I know its going to be hard, they are part of your life for so long its like they practially take part of your life away, so when they are go, part of you is missing.

my sister is complaining of the exact same thing. she is 20 and her man is 21 or 23 i think. he works for his dad and is branching out, owns his own large home he built in the country and sarah moved in just under a year ago. sarah is the city type, likes to hang out, party and stuff...she does work 10 hours a day 6 days a week most of the time and drives a long distance to and from work and to visit us. but brian (the bf) relaxes and unwinds by playing with his trucks and helping his buddies with their trucks and cars. sarah gets jealous and starts fights and agrue about it. i did to when i was dating my husband, men wants breaks, mental breaks from us i think sometimes they need male bonding time, sometimes they even talk about relationship problems together. and when you (not saying you are hunny) (im young too) call them and and in their opinion nag them it only makes it worse. Guys just like hanging out and do guy things, they usually arent like us and what to be around all the time. also
if you act like your cool with them hanging out and you get something else to do, it makes you more desirable. shoot after you've been married a while you want them to go hang out with friends sometimes, that way you can enjoy each other even more when they are home. everyone needs there space from time to time and it doesnt mean he wants to leave you, or not be with you he is just being a man.

oh i didnt finish about sarah and brian - he says he loves her so much (to my husband) and he really does put up with a lot of crap from her (i think she carries a lot of baggage from a past bf) but that he like playing with his truck, its something he enjoys and relaxes doing it, and he likes when she hangs out there and he likes when she isnt there, it doesnt mean he doesnt want to be with her or doesnt love her anymore

good luck!!

I understnad about him working on his truck, but 5-15 mins to talk, or tonight, call and check in.. he shouldn't get mad. Today he work 10 hours on that truck, I talked to him NONE during that time.

Kelsey, I think you are the sweetest, cutest thing! You deserve the best! I met my husband when I was 14 and we got married after I graduated from college when I was 22. I know I was pretty young, but he treated me like a princess from the day we met and have now been married for 13 years and have 2 daughters. He is the most respectful man every day. Your boyfriend might just be a little nervous about the commitment, but never, ever settle. You are too young and too beautiful--you need to have someone who cherishes you for who you are (I'm not saying he doesn't....I just want to be sure he does!) It can be a rough road out there, but it is a lot easier when you have the right person to travel it with. Maybe Josh (I think that's his name) is the right one, but if you have questions, take it slow and make absolutely sure before you go any further. You deserve it!!! :)

i also think men are more complicating then women..we just want a hug, they dont know what they want

I think soo too, most of them are jerks.. maybe its a teenage thing and they will grow out of it. Why can't I go to a website, fill out a form.. then they send me the guy.. heres my list

Taller than me, NICE, very romantic, will send flowers, call, give me suprises, take me out on dates, great personality, goes to Church, doesn't drink/smoke.. well a little drinking not a lot. Thats a good start.. someone please find me a website or create one..lol.

LOL - yes then send me the link!

He can be sweet, but he can be a total jerk. And lately hes been a jerk. maybe bc we are doing long distance and I can only see him about once a month.

lol. I def. wish there was something out there like that, it would bee soo easy.

Hmmmmmm, the long distance can be difficult. Any chance of being Josh being in Atlanta for good any time soon (or you moving there?) I think you are right--that can make a big difference!

Its goig to be a few years b-4 I move there, if I do. But hes suppose to be coming down this Thursday.

I just called him and asked him if he loved me, he said he did. How could he?? He won't answer when i call, doesn't care to talk to me AFTER he gets inside from working on that truck, knows that I am crying and doesn't give a CRAP about my feelings.. if thats love, then love sucks!

I'm sure spending time together will make a difference. Are you still going to the mountains? We are going to Pigeon Forge for a big family reunion Thursday!!! Should be interesting. Bella's first time staying with a petsitter and her yorkie-poo.

Try to be patient with him but never settle for anything less than your dream. You deserve the best. If it is Josh---great!!! Otherwise, he is out there waiting for you! :)

I don't know, I want to, but honestly I don't want to be there with him.. a vacation should be a fun happy time, not a time to remember how s**tty he treated me.

Sounds like it may be time to sit him down and lay it all down on the table. Tell him what you want and what you need from him. Tell him your concerns and allow him time to talk also. If it winds up that you and him decide not to stay together, then its for the best.
I met my husband when I was 19 and we have been together for almost 5 years now and have our 4th wedding ann. in november. The biggest thing for us that makes it work is that he is 32 and im 24. He was settled when we met and knew what he wanted and how to make sure I knew how he felt. To this day our friends pick on us cause we still act like newlyweds...even after 2 kids!! lol.. basically what im trying to say is, you will find the right one. dont settle for anything less than what you know you deserve. even though you have a lot of time and emotions invested in this relationship, it doesnt sound too healthy for you.

You are right about that! A vacation should be a very special time. Have you talked to him tonight? What is his story?

yeah, I have.. that he didn't asnwer 1. bc I missed his call (when i was eating lunch with my grandparents for my bday) 2. bc I ignored him for 2 days.

I'm so sorry for your troubles! I have 21 and 18 year old daughters. You'll just have to tuck all this advice away to consider, because advice is hard to follow when you're in the middle of the problem. While many high school romances survive, you are very young.

I've told my girls that dating is like shopping. You don't really know your wish list until you've tried some things on. For example (although maybe oversimplified), you might think you want someone that sends you flowers. But if you had someone that sent you flowers but didn't listen when you talked about your day, you'd discover that flowers aren't really all that important and change your wish list.

Also, everyone matures at a different rate. And you might just be maturing a little faster than your bf. He may catch up, but it might be a couple years down the road. So tread lightly and beware of commitment until then.

