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09-22-2007, 02:45 PM | #16 |
Bella-My Georgia Girl Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Duluth, Georgia
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| I'm sure he is just stressed trying to provide a good living for his family. You have gotten some great advice here and hopefully you will be able to get him alone (when he isn't stressed) and have a talk. In my experience, it works best to tell him the truth without getting angry and accusing him of stuff. (We all respond better when it is coming out calmly and we don't feel the need to get defensive.) Be honest and tell him how much you miss your closeness. Have some ideas ready to throw out there about how you can get back to that place in your relationship. Also, take time for yourself! I'm assuming you stay at home with your baby. (I did too and loved it!) Take full advantage of nap time to do what you need to do to be in a better mental place--take a nap, a relaxing bath, chat on the phone with friends, etc.!! That's what I did. Now since we all know we have stuff we need to do around the house, too, I tried to involve my baby in that. I would have her set up in whatever room I needed to clean. I'd put on some music and kind of dance around while doing my stuff. My daughter thought it was really funny (and I got a little bit of a workout). I'd clean up the kitchen while she was eating her lunch in her high chair. I got really good at being an efficient cleaner! Also, keep your dreams about going to grooming school alive! That sounds like an awesome goal once things settle down and your husband feels like everything is stable. Most guys just worry so much about "being a man and providing for everyone." Talk to him-----that is the key!
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09-22-2007, 03:01 PM | #17 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Tennessee
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| Everyone that has posted gave wonderful advice!!! I am a stay at home mom and I have been married 8 years, I was young and didnt know anything about married life or motherhood so i have been where you are at now and still go through it. My Husband works ALL the time but we talk about it when times get rough and thats helps wonders if you ever need to chat please PM me and I will give you my number it helps to have friends to talk girl stuff and men dont even know how to begin with that LOL |
09-22-2007, 04:14 PM | #18 |
Spoilin' Tilly & Jack Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana
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| Thanks everyone for your support! I do stay at home with my son. I LOVE it and wouldn't trade it in for the world. He isn't the greatest at taking naps. If I'm lucky he naps a 20 minute nap all day. He has always been that way. I figure as long as he is happy then I'm happy. I don't know if hubby senses something because he keeps asking me if everything is okay. I'm not acting any different, or so I don't think. Maybe once the baby is in bed I can get him to spare a little time to talk. I don't want to do it around my son. We have always been great about communication. That is what is weird right now. It's like he isn't here for me. KristiC- BTW I'm a Kristi C! LOL My mom is my best friend, but she doesn't get out much due to her anxiety. My other bff lives 2 hrs away and is a full time college student so she keeps pretty busy. Other than that I really don't have any friends. Being in a small town there isn't much to do or place to meet other moms. It sure sucks! hehe
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09-22-2007, 04:44 PM | #19 | |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Tennessee
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| Hey I really mean anytime you want to chat just PM me, you sound just like I was 8 years ago but I promise it will get better every Marriage has times where things just dont go the way it should and like every man(well mine anyways) LOL sometimes they just dont think about marriage and what will help, they think we know it all, and if he keeps asking you if everything is ok then its time to sit down and talk about how both of you are feeling.I know time is very limited but make the time! I have to do that when by the end of the day I am so tried i just want to go to bed. My mom sounds just like yours and my bff has 3 kids lol so she doesnt have alot of time but we try to make Saturdays where its our day to go shopping and out to eat we dont have long but hey its fun just give me a shout anytime you want! Quote:
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