or later. __________________ Helen and her Yorkies

02-08-2006, 12:47 PM	#71
jenstals YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Connecticut Posts: 397	Mona, Let us know you are ok! Jen __________________ Jen Deb and Maya

02-12-2006, 03:09 PM	#72
ilovelouie YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: mass Posts: 1,762	Waiting to hear from you mona. Hope all is well! __________________ Our Photo Album is HERE http://www.dogster.com/?185528 http://www.dogster.com/?246319

04-16-2010, 05:07 AM	#73
twilson28 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ridgefield, NJ Posts: 38	My Advice Dump the boyfriend! Dogs are more loyal, loving and compassionate that most boyfriends anyway! Anyone who can abuse, yell at or even motion to injure an animal is not someone you should waste your time with. It is scientifically been linked that people who abuse or dislike or mistreat animals as children (for no apparent or clear reason) are more likely to grow up to be serial killers. There is something SO unnatural about not liking dogs and mis-treating them. Not to mention - yelling at your dog for an cute little excited pee is just horrible. You little one was just so excited to meet him - and as all us Yorkie owners know - they often have these excited pees - my little Sparky does and I love him all the more for it! It just shows how excited he is to see his Momma when I come home from work. Ditch the boyfriend or give the dog to someone who would not subject the little angel to being around such a mean man (and I don't mean drop it off at a shelter - so thhe home work and find the little angel a happy, healthy home for her to live in). I don't even know how someone could yell at a Yorkie - with their little angel baby faces...all they want to do is kiss and love... No Yorkie should be subjected to live in a household where someone is there that terrifies them so much they hide and stick to walls when they are around....

04-16-2010, 05:17 AM	#74
twilson28 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ridgefield, NJ Posts: 38	Hey Mona, Just saw that you did take care of this and get rid of the boyfriend. You will find one - they are just few and far between! My husband treats out two little guys (a yorkie & lhasapoo) as our children. He refers to them as his sons, and we both absolutely adore them. I would personally, never want to be with someone who didn't feel that way about dogs. I am a huge animal lover and it is foreign and unnatural to me for someone to not like animals. It may be wrong - but I instantly do not like a person if they don't like animals. It's bothersome and very disturbing to me.....unnatural and beyond my comprehension, since they are the most loving, honest, caring and truthful beings around. If only people could be like animals - we'd be living in a MUCH better world.... Keep your chin up and just be patient - the right guy will come along one of these days. (FYI - doggy parks, doggy owner clubs, doggy training are all GREAT places to meet men that will treat you and your angel with nothing but love and respect! Best of luck to you! Tania, Sean, Chewy & Sparky

04-16-2010, 05:21 AM	#75
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	I kind of understand people who don't like animals - I have a good friend who stays clear of pets due to a loss of his baby son ( he cant get attached anymore and pets are part of that due to the fact that he knows he'd lose one and go thru another loss) but - anyone who mistreats them is in a whole different class. If one questions it - then go with your gut - chances are it IS happening and that's so sad for all involved I'm glad for you that you found a solution - and hope things are better for you and your yorkie. Pet abuse is just a sign of more to come - and animals are defensless`as it is. What a sad thing to go thru but you put your dog before the man - not everyone does this so good for you ! __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!