And about the car thing - I'm married to a performance car guy. While I do often "lose" him to the garage - I ALWAYS know where he is. Some wives would trade a "beer-with-the-buddies" guy for a "car guy" in a minute. ;)

:hug: Hugs.

Awe, thanks. I don't think he thingks about me as much as I think he does.. maybe I take this relationship serious more than he does.

Good advice from For My Coby. When I read your posts I forget you are almost 18----I think you are my age! :p (35!!! :eek: :eek: )

I am happy that my husband isn't a "beer with the buddies" guy. He is more a "taking the girls on the golf cart for a few holes." Luckily, they are our daughters, so I am happy. Take it slow, Kelsey and listen to your heart. Maybe you are just maturing faster than Josh. I still think it might be easier if you were closer. Hmmmmmmmm

yeah, it would. He doesn't care to fix anything.. I think its go on wayy too long. He thinks I am dumb for wanting to talk to him while he was working on his brothers truck.

Can anyone do avatars? I want him out of mine!!!!

A good friend once told me, "If the devil can't make you bad, he'll make you busy." Romans 9:32 says this of being too busy: "They were so absorbed with their 'God projects' that they didn't notice God right in front of them, like a huge rock in the middle of the road" (The Message). These people had pure motives but the wrong method. They were so busy with the work of God that they didn't have time for God.

If I were you, I'd cut back on calling him as much. Many of us try to live life at about 125 percent, and we leave little room for unexpected interruptions. In your case, what happens if you and him are no longer a couple, Can you handle i? Make new friends, lots of friends...You are too young to be dealing with someone who treats you that way and not like a princess you deserve to be treated like.

You have to learn how to say no to some things. Sometimes people overcommit because they get a lot of affirmation for everything they do. Sometimes being busy also helps people with a poor self-image; if he is busy, you don't have to think about the pain in your life for not having him returning your calls, I am sure he is going by his business and not thinking about your feelings at the moment...Do not make it easy on him to have that power on you!!!
I'm not telling you to eliminate any of your goals. I'm simply challenging you to slow down & take it one day at the time, If he is the one trust me nothing would ever change that...But enjoy your life and don't stress over this you are too pretty and too young.

Good Luck and I hope you guys can work things out

Thanks!!! I guess I should. I should look at it in a happy way if he doens't call me back, or answer my calls. Blow if off, then when i am ready to talk answer when he calls.

I def. need more friends. That would help, plus its good since I am still young.

Better get in touch with Peanut (Kim)!!! She is really sweet and did mine and I'm sure will remove Josh if you are sure! :)

Ok, good.lol. I think I am sure.. I wish he would call me adn try to work things out, but guess not! So its saturday night, and my furbabies are asleep and I am happy/sad.. and I think i am about to do some shopping online..lol.

I'm sorry Kelsey, I just read this. I am also young and have been with my bf for almost 2 yrs. The best advice i can give is that when he calls do not always pick up. Guys like to feel like you are a challenge, even if you are going aout they still like to do work to get to you, so don't ALWAYS pick up his phone calls but do pick up sometimes. Even when you want to really bad it's just good not to. I do that to my bf, sometimes even if im not busy i will tell him i am and say i will call you back or call me back i can't talk:p I know it's evil but really it works. Guys don't always want you to be available cause then they will take advantage of that. Also tell him you are going out with friends, doing something, going to the movies and you will have him on his toes:rolleyes: And def. do go out more, take the dogs out for long walks, meet more ppl, including guys, you deserve it and you will spend less time worrying about him and when he will call. Long Distance relationships are tough but they can work if you really want it to. :)

I have tried not answering him, then he just stops calling after about 2 calls, then I have to call him a few hours later. I am going to go out with my friends bc I know he will def wonder. He wonders when I go out to eat with them..lol

Yes definetly go out with friends:thumbup: And have fun girl!:)

wow...i just caught up on this thread. it got busy fast ;)

i'm so sorry you are dealing with this. guys are jerks! bottom line LOL

i'm not one to give advice...I settled. I found a guy that would call me ALL THE TIME, buy me flowers ALL THE TIME, want to be with me ALL THE TIME, and since I was sick of guys that never did those things and showed no care for me, I married the first one that came along and did those things. I knew he would always be faithful to me, and that he would do anything in the world for me...so when he asked me to marry him, 6 months into the relationship, I married him. and I think you have heard plenty of my "venting" about him.

all i'm saying is....don't settle. but also, don't expect perfection from anyone. The most important thing is LOVE. you have to really really love the person, or it is almost impossible to make a relationship last. you have to feel good when you are around them. and it has to go both ways. I used to have that...but let it go when I got impatient and thought we would never get married. Now I cant' get it back, and I rushed off and got married out of spite and desperation.

Just don't do what I did...If you have that love, don't let it go. but if you don't...then keep looking until you find it. don't marry just because you think it's the right thing to do...do it because you have that deep true love.

and trust me....there is PLENTY of time to find it, if Josh is not that person.

Breaking up is soooooooo hard to do. it hurts, really bad. but you get past it. you grow stronger because of it. and once you have been apart for a little while, you realize all the things you did and didn't like about the relationship and you set out to make sure the next one is that much better. so if you guys don't make it...it's not the end of the world, it is a life lesson that is priceless and you will be better for it.

ok...my advice stinks...i get emotional about this stuff since I'm in the middle of a HUGE mistake and hate to see anyone else go through it. I can't tell you if he is right or wrong for you...but maybe I can give some insight as to what to look for?? i don't know...good luck hun. I hope things work out soon. you deserve to be happy :)