I'm sure he is just stressed trying to provide a good living for his family. You have gotten some great advice here and hopefully you will be able to get him alone (when he isn't stressed) and have a talk. In my experience, it works best to tell him the truth without getting angry and accusing him of stuff. (We all respond better when it is coming out calmly and we don't feel the need to get defensive.) Be honest and tell him how much you miss your closeness. Have some ideas ready to throw out there about how you can get back to that place in your relationship.
Also, take time for yourself! I'm assuming you stay at home with your baby. (I did too and loved it!) Take full advantage of nap time to do what you need to do to be in a better mental place--take a nap, a relaxing bath, chat on the phone with friends, etc.!! That's what I did. Now since we all know we have stuff we need to do around the house, too, I tried to involve my baby in that. I would have her set up in whatever room I needed to clean. I'd put on some music and kind of dance around while doing my stuff. My daughter thought it was really funny (and I got a little bit of a workout). I'd clean up the kitchen while she was eating her lunch in her high chair. I got really good at being an efficient cleaner!
Also, keep your dreams about going to grooming school alive! That sounds like an awesome goal once things settle down and your husband feels like everything is stable. Most guys just worry so much about "being a man and providing for everyone." Talk to him-----that is the key!
