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Mybabyboymax · 08-28-2007, 08:53 AM

ok this is JMO and I hope no one takes it the wrong way, being with my husband 9 years, I feel that if he was to want to sleep in separate beds there is a big problem. Ofcourse he would give me a reason why and I would make changes. If its because the dogs sleep in the bed and he doesnt like it, well as much as I love my dog hes going to have to find somewhere else to sleep. If its that he has bad back problems well we will buy a new mattress. If he is sleeping on the couch for any reason there should be a way to work around it. If he doesnt want to work around it and make the changes that bring him back into our bedroom at night then I would say there is a bigger issue at hand and it would not be accepted. I am in no way directing what I am saying to you and your husband I am just saying the approach I would take and how I see it. and let me tell you girls...my husband SNORES big time but I would never stop sleeping with him because of it lol

yougetthesmiles · 08-28-2007, 02:20 PM

I wish it was just that simple to go out and buy a new bed, but like I said before, we just bought this bed and it's beautiful!

Hubby and I have "snuggle" time before we go to sleep. But when we turn out the lights, he goes to his "area"

I awake with him bringing me a cup of coffee and then I get up with him and we sit and enjoy are coffee before we have to go to work.

Actually, I'm enjoying having the bed to myself lol

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Originally Posted by Mybabyboymax

ok this is JMO and I hope no one takes it the wrong way, being with my husband 9 years, I feel that if he was to want to sleep in separate beds there is a big problem. Ofcourse he would give me a reason why and I would make changes. If its because the dogs sleep in the bed and he doesnt like it, well as much as I love my dog hes going to have to find somewhere else to sleep. If its that he has bad back problems well we will buy a new mattress. If he is sleeping on the couch for any reason there should be a way to work around it. If he doesnt want to work around it and make the changes that bring him back into our bedroom at night then I would say there is a bigger issue at hand and it would not be accepted. I am in no way directing what I am saying to you and your husband I am just saying the approach I would take and how I see it. and let me tell you girls...my husband SNORES big time but I would never stop sleeping with him because of it lol

Mybabyboymax · 08-28-2007, 02:33 PM

Im glad that you didnt take what I wrote the wrong way

Im glad that you guys are at the point where you are agreeing and it is not a problem

MIZBROWN · 08-28-2007, 02:46 PM

Well... I mean to each his own. But, I cant imagine letting my Meka sleep in my bed... Thats a private place for my husband and I and quite frankly, after children etc... its one of the last items/areas thats just for US... Not to mention, Im sure you dont go sleeping in ur pups bed?!? If I was ur husband I'd be a little bothered too... He was there first and you seem to have redirected all of your love/attention to your pups?!? If so, maybe you should marry your pups...... Sorry 8(

Graleyne · 08-28-2007, 03:02 PM

DH and I would LOVE to have our own rooms! If we could afford a 5 bedroom house we would absolutely do it. It wouldn't bother me one bit. I don't sleep very well and am constantly tossing and turning, and he snores. I think we'd both get more sleep in our own room.

yougetthesmiles · 08-29-2007, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by MIZBROWN

Well... I mean to each his own. But, I cant imagine letting my Meka sleep in my bed... Thats a private place for my husband and I and quite frankly, after children etc... its one of the last items/areas thats just for US... Not to mention, Im sure you dont go sleeping in ur pups bed?!? If I was ur husband I'd be a little bothered too... He was there first and you seem to have redirected all of your love/attention to your pups?!? If so, maybe you should marry your pups...... Sorry 8(

That's not the case at all! I do love my yorkies very much! But my husband is my life, he is the other half of my heart. It's just not about the dogs sleeping in the bed, it's the fact that the bed hurts his shoulder, I'm willing to make the dogs sleep in there own beds. But until we get a new bed and I don't see that in the future since we just got this new bed.

DENISE517 · 08-31-2007, 06:16 AM

I say whatever works for you. You guys know your marriage better than anyone and as long as your not bothered by it and its what you both want then go for it.

I can't sleep without Dan....lol When he goes to his nascar races,etc I really don't sleep til he gets back. He makes me feel safe....Although, I think someone could come in and get me during the night and he wouldnt even wake up. I personally won't have separate bedrooms. But thats just me.

You have to do what works for you not what works for someone else.

08-28-2007, 02:46 PM	#49
MIZBROWN Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California Posts: 2,293	Well... I mean to each his own. But, I cant imagine letting my Meka sleep in my bed... Thats a private place for my husband and I and quite frankly, after children etc... its one of the last items/areas thats just for US... Not to mention, Im sure you dont go sleeping in ur pups bed?!? If I was ur husband I'd be a little bothered too... He was there first and you seem to have redirected all of your love/attention to your pups?!? If so, maybe you should marry your pups...... Sorry 8( __________________ Mommy to Meka "MeMe" Brown aka Meka the Diva Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club & CA Yorkies www.dogster.com/dogs/567943

08-28-2007, 03:02 PM	#50
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	DH and I would LOVE to have our own rooms! If we could afford a 5 bedroom house we would absolutely do it. It wouldn't bother me one bit. I don't sleep very well and am constantly tossing and turning, and he snores. I think we'd both get more sleep in our own room. __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

08-28-2007, 08:53 AM	#46
Mybabyboymax Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 1,859	ok this is JMO and I hope no one takes it the wrong way, being with my husband 9 years, I feel that if he was to want to sleep in separate beds there is a big problem. Ofcourse he would give me a reason why and I would make changes. If its because the dogs sleep in the bed and he doesnt like it, well as much as I love my dog hes going to have to find somewhere else to sleep. If its that he has bad back problems well we will buy a new mattress. If he is sleeping on the couch for any reason there should be a way to work around it. If he doesnt want to work around it and make the changes that bring him back into our bedroom at night then I would say there is a bigger issue at hand and it would not be accepted. I am in no way directing what I am saying to you and your husband I am just saying the approach I would take and how I see it. and let me tell you girls...my husband SNORES big time but I would never stop sleeping with him because of it lol

08-28-2007, 02:33 PM	#48
Mybabyboymax Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 1,859	Im glad that you didnt take what I wrote the wrong way Im glad that you guys are at the point where you are agreeing and it is not a problem

08-31-2007, 06:16 AM	#52
DENISE517 No Longer a Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 4,449	I say whatever works for you. You guys know your marriage better than anyone and as long as your not bothered by it and its what you both want then go for it. I can't sleep without Dan....lol When he goes to his nascar races,etc I really don't sleep til he gets back. He makes me feel safe....Although, I think someone could come in and get me during the night and he wouldnt even wake up. I personally won't have separate bedrooms. But thats just me. You have to do what works for you not what works for someone else.