[tjdmom]

Originally Posted by tammy8833

Chemo? my mom is now being told she will take chemo instead of raditation for the breast cancer. she has had it removed already. i didnt want to ask her a bunch of questions because im emotional and she was at work. she said it was mild chemo, that they would in the beginning give her something for vomiting, and that she would be loosing her hair. i have never dealt with anything so serious before. its very frigtening or me all i have ever heard and seen about chemo is how sick the person gets and that the chemo kills the good with the bad. she's gonna get sick now? i dont want to see her like this.

she isnt taking the pill kins, she's taking the iv kind for 12 weeks. what can i expect?

i think up until this today except for me my dad and my husband and my sister even my mom viewed this like a virus and not a serious illness. i mean mom had surgery on a monday to remove it, the following monday she had to go back and they had to take more out, that wensday she was back at work, even after her second surgery she cooked a small dinner when she got home, because my dad asked her to. i dont think he gets it. she helped him tear down the kitchen walls this passed weekend i told him and her she doesnt need to be doing that crap, she needs to rest and stuff...maybe im wrong maybe the more active she is the better. maybe im just over protective of my mom.

im such a mess, my house is such a mess, im 7 months pregnant and almost wish that hadnt happened because im gonna have my hands full as it is. im already have a toddler, 3 yorkies, a husband, my mom, bills, its too much to think about now. i got word today that i wont even go full term with this baby, so now he's coming sooner than orginally planned. i might rehome some of my yorkies to lighten the load. i really hate to but i cant rehome my kids. Scrappy makes all these whinning sounds in the crate and i dont want that waking up the baby all the time...im probably just rambling, i probably wouldnt let them go, but i think i need to put some thought into. my head is just spinning out of control....i feel like its constantly raining at my house, something is always going wrong, nothing goes right with out penalities...

i blame myself for my mom sometimes because there was this person that i detest that got cancer, and i really just cant stand her, she does bad things, so i told my husband one night she deserved it, what goes around comes around and my husband said no one deserves to go through this. and he's right they dont. my mom has never done the wrong thing.

you know my dad smoked for the last 40 years he just stopped a few months before this happened..is it his fault?

everything causes cancer it seems. my mom now sends me articles and update, like dont microwave anything in plastic so that scares me know. its hereditery so whose next me or my sister?

my mom always thought she would have a heart attack and die at 44 like her dad, but instead she got breast cancer like her grandmother. her grandmother had it horribly. they got moms cancer at stage 1

i remember growing up giving her such a hard time about stupid stuff i wish i could take it all back and never have had a yelling match, or said anything negative to her ever! i feel bad because im not strong enough to handle this, she hasnt even had one treatment yet and im crying like a big baby.


sorry this was so long

Well, as someone who has been exactly where you are... let me first say that you have had a big shock and you must feel as though your whole world has been turned upside down and really it has. Things will get easier and better over time as you come to deal with what life has handed you and especially your mom. Really, in the end, none of us know how much time we have here so important to make the most of every single moment you have and to be sure to appreciate those you love. Second of all, if your mom is stage 1, that's the best you could hope for and I would guess she has a very good prognosis and did you know that people who are in the situation do better if they have a positive outlook so you need to remind her and yourself of all the things you have to be grateful for. As for chemo, everyone is differnet. Both my mom and my sister got sick from it, by sick, I mean throwing up. It was generally worse the day of treatment and the day after and things would improve until it was time for the next treatment. I think there are medications to help with the nausea. Pray. Pray. Pray. Everyday. It makes a difference. You might even want to start a journal to give yourself an outlet. Cancer really really sucks. I wish it weren't so. God how I wish it weren't so but your mom can get thru this and I truly hope she does. As for you, you should see a genetic cancer specialist as it sounds like you are at risk too. My sister was only 22 when originally diagnosed so it's not only for those who are older and when it's genetic, it strikes families earlier. I'm not saying that to scare you but remind you to be vigilant about it yourself. If you have any questions or need someone to talk to you can always pm me. I'm very sorry to hear what you are going thru. And by the way, thank Goodness, God doesn't punish us for having mean thoughts and this is certainly not your fault and not your dad's either, don't waste time and energy thinking about those things.