Does the way someone thinks about dogs chance the way you see them?

[Britster]

I can be friends with people who maybe just don't 'get' dogs, or want one, etc. So long as they are not mean to them, or abusive, or saying things like what your co-worker said.

I did have my feelings hurt one time by people who I consider pretty close friends, and I became friends with them a few years before I had Jackson, but one kind of laughed about my dog wearing a life jacket (saw on FB)... I just ... really didn't think that was that weird? I mean, that is one of the less weird things I do, LOL, just imagine if they knew I brushed his teeth and belonged to a page called yorkietalk! ahaha. But there was other things, they just don't really 'like' dogs, this particular group of friends. And to be honest, I find I am hanging out with them less and less.

But it's not that I expect anyone I hang out to be as crazy about dogs as I am, but dogs and particularly my dog are a big part of my life, and if you can't at least understand that, well that sucks for you. Any future significant other will at least have to understand the bond & love I share with an animal. It would be very hard for me to date a guy who despised dogs. In fact it wouldn't happen.

[Britster]

I will say, I do find kind of bad for people who never will feel that amazing bond and connection with a dog the ways that I have. It's such an awesome thing.

My mom got to kind of experience it, but she has never been a 'dog person'. We had a cockapoo that we got when my brother turned 4, he passed away at almost 6, so always felt like it was his dog, and the last part of him we had left. After he died, she became very attached to my mom. A true member of the family. When my mom got pregnant again, that dog was by her side all the time. She got hit by a car, Jackson was not even a year old yet, and it was incredibly sad. My mom called me bawling saying Carmen died, I just couldn't believe it. I rushed over there and we all cried and buried her body by her favorite tree. My mom was very upset, and had never been that close to a dog before.

But she just doesn't have the patience or the time to have a dog. She doesn't care about training, she is one of those people that would love a dog that is just a cuddle & couch warmer, lol. She would probably do well with an older dog actually.

But anyway, it's so funny, like night and day visiting my moms house then my dads house. Moms house, we get home and my mom and step-dad act like Jackson is not even really there. Sometimes they will say a hi or a pat on the head, but that's about it. And he shockingly loves them to death. I have to tell my mom 'please say hi to Jackson' as he's sitting there staring at her wagging his tail. I go to my dads house, and he goes running in, my stepmom greets him with high pitched voices, my dad is baby talking him, and gives him a treat. He talks to the dogs LOL... it's just so funny experiencing both, a dog house and a non dog house.

[sandy simpson]

Dog-lovers are special compassionate people. They have a kind heart and know how to take care of animals. I definitely think animal lovers are wonderful people and I have yet to meet a dog loving person that is mean to animals.

[baileyz]

I said it depends. I have a friend who is afraid of dogs do to a bad experience she had as a child, when she was bitten. But if a person is mean to a dog then they would not be in my circle of friends.

[trgirl]

In the past, I would have just thought it, well, unusual. Hating dogs is uncommon.

However, new neighbors and I were chatting when I had Rudy out for a walk. When my 6 lbs Yorkie leaned her tiny head forward and touched the woman's ankle, she jumped back and made a noise that expressed disgust and revulsion. Then, without another word - not even a "see you later" - she turned around and walked away...quickly.

Her poor husband was left high and dry. Red-faced, he shrugged and said, "My wife doesn't like dogs much". Ya think? Her rudeness was appalling, but her reaction to my little dog was beyond the pale. We will never be acquaintances let alone friends.

[capt_noonie]

Originally Posted by trgirl

In the past, I would have just thought it, well, unusual. Hating dogs is uncommon.

However, new neighbors and I were chatting when I had Rudy out for a walk. When my 6 lbs Yorkie leaned her tiny head forward and touched the woman's ankle, she jumped back and made a noise that expressed disgust and revulsion. Then, without another word - not even a "see you later" - she turned around and walked away...quickly.

Her poor husband was left high and dry. Red-faced, he shrugged and said, "My wife doesn't like dogs much". Ya think? Her rudeness was appalling, but her reaction to my little dog was beyond the pale. We will never be acquaintances let alone friends.

It's people like THAT that I have the problem with. Did she not see the dog when you were walking her? She was just waiting for a moment to show her disgust towards dogs. A nicer way would have to just never engage in a conversation when she sees someone with a dog!

