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10-09-2007, 11:06 AM | #1 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: VA
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| anyone withe experien in .. Chemo? my mom is now being told she will take chemo instead of raditation for the breast cancer. she has had it removed already. i didnt want to ask her a bunch of questions because im emotional and she was at work. she said it was mild chemo, that they would in the beginning give her something for vomiting, and that she would be loosing her hair. i have never dealt with anything so serious before. its very frigtening or me all i have ever heard and seen about chemo is how sick the person gets and that the chemo kills the good with the bad. she's gonna get sick now? i dont want to see her like this. she isnt taking the pill kins, she's taking the iv kind for 12 weeks. what can i expect? i think up until this today except for me my dad and my husband and my sister even my mom viewed this like a virus and not a serious illness. i mean mom had surgery on a monday to remove it, the following monday she had to go back and they had to take more out, that wensday she was back at work, even after her second surgery she cooked a small dinner when she got home, because my dad asked her to. i dont think he gets it. she helped him tear down the kitchen walls this passed weekend i told him and her she doesnt need to be doing that crap, she needs to rest and stuff...maybe im wrong maybe the more active she is the better. maybe im just over protective of my mom. im such a mess, my house is such a mess, im 7 months pregnant and almost wish that hadnt happened because im gonna have my hands full as it is. im already have a toddler, 3 yorkies, a husband, my mom, bills, its too much to think about now. i got word today that i wont even go full term with this baby, so now he's coming sooner than orginally planned. i might rehome some of my yorkies to lighten the load. i really hate to but i cant rehome my kids. Scrappy makes all these whinning sounds in the crate and i dont want that waking up the baby all the time...im probably just rambling, i probably wouldnt let them go, but i think i need to put some thought into. my head is just spinning out of control....i feel like its constantly raining at my house, something is always going wrong, nothing goes right with out penalities... i blame myself for my mom sometimes because there was this person that i detest that got cancer, and i really just cant stand her, she does bad things, so i told my husband one night she deserved it, what goes around comes around and my husband said no one deserves to go through this. and he's right they dont. my mom has never done the wrong thing. you know my dad smoked for the last 40 years he just stopped a few months before this happened..is it his fault? everything causes cancer it seems. my mom now sends me articles and update, like dont microwave anything in plastic so that scares me know. its hereditery so whose next me or my sister? my mom always thought she would have a heart attack and die at 44 like her dad, but instead she got breast cancer like her grandmother. her grandmother had it horribly. they got moms cancer at stage 1 i remember growing up giving her such a hard time about stupid stuff i wish i could take it all back and never have had a yelling match, or said anything negative to her ever! i feel bad because im not strong enough to handle this, she hasnt even had one treatment yet and im crying like a big baby. sorry this was so long |
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10-09-2007, 11:19 AM | #2 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Central Georgia
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| Oh Tammy, honey. I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. First off, please don't blame yourself or anyone for the cancer. It's nobody's fault. Just try to remember that, ok? Second, my step mother is a breast cancer survivor. She had a full mastectomy and 17 lymph nodes removed (all clear thank God). She also did chemo via IV and is on her last of 5 years of hormone suppression therapy. Her lump never showed on a mammogram (scary!) she found it through self breast exam. My step mom did lose her hair and she had good and bad days. There were days she didn't want to eat anything, then she'd suddenly crave chocolate chip cookies and we encouraged her to eat all the cookies she wanted. Her body temp was off somewhat and she stayed pretty cold. There was nausea for which she took Zofran. She had a great attitude throughout the cancer and a wonderful support system which she knows was important to her recovery. Her hair grew back beautifully and thankfully 4 years later she is still cancer free. If you have any questions or simply need to talk, PM me. I remember pretty well what she went through. Of course, it goes without saying I will be praying for you & your family.
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10-09-2007, 12:23 PM | #3 |
Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida
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| I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but it's not anyone's fault. It was all in the grand plan of life. Your mom is going to have good and bad days, but if she wants to tear down walls then let her. Let her do whatever makes her feel better. All you can do is support her now, and be there if she needs you. She's in my prayers as are you and your family.
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10-09-2007, 12:59 PM | #4 | |
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10-12-2007, 04:59 AM | #5 |
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| thank you everyone, my computer is having problem freezing so i havent been as active online.. im doing better, my mom has been so positive this whole time me and my dad have never seen her so strong before..she usually cries if someone is bleeding..=) |
10-12-2007, 05:14 AM | #6 |
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| I'm sorry you are having to go through this. My mom first got cancer when I was 8, and it was breast cancer and they choose to do radiation. When I was a sophomore in college she got colorectal cancer and they did radiation and chemo before taking it out, and chemo afterwards as well. I was away at college for some of the time but I do remember some of it. Mom had the IV kind done and she would go in Fridays and sit there for an hour or two to get it, every other week. SHe would be really sick and down for a day or two afterwards, but by the middle of the next week she was better. THey told mom she would lose her hair and it did thin out some, but she never lost it completely.
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10-12-2007, 05:18 AM | #7 |
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| i hope shes ok now, nice to hear she didnt loose all her hair. my mom is teasing us saying now she can have long thick red hair or whatever she wants..dad always teased her saying he wanted a red head..shes taking it all really well..me and my dad r taking it hard, my sister is handling it well too |
10-12-2007, 05:22 AM | #8 |
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| Oh yes, she is fine now. Back to better than she was prior to the cancer. I think mom was hoping her hair would fall out and come back in and be jet black again instead of grey.
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10-12-2007, 05:46 AM | #9 |
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| lol... my mom is 48 and hasnt had one gray hair yet..i dont know how thats possible all the pain i know we caused growing up...lol she has a dirty blonde naturally and every few years my aunt highlights it for her to bring out her color better..but we have never seen a gray..im almost 26 and my husband has already found a few strands in my hair...lol but thats okay he's almost all gray now, early gray runs in his family, but he older than me anyways..i like the richard geer look.. |
10-12-2007, 02:13 PM | #10 |
Lil' CoCo, Lotta Coffee. Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South Africa
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| Hey there sweetie, It is great that you are so concerned about your mom, but try to relax a little, hopefully she will do fine. I am a breast cancer surviror. I was 36 when diagnosed and am now 51!!! If you get it in the early stage there is always hope. It has made me appereciate so many things so much more now. I looked after my mom, she had a chronic fatal disease and it took her about 10 years to die. That may sound terrible, but it was so devastating to watch that I prayed daily that God would take her. Some days I thought I'd never cope, I also had a todler at the time, so I understand where you're at. Things do work out and we do get through it. I t all just makes us stronger. I know you don't think that at the moment but believe me, you will cope. I must add that although I prayed for her to die I was shattered when she did. She was my mom, my friend, my everything. I still miss her 15 years later, but now the memories are good. I will say a prayer for you and your mom. Slow down, breath and take one day at a time. Hugs to you. God bless for being a caring daughter!
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