[barneysmommmy]

We had a very odd experience this week. We are on vacation in Florida and my DIL's mom came the first few days to spend time with her daughter. She is not a dog person. Barney loves all people. He was constantly jumping up on her or trying to lick her. He was dying for her attention. It felt awkward. I was reluctant to discipline him because he was only trying to be friendly. We ended up staying in our bedroom with the dogs to try to keep the peace. It was offensive though to see her back away and push him off. He is cleaner than most people.

[trgirl]

Wow...that's harsh.

I hope you still manage to have a lovely FL vacation - I live in FL on the SW coast, though I'm in NJ at the moment (my son is getting married, but NJ doesn't have palm trees - LOL).

Your situation is much worse than mine; my experience with a dog-hater did not include having to share space with her. Talk about having to stuff your emotions!

[barneysmommmy]

Originally Posted by trgirl

Wow...that's harsh.

I hope you still manage to have a lovely FL vacation - I live in FL on the SW coast, though I'm in NJ at the moment (my son is getting married, but NJ doesn't have palm trees - LOL).

Your situation is much worse than mine; my experience with a dog-hater did not include having to share space with her. Talk about having to stuff your emotions!

We are having a wonderful time. I am learning that some things are not worth the fight. Besides, Barney got revenge when possible. Congratulations on your son's wedding. Florida is beautiful. I always cry when we have to leave.

[Yorkie Mom2]

I love all animals, although I am more fond of some than others...i.e. spiders, ticks, and so on. How can someone say they wouldn't even stop to give any animal water is unforgivable.

[ellijaz]

i think it depends of how strongly feel they ddont like dogs if they just dislike them but would never harm then i think so be it but if the dislkie for dogs is so so that they could harm them and would neglect or abuse them then i can safely say i wont be friends with them and i will see them very diffently

[crazydoglade]

A couple of friends and I were discussing this just the other day.Our conclusion was that we really didn't have any friends that weren't dog people. Of course we were at The Lazy Dog at the time. It was our monthly girls night out with the dogs. They really like the brown rice and broiled chicken.

[Rhetts_mama]

I can handle people not wanting to own a pet, it's a lot of responsibility after all. But I can not abide anyone who is cruel or thinks its ok/funny to be cruel to any animal.

[Anny Mendoza]

Thanks everyone for the votes. So far "yes" has the lead.
The poll was more for people that don't like animals just because and not because of a bad experience. But I appreciate the responses anyway
Not all of our friends and/or acquaintances like animals but they do respect them and they understand that my dogs will be loose in the house when they visit.

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by MyTrixie143

Yes, for me it does. I can't be friends with anyone who doesn't like dogs as they are just too much a part of my life. I understand if you aren't crazy about them but to hate them or find them disgusting, there is no way I could be friends with someone like that.

Dogs are everything that is good in this world; they are non judgmental, loyal/faithful, have unconditional love, companionship and compassion.

Why wouldn't a person want these things in life? I just don't trust people who hate dogs or mistreat them. If you are that bad with such a pure and innocent creature how can you show compassion to humans who are often none of these things?

I understand if you were perhaps bit by a dog or had something similar happen, but to just dislike them all for no reason and you never gave them a chance? I don't get it.

I think many non dog people never really gave it a try. They see a hairy, slobbery, noisy creature and it turns them off. They can't look past the physical aspects to see how emotionally rewarding dogs can be.

If a little slobber bothers them how do they get past all the humans they encounter because there are a lot of humans that can be disgusting.

Quite frankly I feel so sorry for non dog people because they are missing out on so much.

Great post.

Originally Posted by Maximo

I chose the last one. It doesn't bother me if a person doesn't want a pet themselves, or if they don't love my dogs . . . but I would be bothered if the person doesn't have compassion for animals, or if the person criticized my choices and my love for my dogs.

For instance, people who are compelled to tell me that their children are more important than my dogs. Why do we have to rate living beings on a scale like that?

Completely agree! I'll never understand placing comparative value on living things...it's just so...colossally species-centric and seems rooted in some sort of arrogance.

I can understand, on some intellectual level, why people may not want an animal in their life (though I don't comprehend it on a heart/gut/spirit level). But when someone mistreats or disrespects an animal? Oh wow, that person will never, ever be the same in my eyes; the loss of respect that occurs isn't really recoverable , sadly.